What I can say is that the things God showed me were simply astonishing in their power and impact, and now the reality of God’s presence bursts forth from my heart every day. The truth is, I was more alive in those nine minutes than I have ever been in all my years on this Earth.
And now I can only hope that through my descriptions, however inadequate they may be, you will feel even a fraction of the power and the impact and the absolute glory of what I experienced.
NOT LONG AGO I read about a national Pew survey that showed the number of young Americans who have doubts about the existence of God is growing. In 2007, only 17 percent of people aged thirty or younger said they had some doubt that God was real. In 2012, that number went up to 32 percent. That’s roughly a third of young Americans surveyed who aren’t sure if they believe God is real.
Then there is a recent comment from Professor Stephen Hawking, the famous Cambridge scientist. “There is no heaven or afterlife,” he said in a 2012 interview. “That is a fairy story for people afraid of the dark.”
Maybe the Pew poll and Hawking’s comment should upset me, but they don’t. And the reason they don’t is because I used to be one of those doubters. I understand the skepticism, because a skeptical streak still runs through me. As a kid I questioned everything, and as an adult I’m still nosing around, searching for answers.
And while I no longer have any doubts about God and His power, I also realize that I am lucky, because I got to stand with Him. For many others, faith is about believing in a God they can’t see. And for some, faith means believing in a God they have questions about. Just because you have questions doesn’t mean you can’t have faith.
My point is, I can’t prove that what happened to me actually happened. Reading this book requires some measure of faith. Ultimately, what you take from my story depends on what you believe.
In the hallway of our home, just outside the bedroom where my youngest daughter plays with her purple stuffed donkey and my youngest son cooks up adventures for his little wooden robot, not far from where my oldest boy lifts weights and my teenage daughter texts her friends nonstop, a verse from the Bible is stenciled across the wall in black script. It reads
“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for,
And the evidence of things unseen.”
Hebrews 11:1–3
Because of what happened to me, I know that God is real. But you don’t have to die and stand with God to know what I know.
What makes God real for anyone is faith.
And so, when my twins come up to me and ask me about my story, what will I tell them? I guess I will sit them down and start by saying, “Children, there is a heaven, and heaven is beautiful.”
IT ALL STARTED WITH A PANIC ATTACK.
I’d had panic attacks in the past, and I knew what it felt like to have my lungs suddenly fail me. But what I experienced in December 2009 was worse. This was me gasping and choking and fighting to take in any air at all, and being unable to catch a single breath for a minute or longer. And the more I couldn’t breathe, the more panicked I got, which made it even harder to catch my breath. It started happening more regularly, and a couple of times the attacks were so bad I had to be rushed to the hospital to get oxygen.
I went to see my doctor, and he sent me to an internal medicine specialist a couple of towns over from where I live in the dusty plains of southwest Oklahoma. I was thirty-three and in good health, though lately I’d been feeling stressed. The specialist took a chest X-ray and gave me an inhaler, but the attacks continued. The next step was an endoscopy, the little camera on a tube they slide down your throat to get a look at your esophagus and stomach. After that, they gave me something called an ERCP, which is a more serious test that pokes around in your bile ducts and pancreas.
The doctor discovered some kind of blockage in a duct between my pancreas and my liver and put in a stent—this little mesh tube—to fix it. It didn’t have anything to do with my trouble breathing, but it was no big deal to fix it, so he did.
But when I woke up after the ERCP, I was in terrible pain.
This was a sharp, constant, excruciating pain, so bad I couldn’t even move. The doctors ran a couple of quick tests and determined I had pancreatitis—an inflammation of the pancreas caused by the procedure to put in the stent. That, too, apparently, wasn’t uncommon; any time you mess around with the pancreas or gallbladder, you run the risk of triggering pancreatitis. It’s extremely painful, and the only way to treat it is to hydrate the patient and give them strong medicine for the pain.
The doctor told me I’d be in the hospital for a few days. Well, I’d had more than enough of hospitals—I’d recently spent ten weeks in one, the longest and hardest ten weeks of my life—so I told him, no, thanks, I’d be checking out. Whatever drugs he gave me worked well enough to make me think it was okay. Plus, I was just plain stubborn. I checked myself out against my doctor’s recommendations.
That night I doubled over in pain, and I was back in the ER by dawn.
The doctors hooked me up to a saline IV to keep me hydrated and wheeled in a PCA—patient-controlled analgesia—which was a pain pump I could operate myself. It was loaded with several doses of Dilaudid, a really powerful painkiller. Whenever my pain got too bad, all I had to do was push a button, though it would only give me a small number of doses every hour.
That first day back in the hospital, I started feeling sicker and sicker. I was throwing up a lot and felt like I had a 110-degree fever. My mother, Connie, was with me, and she patiently wiped beads of sweat off my forehead and rubbed my favorite lotion—Noel Vanilla Bean—on my legs. But the pain I was feeling just got worse. The doctors told me I was okay. They kept saying what I was feeling was routine.
Sometime that afternoon, I got really groggy. I remember opening my eyes and seeing my mother sitting in a chair at the foot of my bed watching TV. It was the Bonnie Hunt Show, which we both loved. Suddenly I asked my mom, “What year is it?”
