Gemini needs freedom and new vistas; Pisces needs unending adoration. Pisces just can’t feel secure with gadabout Gemini, and tries to pull the net tighter. The claustrophobic atmosphere eventually makes it hard for Gemini to breathe.
CANCER
The Amorous Nature
You and Cancer Woman
She may appear like the photograph of that dream girl most men carry around in a hidden locket of their minds. But lurking just below the surface of that shy, sweet image is a superbly sensual woman. There are secret emotional depths to her, and like the story of Sleeping Beauty and her Prince it takes love to awaken her eroticism. She is a highly sensual woman, and love unlocks the smoldering fire hidden by her diffident manner.
Don’t expect her to be forward, however, because she doesn’t know how to be. You must pick up the subtle clue, the unspoken invitation. She may be trying to get in touch with you while your emotional phone is off the hook. If you miss that first chance, you’re probably out of luck. Her feelings are too vulnerable for her to risk another overture.
As with all the water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces), the quality of trust is very important to her in a relationship. The Cancer woman is very cautious about giving her heart away. The two things she needs more than anything else are love and security, and she offers undying loyalty to a man who makes her feel secure. She has eyes only for him, and she’ll cling as tenaciously as if she had pincers instead of arms. A betrayal in love is devastating, and takes a long, long time for her to forgive. In truth, she never forgives—rationally, yes, perhaps, but emotionally, never.
On first meeting Cancer woman you will find that she can be flirtatious, although in true subtle Cancerian fashion her flirting is done in a quiet way. Hers is not a flamboyant personality, but rather one of gentleness, depth, and richness. She is not only romantic, she’s convinced that love, love, love is the secret of life. She wants to discover the secret with the man of her dreams. This sounds old-fashioned, but that’s part of her charm: she is old-fashioned. It’s a special quality that makes men feel protective toward her.
A confirmed sentimentalist, she loves to collect mementos from the past and pore over them. She frames old photographs, keeps old letters, stays in touch with old friends. She is devoted to her mate and to her family.
Affectionate, romantic, feminine, sympathetic, imaginative, and sweetly seductive, this quintessential woman can make home a place that a man never wants to leave.
You and Cancer Man
This sensual man doesn’t come at you directly. He’d rather play the attentive courtier, the one who brings candy, flowers, and champagne and takes you to nice places. At most, he’ll make an oblique suggestion that could as easily be taken for a mere risqué quip. That’s to leave himself an avenue of escape, for he can’t stand rejection.
He falls in love easily, for he is inclined to be a romantic daydreamer. His imagination becomes quickly engaged and anything will start him off: a wisp of a remembered fragrance, an almost-familiar face, the sound of a foghorn across the water. He begins to visualize scenes out of the past or to fantasize about the future. He can work up a whole romantic scenario out of very little raw material. Unfortunately, this also applies when he becomes jealous. He must know that his chosen mate is faithful at all times. His own fidelity runs very deep, and he demands total fealty in return. Anything else is a threat to the stability that he prizes, the security that he needs.
Cancer male is very affectionate, and he certainly doesn’t insist on having a number of women around. (“If you’ve got one good woman, who needs two?” a Cancer male would ask.) Lovemaking is best for him when it happens at the whim of the moment.
He is intensely imaginative and expressive, with remarkable empathy and an instinctive understanding of the human heart, especially of its pain. He can actually feel his way into your emotions and sense your problems. Loving and attentive, he is willing to go to any lengths to please the object of his desire. He has a gift to amuse and will spoil you outrageously if given half a chance.
Above all, he wants the woman of his dreams to share his dreams with him. He is faithful and takes his role as a strong male protector very seriously. He is a very masculine man, not necessarily in an outer show of brawn and ruggedness but in his inner strength of tenderness and sensitivity. If you’re the kind of woman who likes being pampered and looked after—having a constant devoted companion—Cancer is definitely your man.
