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amount to be consumed, and the battle over food started early. The babe tries to turn away, has the nipple forced into
its mouth again and again, the sense of anger in the air, and the framework of the battle has been laid.
Close examination of the dynamics around the dinner table when the babe is a child invariably shows argument about
what food to eat, how much to consume, with the mother dishing it out onto the child's plate and watching closely that
it get consumed. This should be compared to the family where the child chooses what to load onto its plate from
serving dishes with only an occasional suggestion from mother to try the broccoli or whatever, with father commenting
that if one fills the plate up it is wasteful unless eaten, a clean plate. Basically, the child chooses.
Having had the issue of control over one's life hopelessly confused with food consumption, the Anorexic finds food
fights clicking in even when not the issue. If someone suggests they vote for a candidate the Anorexic would not
themselves choose, they stop eating. If the work hours are changed and the new routine not what the Anorexic would
prefer, they stop eating. If the spouse wants sex, or does not want sex, averse what the Anorexic wants for the evening,
they stop eating. In a world where tensions are on the increase, and those wanting control over their environment
becoming more adamant and shrill, these matters will only acerbate. Thus, the increase in Anorexia, which is likely
only to become worse both in those who suffer, and in an increase of new cases.
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ZetaTalk: Pain
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ZetaTalk: Pain
Note: written on Feb 15, 1996
Spiritual growth during incarnations is best facilitated when the incarnating entity is faced with natural law, the
workings of the Universe as God designed it. Rainfall and its collection into pools and rivulets, sprouting seeds
struggling to push grains of earth aside and then leaning hungrily toward the light, a caterpillar's many legs following
one another in turn up and down its long body - all wonders of God's natural world. Pain is simply another facet of this
natural world, just as carnivores bringing down prey or the old and weak succumbing to infection. Pain is a signal - to
pull away from contact that injures, to slow down and rest, to favor the injury, to stay away from certain sites or foods or circumstances. Pain is designed, by natural evolution, to be self limiting. Severe pain causes a faint, long standing
pain causes a lethargic depression, and under natural circumstances the animal in pain does not have long to bear this.
It dies.
Enter man, with his rules and regulations. Dying is not allowed. Those in chronic, insoluble pain are restrained, bound to the bed and force fed if need be, and maintained in agonizing pain indefinitely. This frequently presents a situation
that flies in the face of what the populace has been told by the religious elite - that a benevolent God is listening to
their prayers. Those forced to live in pain and those watching this agony then conclude that they are either being
punished or ignored. The problem here is not that God is failing to descend to fix the pain. The problem is that
mankind has not learned how to deal with God's natural Universe, one of the lessons during spiritual growth.
Beyond the attitude that pain must be borne, stoically, while the body is being maintained indefinitely, humans also
burden themselves with unnecessary pain. The vast majority of the pain experienced by humans, even debilitating,
chronic pain - is psychological or psychosomatic, induced by the mind. This is not to say that real inflammation or
pressure on nerves might not be physically present. This is to say that the inflammation has been caused by the
individuals mental state, anxieties, desire to avoid situations, repressed rage, or lack of consideration for their physical body. One has gas pains but fails to eat roughage. One sprains wobbly joints and tears weak muscles because exercise
is seldom fit into the busy schedule. One has lower back pain and ultimately a slipped disk, but fails to tighten the
tummy or relax tight back muscles. The list is endless.
Ultimately, dealing with pain must be resolved in the same way that one deals with all other aspects of being alive.
Take responsibility for your own life, adjust to the reality of those things you cannot change, and maintain perspective.
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ZetaTalk: Grieving
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ZetaTalk: Grieving
written Sep 8, 2006
On Aug-17 my wife and I lost our only chil. When he was travelling he got hit by a train and died right
there, with no pain or suffering, as the doctors say. Could you please help me get back in time, so I could
warn my son of the danger and have him survive? If my life is required instead of his, to retain the
balance of births and deaths, needless to say I would surely do that, as long as I know that the sequence of
events changes and my kid stays alive. Please do that for me and my wife, the whole world is now empty
without him, only grief and sorrow around and I don't know how to carry on. Also, could you please tell
me if there was any sense in his dying that young? What happened at deeper planes of reality that made
our kid leave us so early?