“What year do you think it is?” she said.
“1984.”
My mother laughed. “Well, honey, I’m in 2009, so you better come on back here.”
Then I said, “I love you, Mom,” and she said, “I love you, too.” She went back to watching TV, and I closed my eyes to rest. As soon as I did, I felt an incredible heaviness, like I was sinking deeper and deeper into my pillow. I felt my pain go away, and I felt myself drift off into a bottomless sleep.
DOWN AT THE foot of the bed, my mother touched my leg and noticed it felt cold. She pulled my blanket over my feet, then got up to pull it tighter around my arms and shoulders. She saw that I was twitching, and she heard me let out a deep, unusual snore.
Then she glanced up at my face and saw my lips were blue.
My mother knew CPR, so the first thing she did was listen for my breathing. When she couldn’t hear it, she put her finger on my carotid artery and felt for a pulse. She couldn’t find that, either. She screamed, “I need a nurse in here!” and tried to lower the hospital bed so she could give me mouth-to-mouth, but she couldn’t make the bed go down. A nurse came in and started a sternum rub, firmly massaging my chest with her knuckles while asking me, “Crystal, are you okay? Can you hear me?”
By then my face was turning blue, too—a deep, dark blue that was almost black. That snore my mother heard wasn’t a snore at all—it was me taking my last breath.
“Can you hear me, Crystal?” the nurse kept asking. “Are you okay?” Finally my mother exploded.
“You can do that ’til pigs fly; it’s not gonna work!” she screamed. “She’s not breathing, and she has no pulse. She’s dying!”
A senior nurse rushed in, but when she looked at my blue face, she froze. Then a hospital clerk came in and nearly dropped her clipboard when she saw me.
“My God, what’s going on?!” she yelled.
“We have to call a Code Blue, but she has to be the one to call it,” one of the nurses said, pointing at the senior nurse, who was st
ill frozen.
“Call the code,” the clerk screamed at her. “Call the bleeping code!”
The nurse finally called Code Blue—the most serious emergency code there is. Someone barreled in with a crash cart, and someone else came in with an AMBU bag, which is used to manually pump oxygen into the lungs. A doctor ran in, then another, then a priest and a social worker. More than ten people pressed around my body in that small room. A nurse roughly ripped open my hospital gown.
Someone pounded on my chest. Still no breathing, no pulse. A nurse put a mask on my face and started squeezing the AMBU bag. People ran in and out and back in again. Other patients clustered in the hallway, trying to see who was dying. My mother spoke to me above the commotion, saying the same thing over and over: “Please don’t go, Crystal,” she said. “Please stay with us.”
I did not hear her say it. I didn’t feel the mask on my face or the pounding on my chest. I never saw all those doctors and nurses swarm into my room, never heard the frantic cry of “Code Blue.”
I don’t remember anything that happened in that room after I told my mother I loved her and closed my eyes and drifted off.
The next thing I remember is waking up in heaven, with God.
THE BRIGHTNESS
THE VERY MOMENT I CLOSED MY EYES ON EARTH WAS THE same moment I opened them in heaven. It happened in the same instant, which is how things are in heaven. Everything happens at once.
When I talk about it now, there’s a sequence, because we can only understand things one at a time. This happens, then that happens. But that’s not really how it was. Everything happened at once—yet with no sense of rush or urgency. In a way, it didn’t even “happen”—my awareness of everything was instantaneous, as if it was ancient knowledge that had always been a part of me. It wasn’t like I experienced something for a minute, then moved on to something else for two minutes. In heaven, there are no minutes or hours or days. In heaven, there is no such thing as “time.”
Do events unfold differently in heaven? Or is it just the way we perceive them that is different? I don’t know. But in heaven, everything happened in the blink of an eye.
• • •
The instant I came out of my deep sleep, I was aware I no longer had a physical body. I had left it behind. I was now in spirit form. I never examined my form, I was just aware of it—just like we know that we have ten toes without having to see them. My spirit form was not a form as we know it, with defined edges and shapes, but it was still very much a form, and I was very much a presence.
And even without a physical body I knew that I was still “me.” The same me that had existed on Earth, the same me that had just told my mother I loved her before I died. At the same time, though, I had the stunning realization that I was the “me” that had existed for all of eternity, long before my time on Earth.
Unlike on Earth, where I was plagued by doubts and fears, in heaven there was nothing but absolute certainty about who I was. This was a far more complete representation of my spirit and my heart and my being than was ever possible on Earth, a far deeper self-awareness than the collection of hopes and fears and dreams and scars that defined me during my life. I was flooded with self-knowledge, and all the junk that cluttered my identity on Earth instantly fell away, revealing, for the first time ever, the real me. “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you,” God says in Jeremiah 1:5. And now I knew myself.
Imagine that—the first person we meet in heaven is ourselves.
