A year and a half earlier, the family and its advisers sat down at Joseph Kennedy’s dining-room table in his Palm Beach estate and, over a lunch of roast turkey and stuffing, decided that Jack would run for highest office. (Joan, who had just one sibling, once wondered aloud, “Why is it that large families always make big decisions while eating lots of food?”) It was then that Ted abandoned any long-range goals for himself, at least for the foreseeable future. Though he had graduated from Harvard, had received his law degree from the University of Virginia Law School, and had been admitted to the Massachusetts bar, he and his father decided that he would not practice law. Rather, he would devote himself to active political work on behalf of his brother’s presidential campaign. A month after their daughter Kara was born, a still-weak Joan joined Ted on the campaign trail, probably not because she wanted to but because she had no choice. Still recovering from a difficult pregnancy, she couldn’t possibly have found the idea of dragging herself and her infant from one state to the next the least bit appealing. In fact, she would confide to certain friends of hers that she thought it was “unfair of the family to expect me to go.” Joan didn’t last very long on the campaign trail with Ted—and then, later, with Ethel—but certainly not for lack of trying.
The election of John Kennedy was an exciting milestone for the family, and of course, Joan joined in their enthusiasm. However, she must have had certain reservations. From the day she became engaged to Ted, her life was not her own. He and his family had overpowered her, from dictating the kind of wedding she would have to deciding where she would live—and that was before Jack had become President. Now that he had won the election and the family was even more influential, the Kennedys had more ambitious plans for Ted. So what would the future hold for her and her family? As she later put it, “I wondered if I would ever be who I really wanted to be, who I was inside, or would I have to conform in some unnatural way. With that family, I found out fast that if you didn’t join in… you were just left out.”
Jackie…
Out in the distant vista of space and sea, Joan saw a slender female figure standing on the beach, facing the rolling ocean. Long arms wrapped around herself and slim shoulders hunched forward, she appeared to be trying to keep the Nantucket Sound chill at bay. It was Joan’s thirty-one-year-old sister-in-law, Jacqueline Bouvier Kennedy.
Wearing a beige raincoat, flat-heeled walking shoes, and a scarf around her hair, Jackie, too, had slipped away while the others played touch football. She rarely, if ever, participated in such family rough-housing. Luckily for her, she was nearly eight months pregnant and not expected to play sports, even by the always competitive, game-loving Kennedys. “She seemed completely dazed as people kept coming over to her to congratulate her, to talk about what had happened, to just share in the joy of it all,” recalls Jacques Lowe, the family’s photographer, who documented official as well as candid moments on that day. “It was too much to take. She needed to get away.”
Jackie Kennedy was the kind of woman who lived her life fully, getting as much from each day’s experiences as possible and savoring every moment along the way. While being the wife of a senator had obviously afforded her a certain amount of respect and prestige in which she had delighted, becoming the country’s First Lady promised an even headier adventure. However, Jackie was known for her paradoxical personality. As would later become well known, she enjoyed recognition yet abhorred publicity. While she savored her celebrity, she expected her privacy and that of her family to be respected. True, she enjoyed money, power, and status, but she placed equal importance on practical female concerns of the day, such as raising her family and being a good wife.
By this time, November 1960, Jackie had one child, two-year-old Caroline, That morning, she prompted the tot to greet her father at breakfast by saying “Good morning, Mr. President.” In seventeen days, Jackie would give premature birth to a boy at Georgetown University Hospital, John Fitzgerald Kennedy, Jr., nicknamed “John-John” by the press. The baby would be so sickly at birth, it would be thought that he wouldn’t survive. However, in time, he would grow to be strong and healthy, like most Kennedy stock. Just after his birth, Jackie would move from her home in Georgetown to a new one in Washington, the White House.
