I regularly fantasise about sexually dominating a younger man, someone who wants to be sexually dominated and enjoys being on the receiving end of anal sex. I also fantasise about two men having sex with each other. I married a young-looking man – though he's only two years younger than me, he's still got a baby face – so I suppose I've always had a thing for young guys. I'm nearing forty and I find myself looking more and more at men in their twenties and even as young as eighteen. I don't know what it is about younger men, but the sight of a half-dressed or nude young man immediately sends a jolt of electricity through me. I'm not talking tall muscular studs either. I want someone young, slim, about my height, someone that I could just eat alive. I imagine what it would be like to put a collar around this young man's neck and make him mine, to have him on his hands and knees in front of me, begging for my touch, either for pleasure or punishment. In some of these fantasies, I'm wearing a strap-on and my submissive toy-boy is eager to suck on it and then bend over while I push into him. Sometimes I fantasise that I have two young men and they make love to each other while I watch, and occasionally I fantasise that I am a man myself, making love to another man. These fantasies bring out the bad girl in me like nothing else does. For me, though, it's only a fantasy, and I fulfil it as much as I need to through writing and art. In real life, I'm very content to be in a monogamous relationship. The sex in my fantasies may be hot, but nothing beats a husband who helps around the house, cooks dinner and takes the kids off my hands at the weekends so I can catch a little extra sleep in the mornings.
Jack, age 25
Bisexual
Single, occasionally sexually active
No children
Bachelor's degree
Occupation unknown
Canada
I'm into gender-bending, whether it be cross-dressing or accentuating your actual gender through use of opposite gender conceits (i.e., the girl in the suit becoming more femin ine) or roles. Gender play is lovely. I'm a member of the local BDSM community, and a certain level of skill with your swinging hand is sure to be a turn-on! The one I can't describe that really gets me is just a certain attitude that some people have, a sense of competence and mastery. I'm further developed as a lover of all things to do with the bum: anal sex, rimming, enemas, spanking and just showing it off at play parties.
My current fantasy is of a burgeoning threesome relationship, two guys and a girl, wherein the girl is fascinated by the dynamic between the two men. She's had sex with both of them, but she's never seen anal sex before watching them together, and she's never seen the bottom submit that way because, with her, he's always been the top. She's seen him masterful and in control of her orgasm, but never whimpering for his own. She decides that she wants to learn how to get him to submit to her like that.
First, she has him introduce her to anal sex, culminating in a lovely vaginal-anal double penetration. But then she turns the tables. She secretly buys a strap-on, and she starts to take control: first with fingers, which he hadn't expected and is incredibly turned on by, and then she pulls out her new toy and he's really impressed. She gets just the reaction she was hoping for, him giving it up to her. Later she does it with the third man as the audience. Much later, when he's had a very bad day and is in need of reassurance, she fists him while the other man holds him.
Though I occasionally switch perspectives, in my head I usually play the role of the bottom, whoever that is. So when he's introducing her to anal sex, I'm her, but when she's turning the tables, I'm him.
Kris, age 43
Bisexual
Live-in relationship/marriage
No children
College graduate
Business owner
California, USA
I love watching gay men have sex. Erotica is more of a turn-on now than it was before and I love talking during sex. The more vocal my partner is, the better. I think that someone who loves sex and loves flesh is also a turn-on. Someone who has sex for the sake of having sex – is not so sexy!
I think the best sex I've had so far has been during one 24-hour period when I had four di-erent partners. One of them, a fuck buddy, had a small dick. But, believe it or not, he was the best. He could fuck for hours and he also had the best mouth and fingers. He's the only one who's ever been able to stick his fingers inside me at just the right spot, make me come and squirt at the same time. He was vocal and he loved to just fuck in every way possible. In that 24-hour period, we spent two hours together and at the end I could not walk. He had gone down on me and fingered me while just talking in between. Then, when he finally did enter me with his cock, he said, 'God, I've been dying for that.' I'll never forget that. Then he proceeded to fuck me and make me come over and over until he finally came an hour later. He was not afraid to try anything because he said he liked to see me come.
I love imagining that I'm a guy. Sometimes I like to get off thinking about having a cock and coming. Two guys working on me also gets me off – one in my pussy and the other in my mouth. I think two guys together is also very hot and I imagine watching two of them get off while I wank with them. My current favourite fantasy is about being a guy. I have a lovely, not-toolarge cock and I am bi. I'm invited to a couple's house to 'service' both of them. I get to have them watch me while I make love to each of them. The guy is first. The bedroom is dimly lit, and contains a large bed that has a comfortable chair placed at the foot of it. The woman settles herself with some wine, one leg draped over the chair as she starts to finger her clit. The guy and I begin to get undressed and hunger sets in. We roughly remove each other's clothes and I push him back onto the bed. Sucking his cock is one of the most delicious things, and I love to hear him moan. His hands are in my hair and he grabs my head and fucks my face. My hard-on is so full it hurts. I rub myself and he is talking the entire time about how he likes it and how he's going to do the same to me. He finally lets me up and my cock is just rock hard. He sucks me but I stop him before I come. I find some lube and we're both soaking each other's cocks with it. Meanwhile, the woman is on her chair, breathing hard and close to coming. She's quiet, though. We end up stroking each other and coming loudly. She comes with us, also becoming quite loud. We take a break, get some wine, 'reset', and then I go after the woman. I love fucking women more than eating them, so the idea of a long drawn-out fucking session is hot. This time the guy is watching us and I get to watch him while I'm fucking the woman. I change positions often and finally come buried deep inside her. Sometimes the man joins us and fucks me in the ass while I'm fucking her from behind.
