“Here’s to all my friends!”
Except there weren’t any. Not really. It was just me and the bottle. Later in the tour I came down with a sore throat, probably should have taken some time off, but instead, at the urging of management and record company execs, I kept plugging away, aided by cough syrup laced with codeine. Codeine is an opiate, and pretty soon I was bracing for concert appearances with shots of cough syrup. When that ran out, I switched to vodka and 7 Up, with a cognac chaser. Pam and Justis joined the tour in early 1993, and Pam immediately became concerned. For one thing, she was worried about my health. For another, she found me physically repulsive.
“You stink,” she said. “You smell like a drunk.”
Using my astute alcoholic mind, I switched to Valium, which is really nothing more than concentrated alcohol, at least in terms of its effect on the brain. Since I was a rock star, it wasn’t enough to get ten or twenty tablets; I needed five hundred, approximately enough to keep me stoned for the next couple years. Little did I know that Valium has a long half-life: it stays in your system, working its magic, long after it’s been metabolized. You take one, and the next day you still have half of it in you. Take another one the day after the first, and you’ve got one and a half in you. And so on. It builds up to lethal levels pretty quickly. Pam became suspicious and eventually found my stash of pills, prompting a complete confession on my part.
“I’m tired of the tour, I’m tired of Megadeth, I’m not having any fun . . . and you don’t want me to drink, so I’m taking Valium instead.”
“You have to stop,” she said. “You’re going to kill yourself.”
“I know.”
I agreed to throw out the pills. Pam watched as I flushed them all down the toilet by the handful.
Well, almost all of them, anyway. I kept about three dozen, which I ate in a single sitting when I got back to California, an act of self-destruction and stupidity that resulted in hospitalization and a brush with death. I ended up at Beverly Hills Medical Center, under the care of a physician who shall remain nameless, but let’s just say he was commonly referred to as Dr. Feelgood. We had become rather friendly after my many trips to his treatment center, but there’s no question that this guy was way out there on the ethical fringe. The first time we met, the guy challenged me to an arm-wrestling match. This dude was in his seventies, but he had Jack Lalanne guns, and it took him all of about ten seconds to slap my bony junkie wrist to the table.
“Great,” I responded. “Now that you’ve dislocated my arm, can I please get some fucking drugs?”
Believe it or not, that was not an unreasonable request in rehab. First thing they would do is hook me up to a Versed drip, then pump in some nutrients and top it off with Vistrol or Klonopin. Before long you’d be as high as you were on the street. This trip, after the Valium overdose, was not much different. To get me back on my feet, Dr. Feelgood prescribed, among other things . . . Valium! And after I was fucked-up to the point of stupefaction, the guy came into my room and talked me into buying his house.
I shit you not.
No attorney, no notary public. Nothing. Just me and the doc and an offer sheet. I don’t know why I signed it. Hell—I was out of my mind at the time. A better question is, what kind of physician gets his patients loaded and then sells them real estate? Answer: a charlatan. And a drug addict. Dr. Feelgood was both. Turned out the old geezer was shooting up in his crotch at the hospital. No traffic down there anyway, so who the hell would notice? Predictably, he eventually died of an overdose himself, which in my experience is the exit chosen by a significant number of folks in the rehab business.
Anyway, while at the treatment center I began to wither away—emotionally, spiritually, physically. The last of these was the least of my concerns. Frankly, I didn’t give a shit whether I lived or not, and for a while it looked like I wouldn’t. One day I tripped and fell in the bathroom—just stumbled between the toilet and tub—and opened a nasty gash on my arm. I called Pam and told her that I thought I was being overmedicated and that I needed her help. By the end of the day she and Ron Laffitte had picked me up and put me on a plane. The destination was a place known as the Meadows, a rehabilitation facility located in Wickenburg, Arizona.
