93 “Diana’s attitude to all”: MOS, 7/20/97
94 Diana and the boys left: B-TS, p. 107
95 numerous extravagant: SuMi, 11/2/97, 11/16/97; Mi, 7/21/97
96 “the best holiday [she’d] ever”: Sun, 1/12/98
97 Dodi was still sailing: B-TS, p. 106
98 As he sobbed quietly, she comforted: DM, Mi, 7/23/97
99 Three days later, Diana was: B-TS, p. 108; B-TB, pp. 418–19
100 stealing away with Dodi: B-TB, p. 419
101 For background music: NOTW, 12/7/97
102 “How can two people”: B-TB, p. 419
103 “It was as close to paradise”: NOTW, 12/7/97
104 “There was always [Mohamed] Fayed”: Interview with Antonia Grant
105 after receiving a tip: B-TB, p. 420; B-TS, pp. 109–10
106 DI’S SECRET HOL WITH HARRODS HUNK DODI: Sun, 8/7/97
107 “We relaxed. We had a great time”: Mi, 8/7/97
108 “I give them my blessing”: ES, 8/8/97
109 “the first man who can openly be”: DM, 8/8/97
110 “She was on the rebound”: Interview with Elsa Bowker
111 “Mr. Perfect … caring, rich”: Mi, 8/7/97
112 “Dodi is not his father”: DM, 8/8/97
113 “It’s so extraordinary that [Diana and I] don’t”: B-TS, p. 67
114 “They were each in love”: Interview with Nona Summers
115 “This was something she had never”: DM, 6/14/98
116 “his wonderful voice”: SuTel, 9/7/97
117 “I love his exotic accent”: SuMi, 11/2/97
118 “[Mohamed’s wife] Heini is an elegant lady”: Interview with Andrew Neil
CHAPTER 27
1 At the end of July, Diana had to scrap: DEx, 8/5/97
2 with William Deedes’s help: Interview with William Deedes
3 “has captured public attention”: Mi, 8/6/97
4 She created vivid images: DT, 8/10/97, 8/11/97
5 “She was impressive”: Interview with William Deedes
6 “the most sensational pictures”: SuMi, 8/10/97
7 “air of farce”: The Observer, 8/10/97
8 “film producer Dodi has even”: SuMi, 8/10/97
9 “finding herself again”: Interview with William Deedes
10 Detailed reports had already: Mi, Sun, DM, 8/9/97
11 “unique glimpse”: MOS, 8/10/97
12 “Air Dodi”: Mi, 8/14/97
13 “I would lie there in the dark”: NOTW, 8/10/97
14 Not only had Fisher: DM, Mi, Sun, 8/15/97
15 “astonishing array”: NOTW, 8/17/97
16 “gentle soul”: DM, 8/8/97
17 “ideal husband”: Sun, 8/8/97
18 “generous caring spirit”: SuMi, 8/10/97
19 “Dodi Rotten Cheat”: Mi, 8/15/97
20 “Oily Bedhopper”: Sun, 8/16/97
21 “Dodgy Dodi”: Mi, 8/18/97
22 “How about a quick dip?”: Sun, 8/12/97
23 engagement was imminent: SuMi, 8/10/97
24 “It took her a long time”: DM, 8/14/97
25 some private moments: B-TS, p. 114
26 would “meet a man”: Rogers, p. 249
27 “I’m in the Mediterranean”: Ibid.
28 “seemed to be taking in”: Ibid., pp. 251, 253
29 Two days later, Dodi went: B-TS, pp. 117–18
30 visited a sick friend: Interview with Nicky Blair
31 “He was happy the romance”: Interview with Mark Canton
32 “I am so happy we are compatible”: Sun, 1/12/98
33 “Look at this, Rosa”: SuTel, 9/7/97
34 they carried back a heap: NOTW, 12/7/97
35 “from a distinguished”: Interview with Michael Cole
36 “always wonder”: Interview with Tina Sinatra
37 the paparazzi followed: B-TB, p. 422; B-TS, p. 122
38 “The body language on the boat”: Interview with Cosima Somerset
39 “I’m welcomed with kindness”: DT, 8/27/97
40 “her most ferocious political row”: DEx, 8/28/97
41 “the Princess has made no”: Ibid.
