My mother.
She picked me up the next day, and I checked out of the hospital—as before, “against medical advice.”* When I got home there was a message from Doug Thaler on my answering machine. No surprise, really. I knew there would be a price to pay for abandoning the program. I knew Doug would be angry. I did not know that he would lose his mind.
“You are fucking blackballed in this industry!” he said. “And you know whose fault it is? That drunken cunt mother of yours.”
Whoaaaa.
That was my first reaction.
My second reaction was, I’m going to kill this motherfucker.
Here’s the thing about my mom. She had a hard and lonely life. She loved her kids and she would have done anything for us, and often we did not make things any easier for her. I sure didn’t. But my mother was just a normal person who worked hard (cleaning other people’s toilets and floors) and liked to have a beer when she got home. That’s about it. She was neither a drug addict nor an alcoholic. I understand Doug’s anger; I played a part in this mess. He wanted to manage me, and I was unmanageable. I was unpredictable and unreliable, and as a result I jeopardized his security and reputation. Fine. Get pissed at me. Throw a punch. But to hurl those kinds of slurs at my mother? Absolutely unconscionable.
Not surprisingly, that was the last day of Doug’s tenure as the manager of Megadeth. While he said he would start a smear campaign, I grew some balls and made amends with him for having jeopardized his security and for not being a good client before it ever got that way. The music business is generally pretty forgiving of bad behavior—and indeed often seems to reward it—especially in those who actually have some talent and a track record of success.
OUR NEXT MANAGER was Ron Laffitte, whom I’d known, and liked, since the Metallica days. Ron was personable and smart, and we seemed to have a lot in common: his mother was German, my mother was German; his last name was French, my last name was French; he was a Virgo, I was a Virgo. Given that we both also had long, reddish-brown hair and similarly outgoing personalities, we could have passed for brothers. Indeed, Ron was more than just a manager to me at that time. He was my friend. We hung together away from the studio, training in martial arts at a dojo owned and operated by the great martial arts champion Benny “the Jet” Urquidez. We went skydiving together. In bits and pieces, I began to get healthy. It didn’t happen overnight, obviously, but certainly I was in better shape, physically and emotionally, than I’d been in quite some time. It’s hard to explain the trajectory of my addiction and sobriety—it was not parabolic but rather long and undulating.
As I continued to write songs for the next record, Rust in Peace, I tried to live like a relatively “normal” guy in his late twenties. I worked out, maintained a healthy diet, focused on my work, and tossed back the occasional adult beverage. Or two or three. I was not yet convinced that it was inadvisable for me to party like other folks. There were a lot of people in “the program,” and by this I am referring primarily to AA, who were not particularly tolerant of those who weren’t in the program. If you didn’t have your little medallion, and you weren’t going to the musicians’ meetings, and you didn’t walk around saying, “There but for the grace of God, dude,” you weren’t in the club.
I was not in the club.
At the same time, I found myself going out to bars and looking over my shoulder a bit, wondering who was watching and keeping tabs on me. Why? Because I had fear. Even though I acted like it didn’t bother me, I was actually shaken by Doug Thaler’s threat. It made me angry, and it motivated me to seek revenge. But I also knew that the only way I’d be able to have any credibility was to get my shit together.
To that end, I continued to search for a great guitarist, someone who would make everyone forget Jeff Young, and maybe even make them stop pining for Chris Poland. The process was maddeningly slow, with audition after audition after audition. One guy showed up, and he’s since gone around telling anyone who will listen that he wrote the beginning of “Wake Up Dead.” Now, his audition occurred at roughly the time of Megadeth’s fourth record. “Wake Up Dead” was on Peace Sells, recorded some three years earlier. Go figure.
Then there was the guy who strolled in one morning looking like a session player for the Allman Brothers: long blond hair pulled back into a ponytail, square-toed boots, denim jacket, southern boogie twang to his voice.
“Awright,” he drawled while plugging in. “I’m ready for y’all to show me your songs.”
