by Amy Kaufman
“Frankenbiting,” 161–62
friendship, successful relationships, 7, 192, 207–8
Friends (TV show), 75
“fun packet,” casting process, 84
Galavis, Juan Pablo, 83, 119, 120, 133, 136–38, 147, 148, 149, 153, 171, 172, 173, 174, 179, 197, 198, 274
Gale, Elan (producer), 13, 150–51, 152–56, 158, 165
“Galentine’s Day Party,” 234–35
Game of Thrones (TV show), 95, 223
Game Show King, The (Barris), 58
Gardinier, Estella, 272
Garfinkle, David (producer), 70
Garofola, Michael, 91–92
Garrett, Lee, 105
General Hospital (TV show), 35
Gerson, Kathleen, 194
Get Out (movie), 54
getting in shape, contestants, 100, 101, 102
Gibbons, Leeza, 24
gifts to coworkers from Levenson, 40
Girardi, Vienna, 273
“girl chats,” 120–21
Girls (TV show), 54
Giudici (Lowe), Catherine, 97, 100, 198–99, 202, 204–6, 208, 220, 221–22, 274. See also Lowe, Sean
Glaser, Nikki, 75–76
Golden Globes, 202
golden ticket (husband plus luxury), 10–11, 19–21, 34, 45, 76, 79, 130, 191, 252. See also fairy-tale romance; love
Gong Show, The (TV show), 55, 58, 59
Good Morning America (TV show), 108, 213
Goodson-Todman, 61
Google, 138, 211, 214, 216, 241, 242
Gosling, Ryan, 81
Graden, Brian, 73
Grant, Matt, 13, 273
Grateful Dead, 26, 27, 57
Gray, Emma, 256–57
Greatest Sports Moments of All Time (special), 18
Greenfield, David (producer), 59–61
Grimaldi, Vanessa, 93, 274
Grodd, Marcus, 3
group dates, 183
Grushow, Sandy, 23
Guardian, The, 254
Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2 (movie), 150
Guiney, Bob, 51, 128, 250, 272
Guinness Book of Records, The, 23
Gunn, James, 150
Hains, Rebecca, 189, 190, 191
Hamilton (Broadway show), 209
handlers, 82, 83, 84, 98, 109
Hanson, 233
happily ever after, 191–95, 247–65
“Happy Couples” rendezvous, 204
Haraden, Marshall, 115–16
Hardwick, Chris, 66, 67, 68
Harris, Jillian, 98, 103, 275
Harrison, Chris (host), 1, 30–31, 44, 50, 117, 125, 151, 152, 160, 164, 165, 175–76, 181, 236, 252–53
Harry Winston, 200
Hartsock (Siegfried), Desiree, 90–91, 98–99, 127, 177–78, 197, 276. See also Siegfried, Chris
Hasselbeck, Elisabeth, 196
Hatta, Ben (Fleiss’s assistant and producer), 26, 27, 29, 40, 41, 43, 85, 118–19, 145–46, 156–57
Hayes, Robby, 3
Heavenly Creatures (movie), 113
Hebert (Rosenbaum), Ashley, 103, 200, 202, 276. See also Rosenbaum, J. P.