Jackie’s greatest concern about becoming First Lady had to do with the scrutiny her new position was sure to guarantee her and her family. She had become aware of her duty to be accessible to the press—or at least appear to be that way—early on in her husband’s campaign. When she watched Jack’s historic debate against his opponent, Richard Nixon, on television in her Hyannis Port living room, she was joined by twenty-five reporters and photographers. They sat with her and took note of her every “oooh” and “aaah,” in the hope of divining her opinion of his performance. “It was so dreary,” she later recalled, using a favorite phrase.
Meeting with some of the female members of the Washington press corps in her Georgetown home was undoubtedly another memorable event for Jackie. A few had intimated that if she didn’t invite them to her home, they might not be kind to Jack in their reporting. Jackie probably knew that once they had a chance to become more familiar with her, they would become allies. However, the prospect of their trooping through her private residence must have been repugnant to her. Like her sister-in-law, Joan, Jackie was obviously not happy doing things she didn’t want to do, just to benefit her husband’s political future, but for Jack and his family she would often be asked to subordinate her own desires. So Jackie had some of the more important female reporters over for tea and, true to form, proceeded to dazzle each one of them.
The media’s euphoria about Jackie would not last long. Soon the press would be criticizing everything she did, from how much money she spent on clothing to how much time she spent away from the White House. Throughout her life she would engage in a love-hate relationship with the press, seemingly reveling in the fact that everywhere she went she was recognized and photographed, yet also acting as if she detested the attention, never revealing more of herself than absolutely necessary. After Jack was elected, Bess Truman said of Jackie, “I think she will be a perfect First Lady. But she drops a curtain in front of you. No one will ever get to know her.” When Jackie brought her new German Shepherd puppy, Clipper, on a flight from Hyannis Port to Washington, a journalist sent her a note asking what she intended to feed the dog. She responded with one word: “Reporters.”
The salty air and crisp breeze of the southern Cape had always seemed to invigorate Jackie Kennedy on her solitary walks along the beach during times of confusion. It was one of the few things she had in common with the other Kennedys—and one other Kennedy wife. Joan finally caught up with her sister-in-law. Sharing a smile, the two women walked together along the shore.
Ethel…
Bobby Kennedy cocked back his arm and sent a pass sailing off to his athletic wife, Ethel, “I’ve got it. I’ve got it,” she hollered as she positioned herself right under the dropping football. Ethel’s prowess in sports had always been a marvel. After catching the ball gracefully, she let out a loud “Yes sir, kiddo!” and then spiked it to the sand. She began jumping about, arms raised to the sky, hands shaking in the air, in her own victory dance. Certainly few were filled with more joy on this chilly November election day than Ethel Kennedy. If she had a care in the world, it wasn’t obvious.
Not really a contemplative woman, Ethel Skakel Kennedy seemed always eager to meet her destiny head-on. She experienced life for all it was worth, much like Jackie. However, whereas Jackie (and, to a certain extent, Joan) needed meditative moments to analyze her problems, sort out inner turmoil, and then determine productive courses of action, Ethel surrendered all responsibility for her life to God. It was easier for her to handle unexpected circumstances that way, she had said, and it worked for her.
Thirty-one-year-old Ethel’s brood already numbered seven: Kathleen Hartington, Joseph Patrick, Robert Francis, Jr., David Anthony, Mary Courtney, Michael LeMoyne,
and Mary Kerry (two girls named Mary!), all born in the last eight years.
Ethel and Bobby lived in a rambling two-story home in a McLean, Virginia, estate known as Hickory Hill. The white-brick Georgian manor—which was once the Civil War headquarters of Union General George B. McClellan and now included stables, orchards, and a swimming pool—was always filled with children, friends, family, business associates, and anyone else who happened by. Ethel loved to entertain. Jackie and Jack had lived at Hickory Hill first; it was rumored that Joseph had given the six-acre estate to them as a gift, but Jack had actually purchased it himself. Jackie had planned to raise her children there; however, when she had a stillbirth in 1956, she no longer wanted anything to do with Hickory Hill. So after Jack lost a bid for the vice-presidential nomination in 1956, the couple moved back to Georgetown. Meanwhile, Ethel and Bobby bought Hickory Hill.
