by Gail Sheehy
Pugh, Clementine, 337, 339
Puzo, Mario, 95
Quinn, Sally, 155, 226, 313
race/racism: GS’s early interest in, 40; in Sag Harbor, 336–38; sit-ins and, 131
“Radical Chic” (Wolfe), 88–90
Radical Mothers, 134
Radziwill, Lee, 150, 152
Random House, 67, 68–69, 70, 271, 278–79, 365–66, 368–69, 388. See also specific person
Ranelagh, John, 343
Rangel, Charlie, 438
Ranny (cousin), 23
Ratner’s (New York City restaurant), 9
Reagan, Nancy, 333
Reagan, Ronald: Bush (George H. W.) and, 326, 327–28; elections of 1984 and, 332, 333; elections of 1988 and, 321; Ferraro’s criticisms of, 331; Gorbachev and, 348, 349; GS’s study of and writings about, 329, 341; image of, 325; and Iran-Contra, 328; punishment of GS by administration of, 295; Reeves work on, 93; refugee policies of, 285; Thatcher and, 347, 348–50, 357; veneration of, 357
“Red Star: The Man Who Changed the World” (Sheehy), 353–54
“Red Star Falling” (Sheehy), 366
Redbook magazine, GS’s Life History Questionnaire in, 274
“Redpants and Sugarman” (Sheehy), 143–47, 149, 166
Redstockings, 134
Reeves, Jeffrey, 415
Reeves, Richard, 92–93, 257, 260, 339, 414–15, 415
Remick, Lee, 149
Renaissance Weekend (1992, 1995), 398–400
restaurants, Clay’s interest in, 245. See also specific restaurant
Reynolds, Vicki, 366
Rice, Donna, 323, 324
Richard (friend), 423–26, 427–28
“The Riddle of Sadat” (Sheehy), 276–78
Rilke, Rainer Maria, 379
Rinzler, Carol, 221, 223
risk taking, and characteristics of pathfinders, 275
Rivers, Larry, 85, 89
“The Road to Bimini” (Sheehy), 324
Robards, Jason, 89
Robbins, Jerome, 89
Robinson, James, 312
Rochester Democrat & Chronicle, 38, 39–40, 41
Rochester, New York: “colored” section of, 40; GS in, 38–40, 41–42
Rockefeller, David, 93
Rockefeller, Nelson, 93, 99, 177
Rockefeller Foundation, 137
Rohatyn, Felix, 252–53, 254–55, 256, 257–58
Rollins, Ed, 333
Rooney, Agnes (grandmother), 21–22
Roosevelt, Eleanor, 337, 398
Roosevelt, Franklin D., 323, 398
Rose, Charlie, 307
Rosenberg, Milt, 226
Rosenthal, Abe, 389
Rotisserie d’en Face (Paris restaurant), Clay-GS at, 413
Ryan, Paul, 373
Sadat, Anwar, 276–78, 317
Sag Harbor: Clay’s funeral in, 446–47; GS’s rental home in, 456, 457–58; Shnayerson-GS Thanksgiving party in, 453–55
Sag Harbor Initiative, 336–38, 339–40
Saint Martin’s, Clay-GS vacation on, 266–68
Sakeo (Cambodian refugee camp), 286–91
Salem (Trib composition man), 8–9
Salomon Brothers, 335
Sarah (great-aunt), 158–59, 160, 161
Sarnoff, Dorothy, 226
Sarouen, Nhep, 286–87
saturation reporting, 145, 147, 149
Saturday Night Live (TV show), 173, 183
Savvy magazine, 242
Scharlatt, Hal, 216
Schiff, Dorothy “Dolly,” 235–36, 239
Scotland, Maura-GS trip to, 292
Seasons of a Man’s Life (Levinson), 214
Seauman, Sally, 207
“Second Adulthood,” 212
“The Secret of Grey Gardens” (Sheehy), 150–56
The Secret Passage, on New York Times bestseller list, 368
Seiberling, Dorothy “Dottie,” 100–101
senator, GS and Washington, 189–91, 199
Sendak, Maurice, 73
Sergei (Russian translator), 351, 352
Sex and the Seasoned Woman (Sheehy), 457
sexual harassment, 372
Shaw, George Bernard, 63
Sheehan, Neil, 279, 375
Sheehan, Susan, 375