heights, fear of, 4–5, 6, 78
helicopters, 4, 8, 9, 78, 88, 128–29, 136, 146, 224, 252, 262, 264
HelloGiggles, 238
Hendrix, Jimi, 26
Here Comes Honey Boo Boo (TV show), 221
Here on Earth (movie), 5
Here to Make Friends (podcast), 256
herpes, 85
Herron, Sarah, 125, 126, 233
Hewitt, Jennifer Love, 68
HGTV, 31
hidden cameras and microphones, 87
Higgins, Ben, 100, 156, 201, 227, 256, 274
High School Reunion (TV show), 47, 250
Hills, The (TV show), 95
Hilton, Martin (producer), 98, 198
Holder, Eric, 92
Hollywood Reporter, 26
Holm, Jeff, 276
hometown dates, 106, 138, 173
Horst, Tessa, 273
host. See Harrison, Chris
Hotel Bel-Air, 234–35
Howard Stern Show (TV show), 17
HuffPost, 253, 256
human desire for love, 15, 24, 75, 94, 95, 97, 223
husband plus luxury. See golden ticket
Iaconetti, Ashley, 3, 101, 186–87, 189, 226–27, 228, 231, 232–33, 256, 261
ideal date, 9, 28, 29, 30, 66, 79, 130, 189–90, 207
I Didn’t Come Here to Make Friends: Confessions of a Reality Show Villain (Robertson), 164
iHeartRadio, 227
“I liked fucking you” (Galavis), 136–37
Inside Amy Schumer (TV show), 34
Inside the Bubble strategy, 115–39, 197, 263
Instagram, 78, 79, 90, 94, 101, 156, 212, 221, 222, 225–26, 227, 228, 230, 231, 235, 236, 258, 259, 260
Internet, 72, 138, 150
“in-the-moment” (ITM) interviews, 82–83, 107, 117, 121, 143–50, 165, 175, 178, 185, 197
In Touch, 100
intoxicated by happily ever after, 191–95, 247–65
introductions (limo entrances), 109–11, 127
Isenberg, Brad, 41, 119
isolation of contestants, 88, 109, 118, 149, 245
Italian Americans, 104
It’s Not Okay: Turning Heartbreak into Happily Never After (Dorfman), 218–19
Jackass (TV show), 46
Jackson, DeMario, 123, 124, 181, 182
Jackson, Michael, 64
James, Caryn, 46, 52
Jared, 201
Jaskiewicz, Victoria, 229, 230
Jeffress, Scott (producer), 25–26, 28, 30, 36–37, 37–38, 39, 41–42, 49, 51, 103, 122–23, 166–67, 174, 253, 263
Jenny McCarthy Show, The (TV show), 68
Jeopardy! (TV show), 57
Jerry Springer (TV show), 35
Jersey Shore (TV show), 104
Jezebel (blog), 2
Joe Millionaire (TV show), 46–47, 257
Johnson, Chad, 125–26
Johnson, Christopher, 103, 104
Johnson, Sandi (producer), 40, 48–49
Jolie, Angelina, 202
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 134
Joynt, Sharleen, 83–84, 120–21, 137–38, 147–48, 149, 153–54
judging others, 209, 248, 255, 264, 270
Jumbo Jet Crash: The Ultimate Safety Test, 19
Juno (movie), 141
Kaeppeler, Laura (Fleiss’s second wife), 48
Kardashians, 11, 76, 90, 94, 115, 230
Katie (film critic), 10
Kaufman, Amy, 1–13. See also Bachelor franchise; Bachelor Nation
application for Bachelor, 78–81
banned from Bachelor events, 1–3, 4, 77, 78, 152
fairy-tale romance, 5–6, 6–7
Fleiss and, 13
Gale and, 150–51, 152–53
“in-the-moment” (ITM) interview, 143–45
marriage and, 8, 9, 79
reasons for watching, 263–65
Kay Jewelers, 4, 201
Kelley, David E. (producer), 47
Kendrick, Anna, 95
Keuhn, Sheena, 230
Kevin (Probably) Saves the World (TV show), 224
kids and marriage, 76
Kimmel, Jimmy, 261–62
King, Kenny, 105
King, Larry, 23–24
Klein, Chris, 5, 6
Kraus, Peter, 107
KWTV, 30
L.A. Weekly, 62
LaChapelle, David, 250
Lady Gaga, 230
Lamas, Shayne, 273
Lane, Neil, 4, 54, 89, 154, 155, 186, 191, 201–2
Lange, Jim, 56, 58
Larry King Live (TV show), 23–24
last out of the limos, 110
late-night swim (Crawley and Galavis), 171–73
Late Show, The (TV show), 70
LATimes, 2, 249
laughing at other people, 3, 141, 184
Lawrence, Jennifer, 202
lawsuit by Bachelor employees, 42–43
League, The (TV show), 169
Leave It to Lamas (TV show), 47
