by Sean Covey
The Lord of the Rings, 307
lose-lose, 152
lose-win, 182
love, 6, 7, 10, 17, 27, 31, 40, 48, 52, 53, 61, 73, 74, 76–78, 81, 84, 88, 122, 128–30, 132–36, 139, 143, 162–68, 171, 173, 174, 176, 182–85, 187, 189, 191, 192, 208, 210, 211–17, 220–22, 229, 232, 248, 251, 254, 257, 270, 281, 282, 283, 293, 299, 302, 324
love, cheesy quotes, 171
Loveless, Tom, 49
low-paying jobs, 87
low road, 36, 37, 91, 128, 129, 171, 173, 226, 228, 269, 271, 302, 306
LSD, 243, 244
Luv Ur Skin, 77
M
Majoring in the Rest of Your Life, 53
Maldonado, Jonathan, 120
“the man,” 21, 22
Mandino, Og, 106
marijuana, 12, 162, 234, 238, 239, 256, 262
Maxwell, Neal, 294
mean girls, 93, 100
meditation, 289
Meir, Golda, 292
methamphetamines, 240, 241
Mischel, Walter, 37
mission statements, 22–23, 85, 115, 116
monthly budget, 40
Mother Teresa, 122
motivation, 51, 52
N
nachos, 12, 35, 200
National Child Abuse Hotline, 311
National Fatherhood Initiative, 213
natural high, 251, 266, 289
need, 73
never satisfied syndrome, 139
Newton, Isaac, 55
Niebuhr, Reinhold, 109
Nixon, Richard M., 279
number chart, 15–16, 32
O
opiates, 242
O’Rourke, P. J., 307
P
paradigms, 15, 16–17, 59, 90, 95, 105, 180
paradigm shift, 16, 105
Paradoxical Commandments, 122
parents, 3, 4, 6, 9, 10–13, 22, 26, 28, 29, 40, 42, 44, 52–55, 59, 61, 62, 68, 71, 93–95, 98, 112, 113, 119, 123, 126–68
parent abuse, 163, 165, 166
parents are embarrassing, 139, 140
parents, blunders teens make, 160
parents checkup, 129
parents, disarming them, 159
parents, divorce, 144, 145
parents, fighting, 142,
parents, knowing teens, 149
parent love, 165
parents’ overprotective, 141, 142
parents, teens knowing them, 147, 148, 150–52, 160
part-time job, 49
Pasang, Tashi, 285
passion, 35, 53, 73, 84, 162, 215, 221, 222
patience, 17, 84, 158
paying for college, 70, 310
PCP, 239, 249
peer pressure, 1, 8, 10, 24, 91, 92, 93, 96, 113–16, 119, 121, 124, 237, 252, 253, 265, 270, 278, 310
peer pressure shield, 115
personal time wasters, 24, 48
Phoenix, 145, 146
physical appearance, 105, 236, 273–75
Picasso, Pablo, 55
Pilates, 289
pizza, 10, 35, 72
planner, 50, 51
please/thank you, 135
Polacco, Patricia, 55
poppers, 226, 247
popularity, 10, 93, 95–98, 123, 197, 273, 290, 291, 200
pornography, 216, 225, 258, 259, 260,306, 311
positive attitude, 19, 25, 52, 68, 93, 99, 137, 153
Potter, Harry, 114, 291
poverty, 42
powder, 248
power to choose, 226
PQ, 56
pregnancy, 8, 14, 172, 191, 198, 206–209, 211, 213, 215, 216, 219, 291
preparing for SAT, ACT, 70
prescription drugs, 12, 225, 241, 242
principles, 15, 17, 18, 90, 96, 174, 181, 256, 288
priorities, 25, 49, 50, 67, 88
Private Victory, 20
proactive, 19, 21–22, 42
procrastinating, 24, 50, 51
psychological disorders, 294
Q
Queen Bees (Alpha girls), 98, 99
quirks, 99
R
racial discrimination, 84
reactive, 21
red flag for friend choice, 120
Reavis, George H., 28
Relationship Bank Account, 107
relationships, 10, 13, 17, 26, 28, 88, 128, 306
lose-lose, 82
lose-win, 82
rules for, 215, 216
stages of, 214, 215
waiting, 216–18
win-lose, 25, 151, 181
win-win, 19, 20, 25, 26, 201, 103, 151, 152, 156, 158, 181
report cards, 136, 171, 214, 215, 216, 221
reputation, 253
respect, 96
responsibility, 96
right track, 5–6
roofies, 226
Russian drinking tradition, 252, 253
S
Sachar, Louis, 310
salary information, 38, 39
savior complex, 183
say no, 49, 253, 254
scholarships, 5, 67, 69, 71, 310
school, 1–4, 6, 7, 9, 10, 12, 17, 18, 21–23, 25, 28, 29, 33, 34–88, 91, 93–95, 97–101, 103–107, 111, 113–23, 133, 139, 141–46, 149, 151, 155–57, 163, 164, 166, 167, 175, 176, 178, 180, 181, 183, 185, 188, 189, 190, 192, 194, 196–98, 200, 204–10, 213, 216–20, 226, 232–34, 236, 243, 248, 250–52, 259, 281, 284, 290, 295, 297, 301, 307, 310, 324
