35 “his exuberant vitality”: Quoted in ibid., 112, 205.
35 “I was crazy”: Quoted in ibid., 115.
35 He never married: Hyland, George Gershwin, 115.
36 “He loved every aspect”: Quoted in ibid., 116.
36 “All love begins”: André Maurois, “The Art of Loving,” in The Art of Living, trans. James Whitall (New York: Harper and Row, 1959), 17.
36 “Emotional intensity”: Lindholm, Charisma, 20.
37 “I turned the heads”: Quoted in Peter Trachtenberg, The Casanova Complex: Compulsive Lovers and Their Women (New York: Poseidon Press, 1988), 32.
37 Romantic love is: Robert C. Solomon, About Love: Reinventing Romance for Our Times (New York: Touchstone/Simon & Schuster, 1988), 23.
37 philosophers say: William Gass, “Throw the Emptiness out of Your Arms: Rilke’s Doctrine of Nonpossessive Love,” in Robert C. Solomon and Kathleen M. Higgins, eds., The Philosophy of (Erotic) Love (Lawrence: University of Kansas Press, 1991), 463.
37 Under a functional magnetic resonance imaging scan: See Helen Fisher, “The Drive to Love: The Neural Mechanism for Mate Selection,” in Robert J. Sternberg and Karen Weis, eds., The New Psychology of Love (New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 2006), 91.
37 It’s so close: See Elaine Hatfield, “Passionate and Compassionate Love,” in Robert J. Sternberg and Michael L. Barnes, eds., The Psychology of Love (New Haven, CT: Yale University Press, 1988), 199–205.
37 His appearances were: Otto, Dionysus, 74.
37 “God, how slow”: Colette, The Other One, trans. Elizabeth Tait and Roger Senhouse (New York: New American Library, 1960), 130.
37 To qualify for: Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan, Beyond Heaving Bosoms: The Smart Bitches’ Guide to Romance Novels (New York: Fireside Books/Simon & Schuster, 2009), 70.
37 Tightly wound and “aggressively ardent”: Ernest Newman, The Man Liszt (New York: Charles Scribner’s, 1935), 40, 14.
38 “His personal magnetism”: Quoted in Lucy Hughes-Hallett, Heroes: A History of Hero Worship (New York: Anchor Books, 2005), 36.
38 culture that enshrined moderation: Plutarch, The Rise and Fall of Athens, trans. Ian Scott-Kilvert (New York: Penguin, 1960), 246.
38 “second Dionysus”: Hughes-Hallett, Heroes, 14.
38 He fled to the enemy: E. F. Benson, The Life of Alcibiades (London: Ernest Benn, 1928), 109.
38 king’s wife numbered among them: Plutarch, Rise and the Fall, 267.
39 “The subject of this treatise: The Complete Kāma Sūtra, trans. Alain Daniélou (Rochester, VT: Park Street Press, 1994), 111.
39 Women in Trenton: See Janet Evanovich, Ten Big Ones (New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2004), 290–291.
39 fierceromance blogspot: Carly Carson, “Heros in Romantic Fiction,” June 16, 2009, http://fierceromance.blogspot.com; and Evanovich, Ten Big Ones, 390.
39 sex drive lies on a continuum: For the best treatment of this, see John Money, Love and Love Sickness: The Science of Sex: Gender Differences and Pair Bonding (Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 1980), 78–100, 118.
39 “sensuality”: Quoted in Otto Rank, The Don Juan Legend, trans. David G. Winter (Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 1975), 18.
39 Throughout deep history: For a discussion of the “magical effect” of sexual indulgence and phallic images, see George Ryley Scott, Phallic Worship: A History of Sex and Sexual Rites (London: Senate/Random House UK, 1966), 42–45.
40 Women’s dream lovers: A surprise for newcomers to the romance genre is the amount of explicit sex. Sarah Wendell and Candy Tan discuss this under the heading, “The Hero’s Wang of Mighty Lovin’,” in Beyond Heaving Bosoms, 83.