Sheehy, Albert (husband): dreams/aspirations of, 38; dual-career marriage of, 44–48; extramarital affairs of, 45–46, 51; as father, 49; as grandfather, 418–19; GS first meets, 37–38; GS’s divorce from, 48–49; GS’s financial arrangements with, 185; and GS’s interest in civil rights movement, 5; and GS’s panic attacks, 166; and GS’s pregnancy, 3–4; GS’s relationship with, 184–85, 418–19; and GS’s self-image, 130; GS’s traditional marriage to, 3–4; and Henion parents’ divorce, 44; marriage problems of, 45–46; and Maura’s birth, 9, 10; Maura’s stays with, 74, 78–79, 112, 113, 118, 120, 165, 185, 187, 188, 190; medical career of, 3–4, 38, 44, 46; Unterberg and, 104, 105, 107, 113
Sheehy, Gail: abortion of, 34–35; Albert’s courtship and marriage to, 3–4, 37–39, 44–48; Albert’s divorce from, 48–49; as bachelor woman, 199–209; as bestselling author, 230; as caregiver, 433–35, 436–37; childhood writings of, 26; childhood and youth of, 16–19, 21–28; college years of, 27–28, 29–30, 35–36, 47; daring in life of, 458–59; declaration of independence by, 220; dreams/aspirations of, 6, 24, 27, 28, 38, 39, 40, 87; drinking problem of, 430–33, 451; “elopement” of, 29–35; family background of, 21–22, 26–27, 53; fears of, 158–67, 205, 227–28, 316, 374, 384, 385, 411, 436–37, 439, 450, 458; first failure of, 67–71; first newspaper job of, 39; first screenplay by, 71–72; fortieth birthday of, 232–33; healing of, 449–60; identity of, 186; as “letting go,” 448; mantra of, 74–75, 460; panic attacks of, 165–67; photographs of, 10, 17, 181, 378, 417; “post-menopausal zest” of, 371–73, 392–93; pregnancies of, 4–5, 6, 7–8, 9, 34–35, 39–40; reputation of, 148; revirgination pledge of, 35–36, 38; self-image of, 12, 87, 120, 130–31; sexual activities of, 31, 35–36, 77, 78; as single parent, 48, 56, 204, 293; and smoking, 204–5; as swimmer, 16–18, 19, 384, 460; as widow, 449–60; winning and, 18, 19, 28. See also Felker-GS relationship; specific person or topic
Sheehy, Maura (daughter): at Adweek, 312; Albert as caring for, 74, 78–79, 112, 113, 118, 120, 165, 185, 187, 188, 190; appearance of, 72; and the Beale kittens, 150–52; birth of, 9–10; career choices of, 392; childhood and youth of, 44–45, 46–47, 48–49, 56, 61, 65–66; children of, 416–17, 418–19, 426; and Clay-GS in California, 388; Clay-GS relationship and, 118, 121, 122–23, 168, 182–83, 204, 221, 228, 256, 292, 303, 310, 312, 315, 406; and Clay-GS trip to Asia, 181; and Clay’s cancer, 376, 406, 407, 408; Clay’s death and, 446; Council as surrogate mother for, 207, 220; education of, 122, 203; and GS-Albert as dual-career couple, 44–45; and GS-Albert’s divorce, 48–49; and GS as caregiver, 439; and GS concerns about change, 198; and GS fortieth birthday party, 232, 233; and GS as single parent, 204; and GS’s India trip, 74; and GS’s Kennedy (Bobby) assignment, 61, 65–66; GS’s relationship with, 204, 292–93, 376, 448; in Hamptons, 182–83, 232, 233; and horses, 202; leaves for college, 292–93; and lovebird incident, 198–99; marriage of, 392; meltdown of, 73; Mohm and, 298, 300, 301, 303; and Ms. (dog), 205; naming of, 10; personality of, 72, 204–5; photographs of, 10, 72, 415; Preminger comment of, 72; as swimmer, 228; and Thanksgiving party, 338; trips/vacations of, 48, 50, 228–29, 250, 292, 306–7; Trish and, 103–4, 111