Ethel was complex. She could be as critical as she could be accepting, as heartless as she could be generous, as wicked as she could be loving. Moreover, even though the Kennedys were known to be competitive (and not only with outsiders but also against each other), her aggressive nature was a source of amazement even to family members. Jackie liked to say, “Ethel loves politics so much, I think she could be the first female president, and then, God help us all.”
Whereas Jackie and Joan worried about the encroachment into their personal lives that would result from Jack’s election—not only from outsiders, but also from the family itself—Ethel had no such concerns. She actually seemed to enjoy the intrusion. The more chaos in her life, the better; it seemed to make her feel involved, a part of important things. She would do whatever she had to do in the name of “Kennedy” because family loyalty was paramount to her. Hers was no ordinary family, either. The Kennedys held an important station in life, were influential in government, and had, as they say, “friends in high places.” She once explained, “Whatever my problems were, they didn’t matter. In the bigger picture, we were doing great things for the nation. How dare I complain about a lack of privacy?”
If she had to host reporters for lunch, Ethel would lie awake the night before—not fretting the occasion, as Jackie or Joan would have done, but anticipating every moment, anxious to do her best to represent her husband and his family in the best possible light. She would be sure to know the right meal to serve, the perfect outfit to wear, the appropriate thing to say. In the end, the success of the event would be not only a victory for the family but a personal one as well, giving her a sense of purpose and accomplishment.
In fact, the preceding evening, at just before midnight, Ethel Kennedy was in her bedroom, dressed in brightly patterned wool slacks, holding an impromptu press conference with reporters from Time and Life magazines. The journalists had been staying in Rose and Joseph’s servants’ quarters for the last couple of nights.
“Are you happy, Ethel?” one writer asked her.
“Oh, I sure am,” she answered enthusiastically. “It’s terrific. This is the day we’ve been waiting for, the happiest day of our lives.” After a few more questions, Ethel told the press to “go on downstairs and get some food. Go ahead, help yourself.” She loved the press, and in return, the reporters loved her.
As far as her father-in-law’s dictates were concerned, Ethel would gladly live where he wanted her to live, say what he wanted her to say, and do what he wanted her to do—not grudgingly, but willingly. It all seemed a joy to Ethel. It wasn’t that she lacked an identity; she was a Kennedy wife, she was proud of it, and that was her identity. Though she had been up late the night before with the family, that didn’t stop her from doing her duty and rising at 6:30 A.M. to fix a breakfast of ham and eggs, rolls, and coffee for the eleven guests staying at her home. “The maids are all out,” she explained, as her visitors devoured the meal. “So I did the best I could.”
“You know, in November [1962], I think Bobby may run for governor of Massachusetts,” Ethel had told Jackie a couple of weeks earlier at a family dinner. “If he does, he’s bound to win. Then after that, it’ll be one step at a time, until we’re in the White House.”
“Does Bobby know of these plans?” Jackie asked her sister-in-law. Jackie had been given to understand that he would become Jack’s Attorney General. After all, Bobby had devoted the better part of recent years to his brother’s campaigns and had been the skilled manager of his presidential run. A tireless worker, he gave uninterrupted eighteen-hour days to Jack’s race, so much so that Ethel was concerned he would have a breakdown. Throughout the night before, Bobby sat in front of the television screen, his eyes red-rimmed and hollow, monitoring the returns, while everyone else—even Jack—went to bed.
Ethel answered Jackie’s question: “Bobby and I discuss everything,” she said. “You see, we happen to be close that way. It’s nice, that kind of closeness in a relationship.”
Ethel’s probable implication was that Jackie had no influence over her husband’s plans, whereas Ethel mapped out every one of Bobby’s career moves in tandem with him. “Well,” Jackie responded, “hopefully you will also discuss any plans with Grandpa [Joseph]. Because, as you and I both know, he’s the one who will have his way in the end. Not you. Not Bobby, Grandpa.”
