by Emily Asad
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STATISTICS AND FRAGMENTS
Ch. 2
Second marriages fail 75% of the time.
2008 US Census Bureau.
Ch. 3
And the feeble little ones must stand
In the thickest of the fight
Procter, Adelaide Anne. "Life and Death." Legends and Lyrics: First Series. London, George Bell and Sons, 1890.
Ch. 4
She has a quick and lively imagination and keen feelings, which are apt to exaggerate both the good and evil they find in life.
Scott, Sir Walter. Guy Mannering. The Harvard Classics Shelf of Fiction, 1917.
Ch. 5
He writhed- then sternly manned his heart
To play his hard but destined part.
Scott, Sir Walter. "The Lord of the Isles." 1815.
Ch. 6
Among teenage and adult populations of females, parental divorce has been associated with lower self-esteem, precocious sexual activity, greater delinquent-like behavior, and more difficulty establishing gratifying, lasting adult heterosexual relationships.
Kalter, Neil, PhD. "Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children: A Developmental Vulnerability Model." American Journal of Orthopsychiatry 57(4). University of Michigan, October 1987.
Ch. 7
Even several years after divorce, on average parents and children have less positive relationships in divorced rather than married families.
Emery, Robert E. Marriage, Divorce, and Children's Adjustment. California, Sage Publications Inc, 1999.
Ch. 8
Girls whose parents divorce may grow up without the day-to-day experience of interacting with a man who is attentive, caring and loving. Without this regular source of nourishment, a girl's sense of being valued as a female does not seem to thrive.
Kalter, Neil, PhD. "Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children: A Developmental Vulnerability Model." American Journal of Orthopsychiatry 57(4). University of Michigan, October 1987.
Ch. 9
18-to-22-year-olds from disrupted families were twice as likely to have poor relationships with their mothers and fathers, to show high levels of emotional distress or problem behavior, [and] to have received psychological help.
Zill, Nicholas, Donna Morrison and Mary Jo Coiro. "Long-Term Effects of Parental Divorce on Parent-Child Relationships, Adjustment and Achievement in Young Adulthood." Journal of Family Psychology 7.1, (1993) p. 96.
Ch. 10
The average parent spends only five minutes per day in meaningful conversation with their children.
Time Use Survey: A.C. Nielsen Co, 1998.
Ch. 11
Mothers with custody are typically more depressed, less supportive and have decreased parental authority within the first two years after divorce.
Hines, Alicia M. "Divorce-Related Transitions, Adolescent Development, and the Role of the Parent-Child Relationship: A Review of the Literature." Journal of Marriage and the Family, 59. (1997) pp. 375-388.
Ch. 12
Children whose parents divorced in their childhood or adolescence were likely to be afflicted with emotional problems such as depression or anxiety well into their twenties or early thirties.
Cherlin, Andrew J., Lindsay Chase-Lansdale and Christine McRae. "Effects of Parental Divorce on Mental Health Throughout the Life Course." American Sociological Review, Volume 63 (1998) pp. 245-246.
Ch. 13.
A number of researchers also found that children of divorce, especially boys, were more aggressive than children whose parents stayed married.
Emery, Robert E. Marriage, Divorce and Children's Adjustment. Newbury Park: Sage Publication, 1988.
Ch. 14
Children in repeat divorces have lower grades and their peers find them less pleasant to be around.
Cherlin, Andrew J. Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage. Cambridge: Harvard University Press, 1981.
Ch. 15
It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Butler, Samuel. The Way of All Flesh. 1903.
Ch. 16
Children of divorced parents tend to be "impulsive, irritable, and socially withdrawn" as well as "lonely, unhappy, anxious and insecure."
Wallerstein, Judith, PhD. "The Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children: A Review." Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. May 1991, pp. 352.
Ch. 17
There may be epics in men's brains, just as there are oaks in acorns, but both the tree and the book must come out before we measure them.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Ch. 18
When describing their current dating partners, 82% of young adults whose parents had divorced indicated that they did not fully trust their partner.
Shulman Shmuel et al. "How Young Adults Perceive Parental Divorce: The Role of their Relationships With Their Fathers and Mothers." Journal of Divorce and Remarriage, Volume 34, N 3/4. (October 2001) pp. 3.
Children of divorce are far more likely to be delinquent, engage in premarital sex, and bear children out of wedlock during adolescence and young adulthood.
Maher, B. "Patching Up the American Family." World and I, Volume 18-1, (2003) p. 56. Retrieved from Expanded Academic ASAP on June 9, 2004.
Ch. 19
One can sometimes love that which we do not understand, but it is impossible clearly to understand what we do not love.
Grindon, Leo H. Life: Its Nature, Varieties and Phenomena. London: F. Pitman, 1875.
Ch. 20
The trend is that men and women have more difficulty with parenting roles for the opposite gender. Thus, the mother relates better to her daughter after divorce than with her son, and vice versa with the father.
Emery, Robert E. Marriage, Divorce and Children's Adjustment. California: Sage Publications, Inc. 1999.
Ch. 21
My poverty and not my will consents. - Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare
I have been accustomed to study men's countenances, and I can read in thine honesty and resolution.
Scott, Sir Walter. Ivanhoe. 1819.