40 “walking orgasm”: E. C. Sheehy, “Midnight Plane to Georgia,” in Bad Boys Southern Style (New York: Brava/Kensington, 2006), 125.
40 “It’s bath time”: Ibid., 167.
40 “Don Juan Khan”: Leonard Slater, Aly: A Biography (New York: Random House, 1964), 6.
40 “charm in neon”: Definition of charisma from “Fast Forces of Attraction,” Psychology Today, January 2008.
40 Trained as a boy: Ibid., 4.
40 But he added: In an interview, he said that “class,” a desire to make women happy, and “a rose at a special moment” were his secrets to being a great lover. Quoted in a reprint of an interview with Porfirio Rubirosa in El Universal, 1955: “Porfirio Rubirosa: What Women Need,” Repeating Islands, June 6, 2010, http://repeatingislands.com/2010/06/21/porfirio-rubirosa-what-women-need.
41 “Rubi is so virile”: Quoted in Shawn Levy, The Last Playboy: The High Life of Porfirio Rubirosa (New York: HarperCollins, 2005), 160.
41 “hero of the boudoir”: Quoted in H. Noel Williams, The Fascinating duc de Richelieu: Louis Francois Armand du Plessis (New York: Charles Scribner’s, 1910), 51.
41 “Profligate,” adorable, and hypersexed: Cliff Howe, “duc de Richelieu,” in Lovers and Libertines (New York: Ace Books, 1958), 7.
41 “unbridled animal magnetism”: Ibid., 9.
41 “could ruin a woman”: Williams, Fascinating duc de Richelieu, 51.
41 Women were “wild”: Howe, “duc de Richelieu,” 7.
41 “clothed as Amazons”: Quoted in Williams, Fascinating duc de Richlieu, 51, 50.
42 “Destructive, damnable”: Thomas Otway, The Orphan: or, the Unhappy Marriage (London: W. Feales, 1735), act 3, scene 1.
42 “a honey-dripping chick magnet”: Marc Shapiro, Ashton Kutcher: The Life and Loves of the King of Punk’d (New York: Pocket Books, 2004), 4.
42 “love[s] the company of women”: Ibid., 5.
42 “treat women right”: Quoted in ibid., 23.
42 tradition is ancient: This refers to Jonathan’s love for David in the Old Testament, 2 Samuel 1:26.
42 Mirror neurons light up: See discussion of Pentland’s work in Winter, “How to Light Up a Room.”
43 Unlike the macho deities: Otto, Dionysus, 172.
43 Chekov’s rake: Anton Chekov, “The Lady with Lapdog,” in Lady with Lapdog and Other Stories, trans. David Magarshack (New York: Penguin, 1964), 265.
43 “like[s] women”: W. Somerset Maugham, Up at the Villa (New York: Vintage Books, 1940), 57.
43 “Women are more important”: Jennifer Crusie, Bet Me (New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2004), 213.
43 “madly in love”: Lydia Flem, Casanova: The Man Who Really Loved Women, trans. Catherine Temerson (New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1997), 80.
43 “he loved women”: Simon Sebag Montefiore, Potemkin: Catherine the Great’s Imperial Partner (New York: Vintage, 2005), 183.
44 “sweetly endearing appreciation”: Quoted in Suzanne Finstad, Warren Beatty: A Private Man (New York: Three Rivers Press, 2005), 86.
44 “He’s just wonderful”: Quoted in ibid., 293.
44 “sweet man”: Quoted in James Lincoln Collier, Duke Ellington (New York: Macmillan/McGraw-Hill, 1991), 10.
44 “Spoiled rotten”: Quoted in John Edward Hasse, Beyond Category: The Life and Genius of Duke Ellington (New York: Da Capo Press, 1993), 22, 256.
44 “absolutely adored him”: Ibid., 257.
44 “as flowers”: Quoted in ibid., 257.
44 “Is this the beautiful department?”: Quoted in ibid., 257.
