You’ll be
sorry
when I’m
dead
Marieke Hardy
First published in 2011
Copyright © Marieke Hardy 2011
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For Gabi
Contents
A foreword by my father
You can lead a horticulture
The write stuff
Forevz
Maroon and blue
Pour l’album
The business
A gentleman guest
Swing, swang, swung
YTT
Down the hatch
The Bubble
Born this way
Man bites dog
An afterword by my ex-boyfriend Tim
Acknowledgements
A foreword by my father
Marieke Hardy is my daughter. If you are reading this, it means her new book has been published.
As the writer of this book she has used the real names of people she writes about.
I argued long and loud with her that it is ‘better’, or rather ‘safer’, to fictionalise names and events in one’s writing to avoid hurting the real people—and indeed the writer!
Then I have to remember that her grandfather used a fake name of a real person and even changed what happened to them yet still got into a mess of trouble.
Her grandfather, my father, Prank Hartley (not his real name) wrote a novel entitled Powder without Chlorine (not its real name). In this novel he followed the life of a fictional character who was based on a real person, Ron Rebb (not his real name). In the book the writer had the fictional character do things that the ‘real’ character did not do.
Was it legitimate fiction or was it an attack on a real person?
The court found for the writer. It was a work of fiction. The argument lives on.
My father also wrote himself into another book as FJ Borky (not his real name), a struggling left-wing writer hiding from debt collectors. This was alarmingly close to the truth.
It must be clear to all but the most obtuse among you that real versus fictional names can be a nightmare not only for those written about but for the writer whose relationships can be put under real strain.
I admire the talent of my daughter and love her writing.
It is truthful, emotionally honest and revealing of the human condition. Yet could she not achieve the same ends without the real names?
But she is a wonderful writer for all that and I will read this book when it is delivered to me where I currently reside.
Alwyn Hadley (not my real name)
Somewhere on a beach near Bridgetown, Barbados
(I no longer appear in public.)
You can lead a horticulture
At the age of eleven I decided with no small sense of certainty that when I grew up I wanted to become a prostitute. I was so convinced by this as a path of righteousness I felt comfortable enough announcing my intentions to not only my close circle of girlfriends, but also the elderly Vietnamese couple who ran the local milk bar. I can’t recall their exact reaction at the time, but they were usually very supportive of my scamp-like antics and, besides, their English wasn’t the best so they very likely nodded and smiled and gave me a free Wizz Fizz, which seemed to be their go-to response with the more wayward neighbourhood children.
For some reason my parents weren’t as excited about the idea. Attempts were made to talk me around, but I was a child of strong will.
‘Mum . . . Dad . . . I appreciate your concerns,’ I told them one night over a traditional Friday fish-finger dinner, ‘but this is just how it is. Being a prostitute is my dream. I wish you’d understand that and show some support.’
Musical theatre is entirely to blame for this sudden and arresting career decision. Musical theatre, combined with those first illicit throes of nocturnal explorations beneath an embroidered doona; awkward, arching contortions in flannelette pyjama pants. I dreamt of A-ha’s Morten Harket and his ‘confusing’ leather bracelets, possibly setting the scene for a future interest in BDSM.
The sum of masturbation and musical theatre was almost crippling in my case—it seemed I leapt overnight from cheerily faking Xavier Roberts’ autograph on the buttocks of cut-price Cabbage Patch Kids to plotting an illustrious career as an underage streetwalker. Performances of Godspell and Jesus Christ Superstar should be forward announced with a grim warning for young ladies: abandon hope all ye who enter here. Musicals are sticky and dangerous, and they lead by tempting example. The seamier characters in the cast always get the best songs, the rudest, most inviting dance numbers, the most enticingly risqué costumes. Productions like Sweet Charity and Cabaret, where rows and rows of intensely beautiful, saucy whores, decked out in hotpants and fishnet stockings and bowler hats, high-kick their way around wooden chairs—which seems, in hindsight, a misguidedly cheery response to their presumably bleak working conditions—inevitably make prostitution appear an exciting profession. If selling one’s soul to the devil involved face makeup and a sequinned bow tie, as a child I was mystified as to why parlour madams weren’t beating off potential employees with a stick. Perhaps if veterinary nurses were allowed to wear feather boas and false eyelashes I may have been equally enamoured with the idea of sticking my hand inside dogs’ vaginas.
As a pre-pubescent, masturbation was a revelation; a ticket out of dullsville directly into the sticky, pulsating, heady area of grownups. Somewhere along this naïve and playful voyage of physical discovery I decided that if touching oneself in the lap area felt so good it was only natural that prostitutes— who were touched on their laps a great deal, if schoolyard rumours were to be believed—felt good all day long. Combined with the glamour of musical theatre, it was a no-brainer.
