by Ed Seykota
1: I can not talk right now. Goodbye. Click.
2: I'm not interested in this story. Tell me what you're feeling is, and where in your body you feel it (silence on the other end). Well, if you want to talk about your bodily feelings, let me know. Goodbye. Click.
3: You eb- th manipulative bitch, and I'm sick of your whining voice, and never call me anymore. Click.
The sender addresses these ideas and recalls the various members of the tribe, which are used in communication with him the first option when they are too busy to talk to him. About district, still, Mr. OVOR that feels uncomfortable using any of these options, especially the third. I ask him to show us the shape of something standing in the way of that in a conversation with her to hang up the phone. As soon as he says, he starts to shake his hand up and down and KAZ yvat right index finger to gain their perspective.
This form gives us the entry point, which we waited. We jump to the relentless adoption and create a field of Recognition.
Soon he grits his teeth, pointing and shaking his finger, as if punishing the child. He says he remembers how his mother was doing it against him. We support him to delve into it. It enhances the movement. He continues to shake his finger and shouted: "You should not do this, you should not do this." We support him in the continuation of this, is to continue to strengthen it. He begins to be immersed more I do. "You're not supposed to hurt chuvs Twa people. You're not supposed to hurt chuvs Twa people. You should not hurt the feelings of the people. "
We welcome him in this. He was still in the role of his mother. We support the continuation of its "non-owed by" in relation to itself. He tosses and fuel continues. He had other goy AGA. You can touch people pointing a finger at them and telling them what they should do. It is suitable to capture y-not. You make a knot in people, telling them not to do that thing that makes e themselves, telling them not to do so.
He returns to it. He wildly shakes his fist and finger and shouted: "You should not point to people. You should not point to people. You should not point to the people. " We welcome it. He plunges into it and begins to enjoy it. He sees how silly it all. "You f indicates someone and says he is, is not specified. Unbelievable! "He laughs and continues to shake his finger pointing and saying," Do not tell, do not show and do not show any more. That's the point. Do not tell (Don 'T Point. Here 'S the point. Don 'T Point. ). " then he just lets it all and relax in his chair with a satisfied look. He ends up pointing form.
I invite him to develop another form. This something in his throat. We help him complete his throat shape. Then we help them to complete another form.
Then, with three completed odds Mami, I ask him if he is not ready to join them together in the reintegration process. He says, "Yes", and we help them reach the zero point.
It still has a few AGA. He says: "I just noticed that I have to be so polite. I'm so polite that end up hurting people pits and SEB e his politeness. I let this woman to write me in her army against her husband. I'm sick of all this. "
We ask him to try again play a role. He agrees.
Wife: I'm so glad I found you. I need so much to tell you. He's so angry and he repeats it again.
Sender: Thank you for calling. As you know, in the tribe, we focus on feelings. If you are in the body have any feelings that you want to test, you can come to a meeting of the Tribe. I can not advise you other than that.
Wife: But, but, but I need to get you fixed my husband. He's so evil.
Sender: Well, I'm not trying to correct people. I was just easier for them to experience their own feelings. If you have any feelings about it, you could come to a meeting of tribal and try them out.
Wife: Well, I'll think about it, but I do not think I would be interested to do so.
Sender: OK, well, let me know if you want to experience their feelings.
Wife: OK. Goodbye. Click.
Incorrigible people
Incorrigible man does not accept Responsibility for their feelings. Incorrigible person usually says something like: "How can you talk to me like that. It's so cruel. You, probably, like hurt my feelings. Your words are so offensive. " Incorrigible person does not consciously trying to manipulate you.
Incorrigible behavior comes from a deep belief system. This man really believes that someone else is responsible for his feelings. If you're trying to talk about it, it is reasonable to argue about this with an incorrigible man, saying something like: "I can see that, so I said, do you really think that I'm trying to hurt your feelings," he might have parried as follows: "You again start all over again, trying to analyze me. All you're doing is trying to analyze me. You're not a psychoanalyst, so how can you continue to analyze me and make me so sick? »
When you realize that you are dealing with an incorrigible person, you also realize that no matter how you try, he has no interest in a sincere dialogue. He prefers to manipulate. He was not interested to share feelings.
If you have your own in-not just in relation to the charm and if you need to act to correct the incorrigible person, then you may find that incorrigible people are extremely attractive. If you are ready to experience your own frustration, then you are likely to allow the person to continue incorrigible, fast, nice (nice) in a manner that leaves no trace of S THE.
In PTP we do not treat anyone else like to terminally incorrigible th. From the point of view of our prop-governmental y not we all incorrigible. Such is the nature-have not. We protect ourselves from those feelings that do not want to experience. Interaction with the incorrigible man is merely the continuation of basic PTP.