Shelter Island, Clay-GS walks on, 382, 448
Sheppard, Eugenia, 3, 4, 6, 8, 10–11
Sheraton, Mimi, 245
Shishlin, Nikolai, 352–53, 354
Shnayerson, Michael, 453–54
Shore, Rima, 162
Shuman, Stanley, 252, 261–62, 263
The Silent Passage (Sheehy), 367–71, 393, 399
Silverman, Burt, 102
Simon & Schuster, 370–71
Simon, John, 242
60 Minutes (CBS-TV), 183, 393
Skadden, Arps, Slate, Meagher & Flom, 100,
254–55, 256, 263
Slesin, Suzanne, 242
Smart magazine, 390
Smith, Liz, 245, 369
Snyder, Dick, 370–71
Snyder, Jerome, 82
Sondheim, Steven, 89, 98
“The Song of Wandering Aengus” (Yeats), 201–2
Sorel, Edward, 101–2
Soulé, Henri, 245
Soviet Union; collapse of, 352; GS trips to, 187, 350–56, 365
Spector, Phil, 12
“Speed City. The Amphetamine Explosion” (Sheehy), 110
Spiegel, Sam, 243
Spirit of Survival (Sheehy), 308–9
The Sporting News, Felker (Carl) at, 53
Sputnik (Russian satellite), 35–36
Srey Mom. See Mohm
St. Louis Post-Dispatch, Felker (Cora) at, 53
St. Mark’s Church (New York City), 47
St. Vincent’s Hospital (New York City), 4, 9, 44
stages of development: GS identification of, 209–16, 219, 318, 372; for women, 214–15, 216, 217. See also Passages
Stahl, Lesley, 226, 313, 369, 389
Stamberg, Susan, 226
Starr, Kenneth, 395
State Department, U.S., 294
Steinem, Gloria: birth control article by, 128; “City Politic” column of, 98, 130; Clay and, 83–84, 90–91, 128, 130, 131–32; and Clay-Steinem-GS lunch at Oak Room, 132–33; and Clay’s role in women’s movement, 90–91, 125–29; at Felker Fest, 389; equity in New York magazine of, 248; and Erpf dinner party, 125, 126, 127–28; at Esquire, 83, 128; GS compared with, 130, 136; GS’s relationship with, 132; Ho Chi Minh story of, 83–84; Ms. magazine and, 90, 91, 98, 136; NOW and, 131; professional background of, 83–84; recollections of early period of women’s movement of, 129; style of, 130
Stephanopoulos, George, 394
Stern, Leonard, 334
Stewart, John, 62
Stitt, Milan, 450–51
Stivers, Cyndi, 330, 390
Stoddard, Brandon, 149
Stone, Oliver, 335
Streisand, Barbra, 207
student protests, 60, 87–88
Styron, William, 375
success, fear of, 227–28
Suede (prostitute), 142
Sydney Daily Mirror, 237
Talese, Gay, 67–69, 86, 112, 147, 374
Talese, Nan, 67–69, 70, 112
Tall, Safoura, 421, 440, 444, 445
Tavern on the Green (New York City), 272
Tea Party, 333, 334
Thailand: Clay and GS in, 281–82; GS assignment in, 285–91. See also Cambodian refugees
Thanksgiving parties, Clay and GS’s, 338–40, 415, 426–27, 453–55
That Was the Week That Was (Frost TV show), 173
Thatcher, Denis, 343
Thatcher, Margaret: Clinton (Hillary) compared with, 393; and counterculture, 350; downfall/resignation of, 357; Gorbachev and, 347–49, 357–58; GS fantasy play about, 358; GS’s study of and writings about, 50, 341–50; Lincoln as historical counterpart of, 350; and Northern Ireland, 157, 158, 161; Reagan and, 347, 348–50, 357; Véronique and, 346, 347
Tiffin, Pamela, 14, 52, 116, 168, 207
Tiger, Lionel, 125–29
Time magazine: GS interview with, 222; and GS profile of Hart, 321; impact of New York magazine on, 102; as interpreting news, 96
