by Babe Walker
White
Girl
Problems
Babe Walker
Dedication
For me.
Epigraph
“People want you to be a crazy, out-of-control teen brat. They want you miserable, just like them. They don’t want heroes; what they want is to see you fall.”
—Leonardo DiCaprio
Problems
Day 26
Problem #1: All I want for my birthday is for you to know what I want for my birthday without me having to tell you.
Problem #2: If I like him, he’s probably gay.
Problem #3: Who am I, and when did I gain a pound?
Problem #4: You’re my best friend, and I love you to death, but fuck you. Just kidding, I love you. Just kidding, I hate you. Call me.
Problem #5: My vagina is bullshit.
Problem #6: My major in college was picking my major, with a minor in being really bored.
Problem #7: I’m too pretty to be crying right now.
Problem #8: My first trip to jail was not nearly as fun as I thought it would be. Supercute mug shot though.
Problem #9: I hate my horse.
Problem #10: Sorry for texting you ninety-three times last night.
Problem #11: My grandmother is milking the shit out of this one.
Problem #12: My waxer knows me better than I know myself.
Problem #13: It’s 5:15. How much weight can I lose by 8:00?
Problem #14: I miss you, unless you miss me, in which case I’m over you and into me being me.
Problem #15: I’ll eat anything, as long as it’s gluten-free, dairy-free, low-carb, low-fat, low-calorie, sugar-free, and organic.
Problem #16: He’s not a doctor, a lawyer, or a prince.
Problem #17: I need a therapist to talk about the problems I’m having with my therapist.
Problem #18: My dad’s girlfriends are the best. Without them I’d have no one to scream at and blame everything on.
Problem #19: When you say, “Get a job,” I hear, “I hate you.”
Problem #20: Maybe people would take me seriously if I weren’t so hot.
Problem #21: Every job I’ve ever had is the worst job I’ve ever had.
Problem #22: I’m never drinking again, except for the occasional glass of white wine, vodka sodas, on holidays, or my birthday month.
Problem #23: I bottomed out at Barneys.
Problem #24: I surrender, aka excerpts from my rehab diary.
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Copyright
Day 26
I’ve been thinking a lot about what Jackson said in our session yesterday—fuck that guy. And fuck his stringy hair, and his fisherman hats, and his almond breath. How many times do I need to explain to him that I’m here because I spent $246,893.50 at Barneys during an afternoon of mental unclarity? What does he not understand?
During our first session, Jackson told me I could trust him, and that recovery was about accepting help from others. Quick question: how am I supposed to trust a man who works at a rehab facility in Utah? Does he not realize how creepy that is? He talks to psychos 24/7. I’m not going to just open up to him all of a sudden, so he needs to give it up. He keeps telling me that I’m approaching treatment from a place of anger. Well guess what? He hit the nail on the fucking head, because I am angry. I’m angry that I picked this bullshit, sauna-less rehab facility. I’m angry that, out of all of the counselors at this stupid place, they paired me with Jackson: the least chic one. And I’m angry that, after four weeks of being here, he still insists I’ve made zero progress. This past month was supposed to be about me relaxing, getting my emotions to a less fragile place, and losing a few pounds. Jackson, however, has made it his mission to ruin my chances of achieving peace with his constant nagging and prying.
Gosh, you’re so fucking smart, aren’t you, Jackson? With your “theories” about the “underlying issues” that brought me to rehab. I don’t even know what you’re talking about half of the time. Surrender, borderline, acceptance, boundaries, anorexia . . . blah, blah, hugging, crying, chanting, BORING. You need to relax. I’m addicted to shopping, not meth.
Everyone makes fun of me during group sessions. Their nickname for me is “White Girl Problems.” I know that Jackson and the rest of the cast of Trainspotting think that because I grew up in Bel Air, they know what I’m all about. They don’t. My life is not a joke, and that nickname is actually so fucking rude. Sometimes Jackson defends me, which I appreciate, but I’ve seen him laugh, which means I’ve also seen his teeth. Sick.