42 Diana’s office produced: DM, 8/28/97
43 “I wrote exactly what she said”: Ibid.
44 “bitterly let down”: Ibid.
45 “The … reaction in the British”: SuTel, 2/15/98
46 “betrayal, and being misunderstood”: Ibid.
47 relayed to Fayed: B-TB, pp. 242, 246
48 stayed less than a half hour: Sun, 3/17/99
49 A Fayed employee took: B-TS, p. 130; B-TB, p. 425
50 “From Diana with love”: Interview with Michael Cole; B-TS, p. 121
51 “They were her most precious”: Interview with Elsa Bowker
52 Alberto Repossi said: DT, 4/17/98; B-TS, p. 121
53 “vulgar”: Interview with Richard Kay
54 As usual, they rode: B-TS, pp. 128, 132, 134
55 they were again thronged: Ibid., p. 134
56 Dodi became agitated: Ibid.; B-TB, p. 426
57 Shortly before midnight: B-TB, p. 138
58 “Don’t bother following”: B-TS, pp. 5–7
59 the Mercedes slammed: Ibid., pp. 8–9
60 the acting security chief: Ibid., pp. 6, 128
61 An autopsy revealed: Ibid., pp. 8, 136–38; B-TB, pp. 427–28
62 Dodi had insisted on Paul; B-TB, pp. 427–28; B-TS, p. 8
63 because their belongings were there: B-TS, pp. 126, 133
64 “seemed to get more and more”: Ibid., p. 138
65 “When you were with him, you felt”: Interview with Nona Summers
66 Mohamed Fayed insisted: B-TS, pp. 122–23
67 photographs published in The Sun: Sun, 3/17/99
68 “it has a history”: DM, 2/11/98
69 “likely”: DM, 9/1/97
70 “rapidly changed”: Interview with Richard Kay
71 “She called William about”: Interview with Elsa Bowker
72 “Don’t worry. I need another”: SuTel, 2/15/98
73 “biologically impossible”: Ibid.