Tobias, Andrew, 94–95
Today show (NBC-TV), 225, 329
Toey (childhood neighbor), 18
Towbin, Bob, 262
Tretick, Stanley, 60
Triumphs of Experience (Vaillant), 186
Tuck, Dick, 62, 64
Tucker, Priscilla, 86
Tufo, Peter, 255–56
Turnberry Isle, Hart’s activities at, 323, 324
twelve-step program, GS in, 431–33
Twentieth Century Fox studios, 73, 250, 293
Uncommon Clay (Stivers), 390
“Underground Gourmet” (Snyder column), 82, 92
Understanding Men’s Passages (Sheehy), 393
United Nations, 306
University of California, Berkeley: Clay at, 382, 385, 386–88, 409, 410, 416; Felker Magazine Center at, 388–91; Latham at, 409, 410
University of Hartford, Trish’s enrollment at, 43
University of Rochester, Sheehy (Albert) as medical student at, 38
University of Vermont, GS at, 27–28, 29–30, 35–36
Unterberg, Nate, 104–9, 110–13
Urban, Amanda “Binky,” 97
Urban Cowboy (movie), 96
USA Today newspaper, GS column for, 457
USS San Jacinto, and Bush (George H. W.) in World War II, 326–27
Vag, Red, 40
Vaillant, George, 186
Vanderbilt, Wendy, 6
Vanity Fair magazine: Carter as Brown’s replacement at, 371; and Clay-GS move to California, 388; GS lecture at UC-Berkeley about, 387; GS’s Clinton stories in, 397–98, 401, 402, 439; GS’s political/world leader profiles for, 317–29, 341, 350, 353–54, 366, 371; parties of, 432; popularity of, 359; revival of, 316–17. See also Brown, Tina
Venice, Italy, GS-Maura trip to, 228–29
Vermont, GS-Maura vacation in, 48, 50
Véronique, Madame, 346–47
Vidal, Gore, 244–45
Vietnam War, 12, 58, 60, 64, 171, 172, 173, 180
Village Voice newspaper: Clay’s acquisition of, 207–8, 238, 246–48, 257, 389; Feiffer as cartoonist for, 98; and Murdoch’s acquisition of New York magazine, 259, 268–69; Murdoch’s selling of, 269; revenues/value of, 249, 269. See also Burden, Carter
violence, prostitution and, 141, 148
Vogue magazine, 242
von Furstenberg, Diane, 250
Vonnegut, Kurt, 238, 337, 389
Wachtell, Lipton, Rosen & Katz, 100
Wagner, Robert (NYC mayor), 98–99
Waldorf Astoria (New York City hotel), prostitution and, 139, 140
Wall Street: Clay’s view about, 334–36; and stock market rise, 414
Wall Street Journal, and Ickes firing, 402
Walters, Barbara, 89, 403
Wang, C. C., 407–8
Ware, Ciji, 386
Warhol, Andy, 12–13, 84–86
Washington, D.C., GS at party in, 189–91
Washington Journalism Review, and GS as best magazine writer in America, 329
Washington Post newspaper: GS’s Cambodian refugee story in, 292, 295; Passages review in, 227; and publication of The Pentagon Papers, 170, 171–72, 175; and GS’s prostitution stories, 146; Watergate and, 176, 179. See also Graham, Katherine
Watergate, 176, 179, 325
Waters, Alice, 387
Weidenfeld, Baron George, 243
well-being, and Pathfinders research, 274
Wellesley College, 392
Weymouth, Lally, 207, 243–45, 421
“What Hillary Wants” (Sheehy), 397–98
Where the Wild Things Are (Sendak), 73
White Horse Tavern (New York City), Albert-GS first meeting at, 37–38
Whitehead, Colson, 336
“Will This Queens Housewife Be the Next Vice President?” (Sheehy), 332
William Morrow publishers, 272
Wilson, Mary Louise, 155
Winfrey, Oprah, 368
Winkler, Irwin, 71, 250
Wintour, Anna, 242
