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Italy: influence on English manners

  It’s in Good Taste (TV show)

  James I, King of England (James VI of Scotland): Basilikon Doron

  James, Clive

  Japan: behavioural conformity; manners; table manners

  Jefferson, Thomas

  Jeremy Kyle Show, The (TV programme)

  John of Salisbury

  Johnson, Samuel; Dictionary of the English Language

  Jones, Inigo

  Kama Sutra

  Kant, Immanuel

  Keats, John

  Keen, Maurice

  Kelland, Philip: Transatlantic Sketches

  Kelling, George L.

  Kielmansegge, Friedrich

  King, Ryan

  Kingsland, Florence Burton: Etiquette for All Occasions

  kissing: as greeting and farewell

  Kitano, Takeshi

  Knigge, Adolph

  Knigge Society (Germany)

  Knollys, Beatrice: The Gentle Art of Good Talking

  Koch, Robert

  Kolbert, Elizabeth

  Koslofsky, Craig

  Kynaston, David: Austerity Britain

  Ladies Complete Letter-Writer, The (1763)

  Ladies’ Sanitary Association

  Landor, Walter Savage

  Landry, Geoffroy de la Tour: The Book of the Knight of the Tower

  Lane, Allen

  Langford, Paul

  language: ‘correct’ and ‘incorrect’; of manners; polite; and verbal gaffes; see also euphemism

  Lanier, Jaron

  Lavater, Johann Kaspar

  Le Grand, Jacques: The Book of Good Manners

  l’Enclos, Ninon de

  Lessing, Doris

  Lesuire, Robert Martin: Les Sauvages de l’Europe

  letters and letter-writing

  Lewis, C. S.

  libertinism

  Licensing Act: ends (1695)

  lies: acceptable

  Lisle, Arthur Plantagenet, Viscount and Honor, Viscountess

  Lisle Letters

  location: and behaviour

  Locke, John; Some Thoughts Concerning Education

  London: dominant influence; sewage system; street lighting

  London Journal

  Lorris, Guillaume de and Jean de Meun: Roman de la Rose

  Louboutin, Christian

  Louis XIV, King of France

  lunch: for women

  Lydgate, John; The Dietary (poem)

  McEnroe, John; Serious

  McGinn, Colin

  Machiavelli, Niccolò

  Mackenzie, Henry: The Man of Feeling

  mail coaches

  Major, John

  Mallock, William Hurrell: Social Equality: A Short Study in a Missing Science

  Mandeville, Bernard: The Fable of the Bees

  manners: American; Burke on; English; and feeling good; guides to; McEnroe on; modern; and morality; national differences; origins and history; and power relationships; and primal urges; principles and conventions; supposed decline; as symptoms of repression; as virtue; vocabulary of; word and meaning; see also table manners

  Manners, Miss see Martin, Judith

  Manners and Rules of Good Society

  Mannersmith (US etiquette firm)

  Marie Antoinette, Queen of Louis XVI

  marriage

  Martin, Andrew

  Martin, Judith: Miss Manners’ Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior

  Martineau, Harriet

  Mary II (Stuart), Queen

  Mass Observation

  Meaden, Deborah

  Mediawatch-uk

  medieval period: and acceptable behaviour; childhood; formal assemblies; lifestyle; and meeting; public and private life; violence

  meetings: and duels; formal assemblies; greetings and conventions

  Meyer, Stephenie: Twilight novels

  Middle Ages see medieval period

  Mikes, George; How To Be An Alien

  Mill, John Stuart: ‘The Subjection of Women’

  Mitford, Nancy; Noblesse Oblige

  Mitterrand, François

  mobile phones

  moeurs

  molly houses

  monasteries: and mannerly behaviour

  Montesquieu, Charles-Louis de Secondat, baron de

  Moody, Eleazar: The School of Good Manners

  morality: and aesthetics; and manners

  More, Hannah; Thoughts on the Importance of the Manners of the Great to General Society

  Morgan, John

  Morgan, John Pierpont

  Moritz, Carl Philip

  Mortimer, Roger, 1st Earl of March

  Muralt, Béat-Louis de

  Murdock, George P.