74 “was obsessive about not”: DM, 2/11/98
75 “Diana’s life should not be”: SuTel, 2/15/98
76 “No one can tell me”: DT, 8/27/97
CHAPTER 28
1 “She clearly should have”: Interview with Michael Adler
2 “an enormous capacity for”: SuTel, 9/7/97
3 “She could open up at”: Interview with Cosima Somerset
4 “real” Diana … “withdrawn”: Interview with Jane Atkinson
5 “loony … basket case”: DM 11/22/95
6 “barking mad”: ITV-Doc
7 “Diana should not get help”: ST, 11/19/95
8 “could happen to anyone”: SuExp, 7/5/92
9 “In a sense, she was finished”: Interview with Michael Colborne
10 “was as unsure of herself”: DM, 9/1/97
11 “some psychotherapist or someone”: Mi, 5/8/97
12 “backlash against therapy”: ES, 5/8/97
13 neurotics may experience: B-JK, p. 9
14 narcissists tend to be: Ibid., p. 24
15 Borderline personalities feel inferior: Ibid.
16 many work as counselors: Ibid., p. 12
17 “superficially intact”: Handbook of Treatment for Eating Disorders, p. 438
18 Among other notable figures: B-JK, pp. 36, 38, 40
19 the “border” of long-recognized: Ibid., p. 5
20 Two leading American: Ibid., p. 27
21 “growing feeling”: DM, 8/20/95
22 Even the timing: DSM-IV Criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder; ICD-10 Classification of Mental and Behavioral Disorders, WHO, Geneva, 1992: F60.3 Emotionally Unstable (Borderline) Personality Disorder; B-JK, p. 63
23 “until their defense structure”: Web site for Richard J. Corelli, M.D., Stanford University
24 “estimated 2.5 per cent”: Harvard Mental Health Le
tter, 3/92
25 From fifteen to twenty-five percent: B-JK, p. 4
26 “intricately connected”: Ibid., p. 7
27 “deep feelings of unworthiness”: Tribute by Earl Spencer
28 “because of the strain”: ES, 9/6/97
29 “to the point where”: B-AP, pp. 101–2
30 A number of studies: Handbook of Treatment for Eating Disorders, p. 438
31 “self-mutilation … is the hallmark”: B-JK, p. 33
32 “If you have been rejected”: VF, 10/97
33 “to the exclusion of all else”: B-JD, p. 361
34 “who would be there for her”: B-SS, p. 37
35 “paling effect of time”: Interview with Kent Ravenscroft
36 “She had no governor”: Interview with David Puttnam
37 “cannot tolerate human inconsistencies”: B-JK, p. 10
38 “emotional hemophilia … clotting mechanism”: Ibid., p. 8
39 “Clearly on a hair trigger”: TNY, 9/15/97
40 “magical thinking”: Handbook of Treatment for Eating Disorders, p. 439
41 Antidepressants such as Prozac: Ibid., pp. 441–42
42 “a kind of ‘Third World’ ”: B-JK, p. 5
43 “Not with cards”: WP, 9/7/97
44 “Most people look at it”: Interview with Michael Colborne
Bibliography
Andersen, Christopher. The Day Diana Died. New York: William Morrow and Company, Inc., 1998.
Barry, Stephen. Royal Service: My Twelve Years as Valet to Prince Charles. London: Macmillan, 1983.
Berry, Wendy. The Housekeeper’s Diary: Charles and Diana Before the Breakup. New York: Barricade Books, Inc., 1995.
Blos, Peter. On Adolescence: A Psychoanalytic Interpretation. New York: The Free Press, 1962.
Bower, Tom. Fayed: The Unauthorized Biography. London: Macmillan, 1998.
Burnet, Alastair. In Person: The Prince and Princess of Wales. Independent Television News Limited and Michael O’Mara Books Ltd., 1985.
Campbell, Lady Colin. Diana In Private: The Princess Nobody Knew. New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 1992.
Cannadine, David. The Decline and Fall of the British Aristocracy. New York: Anchor Books, Doubleday, 1992.
Carpenter, Humphrey. Robert Runcie: The Reluctant Archbishop. London: Sceptre, 1997.
Clark, Alan. Diaries. London: Phoenix, 1994.
Clark, Colin. Younger Brother, Younger Son: A Memoir. London: HarperCollins, 1997.
Claude-Pierre, Peggy. The Secret Language of Eating Disorders. New York: Times Books, 1997.
Davies, Nicholas. Diana: The People’s Princess. Secaucus, N.J.: Carol Publishing, 1997.
Deutsch, Helen. Neuroses and Character Types: Clinical Psychoanalytic Studies. New York: International Universities Press, 1965.
Dimbleby, Jonathan. The Prince of Wales: A Biography. London: Warner Books, 1995.
Eichenbaum, Luise, and Susie Orbach. What Do Women Want: Exploding the Myth of Dependency. New York: Berkley, 1984.
Evans, Harold. Good Times, Bad Times. New York: Atheneum, 1984.
Fincher, Jayne. Diana: Portrait of a Princess. New York: Simon & Schuster/Callaway Editions, 1998.
Garner, David M., Ph.D., and Paul E. Garfinkel, M.D. Handbook of Treatment for Eating Disorders: Second Edition. New York: The Guilford Press, 1997.
Goleman, Daniel. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books, 1997.
Holden, Anthony. Charles: A Biography. London: Fontana/Collins, 1989.
———. Charles: A Biography. London: Bantam Press, 1998.
———. Diana: Her Life & Her Legacy. New York: Random House, 1997.
Junor, Penny. Diana Princess of Wales: A Biography. London: Sidgwick & Jackson, Ltd., 1982.
———. Charles: Victim or Villain? London: HarperCollins, 1998.
Keay, Douglas. Royal Pursuit: The Palace, the Press and the People. London: Severn House, 1983.