I’ll be candid: I remember almost nothing of my first week at Wickenburg, which is where I very nearly died. It took that long for my body to detox and recover. Once I was rid of the drugs, and beyond the risk of succumbing to a coronary event, which is not impossible in the early stages of rehab, the truly hard and painful work began. Seven weeks of intense inpatient counseling and therapy. Not just for me, either. Early in the process it was determined that Pam and I would benefit from couples counseling. If you’ve never visited that particular corner of psychotherapy hell, well, let me tell you—it’s a real fucking treat.
I blame none of this on Pam. She expected a storybook marriage to a rock star, and instead she got . . . me: a philandering, drug-addicted, alcoholic, suicidal madman. On the bad days, anyway. And there had been far too many of those in the first two years of our marriage. The confronting of this reality, however, was tantamount to torture. Couples counseling led to a therapeutic hall of mirrors. In addition to the usual AA-style group encounters, I was sent to a men’s therapy group, a sex workshop, an anger-management workshop . . . and on and on. It seemed, in their eyes, that the only compulsion I lacked was the need to gamble. Then again, it was pretty clear that I was gambling with my life and livelihood, so maybe I didn’t miss that one after all. Some of it was beneficial, for sure. But a lot of it was utter bullshit. I couldn’t draw a straight line between being a heroin addict (which I was) and a sex addict (which I wasn’t, the occasional drunken indiscretion notwithstanding). The counselors’ argument, though, was that all the behaviors were linked, and that simply by virtue of my line of work, I had been exposed to and adopted a broad spectrum of loathsome habits, all of which needed to be addressed. My poor wife was encouraged to attend Al-Anon meetings but lasted only a few minutes. All those miserable women openly fantasizing about castrating their spouses while they slept and then hugging each other in support afterward. It made Pam’s skin crawl.
And then there were the two separate versions of “family week” that I was compelled to endure. This was the highlight—or lowlight—of the rehabilitation process, similar in theme to “making amends” when you’re in AA. It’s a rite of passage, so to speak. A post-intervention intervention. You sit down with your loved ones, and they unburden themselves of all their pent-up anger and resentment, confronting you with every hurtful or embarrassing act you’ve ever committed, sober or straight, actually. It’s brutal, and I went through it twice. Once with Pam and my sisters (my blood family), and once with the guys in Megadeth (my professional family). Both sessions were intense, revealing, cathartic. My bandmates at first were so angry that they didn’t even want to take part in the process, but once given the green light to crap all over me, they didn’t hold back. It wasn’t just my drug use that bothered them but the fact that I had put their careers at risk. I understood that. I had fired previous members of Megadeth for precisely the same reason. But I don’t believe they understood the depth of my problem at that point or the extent of my suffering. I wasn’t even sure I wanted to continue writing songs or playing music. I sure as hell didn’t know if I wanted to continue with Megadeth. What I did know, however, was that I was incapable of going out on tour at that time, an admission that deeply disturbed the other guys in the band as well as our management.
We had canceled a heavily promoted tour in Japan after I was hospitalized. Now that I seemed to be recovering, the guys wanted to resurrect that tour. Most adamant was Marty Friedman, who by this time had basically gone off the reservation. Marty was completely enamored of Japanese culture, to the point that he eventually became like Richard Chamberlain in Shogun.* It had been a nearly lifelong goal of Marty’s to play at Budokan, and my relapse had cost him that opportunity. For that I was truly sorry. But not so sorry tha
t I was willing to go straight from Wickenburg to Japan. The guys ultimately, if begrudgingly, accepted my apology and supported my decision. This was not the case with our agent, Andy Summers, who had rebooked the tour, which also included dates in Australia, without my permission or knowledge. We canceled a second time, further angering Japanese audiences and promoters. Then we fired Andy.
IT WOULD BE June before Megadeth performed live. We had accepted an offer to appear on the same bill as Metallica and Diamond Head at the Milton Keynes Bowl in Buckinghamshire, England. From there we would embark on a European tour. In order for this to happen, though, changes were necessary. At management’s urging, an abstinence policy was put in place. I didn’t disagree with the notion of running a clean and sober tour, but I had doubts about whether such behavior could be legislated. It just seemed a bit excessive and frankly impossible to enforce. We were all adults, after all. Our management was adamant, though, and I went along. Each of us was expected to sign a contract stating our intent to abstain from all alcohol and drug use while on tour; additionally, a confidentiality clause prohibited band members and crew from discussing events that occurred while on tour or in the studio. In other words, what happens in the band stays in the band. Again, a noble sentiment . . . until you demand that people accept it. At that point it stops being noble and becomes somewhat fascist.
