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by Chrissy Cymbala Toledo




  Over the years I have had the honor not only to participate in the Brooklyn Tabernacle’s services but to enjoy the kindness, inspiring friendship, and love of the Cymbalas. They are a unique family. I wholeheartedly commend their daughter Chrissy for her courage and desire to share her tender and difficult story. Yet, as she writes, it is not really her story—but rather God’s story. He is the Grand Weaver who knows our frayed threads that we seek to hide and unravel, which He alone is able to knit together into a beautiful tapestry as we surrender to Him. I believe you will be both touched and challenged by her deeply moving book. I truly believe it can be a life changer for many.

  DR. RAVI ZACHARIAS

  Author and speaker

  In Girl in the Song, Chrissy Cymbala Toledo engages us with a transformative truth: The purpose of God is greater than the brokenness of man. As her journey depicts, God does great things with broken pieces.

  REV. DR. SAMUEL RODRIGUEZ

  President, NHCLC/Conela Hispanic Evangelical Association

  Beautiful girl, beautiful story! I respect Chrissy’s parents, Jim and Carol, and I wholeheartedly believe in the power of prayer and good parents. I am so proud of Chrissy, and I believe that many ministers should tune in to how their kids view God and the church!

  NICKY CRUZ

  Evangelist and author of Run, Baby, Run

  An amazing tale of redemption and light breaking through darkness. Chrissy Cymbala Toledo’s story of spiritual transformation is an inspiration to us all.

  DR. ROBERT JEFFRESS

  Senior pastor, First Baptist Church, Dallas, TX

  Girl in the Song is a book for anyone who has ever yearned for true love and acceptance. As you experience the music God is writing through Chrissy’s story and yours, you’ll sense His hand on your own life and draw closer to His heart.

  LIONEL HOLLINS

  Head coach, Brooklyn Nets

  Girl in the Song offers much-needed hope and encouragement. It’s the story of what happens when God moves people to pray. It’s a story of redemption, grace, and love. Chrissy’s journey will bless you, and in the process, God may prompt you to get another copy for someone else who has lost their way.

  MICHAEL CATT

  Senior pastor, Sherwood Baptist Church, and executive producer, Sherwood Pictures

  A compelling, must-read story that will touch your heart. With beauty and vulnerability, Chrissy Cymbala Toledo shares what it means to be lost and found again, and how the power of grace can redeem any situation.

  DARLENE ZSCHECH

  Senior pastor, Hope Unlimited Church

  We all have chapters in our lives we’d rather not disclose. Everybody has to contend with his or her own personal version of a sinful heart. Everybody. Chrissy Toledo combines great courage and humble transparency in sharing her story. She offers hope to people who want to exchange theirs for a new heart from God.

  PAUL WESTPHAL

  Assistant coach, Brooklyn Nets

  In this book Chrissy Cymbala Toledo details her “run away from God” days and the faithful love of her parents. They never gave up and neither did the church! Chrissy found her way back and now she and her husband have been instrumental in helping to lead a spiritual turnaround for thousands of people. All of us find a piece of ourselves in Chrissy’s story.

  RICH WILKERSON SR.

  Lead pastor, TrinityChurch.TV, Miami, FL

  Intimate and emotionally compelling, Girl in the Song is the page-turning story of one woman’s journey to discover her true self—and the God who loved her through it all.

  DR. TONY EVANS

  Senior pastor, Oak Cliff Bible Fellowship, and president, The Urban Alternative

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  Girl in the Song: The True Story of a Young Woman Who Lost Her Way—and the Miracle That Led Her Home

  Copyright © 2015 by Chrissy Cymbala Toledo. All rights reserved.

  Cover photograph copyright © Jovana Rikalo/Stocksy.com. All rights reserved.

  Designed by Jennifer Ghionzoli

  Edited by Bonne Steffen

  Published in association with the literary agency of Ann Spangler and Company, 1415 Laurel Avenue, SE, Grand Rapids, MI 49506.

  Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture quotations are taken from the Holy Bible, King James Version.

  Scripture quotations marked NLT are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright © 1996, 2004, 2007, 2013 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

  Some names have been changed for the privacy of the individuals involved.

  Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data

  Toledo, Chrissy Cymbala.

  Girl in the song : the true story of a young woman who lost her way—and the miracle that led her home / Chrissy Cymbala Toledo.

  pages cm

  Includes bibliographical references.

  ISBN 978-1-4143-7863-3 (sc : alk. paper) 1. Toledo, Chrissy Cymbala. 2. Christian biography—United States. I. Title.

  BR1725.T58A3 2015

  277.3'083092—dc23

  [B] 2015013279

  ISBN 978-1-4964-0705-4 (ePub); ISBN 978-1-4143-8455-9 (Kindle); ISBN 978-1-4964-0706-1 (Apple)

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  Dedicated to my husband,

  a selfless man who lives to secure the blessing for others

  CONTENTS

  Foreword

  Prologue

  Chapter 1

  Chapter 2

  Chapter 3

  Chapter 4

  Chapter 5

  Chapter 6

  Chapter 7

  Chapter 8

  Chapter 9

  Chapter 10

  Chapter 11

  Chapter 12

  Chapter 13

  Chapter 14

  Chapter 15

  Chapter 16

  Chapter 17

  Chapter 18

  Chapter 19

  Chapter 20

  Chapter 21

  Chapter 22

  Chapter 23

  Chapter 24

  Chapter 25

  Chapter 26

  Chapter 27

  Chapter 28

  Message from Chrissy to You . . .

  About the Author

  Acknowledgments

  Notes

  FOREWORD

  EVERY LIFE HAS ITS SHARE OF TWISTS AND TURNS. I was a young businessman working for an airline company, newly married with my first child, when I answered the call to full-time ministry. With neither formal training nor ministry experience, my wife Carol and I took over a struggling church in downtown Brooklyn. For the next twenty years we spent our lives helping people, many of whom were ravaged by pain and bound by inner turmoil.

  How that pain surfaces in the midst of life’s emotional storms can often be ugly and difficult to deal with. Though it felt like an uphill struggle, we soon began to see remarkable breakthroughs as people’s lives were transformed by the power of Jesus. Witnessing such changes encouraged us to keep going.

  In the midst of helping others, we were taken by surprise the moment a chaotic storm engulfed our own family. Though I touched on my experience with our daughter Chrissy in my book Fresh Wind, Fresh Fire, I didn’t feel at liberty to disclose everything that occurred during those tumultuous years.

  What you are about to read is Chrissy’s story, a behind-the-scenes look at a young gir
l who was surrounded by people who loved her, yet fell prey to influences that threatened to tear her apart.

  As a pastor, I would like to encourage anyone who wonders whether there is something more to life than the latest relationship to open her heart as she reads the story Chrissy has to tell. As a father, I want to urge parents who are tempted to lose hope for a child to read Chrissy’s story before concluding there are limits to what God can do.

  Whatever your situation, whether it is hard or easy right now, I hope Girl in the Song will help you face life’s storms in ways that will bring you peace and make you strong.

  Pastor Jim Cymbala

  Brooklyn Tabernacle

  PROLOGUE

  I DIDN’T WANT TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR—I loathed the person who stared back. She was selfish and ungrateful and had blown it over and over again. Her decisions over these past years had created a deep crevasse between her and the people who loved her.

  Will there ever be peace between us again? I wondered. As I hurried to finish in the bathroom and get ready for bed, I tried to forget what had happened with my parents. There were moments when I could push it all out of my mind, but then I would be squeezed by such loneliness that I wanted to cry out.

  I was certainly grateful for one thing—I had a safe place to live, a generous offer from a dear friend. Before leaving this evening, Lorna had made sure I had everything I needed, mentioning that there was plenty of food in the kitchen. The house was so quiet without her lively personality filling the rooms.

