We kissed and rolled some more. My excitement was feverish and needy, but that didn’t make me feel afraid. I felt as if I could bat my excitement back and forth or turn it up and down, and I was delighted to roll and root in the fun of being pulled in so many directions. I felt as if I could have a small, good experience with this boy, and at that moment a small, good experience was more important than anything.
Then he called the direction. “I’m going to go,” he said.
“Please don’t,” I said.
He kissed me, and I felt a deep, squalid bitterness under the first layer of his kiss. For the first time that night, I felt him in earnest, and he felt very familiar. We were now going in the direction broadly labeled “pain.” But of course, pain has many directions too.
I went to the bathroom, and when I came back he was sitting on the couch with his pants on. He said again that he was going to go. I remembered that even pain can be tedious. I wondered if he’d gone through my wallet while I was peeing. I knelt and put my hand on his knee. “Please don’t go,” I said.
He came back down on the floor with me. He pushed at my wig with a soft, childish gesture. I took it off for him. My short brown hair had been badly mashed by the wig; it probably didn’t look very good, but for some reason I didn’t mind showing it to him.
“This suits you more,” he said. “It’s softer.”
“Yeah, well, it’s actual hair.”
He got up on his knees and, putting his hand on top of my head, asked me to go down on him again. Probably he wanted me to get on my hands and knees, but, maybe out of irritation, I merely spread my legs and bent from the waist in a posture that was not very pleasing aesthetically or psychologically. It was also not very comfortable, so I stopped quickly and sat up. He hesitated and then, with a nervous toss of his head, pressed himself against me like a purring cat. I lay down. He lay on top of me. He reached under my skirt, worked his hand down my panty hose and lightly stroked my genitals with the back of his hand. The contempt in the gesture was rich and sensual, and I leaned into it. The numb comfort of humiliation tempted me; I gave him a little mew of encouragement. He answered me with a little mew of his own. He slid his hands under my head and gripped handfuls of my hair and pulled it. Carefully, he placed his prick against my genitals; he rubbed it slowly against me.
“Frederick?”
“What?” His thin voice swelled with greed.
“Would you please fuck me?”
“Oh, all right.” He went for his belt buckle with an alacrity that belied his words.
I sat up quickly. “No,” I said. “Never mind.”
He sat up. We sat there. He blinked several times.
“I guess you want to go,” I said.
He sat on the couch and crossed his legs. “It’s not that I’m not attracted to you,” he said. “I mean, if we had sex, it would probably be really good. But it wouldn’t be right.”
I was acutely aware of my body, as I might be if I had been knocked on the floor in the middle of a dance movement: first my wind came back, then I made sure nothing was broken, then I was filled with tenderness for my body. I remembered the time my dead lover had beat me up. He had said something unkind to me, and though he often said such things, this time I took offense and slapped him in the face. He slapped me harder; I punched him in the stomach. He knocked me down, fell on me, and banged my head on the floor until I was almost unconscious. When it was over, I had the same feeling of returning to my body, with tenacious animal self-love.
Meanwhile, Frederick was still talking. He said he was seeing a lot of women and that he was obsessed with his old girlfriend. He said that he needed “boundaries.” “I’m too guarded to have sex right now,” he said.
I thought of how he had pretended to kiss me and then pulled away. His words did not make sense to me, but many things don’t make sense to me. “You’re probably right,” I said slowly. “We don’t know each other, and it might be a bad experience. I’ve had a lot of bad experiences.”
A look of indulgent emotionality came over his face, as if he were watching a sensitive movie about the special pain of a lonely older woman who’s just been rejected by a younger guy. I felt a little surge of indignation that quickly devolved into pieces of uncertainty and vague goodwill. I was awfully tired. “Can you see what time it is?” I asked.
“It’s five o’clock.”