The truth is, Jackhole, that even though I’d rather talk about the inconsistencies in your hairline during group, I do actually have a lot of real problems. I always fuck the wrong guys, I hated my vagina for eleven years until I had it replaced, my dad’s British, I can’t hold a job, Alexander McQueen is gone forever, and even though I love Sarah Burton—and I really do love her—it will never be the same. Also, I just met my mom for the first time last week, which was a real mindfuck.
Is that good? Is that enough? Do you need more information to make your grand diagnosis? Do you need to know my entire life story? Is that what you fucking need, because I will go there, Jackson. I WILL GO THERE.
You know what I’m gonna do? I’m going to smoke two Marlboro Lights, brush my teeth, pull my hair into a chic/grungy little bun, put on my black shawl and a pair of Lanvin flats, walk down the hall to that smelly girl from Arizona’s room, steal ten Adderall from her stash, come back to my room, and write down all my life’s problems from start to finish. I’ll show all you cunt-faced bitches what White Girl Problems really are.
Love,
Babe
All I want for my birthday is for you to know what I want for my birthday without me having to tell you.
In a cruel twist of fate, every birthday I’ve ever had has been a complete and utter disaster. I’m cursed. And as much as I try to be a good person and put positivity out into the world, the birthday gods continue to piss upon me.
My first year of being on this earth was somewhat hectic. I was born at Cedars Sinai Hospital in Los Angeles on June 10, 1987. My mom then opted out of motherhood altogether, leaving my dad to deal with the pressures of raising a supercute kid on his own. So there we were, alone in a mansion in Bel Air.
The thing about my dad is, he’s the entertainment attorney in Los Angeles. If you are important, aka a celebrity, chances are you’ve worked with him. He’s also from England, which is great for me because there’s nothing chicer than having a European parent, and having two passports really puts you on a whole different social level. Also, everything sounds better with a British accent. Not that I have one myself, but I’ve been known to pull a Madonna if the occasion calls for it.
Just after I was born, my grandmother (whom I call Tai Tai because she thinks the word “grandmother” is an ageist slur) moved from London to LA and set herself up in a wing in our house so she could “help out with that adorable little accessory.” The truth was, she was excited at the prospect of living in a city where she wouldn’t have to apologize for making her appearance her number one priority, and she figured that pushing a newborn baby around in a stroller would make her appear younger.
When my first birthday rolled around, Tai Tai took it upon herself to host a cocktail reception on my behalf at the Peninsula Hotel in Beverly Hills. The guest list included my dad and all of her new Hollywood friends (producers, directors and their Asian girlfriends, and Elizabeth Taylor). Everyone was shocked when they arrived to find the party Babe-less. Yeah. Somewhere between lunching at La Scala and getting her hair done for the party, Tai Tai had managed to leave me in a dressing room at Neiman’s (while trying o
n a pair of sling-backs, I’m sure). Thankfully, some kind soul found me wandering around the jewelry department clutching an Hermès bangle (the only time I’ve shoplifted, I swear) and decided not to involve the authorities.
This accidental misplacement inspired my dad to hire Mabinty, a Jamaican baby nurse, to keep tabs on my every move. Mabinty’s been with us ever since. She’s a total bitch but in the best way possible. I guess I technically benefited from this first birthday party by getting a mother figure, so happy birthday to me.
The years passed, and I had a slew of shitty birthday scenarios, but I convinced myself that by my tenth, the curse would be lifted. Not so. I hadn’t even seen the worst of it . . .
I had always wanted to do a movie-themed party, so when the film The Lost World: Jurassic Park came out in theaters just before my tenth birthday, I knew I’d found the perfect fit. I was obsessed with the entire Jurassic Park franchise, so I decided to really go for it and transform our entire backyard into a lush dinosaur jungle. My dad even made a call to Steven Spielberg’s lawyer and got him to personally lend us some animatronic velociraptors. It was going to be major.
