She was babbling now, the images tumbling through her mind too fast for her words to keep up. She felt turned inside out, her asshole and pussy and breasts and mouth and clit all exposed, all beaten, all fucked, all at once. Her legs shook and spasmed as she tried to spread them wider. Her mind swirled through her body, and then circled in tightly onto her clit, where Jack’s ruler was spanking her harder, as hard as she could take it, no harder, trying to make her take it for as long as she could. All she could feel now was her clit, sore, raw, hungry for comfort, hungry for more pain. “My clit,” she said. “Please, sir. My clit. Please.”
“What?” he asked. “Tell me. Beg me. I’m listening. What do you want?”
“Please, sir,” she gasped. “Do something. Please. Stroke it, pinch it, rub it… something… please…”
He dropped the ruler at once and reached between her legs. She came at the first touch of his hand, came in a spasm that jerked her belly tight and curled her up into a ball. She kept coming as he kept his hand in place, the spasms moving up into her chest, into her throat, into her face like sobbing, and out through the top of her head.
She took a deep breath, and came again. Peaceful this time, the pleasure spreading quietly through her veins and into her muscles like an I.V. The Zen-like bliss she’d lived with for such a short time came back now, drifting back into her chest like it was coming home. It had a different flavor this time: looser, foamier, less like morphine, more like laughing gas. The words and pictures that had spilled out of her hung in the air, and she arched her back and let them sink into her belly and burrow into her bones. She breathed, long, deep breaths like her lungs were bursting out of metal bands, and kept coming, or doing something that was very much like coming, not shaking or stabbing her this time, just lifting her gently, a glider in the night sky.
It lasted a long time. Jack’s fingers stayed on her clit, pressing, shifting, circling slowly, as she slowly drifted back to earth and settled back into her body.
She opened her eyes when she was done. Jack was smiling at her, a little wistfully, stroking her thigh. “So,” he said.
“So,” she replied. She had her answer. Like a magic 8-ball: all signs point to yes. She curled up in her friend’s arms, and started to cry.
RESOURCE GUIDE
I said this in the introduction, but I’ll say it again: This book is not a how-to guide on safe, consensual sadomasochism and kinky sex. This is a book of fantasies. While some of the stories here describe reasonably safe and healthy kinky relationships, many of them absolutely do not. The stories here are meant to entertain, to arouse, to provoke thought, to provide insight, to provide sexy images for you to get off on while you fuck or play or diddle yourself. But they are not meant to be replicated in real life. (Except in a consensual, safe, negotiated, acting-out-fantasies way.)
So what do you do if you do want information on how to practice safe, consensual sadomasochism and kinky sex?
Here are some resources to help you out. It includes books, hotlines, and online resources, with information and ideas on how to navigate real-world SM safely—both physically, and emotionally.
You may or may not want to do SM in your real life. Lots of people have kinky fantasies that they have no interest in acting out. And that’s totally fine. But lots of people have kinky fantasies that they’re very interested in acting out. And that’s totally fine, too. If you’re in that second group, and you don’t know how to get started—or if you’ve already gotten started, and you want some ideas about how to do it better or take it further—here are some resources to help you out. Have fun!
HOTLINES
San Francisco Sex Information. A hotline and FAQ of free, confidential, accurate, non-judgmental information about sex—including, but not limited to, kinky sex and SM. They answer questions by phone and email, and have a website with answers to frequently asked questions.
WEBSITES/ONLINE RESOURCES
All right, so what is “BDSM”?
