Food. Your Russian bride might have never seen an artichoke or a sweet potato. She probably (most likely) will not like peanut butter. She will be stunned seeing the amount of food in the grocery stores, but she will not be able to find things she “needs”: tvorog – Russian variety of cottage cheese, seledka – marinated herring, etc. This means that she will start looking for Russian stores or restaurants. Be prepared to become somewhat of a guinea pig who will be required to taste everything she cooks (see the paragraph above on how to handle this). She will not like store-bought bread, unless she can find a small private bakery that does it “the right way” – by the way, having a bread maker can be a very pleasant surprise for your wife.
Many Russians also think that all American food items are genetically modified, full of hormones and harmful additives. If you are not shopping in stores that offer organic foods, you probably will begin to do so after your wife arrives – she will argue with you until she is blue in the face that it is good for you and that she wants you to be healthy and live a long life, which means that you probably will have to buy organic food every now and then.
Miscellaneous. She will take a long time to get ready trying to keep her makeup and hair flawless. She will wear a fancy dress and high heels just to go to a grocery store. She will get excited when she meets other Russians in the area and will chatter away to them in Russian as if they’ve known each other for years. She will carry a camera with her and take photos of the most unexpected things to send to her friends and relatives (I know a girl who photographed a toilet with an automatic flushing system).
Naturally, there will be many other instances of cultural differences which you and your wife will have to overcome. They can be fun, they can be frustrating, they can be shocking, but so long as you discuss everything and remember how much you love each other, you will get through all challenges.
As I’ve already mentioned, my mother and brother adapted to the new country quite differently – the older the person, the harder it is for them to adjust. My brother, for example, accepted the new lifestyle very quickly. My mother, on the other hand, criticized many things (still does) because they were not done “the right way”. It is taking her years to understand this country better and get used to the way things are done here. If your bride is over 40, be prepared that it will take her quite some time to adjust, you will need to be extra patient, and it will take her a long time to learn the language.
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When your Russian bride is homesick
You need to be ready to deal with her homesickness. The best way to handle this is to come up with a way for your Russian wife to communicate with her family frequently. Have this worked out before she comes so that she could contact them right after her arrival – it will help her make the transition easier. Make sure that you explain to her the best options for keeping in touch (i.e. email is ok anytime, but phone calls are expensive and are ok only twice a month).
You can distract her from feeling homesick by doing something fun and pleasant:
- Take her somewhere that will make her feel like she is back home (a Russian restaurant, a Russian shop).
- Organize a romantic picnic or prepare a home-cooked dinner for her as opposed to eating out. It will show your Russian bride or wife that you are prepared to go an extra mile for her – any woman will appreciate such gesture.
- Many Russian women enjoy art. Take your woman to a theatre, an exhibit or another cultural event where you can spend a day together. Don’t forget about lunch in a quiet café to complete your date.
- Arrange a romantic evening for her with many candles (not too scented though), flower petals (on the floor, on the bed, in a bath), and a relaxing massage. Don’t forget to switch off the phones so your conversation and time together is not interrupted.
Five years from now…
A few years down the road things will be quite different:
- She will go wherever and whenever she wants to paying little attention to police vehicles and feeling at home on any freeway.
- She will spend hours on the phone talking to her new friends and get annoyed with telemarketers just like everyone else.
- She will know how to cook sweet potatoes, make stuffing, and other traditional dishes. She will visit Russian food stores on a rare occasion… but she still will not like peanut butter or bread sold in stores.
- She will get dressed up only if the occasion demands it, and will certainly wear jeans and t-shirts when going to the store.
- She will not be able to imagine her life without a dishwasher and a dryer.
- She will feel quite at home and will forget to take pictures to send home even when she should.
- She will be paying taxes and reproach people who try to take advantage of the system.
- She will speak perfect English… so much you might start missing the days when she only knew a few words.
Now you are ready to deal with anything that might come your way while you are looking for a wonderful, beautiful, smart, loving, unique Russian woman – and you know that it is not that complicated. You know that Russian women are delicate, tender, sexy, caring, yet very strong in spirit and able to overcome any difficulties. They know how to love, how to make their men feel like kings, how to stay devoted and loyal no matter how hard the times are. Such women are worth pursuing – they are worth fighting for. These women are more addictive than drugs – once you spend time with them, you will never want anyone else. Russian women know how to inspire, how to help their men do amazing things and achieve any of their dreams. A Russian bride is everything you ever dreamed of, she is everything you need and more – and she is waiting for you.