Essentially, the difference between the ready [16] members of the tribe and incorrigible person that incorrigible people more skilled in finding your in-and not to use them in order to whisk you out of the way. If an incorrigible man shows at one of the meetings of my tribe and sits on a one ohm of the chairs in my living room, I guess, that some part of it want to follow the process.
Some therapists (psychoanalysts) believe that the person can not help incorrigible, as he only adept at protection of experiencing (feelings) Property ennyh feelings. This is exactly the condition, which may apply to tribes.
In the Trade Tribe we consider incorrigible man as a gift. We know that it protects ce os, isolated from other people, not to then relying on them (on the y-not), distract others from the fact that to get to you. Therefore, the interaction with the incorrigible man - is the possibility of opening our existing in-not.
At some plot ways to interact with incorrigible man fired at a meeting of the Tribe process may come to a standstill. Tribe members can feel a sense of frustration and failure. In e the point P in the experimental Lehmen someone might notice the drama in the room and point out that all play the game incorrigible chelove ka. Incorrigible people, of course, is defective, and tribe trying to fix it. This is an example of the importance of the presence of several members of the tribe. Incorrigible sender could involve two or three recipients in the drama. In a small tribe that is all that he needs to stop the process. In a large tribe, one member is usually seen when the sender delays of several other recipients in their network.
When one of the recipients indicates that the tribes in the drama, members of the tribe have to stop and recognize that they are each individually deep into the drama. This observation is usually worth a good chuckle. Members get a chance to do their needs to correct the incorrigible man, and then go back on the rails.
One illustration of this process was a recent example on the one n th of my meetings Tribe. At this time, an incorrigible man recently joined my P Lehmen, after a visit to one of my seminars. He attends several meetings and lets me know that the Tribe has on a very weak positive effect and that he feels that it is for the most part ineffective.
Listening to it, I feel the anger and the need to defend himself. I also notice your feelings and use them as indicators of the fact that I still have some in-not for the fact that TAP is not sufficiently good, and he is trying to engage me in a drama where he fa
ils, blame for which the blame on me.
I also notice that it continues to appear at the meetings, that is, does one thing and says another. I see his desire to visit as a sign that he really wants to unleash their y-not.
He takes the hot seat, and for a time worked. Tribe helps him to dive into some feelings. Then, when he looks ready for a revolution in their in-one experiences not, it stops. We try different approaches. He closed again, and then stops. We continue to try different approaches, all with the same result.
Then one of the members of the tribe notices the obvious. This incorrigible people like to stop. To the tribe comes AGA group, when we realize that we are all part of the drama. We are trying to fix it, but he fails and blames us.
We immediately change direction and go back to the adoption. We know that we must maintain it stop. He again approach TURNING IT straight to the point and stops. This time, instead of playing the game on its corrective Tribe welcomes when he stops. We celebrate it stop.
We're doing it again. We will support him to the AEM TURNING point, and then when he stops, we welcome his successful stop. He just sits there and smiles. He sees his own game and feels that we recognize it. We did not want to get him in the end get to him.
Our initial failure with him - when we see that it points to our own in-not - this is our opportunity for growth. In this case, we are working on our own in-not his duty to help him to experience his feelings. Incorrigible people - this is the best teacher. In this case, our AGA that you can not effectively carry out anti-TB drugs, when you try to push someone in accordance with your program of action. This is a good lesson for the recipients.
Two weeks later, he was again on the hot seat. He - the other person. He is emotionally open and ready to show much more sense than ever before. But he, nevertheless, still continues its stopping drama. It's suitable. He still does not pass the entire process of reintegration to their forms. He had not even finished any form.
This time I'm doing something slightly different. I want to withdraw from the tribe correctional sentiment and return to create a field of Recognition. I want to structure the process so that the incorrigible can play all the drama within his body, while the tribe gives him the Field Recognition.
He sits on a chair. I give him the assumption that his left foot might like to break away from the floor and that it m ozhet rise until upright in front of him. I also guess that it is completely opposed to my assumption and continues to hold the foot firmly on the floor, despite the fact that she wants or does not want to do.
He leans forward and puts his elbows on his knees, as if trying to pr izhat his feet to the floor. Then he leans back in his chair, with the power zazhmurivaya eyes and clenching of the jaw, as though trying to sort it all out.
Soon his leg is lifted, and welcomes this tribe. He just sits there in amazement. His whole drama goes inside himself. His leg is lowered. He smiles a little more. Then both of his legs raised. Some of the members of the tribe, notice that their own legs moving.
