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Moisture. The tongue is covered by a double-layered mucous membrane, the epithelial (surface) layer of which secretes mucus to moisten your mouth and whatever you’re munching on.
It may seem a little silly to point out these characteristics until you consider just how little attention these qualities of the tongue are given. While food and wine connoisseurs give a great deal of thought to their palate — and what’s going on in the mouth — even the best of oral sex enthusiasts don’t give a second thought to what their tongue is truly experiencing beyond initial taste and texture perceptions. Yet tuning into the texture, taste, feel, and moisture components of giving and receiving oral sex can heighten the eroticism involved, putting lovers fully in tune with their sexual responses and the sex act itself. Don’t deprive yourself of experiencing oral to its fullest!
Rolls Off the Tongue
“It’s so easy to get caught up in what I’m doing, namely technique, when I provide pleasuring. But when you tune into what your tongue is experiencing, you start to notice subtleties in the action — and reactions I’m having — which makes for a richer, and tastier, experience.” —Jeff
Naked Twister Gets Naughty: Positions for Oral Sex
Naked Twister takes on totally new meaning when you approach traditional sexual positions with oral sex in mind. How you lay, stand, bend, and angle your bodies influences the sensations you deliver and how easily she can relish the sensations meant solely for her. While some positions are ideal for peak performance, others are pursued simply for the variety, for shaking up your routine, while others are meant to amp up excitement in their novelty or exotic nature. Bottom line: she’s still getting oral (and loving it) and the mere adventure of strategizing positions and building your sexual repertoire can be the components that make your next “sexchange” absolutely fantastic.
Alert
Some of these positions may require a great deal of athleticism, strength, and/or flexibility. Realize that not everyone is cut out for every sexual position. While exciting and enticing, don’t push the limits on what you or your partner is capable of, as it’s anything but sexy to wind up in the ER with an injury!
Rolls Off the Tongue
“After being in a long relationship, it’s important to mix things up so it doesn’t seem mundane and keeps things interesting. New stuff, variety, keeps the passion rolling.” —Brent
The Classic
Why couples love it: This relaxing, comfortable position offers you all access to her groin, making any penetration of her anus easy, as well, if that’s just what the doctor ordered. The classic also allows for a strong, upward stroking motion with the more textured top surface of your tongue.
Her: The classic takes a load off as she gets to lay back and relax as you go to town. Having her propped up on pillows is optional and quite ideal in helping her to visually enjoy your Oscar performance.
You: While you can kneel between your lover’s thighs, it’s easier to lie down on your stomach, your arms wrapped under her legs for better leverage, support, control, and stimulation. Another way to approach her is by lying down in a position perpendicular to her body. This position also reduces stress on your neck.
Variations:
Try raising one or both of her legs over your shoulder(s).
Bend either or both of her legs into her chest.
Prop her feet on your shoulders.
Have her legs splayed or close together.
Instead of facing her, position yourself so that you’re looking the other way.
Hold one of her legs up for easier access to her vulva and more direct clitoral stimulation.
Sit on her chest for an almost 69.
For more direct anal play, have her lift her legs completely over your head.
Scoot her to the edge of the bed so that her legs dangle over the side.
Tips:
Place a pillow under her bum for a better angle and greater comfort.
Grasp and lift her butt as you cast your spells.
Take action off the bed, trying other flat surfaces for the classic, like your back yard or sofa.
Gently push upward on her lower stomach with your hand, as this stretches her skin away from her pubic bone, heightening sensations.
Sit on her legs for a nice I’m-in-charge, pin down effect.
Encourage her to move, especially in helping you to hit the right spot.
Sit at the edge of a sofa with her lying on the floor in front of you. Now place her legs on either side of you, which forces her pelvis to tilt upward. Lean forward to enjoy.
Starfish
Why couples love it: Anything exotic is automatically sexy.
Her: Have her on her back, legs and arms spread (and perhaps gently bound to the bedposts, hmmm?).
You: You’re lying on your stomach, positioned diagonally across her body so that your head can tuck between her legs.
Tip: “Torture” her by keeping her legs spread while the action becomes more heated. Do this by pressing down on the knees or calves and playing with the back of the knees or the sexual reflexology point San-Yin-Chiao. This point, where the three energy channels intersect, is inside of the shin, approximately three inches above the anklebone and beside the shinbone. Press it to stimulate a major love point of the legs.
If you’re into it, ask her to use a free, well lubricated hand to play with your perineum or anus. Just don’t lose your concentration.
