by Simon Davies
You’ve now officially joined the elite ranks of men who get paid to date women.
MANAGING THE EXPECTATIONS OF COUPLES
Should you decide to escort couples you’ll be entering a world where few other male escorts dare to tread.
I’m told by a psychoanalyst friend that everyone of us has a dark side, which I found rather fascinating… Anyway, the point is that some guys get off on the thought of their partner enjoying another man. And their mission in life is to make that fantasy come true.
Personally I wouldn’t wish to share my wife or girlfriend, but I’m happy to share someone else’s and get paid for doing so.
When agreeing an appointment with a couple I ask what their expectations are. By this is mean I want them to tell me how they see the scenario being played out. This way I can quickly discover whether what they want is something I’m comfortable offering.
It’s also prudent to make your sexual preferences crystal clear. For instance, I’m heterosexual and I say so on my web site, but I always make a point of mentioning the fact to prospective couple clients’ just so they know I mean it. This also reassures the guy that you won’t try it on with him.
By openly discussing the above issues (via email or phone) it makes the experience more enjoyable for all.
The best piece of advice I can give is that you should play the alpha male. The other guy will be naturally subservient because he’s content with letting you play with his partner. So, use that to your advantage and dictate what happens.
In addition, try to block the guy out of your mind and imagine it’s just you and the lady who are in the room.
TOP TIPS FOR INTIMATE MEETINGS
Unless you like dicing with death then it’s imperative that you always wear a condom. Enough said.
If you know that the appointment is going to be intimate, then masturbate prior to having a bath or shower. I find this helps to stay focused longer because reaching a premature climax won’t get you repeat business.
Once you arrive at the hotel room or home then set the alarm clock on your mobile phone, so you don’t run too far over your allotted time. If you start giving your client two hours for the price of one it’s expected every time.
Take five to ten minutes to get to know each other by chatting. Start off with a little fluff talk (yes, I hate fluff but it’s necessary here), like the weather or the client’s journey to the hotel. Then move the conversation around so you’re talking about adult stuff. You could call this phase verbal foreplay.
Pay the lady a genuine compliment, it could be about hair style or her legs… Whatever area you choose be genuine!
I often ask a lady to prepare for the date by dressing sexily. So, if she’s taken the hint and is perhaps wearing stockings I’ll say: “You look very sexy in those stockings, why don’t you come here?” This is more of a command than a question, but it seems to have the desired effect.
Many times you’ll find that a woman who’s being kissed passionately will start to undress her man, and it usually starts with the shirt. And this is fine. However, if for whatever reason she’s lay on the bed or sat down waiting for you to undress then understand that there’s a right and wrong way to do it.
I learnt this following trick from a friend who worked as male stripper…
Take off your shoes and socks first because there’s nothing harder than trying to get your jeans off whilst still wearing shoes.
Next, take off your jacket (if wearing one) and then slowly unbutton your shirt. Look straight into her eyes as you do this. Hold in your stomach if necessary.
Take off your jeans or trousers, again do it slowly whilst maintaining eye contact with your client. Hopefully your penis will have started to become erect and she’ll be able to see you’re aroused by her presence.
Often I’ll peel my underwear down a few inches so she can see my manhood in the flesh before hiding it again.
Make your way to the bed and start your real foreplay.
You can use the above seduction technique with single chicks and the female partner of a couple. I’ve found it works perfectly well for both.
What about Viagra?
I certainly wouldn’t advise that you take any type of erectile dysfunction medication without it being prescribed by your own doctor. Personally, I’ve tried it in the past and it gave me a raging headache. But if you’re faced with an ugly chick taking a stimulant may be the only way for you to get hard.
My recommendation would be to limit alcohol consumption, eat more fruit and vegetables, which are full of antioxidants, and get plenty of sleep (before the appointment). Green tea, and Ginseng has also been said to improve sexual performance.
I’m sure you never do this, but don’t just roll off and fall asleep once the final act has been completed – it’ll go down like a lead balloon!
Cuddle, stroke and kiss her for a few minutes after the main event.
If there’s any mess (think sperm) then be a gentleman, get some tissue and clean it up.
THE ONLY WAY TO GET BUSINESS FROM FEMALE ESCORTS
I’m going to talk here about you proactively acquiring business. You will of course receive bookings from female escorts without you approaching them.
Your female counterparts can be a great source of business if approached the right way.
The wrong method, as learned many moons ago, is to call or email a whole bunch of girls and ask them to work with you. Or even worse, offer a free trial of your services.
Over the years I have become friends with many female escorts, but here’s the rub, they mostly contacted me. Why?