44 “Does your contract”: Quoted in “The Duke,” in Irving Wallace et al., The Intimate Sex Lives of Famous People (New York: Delacorte Press, 1981), 262.
44 “charismatic presence”: Don George, Sweet Man: The Real Duke Ellington (New York: Putnam’s, 1981), 109.
45 “The more feminine”: “The Evolution of Homosexuality: Gender Bending. Genes That Make Some People Gay Make Their Brothers and Sisters Fecund,” Economist, October 23, 2008, 97.
45 gender ambiguity: See Roach, It, 4, 11.
45 “is the charismatic personality”: Camille Paglia, Sexual Personae: Art and Decadence from Nefertiti to Emily Dickinson (New York: Vintage, 1990), 441.
45 women differ from men: For a di
scussion, see Andy Newman, “What Women Want (Maybe),” New York Times, June 12, 2008.
45 Other studies show: See “Evolution of Homosexuality,” 97; and Lois Rogers, “Feminine Face Is Key to a Woman’s Heart, Sunday Times (London), December 8, 2002.
46 Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung: See discussion in June Singer, Androgyny: Toward a New Theory of Sexuality (Garden City, NY: Anchor Books, 1977), 29–33.
46 “sensual perfection”: Quoted in “Androgyny,” Parabola: Myth and the Quest for Meaning, 3, no. 4 (1997), 27.
46 “great He-She”: Quoted in ibid., 24.
46 “divine sensual delight”: Alain Daniélou, Gods of Love and Ecstasy: The Traditions of Shiva (Rochester, VT: Inner Traditions, 1992), 63.
46 “Man-Woman” Dionysus: He was known as thelymorphos, a man with the appearance of a woman. Arthur Evans, The God of Ecstasy: Sex Roles and the Madness of Dionysos (New York: St. Martin’s Press, 1988), 21.
46 “Woman Whisperer”: Maureen Child, Turn My World Upside Down (New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2005), 1.
47 Byron’s androgyny: Benita Eisler, Byron: Child of Passion, Fool of Fame (New York: Vintage Books, 1999), 267.
47 “ravishing androgyny”: Quoted in Jeffrey Meyers, Gary Cooper: American Hero (New York: William Morrow, 1998), 88.
47 Six foot three: Ibid., 34–35.
47 “fell over themselves”: Quoted in ibid., 50.
47 “Gary had crooked”: Quoted in Meyers, Gary Cooper, 90.
47 explain his “hypnotic” effect: Quoted in ibid., 36.
48 “the perfect balance”: Quoted in ibid., 88.
48 “Creative types have”: Rusty Rockets, “Sexual Success and the Schizoid Factor,” Science a GoGo, April 28, 2006, www.scienceagogo.com/news/creativity.shtml.
48 They may lack: See Len Oakes, who quotes Weber about charisma: “It is creative,” for “in its pure form charisma . . . may be said to exist only in the process of originating.” Oakes, Prophetic Charisma, 27.
48 “incredibly close”: Quoted in Handley, ed., Lover’s Quotation Book, 23.
48 “have more sex appeal”: The 2008 studies were conducted at Newcastle upon Tyne and the Open University. “Sex Appeal,” Peterman’s Eye, January 7, 2009, www.petermanseye.com/curiosities/notables-gossip/467-sex-appeal.
48 Art, he theorizes: See Geoffrey Miller, The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature (New York: Doubleday, 2000), 258–291.
48 “visible signature”: Quoted in Rockets, “Sexual Success and the Schizoid Factor.”
49 “an archaic prototype”: Paglia, Sexual Personae, 45.
49 cave paintings: Weston La Barre, “Shamanic Origins of Religion and Medicine,” Journal of Psychedelic Drugs 11, nos 1–2 (January–June, 1979).
49 “the songs of the night”: Otto, Dionysus, xvi.
49 “Mick the Magic Jagger”: Laura Jackson, Heart of Stone: The Unauthorized Life of Mick Jagger (London: Blake, 1997), 58.