On Your Knees (a.k.a. Standing)
Why couples love it: Who doesn’t like it when somebody looks like they’re begging to attend to your every oral need?? It plays into one’s, at least occasional, desire to be dominant. For both lovers, this position is great for those after a quickie, especially in public places!
Her: She may want to lean against a firm support, like a couch or wall, not only for comfort, but for better balance as well.
You: Kneel in front of your lover, resting your knees on a pillow, cushion, or blanket so that this position isn’t too hard on your knees.
Tip: Grip her hips and bum. In pleasuring her, this helps you to dig into her vulva with a bit more force. Consider seducing her with this move the next time you undress her!
Variations:
Have her prop one of her legs up on a support for greater control as she stands.
Place one of her legs over your shoulder. (To help her maintain her balance, place an arm around her opposite thigh, supporting the small of her lower back with your hand.)
Have her face away from you and stick out her butt for better coming from behind access.
Sit between and under her legs.
She can also totally bend over to show off her full moon for even greater access.
Sitting
Why couples love it: So many sitting surfaces of various heights to choose from! Plus, it can be easier on your neck and she can open her legs W-I-D-E. She loves that she gets to see you between her legs and that it’s easy for you to practice so many strokes.
Her: She sits in the chair of choice (e.g., barstool, armchair, stool, recliner, or kitchen table chair) and is to hook her ankles around the front two legs or over the arms for easier access.
You: Her height on the chair (plus the length of your own body) will determine if you need to go at this one sitting on the floor, on your knees, squatting, or standing.
Variations: Don’t limit yourself to traditional chairs. Think anywhere anyone can sit, like your dining room table, kitchen counter, the stairs, the edge of the bed, or your car’s back seat. Up for a real challenge? Have her assume a squatting position.
Tips:
Ask her to show some appreciation for the undying hero worship by delivering a loving, killer head massage as you work away.
She can also cup the back of
your head to encourage more vigorous or deeper action when desired, if that’s guidance you’d like.
Have her sit in a swivel chair to better direct your movements.
Face-Sitting
Why couples love it: As rider, she takes charge, sliding across your tongue and mouth. This is ideal for those wanting direct oral contact with the genitals and anus. She’s going to adore it for being able to control your speed, pressure, and the angle of her pelvis, directing where she wants more stimulation. With you under her, she can also drift off into her own world, which may help her climax.
Her: She’s to straddle you, placing her knees on either side of your chest before sitting on it. To make this position as comfortable as possible, have her lean forward. Remind her that she can lower her body for more pressure or elevate herself more for less stimulation.
You: You’re on your back. You just need to move your head, mouth, and tongue, allowing yourself to get into it and letting your partner know if you’re feeling suffocated at any point. You’ll want to, however, have a key signal, like two taps on her thigh, to indicate that she’s getting carried away with any thrusting. This action is fun until you’re choking on it! While a submissive position, remember that you’re ultimately the one in charge.
Variations:
Have her hover over you instead of pulling a face plant.
Change directions, meaning have her sit the other way in riding your face, especially if you want deeper tongue penetration of the anus. If you bend your legs, she can rest against your knees for support if desired.
If she’s really flexible, as the top, she can go back into what’s known as the bridge pose in yoga, and take your penis into her mouth for an acrobatic version of 69!
If she’s tall enough, ask her to stand at the edge of the bed while sitting on your face.
She can squat instead of kneel, but this probably won’t be as comfortable and may pose the risk of her falling on you when she gets caught up in her climax.
Tips:
She can prop herself up against a wall or a bed’s headboard for more support and better balance.
You can grip her buttocks to better control the thrusts.
You can prop yourself up slightly with pillows for easier action.
Don’t try to “chase” her if she eases off your mouth or wants you to no longer focus on a particular hot spot. She’s either trying to prolong the action or needs a bit of a “breather.”
Fact
Face-sitting is not to be mistaken for a “pussy smother,” a hardcore BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadomasochism) move which seeks to deprive the submissive lover of air. Get trained in domination and S&M if you are interested, as this is not to be practiced by amateurs!
From Behind
Why couples love it: Anything rear entry is hot. Plus, you’ve got amazing access to smother yourself with her pussy.
Her: Get on all fours for your “tongue lashing.” As you get more and more turned on, let your lover know by moving your hips, rhythmically, but gently “pushing back” to get more into the action (if he isn’t into it or wants more control), he’ll grab your hips in an effort to direct.
You: Approach your lover’s genitals from behind. Point your tongue and thrust into her vagina, occasionally swirling the nerve-packed opening swiftly and firmly. If you’re up for it, and she’s into it, consider the same move with her anal opening.
Variations: You can slide under her, face under genitals. Use your forearms to lift yourself against her body. She can provide a better angle by leaning down onto her forearms.