  Murray, Charles: Coming Apart

  Muthesius, Hermann

  Myddle, Shropshire

  nakedness

  names (personal): use of

  Nash, Richard (‘Beau’)

  Nashoba, Tennessee

  National Viewers’ and Listeners’ Association

  National Vigilance Association

  neighbours

  New Chesterfield, The (1830)

  newspapers and magazines: in eighteenth century

  Nicolson, Sir Harold: Good Behaviour

  nightclothes

  nightlife

  Nivelon, François: The Rudiments of Genteel Behaviour

  noise

  Norman Conquest

  nudity

  Obama, Barack and Michelle

  Oprah Winfrey Show, The (TV programme)

  Orwell, George; ‘England Your England’

  Osborne, Francis: Advice to a Son

  Oxford, Edward de Vere, 17th Earl of

  Oxford English Dictionary (OED)

  Oxford University: student behaviour

  Packington, William

  Palmer, John

  Parry, Hubert

  parting: language of

  Peacham, Henry: The Art of Living in London; The Compleat Gentleman

  peers: in Tudor England

  Penguin books

  Pepys, Elizabeth

  Pepys, Samuel

  Petrow, Steven

  Phillips, Timothy

  physiognomy

  Piñera, Sebastián

  Pinker, Steven

  Piozzi, Hester: British Synonymy

  Pitt, William, the Younger

  Pizarro, David

  place see location

  Place, Francis

  Plato

  Playford, John: The English Dancing Master

  please and thank you (words)

  Plutarch

  polite, politeness

  politesse

  population: changes in

  pornography: on internet

  Post, Emily: The Blue Book of Social Usage; Etiquette

  postal service

  Pratt, Samuel: The Pupil of Pleasure

  Present for an Apprentice, A (1838)

  privacy: and behaviour; and desire for space; in home; and marriage

  prostitutes: directories of

  Protestantism

  protocol

  Prynne, William

  Ptahhotep (Egyptian vizier)

  public houses (pubs)

  public schools

  Puritans: object to good manners; sexual repression

  Putnam, Robert

  Quakers: handshakes

  Quickborner (German company)

  Raban, Jonathan: Soft City

  Ransone, L. J.: ‘Good Form’ in England, by an American Resident in the United Kingdom

  Reagan, Ronald

  reasonableness

  Reformation

  religion: and behaviour; and civility; see also Christianity

  Renier, G. J.: The English: Are They Human?

  respect

  Respect Action Plan (2006)

  restaurants

  Richard II, King

  Richardson, Samuel; Clarissa; Letters Written to and for Particular Friends, on the Most Important Occasions

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  Robinson, J.: A Manual of Manners; or, Hints for the Proper Deportment of School Boys

  Rochester, John Wilmot, 2nd Earl of

  Roland le Pettour

  Ross, Alan

  Rousseau, Jean-Jacques

  Royal Society

  rudeness (word)

  Ruskin, John: Modern Painters

  Russell, Bertrand; ‘Good Manners and Hypocrisy’

  Russell, John: Boke of Nurture

  St George, Andrew

  Salgado, James

  sanitation

  Savile, Lady Elizabeth (later Countess of Chesterfield)

  Savile, George see Halifax, 1st Marquess of

  Savile, Sir William

  savoir vivre

  Scott, Sir Walter; Tales of a Grandfather

  Scruton, Roger

  Scudéry, Madeleine de

  Seinfeld (TV programme)

  Select Society (Edinburgh)

  self-consciousness

  Sellar, W. C. and R. J. Yeatman: 1066 and All That

  Seneca; De beneficiis

  Sennett, Richard

  servants: decline; earlier prevalence; influence on children; Swift on; tipping

  Sévigné, Marie de Rabutin-Chantal, marquise de

  sex: and deviant practices; and dress; English attitudes to; and euphemisms; and manners; manuals; misconduct

  sexism

  Shadwell, Thomas: The Humorists

  Shaftesbury, Anthony Ashley Cooper, 3rd Earl of; Characteristics of Men, Manners, Opinions, Times

  Shakespeare, William: foreign view of; As You Like It; Hamlet; Henry V; Much Ado About Nothing; Othello

  Shaw, George Bernard

  Shils, Edward

  Shipton, Eric

  shoes and footwear

  Sidney, Sir Philip

  silence

  Silex, Karl

  Simmel, Georg

  Sir Gawain and the Green Knight

  Smith, Helen Huntington

  Smith, Philip

  smoking

  sneezing

  snobbery

  Society for the Reformation of Manners

  sorry (word)