But such was the atmosphere in Megadeth at the time. Extreme measures to deal with an extreme problem. Although I don’t think he was the only one who disagreed with the policy, Nick Menza ultimately was the lone holdout when it came to signing the documents. And this led to an ugly encounter between the two of us. We had just arrived at our hotel after a transatlantic flight, and while checking in I approached Nick and asked why he hadn’t yet complied.
Diamond Head, Megadeth, and Metallica at Milton Keynes National Bowl, Milton Keynes, England, on June 5, 1993.
Photograph by Ross Halfin.
“Fuck that!” he screamed. “I ain’t signing a fucking thing!”
The outburst didn’t really surprise me. Nick’s approach to conflict resolution was to get progressively louder and more hostile, until his opponent either surrendered or walked away out of embarrassment. I always liked Nick; I thought he was a good kid with a bad temper and insecurity issues exacerbated by drug use. Usually I cut him slack in these matters, but not this time. If sobriety was the mandate, professionalism the goal, then we would all have to abide by the rules. Including Nick.
The argument went on for some time, until finally I backed him into a corner. “Nick, if you’re going to drink and be in this band, you and I are going to have problems.”
Flannel was the new black T-shirt. I hated it because the metal scene was quickly starting to look like a Pearl Jam show.
Photograph by Ross Halfin.
“Fuck you. I quit!”
This was less than twenty-four hours before we were scheduled to go onstage, and while I doubted Nick was crazy enough to walk away from Megadeth, I considered it a personal affront that he would even threaten to quit. He was being petulant, childish, selfish.
“Dude, if you quit tonight, you are fucking with my bread and butter,” I said. “And if you do that, you are going to have to pay.”
And then he told me to fuck off, which basically sent me into blackout mode. Using a martial arts move known as an Eagle Claw, I grabbed him by the throat, locking my left thumb against his windpipe and cocking my right arm at the elbow. By this time I had completely lost it; I was about two seconds away from crushing Nick’s larynx and pummeling the shit out of his face, all at the same time. Fortunately, we had in our employ at the time a bodyguard named George who was a rather formidable man. A former Green Beret, George sprang into action, grabbing me from behind and immobilizing me until the rage subsided. We spent the rest of the night trying to heal damaged egos and come to some sort of reconciliation. Eventually the issue was resolved and we played the next night with Metallica and Diamond Head. But it wasn’t what it might have been.
Obviously this was a big deal—to be appearing on the same bill as my former bandmates. But I was determined to play it cool; I wouldn’t let anyone see me flinch, wouldn’t appear too eager or—God forbid—starstruck. As soon as I saw James I wanted to talk to him really badly, the way you would with an old friend. Unfortunately, the nice guys in Metallica had a twisted sense of humor. They invited me into their dressing room, where a big plate of what appeared to be cocaine sat beckoning and unattended. I was really disappointed in them for that. Everyone knew I was trying to stay sober, and it was like they had reached a new low by trying to leave a plate of white stuff out in their dressing room to tempt me—or to make fun of me. It just reinforced what I already knew: that Metallica could do no wrong, while Megadeth was perceived as a band that lived for the party.
We were, in fact, a broken band. Everything now was about money and drugs and power and ego. It wasn’t about music and it sure as hell wasn’t about camaraderie. We were having enough trouble in our band, but this should have been one of those times when everyone was willing to say, “Shit, yeah! We’re playing with Diamond Head and Metallica!” Instead, we were saying, “If I want to drink a fucking beer, I’m going to drink a fucking beer!” As if that mattered. I looked at Nick and saw a man who was willing to throw everything away for a bottle of Heineken.
In reality, I was exactly the same way. Only now I was one of those insufferable, newly sober drunks whom most people despise. Shit, a few months earlier, I would have despised me.