Let’s go find her!
Bonus: Scam me NOT
Let me tell you how I became unintentionally “introduced” to dating scams (some of this information has been published on my website and has helped thousands of men to save money and to avoid becoming a scam victim).
Ten years ago I landed in a small airport of a cozy and sunny Lugansk, a Ukrainian suburban city. A beautiful, slim flight attendant with a glowing smile wished all the passengers a wonderful time in this amazing Ukrainian city with rich history and original culture.
I arrived to open a new office of “Oksanalove” in the city. I was not sure why I was attracted to this small Ukrainian city – after all, there were so many big cities in other countries where Russian girls were searching for their prince. It must have been the rumor that the city is full of hot and sensual Ukrainian girls, every one of whom can be a supermodel, but it turned out true. Later I found out why it was so: many years ago, the Russian Empress Ekaterina II exiled all beautiful women from her surroundings to a remote area so that their beauty would not overshadow her own. It so happened that all these unbelievable beauties were sent to the unknown city of Lugansk, where they passed their genes to many future generations. It sounds like a beautiful legend, but one starts believing it when walking down the streets of Lugansk and seeing the dazzling smiles of its beauties.
On one of the hot days, while I was taking a break from all my dealings with notaries and administrative officials of the city, I ended up on a bench in the shadow of a pretty cozy park and was lazily observing the people close to
me. A group of four – two men and two women – attracted my attention. One of the women was tremendously beautiful! An athletic guy was by her side, and he was looking in a very unfriendly way at the other gentleman in the group who kept looking at the beautiful girl with unconcealed admiration and spoke English. The other woman in the group was a translator, as I understood later, and seemed nervous and diffident. The beauty was only answering “yes” or ”no”, the conversation she was having with the foreigner seemed more like a monolog. After 15-20 minutes, the foreigner got a few notes from his wallet and handed them to the translator, while the two women and the athletic chap got in a car and left.
I decided to approach the dishevelled foreigner to see if he needed any help. I learned that he was an American and was very confused – from that moment I learned about a different side of Lugansk, I learned the shocking truth about the city.
The American gentleman’s name was Steve. He traveled from the USA to meet his virtual dream woman and to start a family with her. His family was expecting him home with his beautiful, loving, and caring Ukrainian bride. However, Steve’s fiancé disappeared from his life unexpectedly, just as she entered it. The same fate befell his friend who came to Lugansk with him. So, what was so horrible and what happened to both of them?
I won’t go into personal details, but will share with you just the basics that were confirmed, to my horror, by the manager of my newly registered Lugansk branch of “Oksanalove” after I related Steve’s story to her.
There is a number of fake introduction agencies in Lugansk. They do not release their contact details, they do not provide clients with trustworthy information, they do not advertise. They place photos of beautiful women (their “clients”) on free dating websites. Many of these women are married and remain faithful to their husbands. How, you might ask? They don’t come to the agency to find a partner or to cheat on their spouses; they come to the agency to… make money!
No, they are not prostitutes. All they do is bring their photos to the agency and let them do the rest. The agency employees then decide on which website to place the photos, they write letters from a woman’s name, making foreign men believe that the woman is in love with them and wants a relationship. Foreign men fly to Lugansk on the wings of love to see their beloved fiancé, they meet her and… get brushed off instead of receiving a warm welcome. At the same time, they pay all expenses for a translator, a driver, an apartment selected for them, and whatever else they might be told to pay for by the agency. Their brides, of course, share profits with the agency, usually getting a percentage of the entire sum spent by their foreign “fiancés”, and, therefore, are interested in stimulating them to be as generous as possible.
Unfortunately, this is not a myth – I personally investigated and checked this information while in the city. I attended two agencies pretending to be an interested client and received detailed explanation about how things work and what would be expected of me as a potential “bride”, despite the fact that I was married, as I told the employees of these agencies not to arouse any suspicions. Learning these frightening details only fueled my desire to create a real, legal, professional agency to help truly interested women meet truly interested men. I opened my office in Lugansk shortly thereafter.
Based on my research and statistics of my agency, scammers often operate in small cities, those with population under 500 000 inhabitants (yes, in Russia it is considered a small city). So, Lugansk is considered a scam capital of Ukraine and Yoshkar Ola is considered a scam capital of Russia. You also will find many scammers operating in Zaporozhye, Ukraine.
Over the years, I’ve met so many men who became scam victims. Sometimes these men would just walk into my agency off the street and share their stories, other times I learned from my current clients about scams they’d faced prior to coming to my agency.