  I lay in bed, trying to sleep, but my emotions wouldn’t let me, cresting and plunging like a roller coaster. When I finally closed my eyes, it seemed that something changed in the room, but I couldn’t say exactly what. I reopened my eyes and glanced around to my right, my left . . . and then there, at the foot of the bed, I spied something shadowy. It didn’t have a body like a person or any facial features that I could make out. Standing there in the bedroom, the shape was so much blacker than the darkness of the room that it was visible. I sensed it was looking at me.

  I didn’t know what was going to happen next. My life had once been wonderful, with so much to look forward to. How had things gone so terribly wrong?

  IT WAS 9 P.M. and I looked up at my dad as we walked down a dark, dismal block of Atlantic Avenue in Brooklyn, New York. Even at four years old, I noticed that he looked much different from most of the people we passed—Dad was clean-shaven, well dressed, with nice-smelling cologne. I was oblivious to the sadness that surrounded me.

  “Daddy, wait a minute. One of my shoes got unbuckled.”

  My dad apprehensively let my hand go but didn’t take his eyes off of me, not even for a second. I bent down over my dark blue kneesocks, smiling as I reached for my shoes. They were bright red, and they were my favorite thing, more important than any doll or toy I had. I took my time buckling the strap, admiring the shoes for just a bit too long.

  Dad gently pulled me by the hand. “Ready?”

  “Yes, Daddy, I did it myself. See?”

  We continued down the street, and I giggled as he squeezed my hand three times. It was our secret way of saying I. LOVE. YOU. I would squeeze his hand three times too. Back and forth, back and forth, we’d talk in our special code. The concrete pavement was cracked and bumpy under my feet, and I made a game out of trying not to step on the cracks.

  The rumbling sound of the subway under my red shoes was, in part, the music of the streets. A strong burst of air whooshed up through the grate as a train passed underground, blowing my fine blonde hair over my eyes. Dad gently swept my hair off my face so that I could see.

  At that moment, I caught a whiff of the odor that always made me wrinkle my nose. I didn’t know that the pungent smell was mostly from urine. I didn’t think much about why there was loose, smelly garbage on the sidewalk. I just made sure I didn’t step on anything. The sights and sounds of the city were just an indication to me that we were close . . . close to the center of my world.

  I looked across the street and saw the lady who always stood in the same place under the streetlight. She wore lots of makeup and sparkly clothes and was always talking to a man through the window of his car. When I turned to look back and saw her get into the car, I wondered, Where is she always going?

  Before I could ask my dad, someone shouted from farther down the block. I recognized his voice right away, but I couldn’t understand what he was saying.

  “Oh no, Daddy, he’s waiting for you again!”

  We continued down the street, and I pulled on Dad’s arm.

  “What do you think he wants tonight, Daddy?”

  As we got closer, I could see the man struggling to get up from the cardboard mat that was sliding underneath him.

  “Father, Father!” he shouted, his words seeming to mush together.

  He had a bottle clutched tightly in one hand while he tried to raise the other, hoping to get my dad’s attention

  Father? I thought.

  “Daddy, you’re not his father!” I exclaimed.

  He looked at me and just smiled.

  Kneeling down next to the man, Dad laughed and said, “I’m a pastor, not a priest.” Even though it wasn’t cold out, the man was shaking. Daddy talked quietly to him. “Hey, my friend, you’re not looking so good tonight.”

  Dad’s blue eyes filled with tenderness met the man’s bloodshot gaze. He reached over and touched the man’s shoulder, which I thought looked really dirty.

  “Would you come see me in the morning?”

  The man didn’t respond. Instead, he laid his head back down on his paper bag pillow, holding the empty bottle to his chest. I could see that Daddy was really sad, and it made me sad too. He was kind to everyone, especially people that others wanted to hurry by. Dad always looked at hurting people with so much love in his eyes. Maybe it was because he grew up in a home watching his own father’s hands tremble.