WE GOT THROUGH the European leg of the tour, came back to the States, and then went out again, this time as the opening act for Aerosmith, in what should have been billed as the Great Sobriety Tour of 1993. Aerosmith had famously cleaned up their act after many years of leading depraved lives of rock ’n’ roll excess. Bob Timmons was out on the road with them for this tour, presumably helping the band remain on the straight and narrow.
I can’t say that I came away from that tour with any great admiration or respect for Aerosmith. Sure, they were pros, and I had always liked some of their music, but I was kind of surprised at the way we were treated. There were, for example, things we expected, like a chance to perform a decent sound check on the afternoon of a show; a reasonable amount of time (one hour, minimum) for our set; a place to hang our backdrop onstage. Well, after several days of not getting the things we expected—things that were supposedly stipulated in our contract—I got angry. And I started to act out. One night in Dallas, when a fan threw an Aerosmith T-shirt onstage during our set, I blew my nose into it and threw it back into the crowd. After the show, I did a radio interview.
“Dave, we love Megadeth here in Texas,” the DJ said. “Why don’t you guys play a little longer?”
I laughed. “We don’t have a long time to play because Aerosmith don’t have a long time to live.”
I thought that was kind of funny. Apparently Joe Perry and Steven Tyler did not. They heard the interview while cruising in their limo to the show. The next day I was having lunch at a Taco Bell when our tour manager came up to me and said, “Hey, Dave, just want to let you know we’re going home today. We got kicked off the tour.”
I nearly choked on my chalupa. “What? You’re kidding.”
“Nope. Sorry.”
I didn’t ask for an explanation. Instead, for some reason, I wanted to know who would be replacing us.
“Jackyl,” he said.
Oh, God.
Here we were, a multiplatinum band riding the crest of a huge hit record . . . and we got booted in favor of a cheesy, third-rate, heavy metal–southern rock hybrid.
You almost had to laugh at the insanity of it all.
Almost . . .
Chapter 14
The Inner Weasel
After a seriously bad haircut. The numbers on the tape were a private affair.
Photograph by Ross Halfin.
“Jesus, man. Relax. This ain’t New Jack City.”
I liked th
e Arizona desert. It was stark and vast, a daily reminder that somewhere out there was a cosmic plan in which I played only a minor, almost imperceptible role. Perspective, I guess you’d call it. And, of course, it seemed light-years away from Los Angeles and Hollywood, and the toxic fumes of fame. So even though I had been discharged from the Meadows and given a (temporary) clean bill of health, Pam and I had decided that Phoenix would be our new home. We would live and work there. To help facilitate this plan, David Ellefson and Marty Friedman moved to Arizona as well, so that we could collaborate more efficiently on the next Megadeth record, Youthanasia.
The only person in the band who refused to be uprooted was Nick Menza.
I don’t believe Nick was offended by my efforts to maintain sobriety or that he was less committed to the band. In reality, while Nick may have been struggling a bit more with his own personal demons at the time, everything about Megadeth had become a bit of a grind. The bigger we got, the more we fought. We battled mainly about creative and financial issues: the types of songs we would record, who would write the songs, and how much each member of the band would be paid. To sort out these issues, as well as to address various personality conflicts, we held group therapy sessions on an almost weekly basis. These were excruciatingly painful; typically, my role was to sit at the center of the room and listen to everyone else tell me what an arrogant, egotistical, insensitive asshole I had been.
“And oh, by the way, Dave, I’d like some more money, please.”
Publishing revenue became an endless source of conflict. In the beginning of Megadeth, it had all been so simple: if you wrote the song, it was yours. End of story. Then the whining began: “Wah, wah, wah! I’m not getting enough money. It’s not fair.” The problem was this: the record company wanted me to write the songs. Preferably, all of them. And those I didn’t write I was expected to modify and improve through endless tweaking and tinkering. It would have been easier for me and healthier for everyone in the band if our songwriting abilities had been equal. But that simply wasn’t the case, and everyone knew it.
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