Candy, age 20
Bisexual
Virgin
Celibate
College student
California, USA
My biggest turn-ons are usually gender play, cross-dressing, bisexuality/pansexuality in others, threesomes, people who love to be submissive in BDSM and alt-porn. Those are the ones that jump out at me, at least. Although it's always been that way, I think nowadays even more so I find myself attracted to the so-called 'freaks and geeks' – anybody who is di-erent I usually find sexually arousing. I want to do naughty things to nerds and I love the tattooed, pierced and otherwise 'odd'.
In my fantasy I dress up as a man – I bind my breasts, get into a harness and pack a hefty, realistic strap-on that has the perfect weight and balance in my hand, take time to dust on the fake five o'clock stubble, slick my hair back, put on the boxer-briefs that bulge obscenely with my fake hard-on, slacks, a shirt, a tie, and then I go down to a gay bar.
I cruise for a sexy, young, angelic twink who grabs my dick through my pants and eyes me up, so I force him back to the bathroom which, of course, is clean and just lovely (it is fantasy, after all, right?). He gets down on his knees to suck me off, but I drag him up and bend him over the sink and start to screw him in the ass. The whole time I get to watch both of us in the mirror above the sink – that's important to the fantasy, to have that extra layer of voyeurism and exhibitionism, as I get to
see his facial expressions (and, of course, he is a fantastically greedy bottom – he loves getting it). It starts slow, but of course starts to get wild, and that's when some other guy comes in – a little older than my twink, dark haired – leans up against the wall and watches us. I can see his face in the mirror, catch his eye once, look back and focus on what I'm doing (my twink is absolutely involved in what's going on – his eyes are closed and he is oblivious to everything else). After a minute, darkhaired guy comes up behind me and shoves a hand down the back of my pants (somehow missing the strap-on harness), and starts to finger and probe my asshole while I give it to the twink. The sensations feel good, but it's more about being sandwiched, having that warm, tall, firm body to lean back against and tilt my head on, that is so great. He gives me more and more of his finger, one, then two, while his eyes stay glued on mine in the mirror, testing me, challenging me. The dildo hits my clit over and over again until I come, as does my twink. The dark-haired guy conveniently leaves and twinkie turns around and sees my dildo, much to my horror – but it turns out he's bisexual, and he eats me out in the toilet in an open stall, where a large group of surprisingly bi-curious gay men gather and watch voyeuristically, and get aroused themselves and start doing things to one another all around.
That's it, basically, in a nutshell.
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Jane, age 31
Homosexual
Single, very sexually active
No children
Doctorate degree
Writer/Dominatrix
Ohio, USA
There are two very distinct fantasy themes in my erotic mind. The first is having very pretty eager young women service me and tend to my personal needs in a variety of di-erent ways. Generally it has to do with their unbridled desire to kiss, lick and suck me until I'm finally satiated – at least for a while. The other subject that often excites me has to do with depriving insistent macho men of being able to touch me in any way. All they can do is gaze and drool as I sit in skimpy attire while primping at my dressing table. Often the men are gagged and restrained to keep them in total control. Fitting them with locked chastity devices is also a huge kick for me.
The fantasies listed above have become reality, as I have acquired the services of an ideal female companion, and I take advantage of the ideal situation at every opportunity. In addition, there are certain submissive men who have fallen deep under my spell. Thus I am able to intimately chastise them whenever I choose. The best part is they pay me to do it to them.
Mary, age 64
Heterosexual
Live-in relationship/marriage
No children
O levels
Freelance Writer/Editor
Lincolnshire, UK
I'm fascinated by people whose sexuality is ambiguous – people who might be bisexual, or else androgynous-looking women. I tend to be more adventurous as I get older. Nothing holds me back. I do it. In my favourite fantasy I'm beating my slave's bare buttocks while he pleads for mercy. I don't stop until he has promised to fuck me senseless.
Sherry, age 61
Heterosexual
Celibate
Live-in relationship/marriage
Children
High School diploma
Writer/Receptionist
Wisconsin, USA
My fantasies revolve around bondage, usually a slavery situation where the woman has been sold either by her father or her lover. If I'm thinking historically, it is the father who has sold her in order to finance his son's marriage. If it's contemporary, the man she loves has got her pregnant, then sells her to a man who sells black market babies from women he has enslaved to become pregnant.
In my fantasy, a young woman has been presented to her new master and he demands to see that she is, indeed, pregnant. Once he has examined her, he shows her how she will be treated in the future, beginning with a soft whipping. She is then forced to have sex with various partners. Of course she is carrying her lover's child, but in the future the identity of the child's father will be a mystery. In other words, she is a high-priced whore; for the men who come to this island do so with the knowledge that the expensive price tag is so they can be with as many women as possible over the period of a week, and it has cost them dearly. When the child is born, it is allowed to nurse with its mother just long enough to bring in her milk. In that way she can satisfy the needs of certain men who enjoy sucking on mother's milk.