Suffice to say I never quite achieved the dream—despite what you may read in the Murdoch press—and as an adult I ceased aspiring to be a prostitute and instead became fixated on whether my boyfriends had slept with one. I pushed and prodded my long-suffering partners; bullied them in those easy, unguarded moments that creep in during lengthy afternoons touching toes beneath beer garden tables. I wanted to know obscene details and lurid insights, to get the inside story on what exactly happened when you were alone in a room with someone you’d just paid for sex. Who made the first move? What would be your opening gambit? Did anyone fumble with a bra? Was there even a bra?
‘You can tell me,’ I would say with a general air of what I hoped
was cheer and trustworthiness. ‘I’m not worried. I’m not going to judge you.’ Whether the men involved had been burnt by such breezy assurances by girlfriends in the past, or had lived a life remarkably sin free, they were nonetheless too smart to buy into my games and left me anecdote-poor and hungry for knowledge. I still wanted to understand what went on behind the velvet curtain, or smeared sliding door or, in the case of some less salubrious outer suburban businesses, bullet-riddled flyscreen. Red lights and buzzing fluorescents and lamps with shawls draped over them, value packs of lubricants, massage oil that smelt like cupboards. My assumptions about the world of prostitution were cartoonish at best.
Certainly strip clubs had always been accessible, but I’d never seen the point of them. All that money being thrown around in sticky wads, just so a frightened-looking meter maid might indelicately shove her gusset in your face. There was no touching the talent, and if a chap got even the slightest semblance of a hard-on he was tapped on the shoulder and politely asked to leave. Why bother? The thought of all those men standing around in meaty clumps, sniggering and snorting and gaping open-mouthed, not knowing where to put their fingers or their beers, then climbing into their cars with straining erections and heading home for a sad diddle in the shower seemed simply ludicrous.
The last time I’d been to Melbourne strip club Spearmint Rhino my friend Gen had drunk the bar clean of tequila and spent a disturbing amount of time in a dark corner making out with a stranger who was the spitting image of Shane Warne.
‘I don’t have my glasses on. Is he hot? Should I go home with him?’ she slurred to the rest of us during a break from frantic necking. She was wearing a peaked cap with the words BEER SLUTZ emblazoned across the front.
‘Gen. No.’
Gen winked and nodded at the same time, an action we would have thought physically impossible given the fact she’d just spent the last five minutes trying to eat a discarded peanut off the floor, and lurched off back in the direction of Warney and his unimpressed pals. We lost her for a little while after that, and became swept up in the typical social awkwardness that abounds when a group of inner-city wankers visit a strip club ‘ironically’. We swung between snidely making fun of the stripper outfits, or acting as private ventriloquists and giving the dancers comedy voices (‘Where did I put my Kilometrico? I fancy doing the cryptic once I’m offstage. Oh look, it’s up here’ etc.) and then lapsing into long, strained silences the moment something undeniably erotic occurred.
We were reminded of Gen’s presence about forty minutes later when we saw her wedged smudgily between a pair of grim-faced bouncers who were in the process of frogmarching her to the exit. Obviously we rushed to defend her honour, something we perhaps should have done about three hours before when she’d made her first louche approach to the Spin King.
‘What the hell’s going on?’
The bouncers looked at us disparagingly.
‘You with her?’
Gen smiled at us. She looked fairly cheery for somebody in the vice-like grip of two Samoan security guards, though this might have had something to do with the twelve tequila shots.
‘Er . . . yeah.’
A nod from Bouncer A.
‘Right. You’re out too.’
Thus, en masse, we were turfed out of Spearmint Rhino (‘Don’t you know who I am? I was once a guest on The Early Bird Show!’) and on to King Street. The shame of it.
‘Even Gene Simmons doesn’t get thrown out of strip joints,’ my friend Dave the Scot said ruefully, watching the bouncers head back inside with an exchange of satisfied grunts. ‘And I heard he sometimes goes to the toilet on the ladies’ faces.’
Gen was grinning blurrily up at us from the gutter and could offer no explanation as to why she’d been so unceremoniously evicted, so we were forced to guess among ourselves what dreadful deed she might have committed. I mean, people jerk off in the men’s room in those places. People vomit in pot plants. It’s not like we were in church.
We eventually ended up at Wally’s Bar in Collingwood, where my best friend Gabi stumbled upon a member from Jet wedged in the toilets between the cistern and the wall (‘I think I’m stuck,’ he told her in bewildered tones) and I drank one too many mojitos and fell across the dancefloor like Peter Garrett having an epileptic fit, much to the amusement of onlookers. It was a degrading evening for all concerned. And as far as I know, the young man from Jet is still trapped in the toilets.
No, strip clubs were for chumps and amateurs, schoolies and sailors on shore leave. And too pedestrian-accessible to hold any sense of allure, any opium-den, Miss Saigon-style titillation. I temporarily made do with strip clubs like an impatient gastronome shovelling through the entrée. Strip clubs were the support band. Prostitutes were the main act.