At the base of the many horrors and inequities and sorrows that life throws at us is spiritual growth, as this is the point of incarnated life. In a life lived without personal pain or anguish there is little incentive to growth. If everyone were born beautiful, lived a life without disease, never wanted for any physical comfort, and did not encounter adversity or
struggle, what reason would there be to develop a strong compassion for others? Compassion, empathy for what others
are going through, is love, and on a spiritual level is learned only by having experienced pain and anguish oneself. The
young soul, immature, may experience what by instinct the life form experiences when a member of the species is in
terror or pain. This is biological, an evolutionary result, to help the flock or herd realize danger and flee to safety. A rabbit, sensing another had been captured by a coyote, is terrified when it hears the squeals of panic and pain from its
fellow rabbit, but this does not equate to empathy. Most certainly, the rabbit would not offer itself for another! This
gesture is only found in highly evolved souls, those who have long ago chosen the Service-to-Other path.
In that the young soul remembers, and carries forward any memory of pain or anguish from prior lives, it begins to
relate on more than an instinctive level to what it sees about it, in the pain and anguish in others. Unlike the rabbits, who flee in terror when one of their fellows becomes prey, the human with an incarnated soul contemplates the
outcome. If inclined toward Service-to-Other, they can see that a circumstance is leading to pain for another, and step
in to try to change the outcome. This may mean a loss of some kind, such as taking time out from other tasks, or
spending some money intended for the self, or even putting the self at risk, but the outcome, for another, is changed.
These steps may be small, such as stopping the car to inquire after the welfare of someone at the side of the road, or
large, such as rushing into a burning building to break open a door trapping others inside. In the latter, the human is
certainly offering themselves so that others may survive, putting themselves at risk, a potential s
acrifice of self. This type of gesture, the unhesitating step to sacrifice all to help others, always indicates a highly evolved soul, strongly in the Service-to-Other. Would the rabbit rush into a burning building, to prevent the pain and panic in its fellows?
Ultimately, after many thousands of incarnated lifetimes, or perhaps even millions of such lifetimes, the soul has
evolved to be intensely loving, and this is not a shallow matter. In these lifetimes, there are times when the soul was
incarnated into crippled or diseased bodies, or trapped in a live of suffering and anguish, no escape possible, such as
slavery or life in a land suffering a drought where there is never enough to eat, for all. There are times of horror and
terror, when the volcano is about to explode or the incarnation is in a woman or a man of small frame, or a child, and
a sadist has full control of their life and enjoying the pain and hopelessness he can inflict. There are also times when
the incarnation affords strength, the body strong with strength respected by others, the circumstances of birth affording funds and influence, the IQ high so that meeting life's adversity is a game rather than a sorrow. If the point of an
incarnation full of pain and anguish is to experience what others might be going through, the point of an incarnation
that affords strength is to give the soul an opportunity to rescue others, to put oneself at risk. At first, the young soul stands idly by, watching others suffer, but feels discomfited by this as it remembers when it suffered, in past lives.
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for the rescuer! This is the answer, to help others, as if this is done more often, overall grief is lessened! Where this intellectual discussion of the reasons for pain and anguish are hardly a comfort to the sufferer, it does point to an out.
The parent, losing a child, will often be more intensely empathetic to other families in similar circumstances, and be a
great source of comfort for them. Orphans are often adopted because their new parents dealt with abandonment in the
past, during past lives. Firemen rush into burning buildings because they themselves were trapped in the past, in past
lives, in situations where a helping hand could have made all the difference, but was withheld. Many people in
philanthropic situations, who devote their lives to helping others, have some intense grief in their recent past, an
impetus. The coming times, of the pole shift, will bring immense grief to all mankind. Children will be abandoned by
parents gone mad or determined to rush to safety without the baggage that a child represents. The injured will be
abandoned, left at the roadside to die without comfort, when perhaps they could live with a little assistance. These are
opportunities for love to grow, and spread. An opportunity to turn grief into action to help others. And when such
action is taken, grief melts into love, and eases!
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ZetaTalk: Addictions
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ZetaTalk: Addictions
Note: written on Aug 15, 1995
The issue of addiction is one of perception. One views having a drink at the end of the day in the same light as eating
a sweet. Tastes good, helps one relax and let go of the day's concerns, and what's the harm. Another views this as an
addiction, equating addiction with anticipation or expectation or longing. At the other extreme is one who must
consume half a bottle, and not just in the evening. They know they feel crippled with anxieties without this, but feel
the drinking is under their control. Ask them if they are an addict and they will say no, even when suffering DT's. Are
they addicted? Yes, as their need has moved from longing or anticipation to chemical dependency, and they are taking
their daily dose in order to avoid withdrawal. Then there is the matter of psychological dependency, as one who never
drinks at all can find they must be drunk to engage in sexual activity, and this is as surely an addiction as the chronic drunk.