Princess Spider, age 45
Bisexual
Live-in relationship/marriage
Children
Education unknown
Dominatrix/Writer
London, UK
I've always found black leather gloves and pearls fascinating, especially if accompanied by spectacles. Women were my first love; they seemed so delicious and sensitive. Men have to be rogues, women very feminine. Nowadays I love to say no and tease my prey. The only thing that would improve my sex life would be a man who could keep up with me.
Here is my fantasy: black-laced stockings, high-heeled shoes, leopard-skin print panties, a short leopard-skin print nightdress and gloves (leather). Remember, I always enhance my red lips with full gloss, for that all important seductive kiss. Surprise your man with this outfit and you will have him grovelling on his hands and knees. Be firm when wearing your outfit, take control of the situation; linger on the couch and cross your legs so slowly and he will think you're in slow motion. If he tries to kiss you, deny him access to your lips and simply ask him to wait. Instead distract him with your feet: ask him to remove your shoes and massage your feet so he sees your painted toenails and also a glimpse of your thighs. This is now your lingering stage . . . Your lover's urge to seduce you will be getting stronger, but be firm, keep him below your waist and get his blood boiling. Encourage the kissing of your feet, legs and thighs. If you smoke, get your man to light your cigarette, and fetch you a glass of wine. I usually demand that my lover strips and entice him to cook the evening meal . . . all distractions to aid with the lingering and lusting.
I often notice him glimpsing around the breakfast bar to see what he thinks is his prey. All the time he is sinking into my spider web, lulling him into erection and denial. Desire and frustration . . . sliding, his mind becomes confused. As he stands in front of me naked, I can see his flesh quiver . . . his erection growing.
I will stroke him very slowly with the wet fingertips of my glove, either wine or saliva, I rotate my finger very slowly over his manhood . . . Now you have him! At the very peak of his excitement simply send him back to the kitchen. I call him back and his vision has changed, now before him there are two women he has to please. Pulling him by a rope, his engorged balls full of eastern promise, I force him to fuck my slave girl while I cane his cute muscular ass . . .
Ravished
Hydy, age 26
Heterosexual
Live-in relationship/marriage
No children
Bachelor's degree
Bookseller/Editor/Writer
Idaho, USA
In my fantasy I get out of the shower and there is my schoolgirl costume on the bed. I put it on, and walk out of the bedroom. He grabs me, blindfolds me and leads me out to a van, where I'm tied up. We drive for quite some time to a cabin out in the middle of nowhere. He says he's going to take pictures of me to send for ransom. He then proceeds to snap photos from all directions, slowly removing my clothes and posing me more and more sexually. When he finishes, he says I am to earn my keep while I'm here, and sets up a video camera. He tells me I'm a very naughty girl, posing for naughty pictures for him, and he proceeds to spank me for the camera. Then he fingers me, finding me wet, spanks me a bit more, telling me I'm naughty and saying if I want him I should beg for it. Desperately turned on by this point, I do. I beg him to fuck me, pushing myself towards him until he does. He takes me, fucking me until we both collapse in exhaustion.
Name withheld, age 45
Heterosexual
Single, moderately sexually active
Undergraduate degree
Manager
California, USA
I've always found alpha men a big sexual turn-on. I love a man who takes control and won't take no for an answer. I still love alpha men, though now they seem to be a bit more toned down. I don't mind finding that they're vulnerable or have faults, but they still need to be alpha men. The best sex I ever had was with a man who at first was a friend: lying in bed together, learning about each other's bodies, not rushing anything, the touching and kissing, foreplay lasting for over an hour. Then, when neither of us could stand it, he filled me on the very first thrust. I love forceful men who realise that I like the build-up, but when I say 'harder' they listen and give me what I want. I'd like to find a man I can trust with my most intimate secrets and desires.
My favourite fantasy is being kidnapped by a man who wants to teach me about his sensual world. It starts off very innocently, with him teaching me how to arouse my own body and his – to full penetration, anal sex, sex with multiple partners, and eventually being involved in a relationship.
Virginia, age 56
Heterosexual
Single, moderately sexually active
No children
Bachelor's degree
Author
California, USA
I had orgasms at the age of seven. I fantasised about naked people upside down on crosses (I'm Catholic), being held naked in a cage with strangers' hands touching me through the bars. I got physically turned on while listening to my girlfriend read the novel Candy at fourteen. I was date-raped at twenty and loved it. I make love stoned with my ex-husband, with his wife's consent. Sometimes we do a threesome. Trust and honesty are very important. And we laugh a lot during sex. We've also discovered 'pain-gasms'. He massages me and I direct him, plus I get him to do it really hard. It makes me come. Actually, I've done most of my fantasies. But I'm always in charge, not a victim. I love masturbation these days. I'm getting picky about men and don't like to wait around for satisfaction. Wish I could find more reliable toys. The ones they make are so cheap!
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