49 He puts a sock: Ibid., 49.
50 “her very own Dionysus”: Quoted in ibid., 75.
50 “male opposite”: Quoted in Marina Warner, “Lucian Freud: The Unblinking Eye,” New York Times Magazine, December 4, 1989.
50 “the greatest living realist painter”: Quoted in ibid.
50 “astonish, disturb”: Quoted in ibid.
50 Married twice: “Lucian Freud: The Life,” Independent, May 30, 2002.
50 Every woman cited: Simon Edge, “Lucian Freud the Lothario,” Daily Express, August 6, 2009.
50 He quoted poetry: Ibid.
51 Freud the artist: Rowan Pelling, “A Woman of Easel Virtue,” Independent, April 17, 2005.
51 “felt like being an apple”: Quoted in Edge, “Lucian Freud the Lothario.”
51 “the most primitive form”: Oakes, Prophetic Charisma, 26.
51 “Don’t Fence Me In”: Cole Porter, “Don’t Fence Me In,” Warner Brothers, 1944.
51 renegade souls: Philip Rieff writes, “A charismatic is he who makes a break with the established order.” Philip Rieff, Charisma: The Gift of Grace, and How It Has Been Taken Away From Us (New York: Vintage Books, 2007), 160.
51 “irresistible magnetic mana”: Quoted in Oakes, Prophetic Charisma, 26.
51 an intangible “apartness”: Roach, It, 8.
52 phallic Hermes: Norman O. Brown, Hermes the Thief: The Evolution of a Myth (New York: Vintage Books, 1969), 34.
52 Perpetual wanderer Dionysus: Euripides, “The Bacchae,” in The Bacchae and Other Plays, trans. Philip Vellacott (New York: Penguin, 1954), 214.
52 “eccentric” rover: Knut Hamsun, Mysteries, trans Gerry Bothmer (1891; New York: Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2006), 3.
52 Even the exemplar: Ibid., 165.
52 “Bombay Casanova” Ormus Cama: Salman Rushdie, The Ground beneath Her Feet (New York: Picador USA/Henry Holt, 1999), 190, 177.
53 “own master”: Giacomo Casanova, History of My Life, trans. Willard R. Trask (Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press, 1997), vol. 2, chap. 2, p. 33.
53 “I rebel”: Albert Camus, The Rebel: An Essay on Man in Revolt (New York: Vintage, 1956), 22.
53 “It’s his way”: Albert Camus, The Myth of Sisyphus, trans. Justin O’ Brien (1955; New York: Vintage International, 1983), 74.
53 Women found him: Herbert R. Lottman, Albert Camus: A Biography (Corte Madera, CA: Gingko Press, 1997), 125.
53 “managed to keep them”: Olivier Todd, Albert Camus: A Life, trans. Benjamin Ivry (New York: Carroll and Graf, 1997), 413.
53 Fabled lover, iconoclast: Sara Wheeler, Too Close to the Sun: The Life and Times of Denys Finch Hatton (London: Jonathan Cape, 2006), 203.
53 “like a centripetal force”: Quoted in ibid., 32.
54 “at least eight women”: Ibid., 22.
54 Finch Hatton “belonged”: Errol Trzebinski, Silence Will Speak (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1977), 156.
54 “As for charm”: Beryl Markham, West with the Night (New York: Farrar, Straus, and Giroux, 1942), 120.
54 invention wasn’t original: Trzebinski, Silence Will Speak, 156.
54 “like a meteor”: Quoted in ibid., 156.
54 “The flaw that punctuates”: Hillary Johnson, “The Flaw That Punctuates Perfection,” Los Angeles Times, November 30, 2001.
55 Roach traces: Roach, It, 17.
55 “straddling characteristics”: Schiffer, Charisma, 30.
55 “The things I find”: Erica Jong, “The Perfect Man,” in What Do Women Want (New York: Jeremy P. Tarcher/Penguin, 1998), 173.
55 Bader probes: See Michael J. Bader, Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies (New York: Thomas Dunne Books/St. Martin’s Press, 2002), 140.