Well, they were either looking for a guy to work with (think threesome) or they wanted to indulge in a bit of role reversal. Having found and liked my web site they got in touch. When I say liked my site it was more to do with the WORDS. I didn’t come across as a sex starved slime ball.
Anyway, I digress…
I only stumbled across the best way to get work from female escorts by mistake a few years ago. I’d been contacted by a high-class girl in London who had a male client who liked to watch her having a ‘good time’ with other guys. She’d performed for him a couple of times with the same partner, but now the client wanted some fresh meat. I apparently fitted the bill, so off to London I trundled.
A few weeks later the guy contacted me directly and asked if I had any female friends because he’d like to watch me perform again. The ‘friend’ had to fulfil certain criteria and unfortunately I didn’t know any working girls that ticked all the boxes.
So, I jumped on the net and started to do a search for potential partners. Having narrowed my choice down to six I called each one to introduce myself and to explain what the client was looking for. Once I’d got an agreement in principle (one was not interested) I followed up with an email and a link to my web site.
The next day I called back to ask if they’d had chance to consider my proposal. I was only able to speak with three of them, but each one was up for joining me on the gig (a ‘gig’ is the term I often use to describe an escorting job, and putting the word ‘gig’ in your diary will not arouse too much suspicion).
In addition, all three expressed an interest in working with me in the future. Unfortunately, the gig never happened, however, I’d made three new female friends. To date I’ve worked with two of them and had a fling with the other.
The moral of the story is this. If you wish to get work from female escorts contact some on the premise you’re trying to arrange a gig and are looking for a suitable girl to join you. I can’t guarantee that It’ll work every time, but it’s the most appropriate way to introduce yourself. What’s more, it’s definitely produced great results for me.
SECRET TO SETTING YOUR FEES AT THE RIGHT LEVEL
The first task is to do some research into your local market. In other words, find out what other heterosexual male escorts are charging. Remember, you’re only interested in straight males as your gay and female counterparts are target
ing a completely different market.
You can easily perform research by heading over to Google. Say you live in New Jersey, type in the search box ‘male escort new jersey’. It’s then a case of trawling through the first three to four pages of results to find male escort web sites.
Look at the fee structures of both independents and agencies as doing so will give you an indication of what the market (clients) are prepared to pay.
Although there may seem to be an average fee per hour don’t let this totally dictate what you actually charge. Why?
You’re an individual, completely unique and special. If you feel that you can command a higher fee and can justify it to potential clients then go for it. I feel that it’s more advantageous to be a little more expensive than the competition because it sets you apart.
One word of warning though, people will only pay so much for hamburger. What I’m trying to impress upon you is that people are price sensitive, so even if you’re aiming to attract high-end clients then make sure you can sell yourself in words and pictures. Don’t price yourself out of the market.
Can you be too cheap? Absolutely yes! I’ve come across loads of guys who think they can undercut the market and all it does is makes them look like some chump who’s willing to sell his body to the devil for a nickel.
You don’t have to take my word for it but they’re backed by what clients have told me. They say things like this “I searched lots of sites and was put off contacting guys who seemed to be offering a professional service at half the price of yours...”
As a rule of thumb you should be looking to charge around $140 per hour, but do your homework first to see what the market will accept.
FINAL WORDS
Distilling down my ten years of experience into an ebook was long over due. But if I’d written it two or three years ago I wouldn’t have been as candid with the information. In addition, I’ve gained more knowledge over the last couple of years, which I’m able to pass on to you.
It took a lot of time, sweat, late nights, disappointment and cash to learn how to succeed and I wasn’t prepared to share my hard earned secrets with anyone, until now. So what’s changed?
Well, for starters it’s nearly the end of the road for me. I’ve reached a point in my life where it’s time to move on and pursue my other business and professional interests.
Secondly, I’ve grown as a person and I don’t mean as a result of getting older. It’s more to do with developing myself through education. I left school with no qualifications, but now I have a university degree. And I’m working towards postgraduate qualifications. This wouldn’t have been possible without the money I’ve earned from escorting.
But my growth isn’t primarily attributable to academic texts, it’s more to do with wider reading on subjects such as: personal development, finance and investing, psychology, relationships, business and marketing.
Maybe you’re already an avid reader? If not, then I’d strongly recommend you become one. Doing so will make you a more interesting person. Another benefit is that you’ll able to hold conversations on a range of topics with your clients. With this in mind, if you check out the resources section on my website
www.malesescortcoach.com you’ll find a selection of my favourite books, which I believe have helped me to succeed as a male escort.
I sincerely hope that you’ve picked up some useful pieces of information from this ebook. And I look forward to speaking with you in the near future.
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