“Fuck!” I took his jacket from the floor and wrapped it around my shoulders. “The last time I got involved with a guy we didn’t have sex for three weeks, which naturally made me want him desperately. So when we finally did it, it felt like a cataclysm; I went into an emotional frenzy, and he got pulled right into it. Then the sex wore off, and there we were, stuck in all this bogus emotion. It seems like it doesn’t work no matter what you do.”
Mild surprise overtook his look of indulgent sympathy; his face was shadowed by mournful tenderness. It occurred to me that he might feel pain too. We were both silent. Our silence comforted me. I held my hand out to him, and he took it in his.
“I’d like to see you again,” he said.
“I don’t think so,” I said. “I mean, there’s the old girlfriend and the other women and what have you. It sounds like a mess, and I’m pretty busy, actually. But I’m glad I met you. I think you’re a nice person.”
He almost flinched when I said that. His lips parted and his eyes became bleak and deep. He let go of my hand and stood up. I thought he was going to ask for his jacket, but instead he went to my bookcase and withdrew a book. He looked at the cover and then turned it over. It was my only published book of poetry. I had published it ten years before, won a few awards, and then collapsed. I’d published nothing since.
“Is this you?” he asked.
“Put that back,” I said sharply.
He replaced it and stared at me with a look I couldn’t read.
“I’m sorry,” I said. “I didn’t mean to be rude.”
“It’s okay,” he said. “Sometimes when girls come to my place, they pick up stuff, and I don’t like it. I say, ‘Stop going through my things.’ You just told me to stop going through your things.” He looked at me as if amazed.
I didn’t say anything.
“Maybe I’d like to read your poems.”
“I don’t write poems anymore. That book is really old.”
He got his boots, and as he bent over to put them on he cut a dainty fart. He paused in his bend and made a fussing noise, as if irritated at himself for farting. It was okay with me, though, and I think he realized that. I hoped so. Once, I fell asleep on a train and drooled in front of my fellow passenger; when I woke and glanced at him in embarrassed realization, I saw right away that he had borne with my drool. That subtle acceptance from a total stranger was deeply satisfying to me, and I was pleased to give it to someone else.
He stood up and stumbled over a cat toy. “I’ll miss you,” he said.
“Oh, please.” My words were like quick, shallow water. I handed him his jacket, and he put it on.
“You won’t give me your number?” he asked.
I leaned forward and put my head on his shoulder. Sheathed in his jacket, it felt impersonal and kind. He held me for a moment, and I thought I could feel him experimenting with the sensation of kindness.
“No,” I said.
After he left, I sat for almost an hour, allowing my body to return to aloneness and safety. Then I took a bath and got in bed. It was almost seven o’clock, and the room was filling with daylight. My moist skin made my pajamas damp and warm. There were sounds from the courtyard outside my window; two of my neighbors were out in the garden, talking in low voices. They were talking about the bonnets and dresses they were making to wear at the Indulgence in the Park Easter celebration.
I wondered why I had told Frederick that I thought he was nice. Probably for the same reason that I had sweet dreams about a petty sadist. I tried to think of my dead sex partner, but my memories of him were truncated, and
gray with elapsed time. I could only imagine him with flat, terrified eyes, his hands making a gesture that was too cramped and weak to signify anything. I don’t know why I imagined him this way, since I had never seen him make such expressions or gestures. I tried to imagine saying goodbye to him, but it didn’t work. I had a sensation of all my memories growing truncated and gray, stretching out over a lengthening span of years, slowly dissolving into broken pieces of imagery weighted with inexplicable feeling.
I turned onto my side and closed my eyes, as if doing so would finally bring the experience to an end. I would’ve liked to cry, but I couldn’t. From the garden, I heard one of my neighbors describe his bonnet as “robin’s-egg blue.” He must’ve shown it to the other neighbor, because I heard a second voice say, “Oh, it’s so special.” He was being sarcastic, but he also meant it.