I kicked off the birthday festivities by screening a short film that I had written, directed, and starred in. This was my moment. At its core, my short film was an homage to Jurassic Park but way more political, and it was shot from the perspective of a dinosaur. I think it went over the heads of a lot of my guests, but when you’re pushing the boundaries of storytelling you’re gonna lose some people along the way. Looking back, I really admire the passion that I put into that film.
After the credits rolled, I made my grand entrance by busting through the movie screen on a go-kart that had been painted to look like a Jurassic Park Jeep. I was wearing a really chic safari number, complete with a hardened straw safari hat, and I announced to my guests that they were about to enter a “new world with endless possibilities.”
I led the first group into “The Lost World,” and within seconds it became clear that the animatronic dinosaurs were a huge mistake. The dinosaurs were so realistic-looking that every kid there was paralyzed with fear. Two boys from my class immediately pissed their pants when a velociraptor leapt at them from behind a tree. Children were literally freaking out. Three kids (including one epileptic) passed out completely, and one of my guests went into a catatonic state and had to be rushed out on a stretcher. I heard she spent seven years in therapy dealing with post-traumatic stress disorder and is now addicted to crack. (Sorry, Brooke! xoxo)
After a calamitous eleventh birthday (my boyfriend at the time had a crazy peanut allergy) and a controversial twelfth-birthday-party performance by Marilyn Manson, in which he tore out pages of a Bible and ate them, burned an American flag, and threatened to “make Satanic love” to my Tai Tai (who was into it), I decided that the best route to take for my thirteenth birthday would be a low-key pool party. So I threw a basic BBQ/swim/sleepover and invited the girls in my grade who were still allowed to come to my house, which basically just meant the nerdy, acne-faced girls to whom I’d barely ever spoken. But I needed seat fillers, it was my birthday for fuck’s sake.
Of course, I wasn’t going to partake in any barbecue food, but if my guests had such little respect for themselves that they wanted to clog their veins with cholesterol, the option was on the table, literally. In order to make a point that the Walker family could host a normal teenager’s birthday celebration, everyone attending was encouraged to bring food, making for a potluck scenario. (Let it be known that I vehemently oppose potluck ANYTHING, but I’d been branded a Satan worshipper thanks to Marilyn’s antics, so I needed an image overhaul.)
My dad had to be out of town for work on the day of the party, so Mabinty and Tai Tai were in charge of overseeing the festivities. Mabinty (my nanny/maid/BFF/party planner/project manager) and I have a tradition of staying up late on the night before my birthday and watching a movie that came out the year I was born. The night before my thirteenth birthday we watched Dirty Dancing while splitting half a slice of cake. Mabinty and I must have both fallen asleep during the movie, because I was jolted awake at 8:30 A.M. by loud snores and realized she was still in my bed. I got up and ran to the window, ripping open the curtains, expecting to see the beautiful Bel Air sun shining down on my backyard, but instead I was met with a gloomy, gray morning. And not only was it cloudy, but it was starting to sprinkle. Fuck. I couldn’t deal with a weather malfunction, so obviously I panicked.
“Mabinty! Mabinty! 9-1-1! 9-1-1!”
I ran over to my bed and pulled back the covers. I could tell by Mabinty’s breathing patterns that she was pretending to be asleep, so I started whispering in her ear.
“Mabinty, we have a code red emergency. Clouds. Rain. How are we going to pull off this party if there’s a hurricane today? This is supposed to be a pool party! What are the chances of tenting the entire pool/hot tub zone in the next three hours? I’m calling the architect.”
Mabinty pulled the covers back over her head.
“Yuh know yuh cyan’t be wakin’ mi up before nine in di morning, Babe Walker,” she said in her native Jamaican dialect, Patois (Patwa). “Every day ina di month of June begin with a gray sky. Mi promise yuh, dis afternoon it’ll be sunny fi yuh party. Mi gwahn down to mi room. Mi need to sleep so don’t yuh come a bahderin’ mi till at least eleven.”