Kreisman, Jerold J., M.D., and Hal Straus. I Hate You—Don’t Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality. New York: Avon Books, 1991.
MacArthur, Brian, ed. Requiem: Diana, Princess of Wales 1961–1997: Memories and Tributes. London: Pavilion Books Ltd., 1997.
Morrow, Ann. Princess. London: Chapmans Publishers, 1991.
Morton, Andrew. Diana: Her True Story—In Her Own Words. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997.
———. Diana: Her New Life. London: Michael O’Mara Books, Ltd., 1995.
Neil, Andrew. Full Disclosure. London: Pan Books, 1997.
Orbach, Susie. Fat Is a Feminist Issue: The Self-Help Guide for Compulsive Eaters. London: Arrow, 1986.
———. Hunger Strike. London: Penguin Books, 1993.
Paglia, Camille. Vamps & Tramps. New York: Vintage Books, 1994.
Pasternak, Anna. Princess in Love. London: Signet, 1995.
Rhys, Ernest, ed. Memoirs of Jean Francois Paul de Gondi, Cardinal de Retz, Vol. One. London: J. M. Dent & Sons, Ltd., 1943.
Robertson, Mary, The Diana I Knew: The Story of My Son’s Nanny Who Became the Princess of Wales. London: Judy Piatkus (Publishers) Ltd., 1998.
Robson, Kenneth, M.D., ed. The Borderline Child: Approaches to Etiology, Diagnosis, and Treatment. New York: McGraw-Hill Book Company, 1983.
Rogers, Rita, with Natasha Garnett. From One World to Another. London: Pan Books, 1998.
Rose, Kenneth. King George V. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1984.
Sancton, Thomas, and Scott MacLeod. Death of a Princess: An Investigation. London: Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 1998.
Saunders, Mark, and Glenn Harvey. Dicing with Di: The Amazing Adventures of Britain’s Royal Chasers. London: Blake, 1996.
Simmons, Simone, with Susan Hill. Diana: The Secret Years. London: Michael O’Mara Books Ltd., 1998.
Spencer, Charles. Althorp: The Story of an English House. London: Viking, 1998.
Spoto, Donald. The Decline and Fall of the House of Windsor. New York: Pocket Books, 1996.
Strong, Roy. The Roy Strong Diaries: 1967–1987. London: Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 1997.
Taylor, S. J. Shock! Horror! The Tabloids in Action. London: Black Swan Books, 1992.
Thornton, Penny. With Love from Diana. New York: Pocket Books, 1995.
Viorst, Judith. Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies, and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow. New York: Fawcett Columbine, 1996.
Whitaker, James. Diana vs. Charles: Royal Blood Feud. London: Signet, 1993.
Wyatt, Woodrow. The Journals of Woodrow Wyatt. London: Macmillan, 1998.
York, Duchess of, Sarah, with Jeff Coplon. My Story. London: Pocket Books, 1997.
FOR JOAN AND BERNIE
Acknowledgments
This book began with a phone call from Peter Bernstein, then the publisher of Times Books at Random House, two days after the death of Diana, Princess of Wales. His hope, he said, was that I could “pull it all together” and write a “dignified analysis” that would “put her life in perspective.” We agreed that it was vital that I finish the book before the mythology of Diana became so deeply rooted that even her friends would have trouble recalling her with clarity and perspective.
Achieving this goal kept me on a grueling course of travel, research, and writing. I shuttled back and forth between Washington and London—all told, I logged some four months in England—and at home I spent so much time in my study that I might as well have been abroad. My schedule required the loving patience of my husband, Stephen, and my three children, Kirk, Lisa, and David. I am deeply grateful to Gladys Campbell for overseeing the household whenever I was away, and to Carmel Park for doing the same when I was sequestered in my office. I am also indebted to my thoughtful neighbors, John and Annie Carter, and Robert and Maralyn Marsteller, for a hundred favors, big and small.