Lenox, 202
Leo, Richard A., 148–49
Let’s Make a Deal (TV show), 57
Letterman, David, 70
Levenson, Lisa (producer), 32, 35–37, 38–40, 41, 43–44, 45, 104, 250
LGBTQ, 73
Lieber, Eric (producer), 61, 64, 65
lie detectors, 73
Lifetime, 36, 248
Limbaugh, Rush, 213
limos, 3, 28, 35, 102, 109–11, 127, 143, 264
Lindsay, Rachel, 103, 104, 105, 106–7, 225, 277
lion reunions, 184
Litman, Juliet, 256
LiveJournal (blog), 72
loggers, 161
Lorde, 202
Los Angeles Times, 25, 45
Louis Vuitton, 32
love. See also Bachelor franchise; fairy-tale romance; golden ticket; marriage; princess dream
brain and, 134–36, 138
fairy-tale romance, 191–93, 196–98
happily ever after, 262–63, 264–65
human desire, 15, 24, 75, 94, 95, 97, 223
Inside the Bubble strategy, 119, 134–36, 138–39
shifting views of, 11
Love Connection (TV show), 61–65, 66, 67
Love & Hip Hop (TV shows), 94, 221
“love match,” 192
Lowe, Sean, 91, 97–98, 99, 102, 110, 127, 177, 178, 179–80, 187, 198–99, 202, 204–6, 208, 211, 219, 220, 221, 274. See also Giudici (Lowe), Catherine
LoweCo., 222
LuMee, 233
lust vs. love, 135
Luyendyk, Arie, Jr., 107
Lyne, Susan, 47
Lynskey, Melanie, 112–13, 223–24, 248
Maguire, Daniel, 182
Maitland, Tommy, 58
Majors, Evan, 36, 40, 43, 104
make-it-or-break-it discussion (Lowe and Giudici), 198–99, 208
makeup artist, 100–101
Making a Murderer (TV show), 148
Malaney (Mesnick), Molly, 220–21, 257. See also Mesnick, Jason
Malia, James, 235
Malina, Joshua, 183–84
Mall Masters (TV show), 31
“man chats,” 120
mansion, 27, 28, 37, 49, 102, 109, 111, 115–22, 128, 143, 154, 164, 165, 185, 186
Mark’s Garden, 202, 235
marriage, 3. See also Bachelor franchise; fairy-tale romance; love
budding idea, 19, 21, 22, 24
happily ever after, 191–95, 247–65
Kaufman and, 8, 9, 79
producers owning rights to, 89
proposals, 3, 8, 10, 20, 28, 37, 45, 46, 50–51, 113, 155, 156, 198–200, 246, 252
rings, 4, 20, 45, 51, 76, 89, 113, 154, 155, 194, 199, 200–202, 252
roots of television romance, 63, 71
shifting views of, 11
successful relationships, 207–8
wedding industry, 202–3, 234
Marriage, A History: How Love Conquered Marriage (Coontz), 191–92
Marriage Boot Camp: Reality Stars (TV show), 95, 221, 222
Married . . . with Children (TV show), 17
Marriott, Evan, 47
Marsh, Amanda, 45, 271
Martinez, Roberto, 275–76
Mason, Ashley, 231
Mastrangelo, Karri-Leigh (producer), 157–58
Match.com, 134, 193, 233
Match Game (TV show), 57
Mayer, John, 261
Maynard, Emily, 97, 100, 102, 110, 138, 211, 273, 276
McCarthy, Jenny, 66, 67–68, 209
McConaughey, Matthew, 189
McKee, Ian, 275
McNary, Chase, 233–34
medical examination, casting process, 84
menstruation and ITMs, 145
“Men Tell All” (specials), 176, 180
Meredith (newspaper editor), 9, 10, 11
Merritt, John Paul, 196
Mesnick, Jason, 90, 103, 187, 201, 204, 220, 257, 273. See also Malaney (Mesnick), Molly
method to the madness, 143–67, 251
Michel, Alex, 29–30, 31, 32, 37, 38, 44, 45, 46, 50, 271
midget on Dating Game, 60–61
Miller, Kallissa, 67–68, 69, 73–74
“Millionaire Groom’s Dirty Secret” (The Smoking Gun), 22
Millionaire Matchmaker, The (TV show), 246
Million Dollar Matchmaker (TV show), 246
“mini dates” auction, 231–32
Mixer Room in the mansion, 117, 120
Models and Mutts date, 133
Mohegan Sun, 227
Molly (podcaster), 11, 238, 240, 242–43
Moonves, Leslie, 23
moral standard and advertisers, 167
Moretz, Chloë Grace, 150
Mosaic nightclub, 232
Mosca, Elise, 154, 155–56
MTV, 46, 67, 68, 69, 73, 104, 166
Murray, Josh, 180, 230, 232, 276
MVMT, 225
Myers, Mike, 58