I assumed that Mabinty knew what she was talking about or could see into the future, because by the time all of the guests arrived there wasn’t a cloud in the sky. Tai Tai, on the other hand, brought the shit storm. A week before my party, she’d gone under the knife for her second face-lift, and even though she was in a lot of post-op pain, she’d agreed to show up and bring some desserts. Due to her tendency to drink six to eight glasses of champagne a day no matter what’s going on, Tai Tai’s plastic surgeon had advised against taking any pain medication, so she was smoking lots of marijuana during the first few days of the healing process. Then she got sick of “smelling like an artist,” so she had her French pastry chef start making edible weed treats for her. On the day of my party, she mistakenly walked out the door with a tray of “Mary-Jane Macaroons” and “Petit Four-Twenties” instead of the vegan cupcakes I had requested.
When Tai Tai arrived at my party, I screamed in horror, then kindly greeted her and asked if she wouldn’t mind participating in the birthday celebration from the safety of our panic room. I don’t know if you’ve ever seen a face-lift after one week, but let me tell you, it’s really fucking scary. Her head was bandaged in such a way that only her eyes, nose, and mouth peered out, all black and blue and swollen. She looked like a dead Teletubby. I didn’t want her creeping out my guests. They’d been through enough over the years. Tai Tai was a little angry, but she relented once we set her up with a bottle of her favorite rosé and queued up all the surveillance cameras so she’d be able to see what was going on.
I’m not proud of what happened next.
Every year on my birthday I give myself the gift of eating one treat. Sometimes it’s a little piece of cake or a cookie. This year I went with one of Tai Tai’s macaroons. It was so fucking good that I couldn’t stop myself from eating two more. My guests followed suit and went to town on the tray of sweets, raving about how delish they were. About an hour later, everyone at the party was unknowingly stoned. My hot tub was filled with twelve tweenage girls, blazed out of their minds, discussing whether or not their moms’ fake tits were a bad thing. One girl was so paranoid that she locked herself in a broom closet and was never seen or heard from again. I was so high that I even let it slide when I opened my presents and discovered that two girls had bought me the same Kate Spade book bag. Mabinty knew something was up when she saw me lurking around the food table, murmuring, “I’m so hungry,” to myself and eating a plate of Kobe beef sliders with blue cheese dipping sauce. She cornered me.
“Babe Walker. What yuh dun now? Yuh smoking weed? Yuh too young to be stealin’ from mi stash.”
“That was one
time. I was nine, okay? It won’t happen again. What are you even talking about?”
“Yuh eyes are red, and yuh eatin’ like it’s yuh last meal on eart. Don’t try and tell Mabinty yuh nah high as a kite right now.”
She was right. Thankfully, no parents were around, and since we were all high, none of my guests thought anything weird was going on. Everyone had a blast, ate a ton of food, and we were all asleep on the living room floor by 8:30 P.M., so I guess it wasn’t that bad of a party, but I will never forgive myself for eating those little hamburgers. Or that hot dog. Or those sprinkles. Or that frosting on a spoon. Or that leftover pad thai that I found in the fridge that wasn’t even part of my birthday party. I mean, it’s fine for all of those regular people to eat that shit, but not me. Whatever, moving on.
My Sweet 16 was possibly the most epic disaster of all, and the only party that ended in death. That year was all about a tacky party, so my big idea was to transform the guest house into Studio 54. I had the interior of the house temporarily gutted and remodeled to resemble the club at its peak in the late seventies, obviously. Black walls, booths, ceiling-high shafts of neon lights—it was the perfect balance of grotesque and gorgeous. To add character, and to keep in theme with the era, I had small mounds of faux cocaine (vitamin B powder) scattered around the house. A lot of kids were so high on actual coke that they ended up snorting it anyway. The Studio 54 effect wouldn’t have been complete without a huge mass of people waiting in line to get in, so I hired one hundred extras to do that all night. One of them actually fainted because the polyester suit he was wearing was superhot, and I guess he was too old to stand up for five hours straight. Looking back, his near-death experience brought a certain authenticity to the party, which I can now appreciate.