school checkup, 36
school dropout, 9, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 87
school graduate earnings, 37, 79
School of Rock, 21
school stress, 43, 44, 46, 47
school travel programs, 53
screen-free challenge, 87
selecting a career, 72–77
self-confidence, 104
self-defense, 101, 102
self-doubt, 43
self-esteem, 269
self parts, 29, 30, 44, 45
self-worth, 13, 121, 266–304, 312
beauty/goodness, 273, 292, 293
competence, 284
focus on inner strength, 276
influence, 274
physical health, 287
social mirror, 271–73, 275, 276, 291
true mirror (inner resource), 271–73, 275, 276, 293, 302
what would you change?, 292, 293
Self-Worth Arch of Triumph, 278, 279
self-worth checkup, 270, 271
serendipity, 77, 78
7 Habits, 13, 15, 19, 20–32
define goals, 22, 23, 85, 115, 116
listen, 26, 27, 154
prioritize, 28, 49, 50, 67, 88
sharpen the saw, 29, 30, 44, 45
synergize, 28, 155–58
take responsibility, 19, 21, 22, 42
think win-win, 25, 102, 103, 151, 152, 158, 180
sex, 3, 4, 6, 11, 14, 17, 99, 114, 163, 167, 169, 170–222, 225, 242, 255, 259, 274, 306, 311
abstinence, 209, 211
commitment, 210
Dr. Meeker, 211
myths, 197–202
on TV, in movies, 209, 210
pregnancy, 207, 208, 212, 213
questions, 196, 197, 199, 200, 201, 202, 203
rules for, 215, 216
safe sex, 201
say no, 49, 252, 253
waiting, 216, 217, 218, 221
Shakespeare, 279
sharpen the saw, 29, 30, 44, 45
sharpen the saw checkup, 45
Shields, Brooke, 225
shifting gears, 7
sibling comparison, 137, 138
Simon, Senator Paul, 26
skills, 13, 29, 38, 86, 279, 284, 285, 290
slacker, 24, 25, 48
sleep, 46, 47, 87
smack, 226
Smith, Michael, 106
smokes, 237
smoking, 8, 12, 250
snacktime, 64
sneeze, 248
sniff, 247
snow, 248
snuff, 237
soci
al mirror/true mirror, 269–74
soda, 35, 99, 150, 200
solving problems, 15
Special Olympics, 26
speed, 240
spelling, 85, 86
SQ, 56
standardized test, 69, 70
standing for something, 4
Stanford campus, 37
STD, 14, 202–207, 307, 311
steroids, 12, 245, 246
stress, 9, 24, 36, 43, 44–47, 56, 145, 179, 203, 275, 289, 296
stroke, 241
stuck up, 97
study friend, 95, 96
studying, 25, 34, 35, 50, 63, 64
study procedure, 64, 65
study room, 64
study skills, 65, 67
study time, 64
summer jobs, 76
support system, 116–18
switch point, 5
synergy, 28, 155–58
synergy action plan, 156
syphilis, 204
T
talent, 73, 284
talking stick, 26
teachers, 44
teen challenges, 3
teen entrepreneurs (treps), 76, 77, 78
ten-year experiment, 6
Texas Shoeshine, 247
Thoreau, Henry David, 249
time allotment, 23–24, 48–50
time finders, 48, 49, 51
time quadrants, 24, 25
time travel, 7
time waster, 48
tobacco facts, 237, 238
tolerance, 99
Tolstoy, Leo, 273
toot, 248
travel, 53, 54, 87, 282
true center, 181
true colors, 93, 94, 95
true friend, 58, 104
true love, 221
truthfulness, 132
TV, 34, 48
U
understanding, 108, 131, 152–54, 157, 158
upbringing, 306
V
victims, 52
vision, 282–84
volunteer organizations, 54
von Braun, Wernher, 55
W
Wannabes (Beta girls), 98, 99
Washington, George, 260
wasted time, 48–49
weight lifting, 289
Weisberg, Mr., 57
whippets, 244
Williamson, Marianne, 269, 300
Winfrey, Oprah, 84, 283
win-lose, 181
win-win, 25, 102, 103, 151, 152, 158, 181
Wiseman, Rosalind, 98
wolf fables, 260
working hard, 67
X
X, 226
Y
Yes-Man, 24
yoga, 289
Z
zombie, 46
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Names: Covey, Sean, author.
Title: The 6 most important decisions you’ll ever make : a guide for teens : updated for the social media generation / Sean Covey.
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Description: New York : Touchstone, 2017. | Includes bibliographical references and index.
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