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WHY DID YOU DO IT? WHY DID YOU GO PUBLIC? AFTER ALL THIS TIME?
There’s a ton of judgment and ridicule against people for things they cannot control. Deformities, medical abnormalities, mental conditions and a variety of other handicaps. There are tons of people who have to keep something secret because if anyone knew, it would change their life, and not always for the better. There are people who live in fear of what others may think. Someone needed to tap the fishbowl of the world and get everyone’s attention. I thought, you know? I can get their attention, and manage it in a way that will keep me safe. I can get their attention and try to make a positive difference.
I can’t tell you how many fantastic comments, messages and notes I’ve gotten since my Reddit AMA. People who said things as small as “You made me laugh, thank you.” To “You made me feel like I could go another day.” And “I feel better knowing you are alive in the world right now.” Some of it was detailed and 90% of those messages had very little to do with my body and more to do with my attitude and thoughts on things. I made people feel better, I made someone rethink something, I made it easier for someone to come out. I reached someone who felt no one else could understand them.
THOSE are the reasons I did what I did.
More Fun on Tumblr
Some of the funniest questions and reactions have come from my Tumblr followers. All the questions/comments included were given permission for public viewing by the user. Here are some of my favorite questions and my answers:
nplnpr asked: Do you keep a list of people you have fucked with the right dick and another list with the names of people you have fucked with the left dick?
Me: No, I’m trying to SAVE the trees here.
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wolfayal asked: Hey DDD. I tried to shoot you a tweet a few days ago, but that was before I knew twitter ate it. Anyway I just wanted to say that I really loved the AMA and your whole attitude to everything. Thank you for being confident enough to share with the world. I'm a transman and while I'd be happy to have even -one- cock, let alone two, reading about you has given me hope that one day I'll be able to have one without surgery. Thank you again and just keep on being you!
Me: Thank you for the kind words. Soldier on my good man! You’re unique and handsome! xo DDD
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curtisellis89 asked: You said you're in a polyamerous relationship. I was wondering do all three of you guys live together? And how long have you guys been a trio? My partner and I tried a poly relationship but it just didn't work for us. I think it was because who we tried it with. Anyways I was just curious.
Me: We do share living space. The rule from the beginning was/is communication. No matter what, always communicate. Some people aren’t cut-out for it and shouldn’t try it. We three have done pretty well for a while now. Only time will tell though. As a rule we don’t treat it like a concrete situation and are mindful that it could change at any time. We’re currently happy but don’t blindly believe it could always be that way. People change and we admit anything is possible. It keeps things going smoothly.
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royibex asked: This isn't a question. I personally want to think you for coming forward and the fact that you own and embrace your uniqueness is utterly amazing and very inspirational for others that have been dealing with their own body "issues" I personally don't have anything that let's me stand apart but I do with patients dealing with psoriasis and I know how they struggle having to explain things to people they might encounter. So thank you for being you!
Me: Thank you. It’s one of the main reasons I decided to do this. :)
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cerolobo asked: Where are you from?
Me: Krypton. ;)
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mancunts asked: Okay, not a question, but I just wanted to comment on your level of maturity in dealing with this sensitive and understandably deeply personal issue. You are to be commended. And thank you for sharing this portion of your life with us. Maybe this will help others with body issues to learn to love and accept themselves for what they are. I wish nothing but the best for you and your lovers.
Me: Thank you! That’s really what I hope the end result will be of all of this. Acceptance, compassion and self confidence for everyone.
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nsaria05 asked: I'm fascinated by how casual you are about fisting, most guys flip out about it. First of all, what made you realize that that was a good thing for you, and second you've stated that you can take a double fist but how deep can you go?
Me: People get freaked out for two reasons usually. 1. They are afraid of what others will think. 2. They don’t understand the act it’s self.
I can’t remember how much of it I covered in my FAQ, but ultimately it began because of mandatory prostate stimulation to relieve build up of excess seminal fluids. My body doesn’t recycle/absorb the fluid as fast as the average guy and my prostate is massive by comparison to the average guy. So to relieve swelling manual massage is required from time to time. What started as a finger, turned into two, then after a while, an entire hand and so forth. ;)
I can take two fists up to around the elbow. I’ve had 3 to 4 hands in my ass just around the wrist.