  “Come here, Chrissy,” Grandpa would say with his arms out, unable to keep from shaking because of his drunkenness.

  I never wanted to be near Grandpa, and I surely didn’t want to give him a hug. I cringed when he would set me on his knee, trying to still himself enough to talk to me. He would lean his face close to mine, and I would squirm and turn my head away because I didn’t like the smell of his breath.

  “Grandma, where are you?” I would call out, hoping she would come get me. But my attempt at a rescue only seemed to make Grandpa hold me tighter.

  No matter what Grandpa said or did, Grandma’s response was always caring and considerate. When he raised his voice, she would answer him quietly. Year after year, she saw beyond what things were and believed that change would come. What I didn’t know at that age was that sometimes Grandma had to call my dad in the middle of the night because Grandpa had struck her and she was hurt badly. My dad had grown up living with an abusive father and watching his mother endure through the hardest times without becoming bitter. Even though she had every reason to leave Grandpa, she never did.

  As an escape from the turmoil at home, Dad spent the majority of his days on some of the worst playgrounds in the city because that’s where the best basketball was. Playing ball in the fifties, he quickly learned how to get along with all kinds of people and ended up creating a whole new world outside of his home. Little did he know that he was being shaped to have a heart for the people in the neighborhood that his little church would be in one day.

  It looked to me as though the man on the ground had fallen asleep, so I tugged at Dad’s sleeve. He slowly stepped away and pulled keys out of his pocket. The dim light above the sign that read BROOKLYN GOSPEL TABERNACLE cast a long shadow on the sidewalk that I loved to step on. Click, click . . . the first and second locks opened and Dad switched on the light. I reached down to scoop up the scattered envelopes that had been pushed through the slot in the door.

  “I’ve got the mail, Daddy!” I said and ran up the stairs, leaving him behind.

  “I’ll turn on the lights in your offi
ce, too!” I shouted through the railing.

  Running my hands along the faded light blue walls, I inhaled the mouthwatering aroma that lingered from dinners that had been cooked that night in the apartments above our small church sanctuary. I loved those meals just as much as the ones Mom made for us. One of the tenants, Rina, was Filipino and made egg rolls, and the Ali family, who were from Trinidad, ate delicious roti stuffed with curried chicken. I reached the second floor, wondering who might be awake.

  Skipping loudly through the hallway and into Dad’s office, I was hoping someone would peek out of an apartment door and notice I was there. I flipped on the light switch, set the mail on my dad’s desk, then plopped onto the green vinyl chair against the paneled wall, noticing that my red shoes were a bit scuffed from skipping on the sidewalk.

  When Dad came in, he dropped our overnight bags on the floor and sat in his desk chair, shuffling through the pile of envelopes. For whatever reason, he always looked worried when he opened the mail. I licked my fingers and was trying to rub the scuff marks off my shoes when the picture hanging on the wall caught my attention, just as it always did.

  It was a painting of Jesus standing next to a building as tall as a skyscraper. Jesus was as big as the building and was knocking on the windows. I had talked about it several times with Dad.

  “Daddy, that looks like Jesus knocking on a building in New York.”

  “It does. Jesus really cares for the people in this city,” he said, opening one envelope after another.

  My gaze wandered from the painting to Dad. I loved him so much, and he made me feel so special when I was with him. I never wanted to be anywhere but by his side.

  “Where’s my lee-tal girl?” I heard Rina call out in her heavy Filipino accent from the apartment down the hall.

  “Rina!” I jumped up from my chair and ran out to greet her. Wrapping my arms around her hips, I hugged her tightly as she pulled me into her kitchen.

  “Come in, I will give you some snacks.” Barely five feet tall, she wore a floral print housedress and slippers, and her thick dark brown hair was tied up in a bun. As usual, her kitchen counter was filled with cookies and other treats she’d bought in Chinatown.

 

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