Wolfe, Sheila, 447
Wolfe, Tom: appearance of, 11; and Clay as bachelor-about-town, 184; at Clay-GS wedding, 314; and Clay’s eating habits, 120; and Clay’s family background, 52; at Clay’s funeral, 447; Clay’s relationship with, 13, 84; equity in New York magazine of, 248; at Felker Fest, 389; and Goldsmith’s story about Warhol, 84, 85; and GS’s prostitution stories, 146; GS’s relationship with, 12; at Herald Tribune, 11, 12, 13; and New York magazine, 84, 85, 86, 88–90; and New York Public Library writers dinner, 374; prose of, 12, 90; “Radical Chic” story of, 88–90; at Thanksgiving parties, 339, 454
Wolfson, Howard, 401, 438
women
: Bush’s (George H. W.) views about, 372; in East Side Express newsroom, 330; Hart and, 322–24; Kipling’s views about, 345; life span of, 383; in politics, 127–28, 130, 330–34, 372–73; stages of development for, 214–15, 216, 217; Thatcher’s views about, 345; and woman as vice president, 330–31. See also menopause; women’s movement; specific person or organization
Women’s Action Alliance, 90
women’s movement: beginning of, 70; children and, 126, 136, 138; and Clay-Steinem-GS lunch at Oak Room, 132–33; Clay’s role in, 90–91, 125–29, 132–33; coalescence of, 372; Erpf dinner party and, 125–29; and Fifth Avenue march, 134–35; Friedan’s role in, 133–34; GS fears/concerns about, 129–32; GS views about, 136–38; Lovesounds and, 132–33; marriage and, 185–86; and Oak Room sit-in, 131; radical offshoot of, 134; Steinem’s recollections of early period of, 129. See also specific person or organization
Women’s Refugee Commission, 306–7, 339
Women’s Strike for Equality, 134–35
Wonder, Stevie, 400
Woodstock, GS-Trish trip to, 113–14
Woodward, Bob, 176, 179, 226
Woolf, Virginia, 386
World-Journal Tribune, 54
world leader profiles, GS’s. See specific person
World Telegram and Sun, 5, 6
World War II: blackouts during, 23; Bush (George H. W.) in, 326–27; GS as child during, 23; Ho Chi Minh in, 83
Wright, Betsey, 395
Wright, Doug, 155
writers’ collective house (Ireland), 201–3
writers/writing: and anonymous sources, 148; basic requirements for successful book, 67; and Brown’s offer to GS, 79; Clay’s loyalty to, 86, 98, 264–66; editors’ relationship with, 270–72; gender relations and, 97–98; and GS’s dreams/aspirations, 73; New York Public Library dinner for, 374–76; and women editors, 68. See also New Journalism; specific person
Yakolev, Alexander, 355–56
Year of the Woman (1992), 372
Yeats, W. B., 200–202
Yeltsin, Boris, 356
yin and yang, 459–60
Young, Hugo, 349
Youngbird, Marilyn, 319–20
Zaccaro, John, 332
Zalaznick, Sheldon, 93, 94, 95
Zhou Enlai, 174
Zuckerman, Mort, 352, 389
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
GAIL SHEEHY is the author of sixteen books, including the classic New York Times bestseller Passages, named one of the ten most influential books of our times by the Library of Congress. A multiple award-winning literary journalist, she was one of the original contributors to New York magazine and has been a contributing editor to Vanity Fair since 1984. A popular lecturer, Sheehy was named AARP’s Ambassador of Caregiving in 2009. She lives in New York City.