What causes this, and do human counterparts on other worlds develop addictions? The tendency to develop addictions
is inherent to all life, and is most definitely present on other worlds, particularly in intelligent species. Take the
simplest amoebae, given the option of a food bath rich with nutrients or one thin in this regard. The amoebae will
choose the rich and adjust to it, changing the thickness and composition of its cell structure so as not to become
inundated with nutrients. What would happen then if the amoebae were placed in a thin nutrient bath. Distress.
Humans develop addictions for the same reasons simpler creatures do, when given the opportunity. It tastes good, feels
good, and who is thinking about tomorrow. Most human addictions begin in situations where there is no concern about
tomorrow, not because one is carefree but because one is in such dire circumstances that the likelihood of a tomorrow
seems dim. Beyond feeling good or tasting good, one wishes to escape. The front lines during war, the slums, a brutal
spouse, an abusive parent, chronic pain, all lead one to look for an escape, any escape, if only for a moment. Dealing
with addiction here first requires that the cause, and not the symptom, be addressed. Not everyone can harden
themselves and bear up endlessly in distressing circumstances, and it does little good to berate the addict while they
are, in a sense, in pain.
Once begun, however, an escape mechanism can be continued even after circumstances have changed. Humans, as
intelligent creatures, are clever at manipulating circumstances. The young college student, using cocaine on occasion to
overcome the fatigue caused by all night study and to be vibrant at a party, is found later in life to be maneuvering
circumstances so he can continue to use cocaine. He works late at the office, telling his wife this is required for his
career, so he can excuse his use of cocaine in the parking lot after dark. Is he addicted? Physically, no, but
psychologically he is, as he has changed his life for the drug. It rules him, not he it. If one desires chocolate ice cream and seeks it, that's one thing, but if one must have it and arranging to get chocolate ice cream takes priority over all else, then that's an addiction. Addiction tendencies must be placed in perspective with everything else in one's life. If the addict is a parent, with small children dependent on one, then the urge to escape or ease one's burden should be
taken in context with what impact this may have on the children. If one is dying of a chronically painful disease, and
one's comatose condition due to a drug dose will harm no one, then that is another matter entirely.
As with most things in life, addiction is neither inherently good or bad, but must be taken in context.
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ZetaTalk: Music
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ZetaTalk: Music
Note: written on Jun 15, 1997
Music is instrumental (pardon the pun) in healing more from establishing what ought to be there than inserting
something that ordinarily is not present. In health, the body listens to itself, and natural rhythms which syncopate are
established. There is a relationship between breathing and heartbeat, breathing and motion of the body, heartbeat and
emotion, and all this is music. The mind and body are making music all the time, but this is silent so is overlooked or
often is aided by re-establishing the natural rhythms again. Since the natural rhythms are so tied in with emotion,
breathing, and motion, dancing or singing or otherwise moving with the beat naturally puts these natural rhythms back
into place.
Music is also a healing reminder in that it speaks to more comforting and secure times. The babe, lying close to its
mother's heart, hears the equivalent of gentle waves on the beach during its early days, and thus the special appeal of
the beach! Where life presents discord, the tension and release within music give the listener or dancer the opportunity
to release tension that otherwise would remain bottled up. Thus, those especially tense may dance with particular abandon, all of which has less to do with the music and dance than with the dancers tense day. Music that heals is
music that pulls the body into its natural rhythms, and depending upon the age of the listener or affliction, this may
differ. Empathetic musicians often sense the effect their work is having upon the audience, and adjust accordingly.
Quite without words, music speaks a language that few misunderstand.
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ZetaTalk: Getting High
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ZetaTalk: Getting High
Note: written on Feb 15, 1996
The desire to forget one's troubles, experience more intense sexual pleasure, or boost one's sense of confidence, via
recreational or even prescription drugs, is not unique to the human animal. Such urges are intrinsic to all life, as why
would they not be? Does not the turtle, feeling the warmth of the Sun's rays, linger longer in that spot? Does not the amoebae, feeling the burn of a caustic, shrink back? Does not the Beta female in a wolf pack, having an opportunity to