Respect
When I woke it was afternoon. Through my open window, the day felt dull and warm. I turned onto my side and remembered Frederick. I remembered his blithe, half-conscious meanness, the nervous toss of his head, the puzzlement in his voice when he had said, “I like you.” Under his silly contempt there had been a little pocket of tenderness, and I had seen it. I imagined that I lay against him, and that he held me. In my imagination, it did not matter that he was thirteen years younger than me. The tenderness was strange and slightly mortifying.
When I went into my living room, I saw the Polaroid that had been taken of Frederick and me lying on the floor, harmlessly reflecting sunlight off its cheap, shiny surface. I picked it up and studied it. The girl who had taken it came into my mind and sparkled for a moment. Frederick posed like a conceited teenager; his face was hard, closed, and very handsome. It looked as if he had struck the pose automatically. Beside him, I was slightly out of focus, and my eyes were woefully large. The picture nonplussed me, but in a curious way it also pleased me. I put it on the kitchen table and looked at it while I drank my coffee.
When I went out to get my mail, I found that he had left a note on my mailbox. I sat on the front steps, smiling foolishly. Sunlight tingled on a tiny, dislocated rhinestone that someone had lost without noticing. The note was badly spelled and almost incoherent, and that, for some reason, endeared him to me. He had given me his phone number.
His voice was warmer and more direct than I remembered it. He said a man who had been at the party had called him that morning to ask how it was to spend the night with me. “And I told him it was none of his business,” he said. His words rang with resolute gallantry, but they bewildered me; they sounded completely artificial, yet I sensed that he wanted to believe himself gallant.
We planned to meet for a drink at seven o’clock. He said he had an appointment at ten, which gave us three hours together. Shyly, I said I was looking forward to seeing him. He said he felt the same way. Then he asked me if I felt “compromised.” I knew what he meant, but I pretended I didn’t; there was vibrant excitement in his voice, which I wanted to resist. “No,” I said. “Why would I feel compromised?” I paused. “Do you?”
Half an hour before the meeting, I opened my closet to dress and realized that I was frightened. In part I was afraid simply because I had not been on a date for over a year. But mostly I was afraid that the peculiar absence I had felt in this boy was a harbinger of some-thing worse than absence, something he himself was not fully aware of. But I didn’t want to be afraid. I especially didn’t want to be afraid of a kid. So I pushed my fear down under my thoughts. In sup-pressed fear, I chose a high-necked, calf-length dress that once belonged to my mother. It was a quietly beautiful dress, and wearing it usually made me feel both feminine and strong. As I put it on, however, my expectation of feeling good was just barely undermined by a feeling of shame so subtle I didn’t identify it for what it was. Before I could, I suppressed it as well.
The bar Frederick had chosen for our meeting was elegant and old, slightly rotted and faintly clandestine. It was furnished with little glass lamps hanging from the ceiling and small tables covered with long, seemly cloths. He was the only person seated there when I arrived. He stood and looked at me with the same stare of ersatz adoration that had made me notice him at the party. “You look like a movie star,” he said.
“And you look like a rock star,” I snapped. My sarcasm startled me; I hadn’t yet noticed how ashamed I felt, so I didn’t realize that his absurd compliment had touched my shame.
My tone seemed to startle him too, but he didn’t break stride. He helped me out of my jacket with a flourish. He bought me a pale-gold drink in a beveled glass. He took my hand and looked into my eyes and said, “I respect you.” He paused with excited relish and then continued. “I don’t know why. Maybe it’s because you’re older. But I respect you.”
I tried to understand the feeling beneath his words. It felt as if he were saying two different things with equal force. It felt almost as if he were straddling something. My unease became harder to ignore.
“When I first saw you from across the room I thought you were an extraordinary person,” he continued. “And now you look. . . well, you look. . .” He gestured at me in my mother’s dress. “Ummm . . .” The hint of a smirk played through his eyes.
I was suddenly shocked and humiliated, too much so to say anything. I couldn’t tell if he was being elaborately cruel or very foolish or both. The proportions of the room seemed all at once strange and precious; the little tables looked like cleverly arranged decorations with no relationship to function. “Frederick,” I said. My voice was wooden and small. “I’m nervous. I’m scared, actually.”