55 “a way to get inside”: Johnson, “Flaw That Punctuates Perfection.”
55 “disease of God”: Quoted in Oakes, Prophetic Charisma, 26.
56 emotionally or physically damaged man: Mary Jo Putney, “Welcome to the Dark Side,” in Jayne Ann Krentz, ed., Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women of the Romance: Romance Writers on the Appeal of the Romance (Philadelphia: University of Pennsylvania Press, 1992), 101.
56 Readers can find: See “Wounded Heroes,” Listmania, www.amazon.com/Wounded-Heroes/lm/1W95CIQLARZYP (accessed October 23, 2009).
56 “delicate prongs”: Rebecca Silver, “Fearful Symmetry,” in Lonnie Barach, ed., Erotic Interludes (New York: HarperPerennial, 1986), 225.
56 Hardy Cates: See Lisa Kleypas’s two novels about Hardy Cates: Sugar Daddy (New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2007) and Blue-Eyed Devil (New York: St. Martin’s Paperbacks, 2008).
56 “divine defect”: Edward Craig, Routledge Encyclopedia of Philosophy: Questions to Sociobiology (New York: Routledge, 1998), 60.
56 “Great seducer” Jack Nicholson: Phrase from book title, Edward Douglas’s Jack the Great Seducer (New York: HarperEntertainment, 2004).
56 “King of Hollywood”: Quoted in ibid., 221.
57 “I saw such a wonderful”: Quoted in ibid., 268
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57 “old Jack Magic”: Quoted in ibid., 6.
57 “gentle giant”: Quoted in Ann Pasternak Slater, “Introduction,” in Ivan Turgenev, Fathers and Sons, ed. Elizabeth Cheresh Allen and Constance Garnett (New York: Modern Library, 2001), xii.
57 Tall and stoop-shouldered: Avraham Yarmolinsky, Turgenev: The Man, His Art and His Age (New York: Orion Press, 1959), 41.
57 Ignoring his mother’s curses: V. S. Pritchett, The Gentle Barbarian: The Work and Life of Turgenev (New York: Ecco Press, 1977), 86.
57 “Christ”: Quoted in Yarmolinsky, Turgenev, 57.
57 “enigmatic tang”: Schiffer, Charisma, 44.
58 “much more bizarre”: James A. Donovan, “Toward a Model Relating to Empathy, Charisma, and Telepathy,” Journal of Scientific Exploration 11, no. 4 (1997), 455, 464. Also see full article, 455–471.
58 “to the back burner”: Quoted in Mark Greer, “The Science of Savoir Faire,” January 2005; and Carlin Flora, “The X-Factors of Success,” Psychology Today, May/June 2005.
58 “forbidden impulses”: Becker, Denial of Death, 135.
59 Can men en masse: Rieff, Charisma, 105.
59 Biologist Amotz Zahavi and others: Zahavi contends that higher-ranking women pick men who are honest advertisers in courtship. For good summaries of his view, see Joann Ellison Rodgers, Sex: A Natural History (New York: W. H. Freeman/Times Books/Henry Holt, 2001), 221–223; and “Deceit versus Honest Signaling,” www.animalbehavioronline.com (accessed May 14, 2012).
For studies that show charisma can’t be faked, see researcher Nada Gada’s work discussed in Greer, “Science of Savoir Faire,” and psychologist Howard S. Friedman’s affective communication test, which measures charisma. Friedman concludes, “Truly charismatic people are authentic.” Winter, “How to Light up a Room.”
CHAPTER 2: CHARACTER: THE GOODS
60 “Character alone is worthy”: Andreas Capellanus, The Art of Courtly Love, trans. John Jay Parry (New York: Columbia University Press, 1960), 35.
61 “Good moral character”: Geoffrey Miller, The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature (New York: Doubleday, 2000), 293.
61 Claude Adrien Helvétius: Jules Bertaut, Égéries du xviiie siècle (Paris: Librarie Plon, 1928), 147.
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