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actions in other parts of your life.
→ Plan for the worst. If you have a strong pessimistic streak,
you naturally start thinking about all the things that could go
wrong. If you’re worrying about developments that are out of
your control, remind yourself that there’s no point in tortur-
ing yourself when there’s nothing you can do. But when you’re
thinking about things that are within your span of control,
your best bet may be to create a contingency plan. When you
have a worst case plan in place, it’s easier to shift your focus
away from your worries.
→ Smile. If you put on a happy face and act like an optimist,
you’re likely to actually experience an emotional lift. And the
upswing in your mood may continue to build when other
people return your smile.
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→ Spend time in nature. There’s growing evidence that spending
time outdoors can help you to overcome moderate depression,
particularly if you walk or engage in other active pastimes. I’ve
had many clients who’ve found a daily walk to be helpful in
keeping up their positive outlook.
→ Get help. If your anxiety feels out of control or you always
wake up grouchy, it may be time to seek professional help.
Many kinds of therapy can help you to tackle your depression
and rediscover your optimism. For example, cognitive behav-
ioral therapy—including emerging online versions—may help
you to manage your moods by replacing pessimistic thoughts.
→ Pray. There’s much evidence that prayer can make you feel bet-
ter, even if you’re not sure what to believe in.
Just choose
Sometimes no tricks are needed. You can simply choose optimism. Every morning as you head to work, you can decide to face the day with an optimistic attitude. Your elevated mood may not last, but each time a client is rude or your boss is unreasonable you’ll have an opportunity to choose again. Throughout
the day you’ll have opportunities to let go of negativity and notice the positive. Some choices will be more challenging than others, but with repeated
attempts at optimism your brain will change, and it will be increasingly easy to opt for the positive choice.
Learning how and why to be optimistic is something I’ve had to absorb
more than once. Like everyone, I’ve had ups and downs. And I’ve discovered
and rediscovered that managing my attitude must be part of my formula for
working past the down times.
Choosing optimism is what I’m doing now, in this later phase of my pro-
fessional life. I’m excited about the rapidly evolving new career options, and I’m electing to stay part of it all, rather than retire.
You also have the power to choose optimism in ways that can transform your career and enrich your life.
I wish you well.
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I n d e x
Academia.edu, 152
Body language, 29, 78-79
Accuracy, 179, 212
Boss, communicating with your, 104-106
Action items, 188
Boss, managing the, 107-110
Active listening, 29
Brainstorming, 133
Acute stress, 155
Brand statement, 33
Adaptability, 14, 15-16
Brand, 27, 31-34
Advice, 124
leadership and, 35-38
Affirmation, 80
Breathing, 80
Age, speech habits and, 93-94
Building community, 135-138
Ageism, 197-199
Burnout, 11, 147-148
Agenda, meetings and, 141
Business basics, 26
Aligning time and priorities, 98
Business, inventing a, 25
Allocating tasks, 188
Calendar, managing, 95-99
Anxiety, 66, 171
Capacity, 177
Apologizing, 69, 115-117, 196
Career change, 11
Appearance, 33, 50, 77-78, 199
Career games, 71-72
Appreciation, 212
Career rejection, 160-162
Arrogance, 192
Career resilience, 14-16, 128
Art, 203-206
Career shift, 81-86, 87-90
Artists Unframed, 203
Career vision, 101
Attitude, 22, 77, 133-134
Categories, work, 101
entrepreneurial, 26
Challenges, workplace, 17
negative, 130
Change process, 81-83
Authority, leading without, 187-189
Change, 17, 200-202
Autonomy, 12
Checklists, 178-180
Awareness, 91-93, 175
Choice, 12, 214
Baby Boomers, 25, 91-92
Chronic stress, 156
Backgrounds, similar, 91
Civility, 113
Balance, work-life, 11
Class, 113
Belong, a desire to, 165
Classes, taking, 89-90
Best practices, 180
Clutter, 102, 120
Big Project Letdown, 181-183
Coca-Cola brand, 32
Blame, 109, 116
Cognitive difficulties, 156
Body clock, 97
Collaboration, 30, 37, 91, 163
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Colleagues, difficult, 132-134
Expectations, managing, 182
Communicating with your boss, 104-106
Expertise, 33, 34, 109
Communication preferences, 105
Explaining decisions, 188
Communication, teams and, 164
External processors, 105
Community, finding, 135-138
Extraverts, 105
Complaining, 148
Face time, 57
Compliments, 59-61
Facebook, 152
Confidence, 12, 30, 78, 193
Facial expressions, 29, 78
Conflict, 69
Failure, 27
Connection, health and social, 136
Fallon, Jimmy, 111-112, 114
Consideration, 113
Fear of failure, 27
Core values, 35-36
Fear of looking like a suck up, 67-69
Creating habits, 48
Feedback, 61
Creating Public Value, 189
negative, 64
Creative Culture, 204-205
positive, 63-66, 75
Creativity, 157
Fight or flight, 155
art and, 203-206
Financial pressures, 202
Credit, 109
Financial security, 11
Credit, sharing, 60, 109
Financial shape, 148
Crisis, 54
Fitness, 157, 198-199, 202
Culture, workplace, 14
Flexibility, 148-149
Customer, focusing on the, 26
Focus on the customer, 26
Data, 176-177
Follow-up, 58
Debating with civility, 113
meetings and, 142, 145
Deference, 117
Forgiveness, 131
Deflecting a compliment, 59
Frustration, 106, 128-131, 161