How to Attract Cancer
Cancerians are vulnerable—to praise as well as criticism. Let them know directly and forthrightly how much you admire them. Nothing will draw Cancerians out of their shells more readily than the warmth of approval. Pick out a quality that you can, in all sincerity, compliment them on. Do you like what he’s wearing? Her smile? Their ability to listen attentively? (No one is better at this than Cancer.) Tell them so. Don’t be insincere and single out some quality merely for the sake of having something complimentary to say. Cancerians can always spot the difference between the compliment that is sincere and the one meant only to cajole.
Show Cancerians the softer side of your nature. Are you interested in charities? Talk about that. Or children? By all means. Or discuss a genuine personal problem that’s troubling you. Then Cancerians will be able to show their best side: their empathy and ability to give constructive advice. Finances, politics, and sports are other areas that interest them greatly.
For a date, get tickets to the theater or to some art or cultural event. Cancerians respond to romantic, strongly melodic music, and are inclined to enjoy concerts and opera. A nice touch would be to pick a restaurant where there are strolling musicians.
Cancerians don’t rush headlong into anything. They are essentially cautious, not to say skittish, about making a commitment. They try to avoid giving a definite yes or no. Tip: The longer they delay, the less likely that there will be a favorable outcome.
A true Cancerian sooner or later finds some cause for feeling injured. Their amazing memory dwells on the past and constantly recalls old wounds. A Cancerian who forgives and forgets is as rare as a vegetarian snake.
Cancer’s Amorous Combinations
CANCER AND ARIES These two may start out like a house on fire, but it won’t take long for the fire to burn out. Aries’s venturesome spirit and wandering eye en-flame Cancer’s jealousy. And Cancer is too easily hurt by Aries’s aggressiveness and sharp tongue. Cancer likes security and domesticity; Aries needs freedom to explore new worlds. Cancer wants to cherish and protect a lover, an attitude that Aries finds too claustrophobic. Both like money, but Aries wants to spend it and Cancer wants to keep it. Too many temperamental problems here.
CANCER AND TAURUS Both need security and a sense of permanence, and both are loving, affectionate, and passionate as well. Cancer adds a dash of imagination to Taurus’s otherwise staid approach to sex. Taurus is possessive and that’s just fine with clinging Cancer. Both are acquisitive moneymakers, and together they enjoy the delights of hearth and home. Taurus likes being catered to, and Cancer is the one to do it. Steady-going Taurus is also good for Cancer’s moodiness. What each needs the other supplies.
CANCER AND GEMINI Gemini’s sparkle immediately intrigues Cancer, but Cancer won’t find security with fickle, fly-by-night Gemini. Basically, Cancer’s nature is emotional and Gemini’s is cerebral, and that makes it difficult for them to understand each other. Although sexual energies are well matched, Cancer will have a hard time adjusting to Gemini’s playful, nonchalant attitude toward love. Possessive Cancer will try to keep Gemini hemmed in, and Gemini can’t abide that. It’s a short countdown to the finish.
CANCER AND CANCER They have a lot in common, and that’s the trouble. They understand each other perfectly and can wound each other without even trying. Both are too sensitive, too demanding, too dependent. Cancers are obsessively concerned with their emotional psyches: Each needs an enormous amount of attention, coddling, and reassurance, and resents the other for not
giving enough. On the plus side, they’re sensual bedmates whose erotic imaginations are sparked by each other. But that’s rarely enough. This treadmill goes nowhere.
CANCER AND LEO Cancer has to get used to Leo’s extroverted exuberance. Otherwise, generous, open-hearted, strong Leo is just what insecure Cancer is looking for. Cancer’s marvelous intuitions tell it exactly how to handle proud and flamboyant Leo. Admiration and a lot of flattery are what are needed to keep Leo purring with contentment. Leo is domineering in the bedroom and a little too forthright sexually for Cancer. But Leo’s sunny disposition is a wonderful antidote for Cancer’s moodiness.
