by Neela Lotte
4) The wife will respect the Husband’s hard limits without exception. (For instance, no switching or topping. No outside males ever. Infidelity will not be forgiven and will result in divorce.)
5) The purpose of this document is to fulfill the needs and wishes of both partners. If at any time these requirements become unsupportable for either partner, then that partner must openly state their misgivings, and deletions, additions, or alterations must be discussed.
In Conclusion
First of all, many thanks for reading this document. I hope you found many ideas and rituals you can use.
By now you surely realize this document is not “one size fits all.” It was created for our specific kinks and desires. In our relationship, we use what we like from several different kinky lifestyles: little DD, a little 1950’s household, a little M/s power exchange, and some plain old raunchy nasty bdsm sex. And that’s perfectly fine. Every couple's desires will be different.
I have provided as an appendix a list of questions for each partner to get the discussions started. These questions can assist you in forming your own kinky marriage contract based on your wants and needs. Remember, what you've just read is only an example.
I wish you many years of wedded bliss and happiness and the kinky marriage of your dreams!
Appendix: Questions to Consider
1. To determine your main goals and desires, begin with each partner ranking the following in order from most desired to least desired. That way you can form your main statement and have a place to begin discussion. Add any kinky marital concerns you don't see here.
___love/romance
___obedience/to obey
___harmony
___respect
___formal protocols
___frequent sex
___fidelity
___discipline
___active social life
___healthful life
___parenthood
___fun
___other (add as necessary)
2. I would prefer to be addressed as ______
I would prefer not to be called _____ even in play.
(Remember, this contract is supposed to be fulfilling to both parties. While the onus is on the wife to submit to the Husband’s desires, some words or actions may be too “loaded” or upsetting for her to submit to…allowances should be made for these types of “hard” limits.)
3. Appearance
a) preferred outer clothing & style______
b) preferred undergarments__________
c) preferred makeup _______
d) preferred hairstyle(s) _______
e) preferred sleepwear (if needed)______
f) any other preferences (shaving, manicures, piercings, collar, etc) _____
4. Housekeeping Tasks
The wife will be responsible for: _______
The Husband will be responsible for: _______
5. Finances and budgeting
The wife will be responsible for: ______
The Husband will be responsible for: _______
5. Sexual Availability:
Availability is expected daily,2-3 times/week, or other?
if other, explain _______
Sexual acts required (suggestions, add yours as needed): vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex, rimming, role play, bondage, spanking & funishment, rough sex, ménage-a-trois, dirty talk, humiliation, edging/chastity control, bukkake, rope play, plugging
other_________
6. Discipline
Preferred method: Discussion-based, corporal punishment, or tasks?
If corporal: OTK/hand spanking, paddling, whipping, cropping, caning, strapping/flogging, enemas, caging, clamps?
other________
7. Hard limits/exceptions requested
Husband_________
wife______