• • •
The hardest thing for me is finding the words to fully describe what I experienced in heaven, because there are no human words that even come close. I grasp at words like “beautiful” and “brilliant” and “amazing,” but they are wildly inadequate. What I experienced in heaven was so real and so lucid and so utterly intense, it made my experiences on Earth seem hazy and out of focus—as if heaven is the reality and life as we know it is just a dream. Everything I describe is as big and breathtaking as I make it sound—only much, much more so.
When I came out of my sleep, and realized I was in spirit form, I was also immersed in what I call a brightness.
Many people who describe dying talk about finding themselves in a pool of light, but that description doesn’t cut it for me. For one thing, a pool suggests it was somehow confined, but in fact it was vast and endless, with no beginning and no end. For another, it wasn’t just a light—or at least not light as we know it. It was closest to the color we call white, but a trillion times whiter than the whitest white you’ve ever seen or could imagine. It was brilliant and beaming and beautifully illuminating, and that’s why I call it a brightness. In the words of the apostle John in Revelation 21:23: “The city does not need the sun or the moon to shine on it, for the glory of God gives it light, and the Lamb is its lamp.”
But there was another dimension to it. There was also the sensation of cleanliness. It was a feeling of absolute purity and perfection, of something completely unblemished and unbroken, and being immersed in it filled me with the kind of peace and assurance I’d never known on Earth. It was like being bathed in love. It was a brightness I didn’t just see, but felt. And it felt familiar, like something I remembered, or even recognized.
The best way to put it is this: I was home.
And so immediately I found myself in this otherworldly brightness, I realized I no longer had a body, and I became aware of the actual me—three incredible experiences you’d think might have blown my mind a bit. But in fact I just absorbed them without ever being conscious of doing it, and they all made utterly perfect sense to me. So no matter how amazing and mind-bending something was, I had no problem processing it. Not once was I ever confused by anything in heaven.
And that includes the other realization I had—the realization that I wasn’t alone.
• • •
What I experienced next was the most profound and beautiful and miraculous experience imaginable. My spirit still soars at the mere memory of what I discovered. God, in His infinite wisdom, gave me a gift that was so glorious, so perfect, I can hardly write about it without crying tears of joy. It was a gift that utterly transformed everything that came before it . . . and everything that would follow.
But to understand just how soul-shaking God’s gift to me was—to appreciate the full power of what He showed me—you have to understand the terrible events that preceded it. You have to know the reasons why I struggled so much to believe that God loved me before you can appreciate the wonder and the glory of what He did to show me that He does.
I WAS FIVE YEARS OLD WHEN MY STEPFATHER TOOK me by the hand, led me into a dark room, and introduced me to Satan.
Maybe I’d misbehaved in some way, though I can’t remember doing anything to deserve that kind of punishment. I guess I might have mouthed off to him or to my mom, which I did a lot as a kid. I was a sassy thing with a big mouth, and I know it wasn’t easy to shut me up. Still isn’t.
On that day, my stepfather told me he wanted to show me something and led me into the sewing room on the second floor of his mother’s house. His mom lived in the same town as us, a small, flat place not too far from the Wichita Mountains. The sewing room was where she did all her knitting and crocheting, and whenever we visited, I wasn’t allowed in it. So I was surprised that’s where Hank took me. He closed the door behind us but didn’t turn on the light; the room was pitch-black. My stepdad got down on one knee and sat me across his leg. I could barely see him in the darkness.
“Crystal,” he said, “do you believe in the devil?”
I didn’t say anything—I didn’t know what to say. For the past year I’d been riding on a bus that shuttled neighborhood kids to service at the local Baptist church, and I was just beginning to get steeped in the basics of the Bible. I knew that someone built an ark, someone was eaten by a whale, and a man named Jesus died on a cross. I also believed in Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy, like most innocent kids my age. And, yes, I believed in Sat
an, though I didn’t know much about him. All I knew was I didn’t want to meet him, especially not in a dark room.
“I can call the devil to come deal with bad little girls,” my stepfather said. “I’m gonna call him to come deal with you.”
Then all of a sudden my stepfather yelled, “COME GET HER!” and shined a flashlight toward the back wall.
And there, in a flash of light, I saw him.
His face was a ghastly red, and big, pointy horns protruded from his head. His eyes were a terrifying white against the red, and his expression was hard and cruel. We locked eyes, and I screamed and jumped off my stepfather’s leg. I tried to escape, but I couldn’t find the door. I flailed in the darkness, and finally the door opened and light flooded the room. And there was my mother, Connie, coming to see what all the fuss was about.
I ran into her arms and held her tight. I remember my stepdad laughing and my mom scolding him and whisking me downstairs.
I’m sure I didn’t sleep much that night, and the image of that awful red face was seared into my brain . . . and is seared there still. What I saw that night was something I never talked about with anyone, not even my mother.
It would be years before I’d set foot in that sewing room again. I was ten or eleven when my stepfather’s mom sent me there to fetch something from her closet.
By then I was different. I no longer believed in everything a child believes in. I wasn’t sure I believed in anything at all. Still, my heart thumped in my chest as I climbed the stairs, and I slowed down to a shuffle as I got near the room. Then I pushed open the door, ran to the closet, and dug around frantically for whatever it was I was looking for, desperate to find it and get out.
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