CANCER AND VIRGO Cancer’s responses are emotive while Virgo’s are analytical, but their personalities mesh so well that it doesn’t seem to matter. Cancer may have to warm up Virgo a little, but there is fire under the ice. This can turn into a secure, comfortable, and affectionate relationship. Cancer’s struggle for financial security works perfectly with goal-oriented Virgo. Cancer understands Virgo’s fussy ways, and steady Virgo helps balance variable Cancer. Cancer’s dependency neatly complements Virgo’s need to protect, and each is anxious to please the other. Good auguries.
CANCER AND LIBRA This pair operates on entirely different levels: Cancer wants love to be emotionally transcendent, Libra seeks perfect intellectual communion. Libra has no sympathy for Cancer’s moods, and Cancer is made insecure by Libra’s detachment and shallow emotions. Cancer is too temperamental and possessive for airy Libra. They have a hard time establishing real sexual rapport, and that exasperates Cancer. They both love a beautiful home, but Libra also needs parties and people and outside pleasures. When Cancer turns critical, especially about Libra’s extravagance, Libra starts looking elsewhere.
CANCER AND SCORPIO Cancer’s sensuality is ignited by Scorpio’s dynamic passions, and because Cancer is loyal, Scorpio’s jealousy isn’t provoked. Cancer’s possessiveness will actually make Scorpio feel secure. Cancer admires Scorpio’s strength, while Scorpio finds a haven in Cancer’s emotional commitment. Both are extremely intuitive and sense what will please the other. Together they can build a happy cocoon where they feel safe and loved. This relationship has great intimacy, intensity, and depth. Things just get better all the time.
CANCER AND SAGITTARIUS Outgoing Sagittarius can open intellectual vistas for imaginative Cancer, but unfortunately Sagittarius won’t give Cancer the security in love that it always needs. Cancer’s jealousy is aroused by Sagittarius’s flighty, faithless ways; Sagittarius is bored by Cancer’s dependency. Sagittarius likes to wander, while Cancer is a stay-at-home. Cancer’s commitment to total togetherness only makes Sagittarius desperate to get away. In addition, outspoken Sagittarius’s bluntness continually wounds sensitive Cancer. Better friends than lovers.
CANCER AND CAPRICORN There’s an initial sexual attraction because they are a polarity in the zodiac. If they can overcome their opposites in temperament, they can make a winning combination. But career-oriented Capricorn has too many other interests to give Cancer all the attention it needs. Cancer is shy and sensitive and needs affection, while Capricorn is brusque, aloof, and domineering. Cancer takes Capricorn’s reserve as a personal rebuff and becomes moody and critical. The differences may prove too great for long-term happiness.
CANCER AND AQUARIUS Cancer’s warm, responsive nature is chilled by Aquarius’s cool self-possession. In turn, Cancer’s clinging, cloying demonstrativeness makes Aquarius feel hemmed in. Aquarius is quick-minded, unpredictable, apt to be impatient with cautious, hesitant Cancer. And thin-skinned Cancer is easily hurt by Aquarius’s caustic humor. Cancer doesn’t understand Aquarius’s essential detachment. Cancer needs to feel close and secure; Aquarius is a lone wolf. Sex may be all right, but there’s little else going for them.
CANCER AND PISCES This is an affectionate, sensitive couple who will bolster each other’s ego. Pisces is an imaginative dreamer, but Cancer is an imaginative worker—together they can make their dreams a reality. Pisces provides romance in Cancer’s life, and Cancer is the all-protective lover Pisces needs. Both are emotional, intensely devoted, sensitive to each other’s moods. They’ll hit it off in the boudoir, for both are responsive sexually. Cancer has to take the lead, but Pisces is a very willing, erotic follower. A harmonious match.
LEO
The Amorous Nature
You and Leo Woman
What she wants most is praise. A lover has to ignore her shortcomings (she doesn’t really think she has any) and dwell on her virtues. In the same way applause makes the star of a play seem larger than life, the lavish admiration of a lover makes Leo woman feel plugged into a life-enhancing incandescence. If you hope to get anywhere with her, you had better begin by accepting her inalienable right to be marvelous. You may go on from there to a sounder, more realistic relationship, but that’s the foundation stone on which to build.