He furrowed his brow slightly. “Why?”
He seemed genuinely puzzled. I tried to think of how to explain it to him, but it was too complicated. “I don’t know,” I said unhappily.
“Here,” he said. He changed chairs so that he was sitting at my side instead of right before me. “That’ll make it easier,” he said gently. “I’m not, like, staring at you.”
“Thank you,” I said. His gentleness touched me. Maybe, I thought, my fear was a grotesque projection; I decided I mustn’t let the past completely distort my experience of the present. I relaxed, and my tender feeling for him woke and breathed again. The tables looked like tables at which one might simply sit. He raised one hand and, very tentatively, almost as if he were frightened, touched my cheek. He asked if I would like another drink. “No, thank you,” I said.
He began talking about a woman he’d had sex with some weeks before. He had never wanted to see her again, so he hadn’t called her, even though he’d said he would. She, on the other hand, had been harassing him with phone calls he never deigned to return, demanding to see him. Finally, that afternoon he’d visited her. He’d just come from her, in fact.
“I was arrogant and controlling and cocky with her,” he said. “Which just made her want to have sex with me all the more.” He sighed as if exasperated. “I was totally different with her than I am with you. I don’t respect her, and I’m not interested in her.” He paused and lightly gripped the edge of the table with both hands, his long fingers soft and tense, like the paws of a young cat. “I like myself better with you,” he declared.
I was not only ashamed for myself, I was also ashamed for him, so much so that I was virtually paralyzed by it—yet I still hadn’t noticed it.
“I used to have a lot of relationships like that,” I said heavily.
“Like what?”
“With men who didn’t respect me. And I can tell you, without even knowing her, that this woman doesn’t respect you either. That kind of shit goes both ways.”
He looked puzzled, then wary. He retracted one hand slightly along the edge of the table.
“At the time, I would’ve told you that I loved these men,” I said. “But really, I didn’t even like them.”
“So why were you with them if you didn’t like them?”
“Those situations are often erotic. And it’s complicated. I mean, why’d you go to this girl’s house if you were so
uninterested in her?”
“Oh, it’s definitely erotic. But I don’t like it.” He looked vaguely into space. “I don’t like it,” he repeated. He hesitated. “I want to be a nice person,” he said. He looked at me, expectant, almost childish. He looked as though he wanted me to tell him that he was a nice person, and although I would’ve liked to, I found I couldn’t. Silently, I lowered my eyes. The pause was terrible.
The conversation was over and we both knew it, yet neither of us wanted to admit it. With a great effort we changed the subject and lurched into a discussion about books, horror movies, and the construction of Frederick’s web sites. When one of us stumbled, the other would clumsily lend a hand, so that we gamely, even chivalrously, pulled each other along. The peculiar thing was, I think we actually liked each other—not that it did us any good.
“I was thinking,” he said. “Maybe you could suggest some poets for me to read. I don’t know anything about poetry.”
“I don’t know you,” I said. My voice was clipped and hard. “I wouldn’t have the slightest idea what you might like.”
There was another silence. I felt a shift take place in him. If he had been straddling something before, he had now chosen a position. He looked at his watch; he said he had made plans to go meet another woman. “We have some time,” he said, “so I can walk you home.” He stood and swung his jacket around his shoulders. “With leisure and pleasure.” His voice was voluptuous and charmed by itself.
“I just said that to somebody last week,” he added. “Only then I said pleasure and leisure.”
I wondered if he’d gotten the phrase from a Japanese merchandising outlet on cable, which went by the same name. I had noticed it on TV on the channel featuring the electronic program guide; it had a functional bleakness that was almost poetic. Numbly, I admired Frederick’s ability not only to appreciate the phrase but to use it as an implement of self-indulgence that doubled as a small, sharp weapon. I remembered his kindness as he held me in his arms just before he left my apartment; it was a feeble, flickering sense memory, and it quickly died.
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