My Reality (Rycroft), 90
Naked and Afraid (TV show), 70
Nash, Bruce (producer), 18, 25
National Organization for Women (NOW), 44–45
NBC, 21, 28, 56, 68, 130
NCIS (TV show), 21
negotiation, successful relationships, 208
Nelly, 232
Netflix, 79, 148
New Kids on the Block, 210
Newlywed Game, The (TV show), 58, 59
Newsday, 49, 50
New Yorker, 249
New York Post, 46
New York Times, The, 23, 30, 44–45, 46, 51–52, 193, 249
Next Entertainment, 23, 25, 42, 250
Next (TV show), 73
Nicks, Stevie, 238
Nielsen ratings, 105, 246
night-vision cameras, 182
“9 Reasons Strong, Intelligent, Feminist Women Watch The Bachelor(ette)” (Elle), 253
nipples and Dating Game, 60, 61
Nolan, Taylor, 181
notes on each contestant, 107–9
Not Safe with Nikki Glaser (TV show), 76
Noxon, Marti, 248
Nussbaum, Emily, 249
NYPD Blue (TV show), 47
O’Connell, Charlie, 272
Octopussy (movie), 64
Oliver, Mary, 250
Olympios, Corinne, 34, 123, 124, 181, 182, 245
O’Neill, Rosie, 261
One Light Luxury Apartments, 229, 234
One on One (wine), 261
online dating profiles tips, 240–41
opportunities post-television, 219–22
Oprah (TV Show), 195
Orlando Sentinel, 47
Osbourne, Ozzy, 26
Oxford, Kelly, 150
Paisley, Brad, 78
PALIO scale (Personality, Appearance, Lifestyle, Intelligence, Occupation), 62
Palmer, Jesse, 107–8, 129–30, 131, 132, 198, 272
Papa, Rozlyn, 86, 89, 90, 128, 158–61, 214–15
Pappas (Stagliano), DeAnna, 122, 199, 203–4, 275
Parenthood (TV show), 224
parties on sets, 41–42, 43
Paskin, Willa, 174
Password (TV show), 57
Pavelka, Jake, 79, 86, 103, 128, 158, 159, 160, 219, 273
Pemberton, Lacey, 46
Penn, Sean, 261
People, 116, 195
Perrin, Duan (producer), 104
Perry, Katy, 241
persecution, fairy tales about, 190–91
personality disorders, reality producers, 249
personality tests, casting process, 82, 84
Phillips, Meredith, 39, 43–44, 99, 201, 275
“physical or verbal aggression,” 88
“picker,” 66, 67, 69
Pitt, Brad, 241
Playboy, 66, 67, 68, 186, 216
podcasts, 11, 227, 238, 256, 257
Police Interrogation and American Justice (Leo), 148–49
pool encounter (Olympios and Jackson), 123–24, 181, 182
pop-up text bubbles, 69–70
positive delusions, 138
power balance in a relationship, 80
Pozner, Jennifer, 124–25
Pratt, Heidi and Spencer, 94–95
prefrontal cortex, 138
prenuptial agreement, 20–21
Press Democrat, 16–17, 18
Pretty Woman–themed dates, 187
princess dream, 112–13, 118–19, 185–91, 246, 252. See also fairy-tale romance; love
Princess Problem, The: Guiding Our Girls through the Princess-Obsessed Years (Hains), 189–90
private investigator, casting process, 84
producer manipulation. See also Bachelor franchise
alcohol and, 4, 245
contract for contestants, 87
under the covers (sex), 172, 178–79
drafting a game plan, 102–3, 109–10
editing process, 94, 161–64, 221, 251, 263
falling for the fairy tale, 197, 198, 200
happily ever after, 249, 252, 253, 263
Inside the Bubble strategy, 115–39, 197, 263
“in-the-moment” (ITM) interviews, 82–83, 107, 117, 121, 143–50, 165, 175, 178, 185, 197
method to the madness, 143–50, 152–57, 161–64, 164–67
reality of creating the fantasy, 37–38, 48–49
roles for contestants, 102–3, 123, 164, 165
roots of television romance, 60, 63–64, 65
Project Future Light, 229
proposals, 3, 8, 10, 20, 28, 37, 45, 46, 50–51, 113, 155, 156, 198–200, 246, 252
provocateur, 48. See also Fleiss, Mike
psychological tests, casting process, 85–86
publicity requirements, 88–89
quality of life, importance of, 246
Quinn, Molly, 150
Quinn (fictional character), 36
raccoon, confiding in a (Crawley), 162–63