2) Diarmaid Fitzpatrick & Elizabeth Klyne offer mixed gender workshops in locations in the UK, as well as individual sessions and one-to-one work with male and female clients.
Diarmaid writes: “I see my role as a Certified Shadow Work facilitator as being about enabling people to identify and break free of long standing limiting beliefs and behaviours. By doing so they can more enjoyable, fulfilling and purposeful lives. Of all the personal development skills I’ve learned over many years of personal development I find Shadow Work to be the most effective because it reveals the deeper issues underpinning life’s challenges, helps heal old wounds and transforms long standing traumas.”
Email: [email protected]
Phone: 07768 468 031
Elizabeth writes: “I’ve been delighted to create a safe and shame-free environment in which people can find empathy, take possession of their gifts and talents and access the power that flows from coming to terms with the truth of any situation. I find myself consistently in awe of our ability to survive, heal and flourish in the face of the challenging circumstances and beliefs that we all encounter, and blessed to be present in those moments of transformation.”
Email: [email protected]
Phone: 07801 374 589
One-to-One Work (UK)
Marianne Hill offers one-to-one work with both women and men. You can see Marianne’s details above.
Website: https://healingtheshadow.co.uk
Phone: 01373 300 749
Email: [email protected]
Rod Boothroyd offers one-to-one work with both men and women. You can see Rod’s details above.
Websites:
https://www.takeyourpower.co.uk
https://www.thebalancedwhole.co.uk
Phone: 07788 502 902
Email: [email protected]
Diarmaid Fitzpatrick offers one-to-one sessions with both women and men. You can see Diarmaid’s details above.
Email: [email protected]
Mobile: 07768 468 031
Ed Rooke offers one-to-one sessions with both women and men. You can see Ed’s details above.
Website: https://www.edrooke.com
Phone: 07753 172 419
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USA & Other Locations
You can find a list of facilitators who work in the USA and other countries by searching on the internet for “shadow work facilitators”, “shadow work workshops”, “shadow work coaching”, “shadow work seminars” and “shadow work”.
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Books You May Find Helpful
How to Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological And Spritual Integration by David Richo
This is a super little book whose title could easily be “How to Be The Sovereign In Your Own Life”. He explains the characteristics of emotional maturity and suggests easy and simple ways to grow those qualities in your life.
Owning Your Own Shadow by Robert A Johnson
An exploration of the dark or hidden aspect of the persona - what it is, how it originates, how it is formed, and how it can be used to bring wholeness to the personality.
A Little Book on the Human Shadow by Robert Bly
Robert Bly explains how we are born with “360-degree radiance” and how our spirits shine in all directions. Over the first 20 years or so of our lives we learn to stuff the “bad” parts into a shadow bag so that we become well behaved, more polite, and better able to manage our anger. Sadly for us, we also stuff other things in there too, like our “feminine” or “masculine” sides, or our vitality and energy. Then, to explain why these parts are missing, we learn to say things like “I’m not really a creative-type person.” Eventually we begin to miss these parts of ourselves and feel tired from dragging our shadow bags behind us, all the while emotionally struggling to deal with the challenges we face. At this point we have a choice: either to reintegrate our shadows within our psyche or to devote increasing amounts of energy to maintaining our rigidity and repression, all the while becoming more controlling towards, and intolerant of, others.
Iron John by Robert Bly
Robert Bly suggests how the images of adult manhood given by popular culture are worn out, and suggests men can no longer depend on them. Iron John searches for a new vision of what a man is or could be, drawing on psychology, anthropology, mythology, folklore and legend. In particular, Bly looks at the importance of the Wild Man, the essence of male energy.
The Drama Of Being A Child: The Search For The True Self by Alice Miller
Alice Miller examines the consequences of repression at personal and social levels, the causes of the physical and psychological harm done to children and how this can be prevented, and the new methods at our disposal for dealing with the consequences of infant traumas.
The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects Of Cruel Parenting by Alice Miller
An examination of childhood trauma and its pervasive, debilitating effects. Miller explores the long-range effects of childhood abuse on the body and shows how a child’s humiliation, impotence, and bottled rage will manifest as adult illness. This book may help you confront the overt and covert traumas of your childhood.
Shadow Of The Stone Heart: Search For Manhood by Richard Olivier
The day that Richard Olivier’s father, actor Laurence Olivier, died marked a crisis point in Richard Olivier’s life. Unable to grieve, his involvement with the Men’s Movement helped him adjust from isolation to a fuller expression of his grief. This was the beginning of a process of self-exploration that changed his life. This book is both a memoir of Olivier’s challenging relationship with his father and an accessible account of the Men’s Movement.
Coming Home: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
John Bradshaw explains his tried and tested techniques to reveal the inner child. He explains how the emotional wounds we receive during childhood and adolescence continue to contaminate our adult lives. His techniques, which are explained clearly in this book, help people to reach back to the child inside and heal those wounds. “Three things are striking about inner child work,” says John Bradshaw. “The speed with which people change, the depth of that change, and the power and creativity that can result when the wounds from the past are healed.”
Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man by Sam Keen
This book is for men who have experienced their emptiness, loneliness, and longing for connection, but whose ways of dealing with these issues are limited by old ways of being and out-of-date beliefs about themselves. This book might well change those beliefs as it introduces us to new ways of seeing masculinity, the world, and men.
Absent Fathers, Lost Sons: The Search for Masculine Identity by Guy Corneau
Many modern men do not seem to be deeply rooted in a sense of their own masculinity. Psychoanalyst Guy Corneau traces this experience to an even deeper feeling men have of their fathers’ silence or absence – sometimes a physical absence, but also very often an emotional and spiritual absence. He suggests that our challenges around masculinity stem from the fact that we have lost the masculine initiation rituals that in the past ensured a boy’s passage into manhood. In this engaging examination of the many different ways this missing link manifests in men’s lives Corneau proposes that for men today, regaining the essential “second birth” into manhood lies in developing the ability to be a father to themselves. This is not only a means of healing psychological pain but also a necessary step in the process of becoming whole.
Radical Wholeness: The Embodied Present and the Ordinary Grace of Being by Philip Shepherd
Radical Wholeness documents the devastation inflicted by lack of mind-body integration on our personal lives and the planet. But the book is also a practical guide for initiating a personal revolution. By finding your way out of your head and reuniting with your body’s intelligence you can ground yourself in a wholeness of being that feels and supports the harmonies not just of your life, but of our wakeful world.
The Success Principles 10th Anniversary Edition: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be by Jack Canfield
(This book can assist you in forming a vision for your future life.)
In this book, Jack Canfield, co-creator of the bestselling “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series, describes the principles he’s studied, taught, and lived for more than forty years. He claims this book can help any man or woman get from where they are now to where they want to be. The techniques in the book show how to form a vision for your life, increase your confidence, tackle daily challenges, live with passion and purpose, and realize all your ambitions. Does it work? Well, apparently this book describes a lot of the ideas and techniques used by the world’s most successful men and women. Taken together and practiced every day, these principles can empower you to a new way of being in the world.
Men and the Water of Life: Initiation and the Tempering of Men by Michael Meade
(Meade has written many other books of interest to men)
Through myths and ancient stories, Meade takes readers through the stages in a man’s life. He focuses on initiation and shows how the stories allow for a new and sometimes radical re-examination of childhood issues from a different perspective. Meade’s commitment to men and their healing is obvious, making this a must-read for anyone wishing to gain a deeper understanding of our individual and collective psyches.
About The Author: Rod Boothroyd
I’ve been involved with personal work and the Men’s Movement* in one form or another for over twenty years. Like many other men I found my life collapsing around me at midlife. I realized my life could not continue as I had set it up, and I embarked on a search for what I would now call “soul healing”. This took me to Vision Quests in the high mountains of the USA, Richard Rohr’s male initiation (Illuman.org), training in Transactional Analysis and Integrative Psychotherapy, an exploration of Shadow Work, backpacking in the wilderness, and other deep personal soul diving work, until, after many other adventures, I found the New Warrior Training Adventure run by the ManKind Poject (mankindproject.org).
Here I discovered a new model of masculinity and – more importantly – a body of men who seemed to relate to life on a different, deeper level. MKP offers a weekend “initiation” into manhood, an Rite Of Passage designed for the 21st century society in which we live. This was a joy! And after my initiation, I joined a group of men from MKP in an ongoing men’s group. These men are still among my closest buddies. Over time, I began to explore the human archetypes and how they manifest in men and women, and came to understand the immense power of the archetypal approach to healing emotional wounds. The rest, as they say, is history… some of it not yet written.
*According to Wikipedia:
“The men's movement is a social movement consisting of groups and organizations of men and their allies who focus on gender issues and whose activities range from self-help and support to lobbying and activism. ... The movement exists predominantly in the Western world and emerged in the 1960s and 1970s.”
Quotations From The Writings Of Carl Jung
“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own souls. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
From “Psychology and Alchemy”
“There is no coming to consciousness without pain.”
From “Contributions to Analytical Psychology”
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
From “ Memories Dreams and Reflections”
“Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.”
From “Letters Volume 1”
“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Without, everything seems discordant; only within does it coalesce into unity. Who looks outside dreams; who looks inside awakes.”
From “Letters Volume 1”
“We are living in what the Greeks called the right time for a ‘metamorphosis of the gods,’ i.e. of the fundamental principles and symbols. This peculiarity of our time, which is certainly not of our conscious choosing, is the expression of the unconscious within us… Coming generations will have to take account of this momentous transformation if humanity is not to destroy itself through the might of its own technology and science.”
From “The Undiscovered Self”
Warrior, Magician, Lover, King Page 22