You would be wise not to let her know if you have an eye for other women. As far as she’s concerned, she’s a cosmology of one. The mere suggestion that she’s in competition with other women turns her off completely. She’s above that sort of rivalry, and is actually a little afraid of it. She can’t be a loser—and one way to avoid being a loser is not to get into the race.
However, she has to be free to rack up male conquests. You’ll hardly ever see her without a man in tow, and often several. There is something about her flamboyance, her queenlike assurance, that dazzles and attracts. She wears men as other women wear jewelry—to embellish her image—and rarely lacks for admirers.
Most descriptions of Leo woman make her sound hopelessly self-centered. It would be more accurate to say that she has an intense drive toward self-realization. Leo woman feels she was born to be someone special, and she must express this feeling. Happily, she finds enormous self-expression in love.
A Leo woman in love gives her heart without reservations. Her romantic nature is intense, vital, and uninhibited. She doesn’t hold anything back, but by the same token she expects her chosen mate to be just as fervid as she is. Although Leo is a marvelously sensual creature, kinky variations are not her game. She prefers to heighten and dramatize the familiar by her passionate involvement.
Leo woman thrives in marriage, but her partner may find living with her a bit overwhelming at times. It isn’t easy being attendant to a queen, and Leo woman can be tyrannical. The worst scenario is when a Leo woman marries a man she can dominate completely. In this relationship she may get total submission, but that is too little compensation for the full, deep, robust kind of love she needs. When she feels shortchanged in love, Leo woman will turn bitter and carping.
On the other hand, with a genuine prince consort, a queen can bestow her truly royal gifts—and Leo female certainly has them to bestow. If you give her the affection and admiration that her nature requires, you will waken a tender passion in this extraordinary woman. And you will have a mate who is truly fit for a king.
You and Leo Man
He falls in love readily, then finds it hard to sustain the emotion. For him, falling out of love is as simple as falling out of bed.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking Leo man is casual about love. He isn’t; in fact, he sees love in practically mythic terms. To him, a love affair is never minor or mild or murky. It is high drama; it is a grand passion. No one else in the zodiac can more easily make you believe that you and he are the first, original, quintessential lovers in the world. The woman who wins his favor moves instantly to center stage. The spotlight is on her, she radiates in the bright circle of his admiration. It’s a heady experience to have a Leo lover. Then suddenly the lights are turned off, the curtain falls, the play is over—and she doesn’t know why. And he won’t explain. Most likely, it’s because Leo was in love with a mythical creature of his imagination—a beautiful adoring princess completely fulfilled by him. When the real woman supersedes the myth, Leo gets on his white horse and rides off.
Leo man likes a woman to cater to his every whim. Yet he would be su
rprised to hear himself described as demanding. He doesn’t see himself that way at all. He thinks he is openhearted, trusting, asking nothing but what he is entitled to. If told that he sometimes asks too much of those close to him, he simply wouldn’t understand how. After all, why should anyone refuse him? In pleasing him, they please themselves. A true democrat, he believes everyone is equal—equally ready to serve him.
If this sounds like an overbearingly self-assured type riding for a fall, look a bit closer. Underneath Leo’s surface majesty is a sensitive, vulnerable man who needs reassurance—and praise. Praise is as necessary to him as food and drink.
In sexual relationships he won’t voyage beyond the farthest limits of the known to find a new continent of sensuality. He’s a cautious navigator who sticks close to charted waters. On the other hand, a woman will never end up with a sunken wreck.
If you rub his mane the right way, Leo the Lion is a marvelously affectionate, cheerful companion. He is kind, strong, generous, something of a spendthrift, but usually successful in business. A woman who gets this flamboyant, magnetic overachiever with the sunny disposition has only one problem. Somehow she has to teach him that the sole object of his adulation does not have to be himself.
How to Attract Leo
You can always win over anyone born under this sign if you show by your actions, your attention, and your unceasing compliments that you are completely and hopelessly lost in admiration. If you really feel that way, you’re in clover. If you don’t, fake it. Leos won’t suspect your sincerity because they think they’re fully as wonderful as you tell them they are. Leos almost never think compliments go too far.
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