I was like, Are you fucking kidding me? This is an audition! This isn’t a guitar lesson.
Junior and I had developed a system for dealing with such inanity. We’d reach behind our backs and switch the transmitter off on the cordless packs on our guitar straps, effectively ending the audition. In this case, we just glanced at each other and performed the move simultaneously.
We’re done here.
I don’t even remember how many of these we endured; after a while I began to lose hope of ever finding the right player. Finally, one day in February of 1990, I walked into Ron Laffitte’s office and saw an album cover on his desk. Dragon’s Kiss was the title of the record. It was a solo effort by a guitar player named Marty Friedman, whom I vaguely knew through his work with a band called Cacophony. I picked up the record, tried not to laugh. On the cover Marty wore some sort of shimmering leather jacket (or jumpsuit; it was hard to tell) open to the waist. His hair had been styled into long, flowing two-tone curls.
“You’re shittin’ me, right?”
“Just listen to it, okay?” Ron said.
Less than two minutes into the first track I was sold. More than that, actually. I was shocked.
“This guy wants to join us?”
Ron smiled, nodded.
Marty cut an unimpressive figure on the day of his audition: holes in his jeans, five-dollar shoes, same color-challenged hair he had sported on the album cover. His equipment consisted of a budget-brand guitar, a Carvin, and a tiny piece of rack-mount gear. To haul and install this feeble setup he had enlisted the services of an incongruously large guitar tech name Tony DeLeonardo. As I watched Tony go to work, I became concerned that the equipment couldn’t possibly do justice to the playing I’d heard on Marty’s solo record. So I made a suggestion.
“Hey, Tony,” I whispered. “When it’s time for the solo, you step on this button right here, okay?”
Since I had a veritable wall of Marshalls, I had assigned one of my amps to Marty so that he could play rhythm through it. Then we set up another amp to kick in when he did the solo. The extra stack would make it abundantly clear whether Marty was up to the job or not. There would be no hiding.
Not that hiding was necessary. Marty flew through the audition flawlessly. As we had with all the other auditions, we videotaped his performance, but Marty had played so perfectly that we didn’t even bother to review it. I called Ron Laffitte’s office almost immediately and said, “We’ve got our guitar player.”
Marty had the chops, and to such an extent that almost nothing else mattered. Not the bad hair or the lack of style, or the fact that his name couldn’t have sounded less “metal.” I figured we’d send him to Rock School, just as we had with some other members of the band, maybe get him to change his name. Marty’s middle name was Adam, so I thought, Hmmmm . . . Adam Martin. That’s pretty cool. (Marty later took my idea and named his publishing company Adam Martin.) As with David Ellefson, he didn’t go for it, but I couldn’t call him Junior, too. Somehow, it would all work out.
And it did. The lineup was set—Megadeth was back to being a powerhouse four-piece band, one that had the potential to surpass even the lineup that had produced our first two records. We went into the studio armed with a bunch of great songs and a commitment to playing fierce and sober like the greatest thrash metal band on the planet. Within a few weeks, though, everything began to splinter, and this time I had no one to blame but myself. I kept watching Marty play, listening to what was coming out of his guita
r, and . . . well . . . I crumbled. I don’t know how else to say it. He was better than me—more talented, more committed, more . . . everything. Watching Marty made me realize that I’d been slacking. I had not progressed as an artist. I had stagnated. That realization was more than I could bear, and to handle it I turned once again to the warm embrace of heroin and cocaine.
This soon-to-be famous or rather infamous Rust in Peace lineup. Left to right: David Ellefson, Marty Friedman, me and Nick Menza
I don’t mean to imply that Marty was in any way responsible for my relapse. It wasn’t his fault, obviously. His talent was merely a catalyst. I wanted Marty in the band, knew he was the right man to fill the void we’d had for two years. I just had to get over my own insecurity and neuroses.