I owe enormous thanks to my dear friends Joan and Bernie Carl, for their boundless hospitality during my trips to London. Along with their lovely children, Alex, Andrew, and Jennifer, they
embraced me as if I were a member of their family. I was cared for—make that hopelessly spoiled—by the rest of “Team Carl”: Barry Crick, Britta Fahnemann, Colin Shanley, Tony Stephens, and Dulia Vieira. For their generosity, their friendship, their thoughtfulness, their warmth, and their laughter, I have dedicated this book to Joan and Bernie, with deep affection and gratitude.
Other friends helped keep me afloat with their ideas and encouragement. Maureen Orth, Sally Quinn, Martha Sherrill, and Marjorie Williams were invaluable sounding boards, by phone, over lunch, during long walks, and by e-mail. I’m indebted as well to Jill Abramson, Elizabeth Becker, Amy Bernstein, Tom Brokaw, Gahl Burt, Bob Colacello, Stefania Conrad, Frank Digiacomo, Dominick Dunne, Desmond Gorges, Jean Graham, Gale Hayman, Reinaldo Herrera, Jane Hitchcock, George Hodgman, Cathy Horyn, Ellen James, Jon Katz, Kim Masters, Mike and Sandy Meehan, Alyne Massey, Virginia Merriman, Howard and Susie Morgan, Sylvia Morris, Jill Scharff, Marilyn Schwartz, Wendy Stark, Evan Thomas, and Susan Watters for their suggestions about sources and lines of inquiry. In England I was fortunate to have the guidance of numerous friends and colleagues, including Ivo and Rachel Dawnay, Jane Harari, Warren Hoge, Annie and Patrick Holcroft, David Hooper, Anthony Holden, Anthony Lejeune, Suzanne Lobel, Grant Manheim, Stryker McGuire, Peter McKay, Linda Mortimer, Henry Porter, Carla Powell, William Shawcross, and Sally Taylor. As he has been in the past, Hugo Vickers was generous with his encyclopedic knowledge of the English upper class and the royal family.
Nearly 150 people agreed to be interviewed, and to some seventy who asked not to be named, I give my thanks for their time as well as their indispensable contributions. Those who spoke for the record offered equally important insights and information, for which I am endlessly thankful:
Richard Addis, Dr. Michael Adler, Violet Allen, Bruce Anderson, Jane Atkinson, Laurie Barrington, Peter Bart, Ross Benson, Carl Blade, Nicky Blair, Elsa Bowker, Paul Burrell, Timothy Burrill, Mark Canton, Graydon Carter, Felicity Clark, Michael Colborne, Michael Cole, Major Tim Coles, Bill Condon, Bob Daley, Hugh Davies, William Deedes, Nigel Dempster, Roberto Devorik, Sue Douglas, Deidre Fernand, Fiona Fraser, Johnny Gold, Corinna Gordon, Larry Gordon, Antonia Grant, Suzanne Gregard, Philippe Gudin, Robert Hardman, Jim Hart, William Haseltine, Nicholas Haslam, Max Hastings, Marie Helvin, Stuart Higgins, Christopher Hitchens, Anthony Holden, Mark Hollingsworth, Richard Ingrams, Paul Johnson, Penny Junor, Richard Kay, Andrew Knight, Sandy Lieberson, Marguerite Littman, Mark Lloyd, Jack Martin, Charlie Matthau, Mike Medavoy, Peter McKay, Piers Morgan, Charles Moore, Andrew Morton, Andrew Neil, Bruce Nelson, Farhad Novian, Clive Parsons, Melissa Prophet, David Puttnam, Anna Quindlen, Gail Rebuck, William Reilly, Annie Renwick, John Richardson, Peter Riva, Andrew Roberts, Vivienne Schuster, Nelson Shanks, Tina Sinatra, Cosima Somerset, Robert Spencer, Jim Stevenson, Nona Summers, James Tenner, Taki Theodoracopulos, John Tigrett, Jerry Tokofsky, Barbara Walters, Jack Weiner, Jerry Weintraub, James Whitaker, Michael White, and Fred Zolo.
Diana in Search of Herself Page 61