At this point, I say, "Well done. We are pleased to support you in what you just like this. " He asks then smiles. I continued, "I think you might be interested in know how I got your foot to deceive you in this way. You seem to can not stop it. I think you might like to know that my explanation on how to do this comes in the last 20% of the process. I know that it is now important for us to stop, because this is the way that you love to do things - stopping. And I want to honor it. So, I would like to stay here and now declare verification.
He just sits there in a state of wonder, while we carry out inspections. When it was his turn, he gently thanks us for what we had. We do not push him. We just gladly support him in what he is. For it is impossible to do anything more than take this for what it is.
At the next meeting of the Tribe, he says that unhappy that should not be its commitment to eat healthy foods. I notice that it stops your diet and that he was not able to stop Stopping. I ask him if he wants to work. He says he does not. No one is pushing it.
During the last check is, he says what he thinks about what he does is that he knows that he is trying to process the SS, and he sees that it does not work. He says that, perhaps, is ready to take the hot seat at the next meeting.
He may need a few more sessions on the hot seat before he would be ready, willing and able to complete several forms and then their reintegration th e. No matter how long it may continue, to the mayor would by no matter - at about for the Tribe. We see our job is to be with him wherever he went and no matter how long it may continue.
Incorrigible man serves Tribe, bringing us all the gift of clarity.
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Do not want to move
Last night, I again had an excellent session PTP. I am determined to go through with it, no matter what it takes.
And at the peak I just explodes. I found Vayu himself lying on the floor face down. I was born. I was born into this world. I feel that God is telling me: "Welcome to the world! Now go and fulfill his destiny. " I feel so calm and peace, I do not want to move, while lying on the floor, but just cried and smeared saliva and snot his tie and pants. This feeling is so great that I do not want to move. It's a great feeling here. I was born.
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Parting tsya Hard
At a recent meeting of the members of one tribe takes the hot seat with a question that is likely familiar to all. Mornings th day of the meeting, about 12 hours before it, he found evidence that his girlfriend is dating someone else.
He confronts her with this information, and soon she admits his infidelity. He feels anger, jealousy, rage, confusion, sadness and many other feelings s, which does not even have a name. He's trying to stay calm. He tells her to collect their bags. She leaves.
And when he leaves his house, it also leaves a nagging gromnoe place in his heart. He brings the matter to a meeting of the Tribe as their entry point.
Because it is the most emotionally ready member in the room, I choose it to hot places. He begins to tell his story. As soon as he says, he keeps his elbows pressed to the lower abdomen, and his hands raised, swinging it from side to side.
Member of the tribe was immediately picked up tons of this form and support so it does not weaken with the adoption. They quickly build Course Recognition. He is responsible. As iron filings in a magnetic field, his feelings begin to lift up tsya to the surface, and its shape becomes more intense. Soon he begins to shake hands wildly, as if trying to shake off something with his fingers.
I ask him if he enjoys it. He replied: "Yes, in some ways." Members of the Tribe increase the field strength, and it explodes in a frenzy of wild rukotryaski. We support him in this action filled s several times as long as it does not show that he fully enjoyed it.
Then he starts to spend his fingers through his hair back and forth, over and over again. We have prevails over the field and keep it in an intensification of this form. Soon he vigorously rubs and scratches his head in front, on the top, sides, back of the head, repeating it over and over again. It seems that he likes this form, and he repeats it several times.
Then he sits down smiling on the floor, pull the legs with the letter V, leans forward and holds his hands on his right knee to right ankle, leaning forward. Then he does the same with the left foot. As soon as we support it, it continues to shift from foot to foot. Its shape is similar to mad yoga.
He then rolled in a ball and groans. It seems that he did not like this form. We continue Ying tensifitsirovat field until he begins to enjoy his form. We can be extended to support him and he continues to enjoy it.
He then sit on for L with legs tucked under him, and quickly pulls his hands away from your body, as if something was pushing. He keeps repeating this movement faster and faster, until the movement of his hands, does not seem to blur. Then he slows it
down a bit and every repulsion shouts extremely emotional phrase: "What, fucked-be, is it? (What the fuck is this?) ». As tog about how he continues to perform it, we welcome it.
After he completes this form, I ask him to repeat each of them to be sure that he enjoys each. He does this mean about. Then I ask him if he was ready to reintegrate them all. He says that he is ready.
He begins with the quake hands, and members of the tribe continue to remind him of the inclusion of other forms, such as "repulsion", "folding", "sweat yagivanie ankle" and "What eb- be, is it?". He really wants to take the process and at it very much energy and intentions. We welcome it.
As soon as it works its reintegration forms one component form, it passes through various phases. Toward the end of the process form an integral begins to emerge. He sits with arms impres ed feet, leans forward, hit the air and makes a sharp growl. At my suggestion, he takes this form several times. After each performance, he leans back peacefully on the carpet (mat) with a satisfied look. He comes to the zero point.