… and the Secret Service
Like all of those in the Kennedy family, Jackie, Joan, and even, to a certain extent, Ethel treasured the privacy of their family lives—what little privacy they had while living in the public eye. However, the entire family realized that the spotlight was about to intensify, now that their beloved Jack was the nation’s Chief Executive.
Already the family compound of homes was surrounded by not only reporters but also the Secret Service agents responsible for John Kennedy’s security and for that of his family. Sixteen of these dark-suited, officious-looking men had arrived at seven that morning with full knowledge of the backgrounds of not only family members but their employees as well. Each agent walked about the compound greeting people as if already having made their acquaintance when actually—at least in most cases—no introductions had been made before this day.
Like all First Ladies, Jackie would be assigned her own Secret Service agent, Clinton (Clint) J. Hill, who would be at her side whenever she ventured forth, whether in this country or abroad. In time, just by virtue of their constant association, “Dazzle” (his Secret Service code name) would come to share a special friendship with “Lace” (Jackie’s code name). Still, it was typical of Jackie’s sense of formality that she would always refer to him as “Mr. Hill.” She also made certain that her children addressed the agents responsible for their well-being in the same fashion.
Clint Hill recalls, “When you’re with the wife of the President, you’re pretty much on your own, without a lot of other Secret Service support. You become close, as Mrs. Kennedy and I did. It was really an invasion of privacy for her. She lost her freedom. If a woman hasn’t been in a position that required great security prior, which she had not, it’s something that is very new and causes problems for her. She hated it.”
As Jackie and Joan continued their walk along the sandy Cape Cod shore, according to what Joan later told friends, they talked about the future. “I wonder what will happen to us now,” Jackie said. “What will happen to our children? Will we ever have any privacy again?”
Just as Jackie was posing her question regarding privacy, Joan turned around to find three Secret Service agents running toward her. In seconds, one of the men caught up to her and Jackie. Wearing a dark business suit, thin black tie, and black hat, he must have looked out of place on the beach with his walkie-talkie. “Maybe you should both go back to the Big House,” he suggested, using the family’s name for Rose and Joseph’s home. Clearly, he didn’t like idea of the two of them walking along the beach alone. “You do have a press conference soon. Just a reminder…”
“Well, there you have it,” Joan said to Jackie. “Does that answer your question?”
“Oh, how dreary,” Jackie responded. “I’ll tell you
one thing: I will not be followed by these men for the next four years. I refuse to allow it.”
Jackie turned to face Clint Hill. “I refuse,” she repeated.
Ignoring the agent’s request, the two young women continued their walk in the bracing, sea-charged air—with the three identically dressed Secret Service men trailing close enough behind to hear their conversation.
“So what do you think about Ted’s plans?” Jackie asked Joan.
Unlike Ethel, Joan barely had a clue what her husband—and his father—had in mind for the future. She knew that Ted was being groomed to run for Jack’s senatorial seat in 1962, but she could provide no details. He mentioned something about leaving for Europe soon for a six-week fact-finding tour with a Senate Foreign Relations Committee unit. However, all Joan knew about that trip was that she would not be accompanying him. (Upon his return, Ted would end up taking a job as a dollar-a-year assistant district attorney of Suffolk County in Massachusetts while he prepared for his senatorial campaign.) There would always be a marked difference between the wives in terms of how they related to their husbands, and nowhere was it more evident than in Joan’s ignorance of her husband’s plans. Contrary to what Ethel liked to believe, Jack always discussed his future intentions with Jackie, just as much as his brother, Bobby, did with Ethel. Not so with Joan and Ted.
“Ted doesn’t tell me anything,” Joan said as she and Jackie walked along. “Usually I get my information through the grapevine. And when I ask him about it, he treats me as if I wouldn’t understand what he was talking about.” Jackie merely shook her head. If Joan had asked for advice, Jackie would perhaps have given her some. She didn’t ask, however, so Jackie didn’t offer.
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