Central to accomplishing that goal was a man named John Bocanegra, who was the program director at the treatment center in Beverly Hills where I spent my third stint in rehab.* On this
particular trip, for whatever reason, I was ready to make a change. I wanted to get better. I wanted to feel better.
John was unlike any drug counselor I’d met in the past. Oh, he had some of the same swagger, the same irreverent, take-no-bullshit demeanor, but there was more beneath the surface, and I could sense it right away. I liked him and trusted him—in fact, we became so close that he ended up serving as best man at my wedding. John was a slab of a man, stood about five feet, three inches tall and weighed close to 250 pounds, with a huge, drooping mustache and dark hair parted lazily down the middle. If not for the huge gang tattoo on his neck, he could have passed for one of those fun-loving guys you see playing in mariachi bands on Saturday nights in bad Mexican restaurants.
Once you got to know John, though, you understood that there was no artifice to his toughness. This was not a man who got through prison by being a bitch. The first time he told me he’d been a gangster prior to getting sober, I kind of laughed at the term.
“Gangster? What makes you a gangster?”
John proceeded to tell me, without a trace of comic relief, about his career as a crminal. One day, he said, he had walked into a bank and shot a security guard during the commission of a burglary.
“What the fuck, man?” I said incredulously. “Why did you shoot him? What did he do?”
“First thing I said when I walked into the bank was, ‘Nobody move,’ ” John explained. Then he paused, shrugged. “The guy moved.”
Presuming this story is true, I’m not quite sure how it is that John managed to avoid spending the rest of his life in prison. He said he went through some sort of long-term lockup diversion program, eventually got sober, and earned parole. Upon release, John became a drug counselor, and I can honestly say that he played a major role in my rehabilitation. I didn’t get sober for good during that trip, but with John’s help I was finally able to trace the roots of my addictive behavior and to face the consequences of my own decisions. He helped me see that it was indeed possible to turn things around. John meant a lot to me, and I know he meant a lot to David Ellefson as well. You can see John’s inspiration in the song “Captive Honour,” with its brutal depiction of crime and punishment, for which Junior cowrote the original lyrics.
For years I’d always heard John’s voice when I sang “Captive Honour,” but I’d never asked Junior about it. Finally, one day, he told me that he wrote his portion of the song after hearing John relate some horror stories about prison life.
There was another side of John that I really liked, because it demonstrated the degree to which he wasn’t faking his role. He once told me that he kept a syringe hidden in the dashboard of his car.
“Well, that’s pretty stupid,” I said. “What the hell for?”
“Just in case.”
If you’re not a drug addict, if you’ve never been a drug addict, that might sound ridiculous. But I got it. I understood the sentiment. On some level, I even admired it.
EVEN AS I started to see results, I struggled with some of the natural by-products of the twelve-step process. Anger and ambition had fueled my art, giving rise to Megadeth’s disturbing and frequently nihilistic point of view. Could I write while sober? Could I generate the same sort of ferocious guitar licks without benefit of chemical assistance? Absolutely. But what would happen if I became a man of peace? Of serenity? I had spent most of my adult life provoking and prodding. Could I live without confrontation, without agitation? I had no idea, and I wasn’t sure that I wanted to find out. Essentially, I had become the hole in the doughnut, trying to live my life in peace with those around me. It was a completely unnatural and foreign state of being. My popularity as a musician had sprung from my outrageousness as much as my talent. People liked Megadeth not because I sang like James Taylor—I didn’t, obviously—but because of the intensity of the music. They didn’t come to a Megadeth concert expecting to see the fucking Dalai Lama. They wanted to see a blistering guitar player singing about death and annihilation, pain and retribution. Could I give them that when I felt like I was turning into vanilla pudding?
I wore white to try something totally different. Marty and I on tour.
Photograph by Ross Halfin.
You know who helped me find the answer? Alice Cooper. We hadn’t talked since our last tour, when Alice had expressed concern over my drinking and drug use. I called ostensibly to discuss an idea I had for a tattoo. It would combine the images of Megadeth’s logo and Alice’s logo: Vic and the Billion Dollar Baby. Alice thought it sounded cool, said I didn’t need his permission or anything, and then quickly steered the conversation in another direction.