  Souderne, Thomas

  speaking; see also conversation

  Spectator (magazine)

  spitting

  sportsmanship

  sprezzatura

  Stanhope, Philip

  ‘Stans puer ad mensam’ (poem; attrib. Robert Grosseteste)

  Steele, Sir Richard

  Stendhal (Marie-Henri Beyle)

  Sterne, Laurence

  stereotypes (national)

  stiff upper lip

  Stohr, Karen

  Stone, Lawrence

  Strafford, Thomas Wentworth, 1st Earl of

  Strauss, Neil: The Game

  Street, George Slythe

  street lights

  Stubbes, Philip: Anatomie of Abuses

  Sully, James

  Sunday schools

  Swift, Jonathan; A Proposal for Correcting, Improving and Ascertaining the English Tongue; Directions to Servants; Polite Conversation

  table manners

  table placings

  taciturnity

  tact

  Tatler (magazine)

  tea and tea-drinking

  technology: effect on conduct

  teeth: condition

  Tegg, Thomas

  telephones

  television: effects

  tennis

  Terry, Ellen

  Thatcher, Margaret, Baroness

  theatre: Puritan view of

  Thesiger, Wilfred

  Thomas, Edward: The Heart of England

  Thomas, Keith

  Thomasin of Zerklaere

  Thoreau, Henry David

  Thoroughly Mannerly Millicent (romance novel)

  Tilman, Bill

  timekeeping

  tips and tipping (gratuities)

  Tocqueville, Alexis de; Democracy in America

  Toleration, Act of (1689)

  touch

  tourism (abroad)

  tournaments

  towns see city life

  Trollope, Anthony

  Trollope, Frances; The Domestic Manners of the Americans

  Troubridge, Laura, Lady

  Trusler, John (ed.): Principles of Politeness

  Truss, Lynne: Talk to the Hand

  tuberculosis

  Tuke, Thomas

  Tunbridge Wells

  Tupper, Martin

  Turkle, Sherry

  Twain, Mark; Notebooks

  ‘U’ and ‘non-U’ speech

  understatement

  United States of America: belief in decline of manners and civility; children’s upbringing; Fanny Trollope on manners in; literature of manners; see also America

  unmannerly (word)

  Upton, Nicholas

  Urban II, Pope

  urbane (word)

  urbanism see city life

  van Dyck, Sir Anthony

  Vanderbilt, Amy

  Vauxhall Gardens, London

  Veblen, Thorstein; The Theory of the Leisure Class

  Vecellio, Cesare

  Versailles

  Victoria, Queen

  Victorian period: children; dining arrangements; values

  violence: diminishing acts of; English; medieval

  Vipont, Elfrida: The Elephant and the Bad Baby (children’s book)

  virtues

  Voltaire, François-Marie Arouet: Essai sur l’histoire générale, et sur les moeurs et l’esprit des nations

  Walker, John: A Critical Pronouncing Dictionary

  Wallace, Marcellus (character in Pulp Fiction)

  Wallace, Robert

  ‘Walter’ (Victorian diarist)

  Ward, Ned

  Washington, George

  Waugh, Evelyn

  weddings

  Wesley, John

  Westin, Alan F.

  Westwood, Dame Vivienne

  Whitehouse, Mary

  Whyman, Susan

  Wilkes, John

  Willet, Deborah

  William III (of Orange), King

  Wilson, Edmund

  Wilson, Edward O.

  Wilson, James Q.

  Wilson, Thomas

  Wilton Diptych (painting)

  Winchester, Simon

  Winthrop, John

  Wodehouse, P. G.

  Wollstonecraft, Mary

  Wolsey, Cardinal Thomas

  women: in Castiglione’s Book of the Courtier; Chesterfield on; and chivalry; and contraceptive pill; deference to; domestic management and duties; dress; equality and liberation; fashionable; freedom in sixteenth century; guides to behaviour; middle-class; recreation and leisure; role in society; sexual vulnerability; working; as writers of US literature of manners

  Wordsworth, William

  work: changing nature and conditions

  World (journal)

  Wright, Frances

  Wright, Lawrence

  Wykeham, William of

  Yoffe, Emily

  Young, Arthur: Travels

  Young Foundation

  Young Lady’s Book, The (1829)

  Young Lady’s Companion, The (1740)

  youth: behaviour

  Zeldin, Theodore

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