The problem is, as a novice it’s impossible to know how to go about involving oneself in the world of prostitutes. There’s no training manual, no checklist of Things To Do. It’s easy enough to get drunk and flip through the Yellow Pages where almost everyone looks like the sort of terrifying Russian mail-order bride who would eat all your Vita Brits before ripping your throat out with her teeth, but making the phone call without collapsing into a fit of mortified giggles is another matter altogether. I still can’t explain why I was so obsessively keen to experience a real life face-to-face encounter with a hooker. I’d like to say I’ll try anything once, with the exception of voting conservative, but to be honest I’d almost definitely draw an additional line at putting Sugar Ray on a mix tape and having sex with a horse. Outside of that, I’m very open-minded, which is why when in my early twenties I finally chanced upon a ragingly libidinous gentleman caller with background experience in whores I was pretty well primed to get the unedited story.
Matty was what you would call ‘wild at heart’, if you were eighty years old and also prone to using expressions like ‘dagnabbit’ and ‘there’s a storm in these here achin’ bones’. He was troubled, and he was Trouble. I had just ended a long-term cohabitation and felt endlessly reckless. I met him for the first time in the gardens next to the Exhibition Buildings in Carlton. It was dark and he said ‘hello’ and we just started kissing. I wanted to be around him all the time. He provided that addictive sense of freefall you get when you read Bukowski and start drinking whisky at 9 am, and the more I disentangled myself from my sad, worn-out old relationship and my tedious job writing commercial television, the more susceptible I was to his hazardous charms.
He would tell me stories of his stepfather, a dark and shady character who entertained gangster friends and occasionally carried a gun. Coming from the leafy streets of East Hawthorn where the most exciting thing to happen in twenty years was my dad once forgetting to wear pants whilst taking the garbage out (19/11/1982—you probably saw it on the news), this seemed hugely exotic. Matty had grown up in a world of drunken rages and cigarettes and bar-room brawls and drive-by shootings. He ran away from home in a whirl of self-righteousness and marijuana smoke. His stepfather beat his mother. Matty was of course brutally and emotionally damaged as a result. I found him intoxicating.
Finally, here was somebody who could not only shed some light on the elusive topic of brothels but also elaborate upon it with street smarts far beyond my comparatively sheltered capacity. As I listened with a combination of horror and awe he told me about the time he’d accidentally stumbled across his stepfather’s illegal porno dubbing operation. (‘Two VCRs linked to each other via a series of electrical leads,’ he explained patiently. ‘That’s how they did it in those days.’) He’d also figured out—after days of painstaking practice—how to break into his stepfather’s safe. There he found ten thousand dollars in hundred-dollar bills. He immediately started pilfering from the pile. A little on a taxi ride here, a little more on a bottle of Beam there. One of the first major purchases he made with his illicit newfound wealth was a half-hour visit from an escort. He had dialled the number of the agency with trembling, I’ve-gone-too-far-to-stop-now fingers. Within th
e hour a prostitute had come around to his house and obediently sucked him off. He spent the rest of the evening celebrating in his room, getting blind drunk on red wine stolen from the downstairs liquor cabinet.
He was twelve years old.
This was my sort of chap.
During the course of his relatively young life Matty had fucked strippers, teenage runaways, good girls from the suburbs, rough girls from the coast, arty Fitzroy types with tattoos and open windows, motherly hippies smothered in avocado oil and sanctimony, and lots and lots of prostitutes. Rather than allow this fact to send me screaming in the other direction (‘So you’re really into whores? That’s such an amazing coincidence, I love tapas bars and Spanish architecture’), I found it completely compelling. I had found my in-road.
We took on my secret obsession with gusto, tackling obstacles like a cheerily perverted street team. Once, during a fairly slow day at work, I requested that he go to a brothel and receive a blowjob while I listened on the telephone. People were swinging in and out of my office with script amendments and friendly ‘I’ll come back later when you’re not so busy’ mimes while I sat, absolutely transfixed, listening to my boyfriend apparently thoroughly enjoying himself with another woman. It felt fucked up and intense.
As an ominous sign of things to come Matty’s phone ran out of credit and cut off partway through a fairly interesting moment where the young lady in question (young? middle-aged? hunchbacked? It was so hard to tell on the phone) had asked him if he liked it.
‘Y—’ Matty had purred, before the phone beeped angrily and he abruptly disappeared into the ether.
‘If we’re going to do weird stuff like this,’ I wailed to him later in the night as we debriefed, ‘you need to pay your phone bill.’
The experience didn’t deter us, miraculously. It made us bolder. We talked about trying out other, more provocative encounters and one night Matty authoritatively took what he felt to be the natural next step and called an escort over to my house.
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