Really what everyone should get out of this (besides the obvious) is that you shouldn’t be concerned about what other people think about you or what makes you happy. You may not like it or find it appealing but that’s no excuse to be rude or ignorant about it.
Thanks for asking. :) DDD
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Anonymous: Did you ever meet James Franco? If so, did you two fuck?
Me: No I did not meet up with James. However I did get some 'intel' through the grapevine that he saw my AMA and was flattered about my attraction towards him. I will say this, if I had met up with James and we had fucked and he had told me not to tell anyone, I'd honor his request. ;)
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Anonymous: What was it like when Kevin Smith and Jason Mewes talked about you? Did you freak out?
Me: I was fan-girling like a bitch. Seriously, Kevin Smith is amazing and Jason Mews is so hot. It was exciting.
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Anonymous: How does it feel knowing a lot of celebrities have seen your dicks?
Me: Kind of funny I guess. Back when it all happened my significant others started listing off celebs they were betting had seen and it was making my head spin.
Notes From DDD
One of the things I took time to do back in January of 2014 was hand write inspirational notes and post them for my followers on Twitter. After a while I felt like the effort wasn't appreciated so I stopped. Here are the few I did post, in text form.
Embrace yourself.
Wrap your arms around yourself and squeeze.
If you feel better, you did it right.
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If you let someone steal your happiness,
then you are an accessory before the fact.
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Opinions, worded carefully can mimic facts.
Don't confuse the two.
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When life gives you two cocks...
make protein shakes!
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Tired of being alone?
Ask yourself this:
Are you being the person,
that the person that's right for you,
wants to be with?
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True beauty can only be seen with the heart.
Close your eyes and be inspired.
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Always remember, you are special.
No matter what they say.
In Closing...
So there you have it, my life so far. I'm sure it's not nearly as interesting as you might have hoped. Unfortunately because of privacy issues a lot had to be edited out. If I was openly/public about my condition there would likely be more in this book. But now that we're at the end I find myself trying to imagine the thoughts running through your head.
Why did he write it?
What is
he hoping to accomplish with it?
I can tell you I decided to write this when I saw how many people really were impacted by my presence on the Internet. It was the last thing I expected. Sure I figured there would be the obligatory gawking and linking and sharing of my photos. I knew some people would be curious about it all. I had no idea though that after the fact people would still care. I began my Reddit on Jan 1st 2014 and as of this writing there are only a few more days left in 2014. Nearly a year has passed and every day I still get messages from people. Besides the requests to hook-up or go out on a date, there are so many messages from people who feel connected to me some how. Either emotionally because of something I said, or just because I made them laugh.
The point, now that I am at the end of the book, has become clear. I wanted to put more of a voice to the man with two dicks. I've shared photos on my Tumblr and Twitter pages, my notes from DoubleDickDude, featured earlier in the book were tidbits from my heart and soul. The fact is we are all special, even if you don't have two dicks, or just two boobs, or one pussy; you're special. You're as special as I am, we're all equally special. We have to remember that when the day is over, and we're falling asleep, we're all human. We all have hopes and dreams. We all aspire to something. We all have feelings. While I may have two dicks, I have feelings just like any guy with one dick. I worry about a lot of the same things and I'm no better because of my body. Regardless of my muscles, my dicks etc, I am just unusual. We all have things that set us apart but under it all there are more things that make us similar. So after you've finished reading this, you might glance at a guy here and there with a large bulge or maybe even two bulges and wonder if he is DoubleDickDude. You might see me, walking down a busy sidewalk, in a crowded subway car, on the beach or on a plane. Or you may never ever see me. The point is, I exist, you exist, we all exist and we're all in this together, let's try to make it a little easier on everyone and remember to be kind.
Take care my friend, and like Superman told Lois...
I'm always around. ;)
DDD
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