“How are you doing?” he asked.
“Okay,” I said. “We’re going in the studio for this new record, and I’m trying to do things differently. It’s hard.”
“I know what you mean. If you ever need my help or anything, I want you to know that I’m here for you.”
I laughed, more out of nervousness than anything else. “Really, Alice? What are you, gonna be like my godfather or something?”
He didn’t hesitate. “Sure, if that’s what you want.”
And that’s how Alice Cooper became my godfather. We don’t talk a lot anymore, and I suppose our relationship has evolved to the point where it’s more on paper now than anywhere else. But that’s all right. He was there for me at the time, and he’s been there for me since. I have a ton of respect for Alice, both as a person and as a musician, and I’ll always consider him a friend. Without really even trying, he got me to say something that, frankly, I never thought I’d be able to say:
“I need help.”
Chapter 12
The Living Years
David Scott Mustaine and Pamela Anne Casselberry, March 3, 1991, in Honolulu, Oahu, Hawaii. I had never seen such beauty, and I look like a stick of Doublemint gum.
“You know what? It’s about time. This is the best woman on earth for you.”
The first time I saw my wife, she was hanging out with a friend at a club in North Hollywood called FM Station, one of the earlier venues in the burgeoning Filthy McNasty’s empire. I was there with a handful of people, including Nick Menza and his buddy Juan. This was maybe late 1989, early 1990, when I was drifting in and out of sobriety, revamping the Megadeth lineup, writing songs for Rust in Peace.
As usual, my personal life was in a state of upheaval. For more than six years I’d been seeing Diana; though our relationship was hardly monogamous—at least on my part—I honestly thought for the longest time that she was going to
be the woman I would marry. We were engaged for six years, just one year shy of becoming common-law husband and wife. Diana was beautiful and sexy, but we fought constantly, to the point where it was almost so routine you could set your watch by it. She’d come over, we’d party a bit, something would be said, we’d fight, she’d leave, I’d call her, she’d come back, we’d make up, have sex . . . and then do it all over again. Eventually I came to the conclusion that it just wasn’t going to work between me and Diana. I called her duri
ng one of my stints in rehab, during one of those moments of clarity so often described luminously by addicts and alcoholics.
“I can’t see you anymore,” I told her. “We are simply too toxic for each other.”
Predictably, she freaked out—who wants to get dumped by a guy in rehab? Talk about depressing. But I think she knew it was coming. I also think she knew that she was better off without me. As for me, well, I was making changes in my life, and withdrawing from a dysfunctional relationship was one step in the process of self-improvement. “Tornado of Souls” became my way of dealing with the end of that relationship. Really, that’s all it was, an explanation of how I was feeling at the time; lyrical references aside, it was not a song about murder or death. It was about the decay that comes with being stuck in a bad relationship.
This morning I made the call
The one that ends it all
Hanging up, I wanted to cry
But damn it, this well’s gone dry
In all candor, though, it wasn’t like I was looking for a soul mate. After breaking things off with Diana and cleaning up my act a bit, I was pretty psyched about enjoying some of the other fringe benefits associated with being a rock star. I was the lead singer, songwriter, and guitar player for Megadeth. If I wasn’t exactly Brad Pitt, well, I wasn’t the worst-looking guy in the world, either. Let’s be honest: if you have money and can play guitar, you can get laid. God knows there have been enough ugly fuckers in heavy metal who never seem to have a shortage of ass at their disposal. I was now in a better position to partake of the buffet table.
And then Pamela Anne Casselberry came along and put a crimp in my plans.
“See that girl over there?” I said to my friend Juan.
“Which one?”
“The tall blonde.”
Juan nodded approvingly. “Uh-huh. Very nice.”
“Yeah. I want you to go over there and tell her I’d like to meet her.”
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