Often, men would travel overseas to meet the lady they’ve been writing to for weeks to find out that she doesn’t want to meet him in person or that she doesn’t even exist – these men would then be stuck for two weeks in a foreign country without anyone to accompany them. Other men share horror stories of being tricked into paying hundreds or thousands dollars, many times for women’s passports, visas that were never processed, and tickets that were never bought. I’ve heard of men who had sent 40-50K to their “sweethearts” to help them pay for a “surgery” of a family member who, of course, was not sick at all. And, of course, there have been numerous cases of men being greeted upon their arrival by women claiming to be the ones they’ve been corresponding with, but looking nothing like their sweetheart.
So, what causes women of Russia and Ukraine to become scam artists? The truth is rather sad: their willingness to deceive is often dictated by desperation – some young women have no other way to earn extra income as salaries and scholarships do not provide adequate means of living. And, of course, they choose this option because it guarantees a fairly reasonable income with least effort.
You might find some statistics interesting. Just about 10 years ago most scammers were in their 20’s. Often 18 year old girls would pursue men in their 60’s and 70’s, convincing them that such young women could fall in love with them. Now, I don’t have a problem with a big age difference in relationships – love truly conquers all, but when a 20-year-old woman tells a 60-year-old man in her third letter that she is in love… Seriously, would common sense not tell you that something is wrong with this picture? Yet, men, reasonable and sensible men, fall for this without a second thought. Of course, it is possible for a 20-year-old girl to fall in love with 60-year-old man, but it would certainly take more than three letters – it takes time to get to know each other, to build a relationship through correspondence and personal meetings and to build trust.
Now the situation has slightly changed: most scammers are between ages of 30 and 50, the majority of them being around 35. While most men have learned to stay away from very young women and decided to be smart by paying more attention to women in their 30’s and 40’s, scammers have followed the trend, and now it is middle-aged women that deceive foreign men.
Honestly, I can talk for hours about scams, how they work, and who becomes involved in them. The entire scam phenomena has interested me so much that I not only monitor women at my agency very closely and eliminate any scammers at the first signs of suspicious activity, but I also continue to gather information about various scams and individuals or agencies involved. Over the years, I’ve collected a lot of material which, I am sure, you will find interesting and beneficial.
Just recently, purely by accident, I met a woman who used to work at an agency that operated by scamming foreigners. As she is no longer associated with that agency, she has agreed to share exclusive information about her experience as a scam artist which I offer you in a special webinar. In fact, meeting Kate and seeing the overwhelming response from my clients and men who participated in the webinar prompted me to take my interest in busting scams a step further – I have decided to publish a book which will contain everything I know about scams, including effective strategies on how to avoid them. To find out more about the book “Scam me NOT”, visit www.oksanalove.com/rbscam and enter your email to download a free chapter of the book and for a chance to win a free copy of it.
Afterword
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share with you my viewpoint on finding and marrying your perfect lady – YOUR Russian Allure.
What do you want the most? Having a harmonious relationship? To find an ideal match for you, a woman who is traditional, loving, passionate, beautiful inside and out? To find a woman who would really love you for who you are? In truth, we all long for the same overwhelming human reward: understanding, appreciation, and respect. I understand you, I appreciate you, and I respect you. And I know that I can help you find true love you been looking for. I hope you’ve seen this on the pages of the book and will want to move ahead from simply reading my book to having a solid, happy relationship.
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I want to thank you and your agency, for your exception help on meeting and arranging our meeting for me and Oksana. I want to notify you that Oksana and me are now happily married and please see our photos. Your matchmaking and organization of our dates was a wonderful experience that I would advise all men to rely on your services and your expertise. You truly a professional at what you are doing and every man should trust your judgment like I did. Lex and Oksana
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I will admit that at first I was a bit skeptical regarding the possibility that I could meet my “dream girl” from Russia. Although, this was my thinking at the time I went ahead and flew to Punta Cana. On my first trip I did not meet anyone that I really clicked with. I returned to Punta Cana two more times and each time it gave Oksana time to get to know me and the type of woman I was looking for, and the type of guy I am, so that she was able to match me up with someone that I would be compatible with. On my third trip Oksana Introduced me to the most wonderful, amazing, sweet, beautiful, perfect match for me….she introduced me to my “Dream Girl”!!!! I am engaged now to the woman I have waited a lifetime to meet. I could not be happier!! Thank you Oksana, Jeff
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