Basic Guidelines for Safer Sex and SM Interactions (PDF booklet)
BDSM Safety and Common Sense
BDSM Techniques
Beyond Whips and Chains: What Medical Students Need to Know about BDSM (PowerPoint download)
The Concise Kink Worksheet
Glossary of BDSM terms, Wikipedia
How To Have Sex On Purpose
Kink Academy
Kink Aware Professionals (resource for people who are seeking psychotherapeutic, medical, and legal professionals who are informed about the diversity of consensual, adult sexuality)
Kink Resources Directory
Kink Resources Short List
The Pervocracy (blog)
Safewords and Check-Ins
Symtoys: Games, Tutorials, Ideas, and Role-Playing Scenarios to Spice Up Your Sex Life
BOOKS
150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink, by Em and Lo
Bondage For Sex, by Chanta Rose
The Compleat Slave: Creating and Living an Erotic Dominant/Submissive Lifestyle, by Jack Rinella and Joseph W. Bean
The Compleat Spanker, by Lady Green
Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely, by William A. Henkin and Sybil Holiday
Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook, by Jay Wiseman
Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment, by Hardy Haberman
Flogging, by Joseph W. Bean
Health Care Without Shame: A Handbook for the Sexually Diverse and Their Caregivers, by Charles Moser, PhD, MD
How to Be Kinkier: More Adventures in Adult Playtime, by Morpheous
How to Be Kinky: A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM, by Morpheous
Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins and Outs of Enema Play, by M. R. Strict
Learning The Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun BDSM Lovemaking (Version 2.0), by Race Bannon
Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player, by Joseph W. Bean
The Master’s Manual: A Handbook of Erotic Dominance, by Jack Rinella
The New Bottoming Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
The New Topping Book, by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Paying For It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients, Greta Christina, editor
Play Piercing, by Deborah Addington
Playing on the Edge: Sadomasochism, Risk, and Intimacy, by Staci Newmahr
Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Navigating and Exploring the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities, by Lee Harrington and Mollena Williams
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, by Philip Miller and Molly Devon
The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, by Midori and Craig Morey
Sensuous Magic: A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples, by Patrick Califia
The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners, by Lady Green
SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude—Principles, Skills and Tools, by a grateful slave, with Guy Baldwin, M.S.
SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, by Jay Wiseman
Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes, by Two Knotty Boys and Ken Marcus
Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes: A Step-by-Step, Illustrated Guide for Tying Sensual and Decorative Rope Bondage, by Two Knotty Boys and Larry Utley
The Toybag Guide to Age Play, by Lee Harrington
The Toybag Guide to Basic Rope Bondage, by Jay Wiseman
The Toybag Guide to Canes and Caning, by Janet W. Hardy
The Toybag Guide to Clips and Clamps, by Jack Rinella
The Toybag Guide to Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies, by Jay Wiseman
The Toybag Guide to Erotic Knifeplay, by Miranda Austin and Sam Atwood
The Toybag Guide To Foot And Shoe Worship, by Midori
The Toybag Guide to High-Tech Toys, by John Warren
The Toybag Guide to Hot Wax and Temperature Play, by Spectrum
The Toybag Guide to Med
ical Play, by Tempest
The Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo, by Mollena Williams
The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge, by Tristan Taormino
Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink: Educational, Sensual, And Entertaining Essays, by Midori
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
First, last, and always: Ingrid.
Susie Bright has helped me more than I can say: not just with this book, but with the entire arc of my writing career. I cannot begin to thank her enough. But I’ll try. Thanks.
One of the downsides of being married to a writer is that you get drafted into unpaid duty as copy editor and proofreader. Many thanks, therefore, go once again to Ingrid, for her patience and good humor with this process. Reading porn for typos, grammatical errors, and continuity cannot be easy. I hope at least that it was fun.
Many thanks to David Fitzgerald, Ben Gamble, and Chris Hall, for reading early drafts of the book and giving me feedback. Even when I rejected their advice, it was extremely useful in helping me think things through. (And it’s good to know that the unicorn story worked.)
Thanks to blog readers Marcus Ranum, mythbri, irisvanderpluym, okstop, Pain Strumpet, Nentuaby, Noadi, researchtobedone, Clarisse Thorn, Ranai, Anonymous, Anonymous, and Anonymous, for their help with the resource guide. Crowsourcing rocks!
Thanks to my cover designer, Casimir Fornalski. He gets it.
Thanks to Amy and Rob Siders at 52 Novels, for their excellent work on formatting.
And last, first, and always: Ingrid.
About Greta Christina
Greta Christina has been writing about sex for over two decades, for publications including Ms., Penthouse, On Our Backs, and three volumes of Best American Erotica. She is author of Why Are You Atheists So Angry? 99 Things That Piss Off the Godless, an Amazon best-seller in the Atheism category, and is one of the most widely-read and well-respected bloggers in the atheist blogosphere. She blogs at the cleverly named Greta Christina’s Blog, which was ranked by an independent analyst as one of the Top Ten most popular atheist blogs, and her writing has appeared in numerous magazines, newspapers, and anthologies, including Salon, AlterNet, and the Chicago Sun-Times. She is editor of the Best Erotic Comics anthology series, and of Paying For It: A Guide by Sex Workers for Their Clients. She has been writing professionally since 1989, on topics including sexuality and sex-positivity, atheism and skepticism, LGBT issues, politics, culture, and whatever crosses her mind. She is on the speakers’ bureaus of the Secular Student Alliance and the Center for Inquiry. She tweets at @GretaChristina. She lives in San Francisco with her wife, Ingrid.
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