Tips: Take advantage of the fact that you may never have such great access to the perineum, digging your tongue, knuckle, fingertip, or a sex toy firmly into this hot spot, with a massaging motion, to unleash the sexual energy housed here.
With the full exposure, given stimulation can be a bit intense, try a strong downward stroke.
Sideways
Why couples love it: There’s something about lounging around with a few nibblies.
Her: She lies down on her side. As she becomes more and more aroused, she should try rocking her body to and fro. Or, she can wrap one leg around your back to guide your rhythm, squeezing you toward her when she wants you buried in her even more.
You: Choose your angle, as some will allow for more shallow versus deeper action.
Tip: Experiment with just how far you want to part her legs, as this impacts how much you’ll have to play with.
Variations: Both of you can be on your side. Approach giving from a perpendicular angle, with your partner lying in one direction across the bed and you the other. She can also lift her top leg for a more interesting variation and all access.
Fact
Note the arch of her back. This “hysterical arch,” as it’s known, is often featured as a major and typical part of female sexual response in porn flicks. But it is not natural. This arching actually cuts off the blood flow to her pelvic area, compromising her breathing and ultimately her sexual response. A woman who is sexually excited and comfortable will have a flat back, genitals slightly tilted towards her lover’s mouth and not downward. This is made easier with a pillow or two under her neck and shoulders.
Wrap Around
Why couples love it: This oral sex position allows for full body contact like no other.
Her: All she has to do is sit on a couch.
You: Sit behind her and wrap yourself around her. Now bend yourself around the one side of her body until your mouth reaches her clitoris. You’ll ultimately end up on your side in performing oral, and will likely have to ask her to tuck her pelvis upward and pull her mons back for full clitoral exposure.
Plough Pose
Why couples love it: What can be more perfect than the meeting of zen and bliss?
Her: She’s lying on her back, then, like the yoga pose, lifts her legs up straight in the air, her hands supporting her lower back, then swings her legs over her head. She may be able to touch her toes to the floor. Alternatively, she may be able to rest her knees close to her ears. Note: This is only for physically fit and flexible people (yoga experience preferred)!
You: You’ve got more direct access than you’ve ever imagined. You can kneel, sit, or stand and bend in making her moan. Go wild!
Tip: Check in with her to make sure she can breathe easily.
Bottoms Up!
Why couples love it: Airborne genitals feel freer.
Her: She’s lying down with her legs over your shoulders.
You: Place your hands under her bum for added support.
Variations: Depending on your heights, you can try both sitting and standing while delivering.
Tips: Only attempt this if you’re strong enough.
If on your knees, be kind to yourself with a soft surface, e.g., rest on pillows.
Soixante-Neuf “69”
Why couples love it: It holds the ooo-la-la of French sex appeal.
Receiver and Giver: You are both, so either lie on your sides or decide who is the top, facing the downward and the opposite direction. If there’s a top, this person can guide the action.
Tip: Place a pillow under the bottom’s head in cases where someone is on top.
Variations: Almost 69, which is where one partner simply isn’t returning the favor.
68, where one partner lies down, face up, and the other lies the opposite way, also face up.
Standing 69
Meant for true athletes, standing 69 is more easily done moving from off of 69 on a high-standing bed. The “base” partner (all bets are that that’s you) will need to exercise incredible strength in lifting the two of you off of the bed while keeping both of you interlocked in 69. Alternatively, you can approach this version of 69 with one partner assuming headstand while the other stands, s
upporting this partner’s legs. The lover doing the headstand can then slowly be lifted so that mouths and groins meet. In either case, the partner who is upside down does best in gripping the thighs of the standing partner, while strongly squeezing his or her legs into the standing one’s sides.
Sitting or Kneeling 69
Depending on how tall you and your lover are, you may want to try the kneeling 69, where the “base” partner kneels. Whether for greater comfort or stability, sitting on the side of a bed or chair is another variation. Finally, if you have or are a super flexible partner, have your lover bend over all the way as you sit on the floor for a more from behind angle. The upside-down partner can also spread his or her legs for variation. Note: If it’s hard to have both of you pleasuring at the same time, have partners face the same direction for an advanced version of 68.
Finally, with her legs thrown over your shoulders, her arms wrapped back around your waist, you can stand with her pussy right in your face.
Fact
Don’t beat yourself up if you’re not bowled over by 69. While some find it absolutely delightful, others hold that it’s not worth the trouble, as in too many distractions, too much going on, or too much to choreograph. Plus, the best part of oral sex can be losing yourself in your own pleasuring or in her!