Sexaholics

by Pynk

  Darla cut her eyes away from the crowd and plopped down on the bar stool next to Magnolia. “Happy fortieth birthday,” she said weakly. She and Magnolia leaned toward each other for a hug, and Magnolia patted her on the back. Darla glanced at her tiny barrel purse and opened it, snatching her touch-screen cell and eyeing it with a frown. “That newly freaky girl had better text me. Trying to shake the missionary and get all sixty-nine and shit. She ain’t forty yet, dammit.”

  PYNK’S SEX DICTIONARY

  FAVORITES II

  A–Z

  Autofellatio:

  A Better Sex Definition: The act of a man performing oral sex, or “going down,” on himself.

  Blue Balls:

  A Better Sex Definition: Blue balls is a slang term referring to testicular aching that may occur when the blood that fills the vessels in the male genital area during sexual arousal is not dissipated by orgasm. When a man becomes sexually excited, the arteries carrying blood to the genital area enlarge, while the veins carrying blood from the genital area are more constricted than in the nonarousal state. This uneven blood flow causes an increase in volume of blood trapped in the genitals and contributes to the penis becoming erect and the testicles becoming engorged with blood. During this process of vasocongestion the testicles increase in size 25–50 percent.

  Cameltoe:

  A Better Sex Definition: A vaginal wedgie (“vedgie”), most commonly caused by tight pants that work their way into the crevices of the vagina making a shape that clearly resembles a camel toe.

  Dyspareunia:

  A Better Sex Definition: Dyspareunia is the clinical name for painful intercourse. This condition can occur at any age, in both sexes, and the pain can appear at the start of intercourse, midway through, at the time of orgasm, or after intercourse is completed. The pain can be felt as burning, sharp, searing, or cramping. It can be external, within the vagina, or deep in the pelvic region or abdomen.

  Eunuch:

  A Better Sex Definition: A eunuch is a male for whom testicles (and sometimes the penis) have been removed. Pre-puberty removal results in a high-pitched voice and a boyish body. Postpuberty removal results in infertility. Testosterone, produced in the adrenal glands, along with other influences on sexual behavior may provide for sexual desire and erectile ability in the eunuch.

  Frenulum:

  A Better Sex Definition: The frenulum is the small triangular fold of highly sensitive skin on the underside of the penis, just behind the glans.

  Gonzo:

  A Better Sex Definition: An extremely low-budget genre of porn in which one person acts as director, actor, and cinematographer. First-person porn.

  Hymen:

  A Better Sex Definition: A hymen is the thin piece of tissue that partially blocks the entrance to the vagina. It is sometimes called the maidenhead or cherry. It is named after the Greek god of marriage and has no known biological function. Although some women are born without a hymen, most have one, and the hymen varies in size and shape from woman to woman. The hymen usually does not cover the entire vaginal opening, since there must be some way for the menstrual fluid, or period, to leave the body.

  Impotence:

  A Better Sex Definition: Impotence is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection of sufficient firmness for penetration during intercourse. Health professionals prefer the term erectile inhibition or erectile dysfunction to the term impotence due to the sweeping negative connotation the term impotence projects onto men.

  Jill Off:

  A Better Sex Definition: Female masturbation—a clever play on words that means the female equivalent of “jacking off.”

  Karezza:

  A Better Sex Definition: The physical techniques of karezza, as propounded by Alice Bunker Stockham and others in her circle, are designed to teach control of the orgasm response in both men and women, for the purposes of physical pleasure, partnership bonding, better health, and spiritual benefit. What sets karezza apart from traditional religious teachings such as tantra yoga is that karezza method applies equally to both partners in the relationship, whether they are a man and a woman, two men, or two women.

  Libido:

  A Better Sex Definition: Libido is the term that the noted founder of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud, used to label the sexual drive or sexual instinct. He noted that the sexual drive is characterized by a gradual buildup to a peak of intensity, followed by a sudden decrease of excitement. As he studied this process in his patients, Freud concluded that various activities like eating and drinking, as well as urination and defecation share this common pattern. Consequently, he regarded these behaviors as sexual or libidinous as well. Freud also became interested in the development of the libido, which he saw as the basic and most powerful human drive. He believed that the development of the libido involved several distinct and identifiable stages. During infancy, he noted, sexual drive is focused on the mouth, primarily manifested in sucking. He labeled this the oral stage of libidinous development.

  Manscaping:

  A Better Sex Definition: The act of grooming, shaving, or trimming hair on the male body. Derived from the word landscaping. One of the most recognizable scenes of manscaping is from the 2005 movie The 40 Year Old Virgin.

  Neo-Quickie Sex:

  A Better Sex Definition: The Art of the Quickie is the most comprehensive look at what we think of as “neo-quickie sex” we’ve read. Neo-quickie sex expands the old definition of quickies in this new age adult sex education book. In the past quickie sex had one goal—to please the man. Neo-quickie sex, according to Dr. Joel D. Block, senior psychologist at the Jewish Medical Center on Long Island, is about creating pleasure for both partners.

  Outercourse:

  A Better Sex Definition: Outercourse is a form of pleasuring and sexual sharing other than penile-vaginal intercourse. The term is used to give credibility to the many forms of sexual pleasure that are underused because of the common view of having sex as having intercourse.

  Paraphilia:

  A Better Sex Definition: A paraphilia is a mental health term recently used to indicate sexual arousal in response to sexual objects or situations which may interfere with the capacity for reciprocal affectionate sexual activity.

  Queer:

  A Better Sex Definition: Original definition is strange or odd. The definition morphed to also include people in a negative connotation, such as sissy or pervert, back in the ’50s. It has since been adopted as a term of empowerment by the gay community and has come to be a broader term that signifies anyone who dresses or acts outside societal norms.

  Runway:

  A Better Sex Definition: Also referred to as the “taint.” This is actually medically called the perineum and is the strip of skin between the scrotum and the anus.

  Sybian:

  A Better Sex Definition: The Sybian is a motorized seat used by women for simulated sex. The Sybian consists of a saddle, which contains an electric motor connected to a rod that protrudes from a hole in the center of the saddle. Various attachments, including dildos, butt plugs, and clitoral nubs can be attached to the rod. The Sybian vibrates (stimulating the clitoris) when turned on while the attachment rotates (stimulating the g-spot). The intensity can be increase or decreased using the control box attached to the Sybian.

  Tea Bagging:

  A Better Sex Definition: Tea Bagging is a form of oral sex where a scrotum is stimulated by the other person’s mouth or tongue. It is practiced by both heterosexual and homosexual couples. In one variation the male squats over his partner’s face while his partner licks his ball sack.

  Uncut:

  A Better Sex Definition: Slang for an uncircumcised man. Many parents who recognize that there is apparently no medical advantage to circumcision are now choosing not to have their sons circumcised. There is no evidence to suggest that circumcision has any effect on male sexual functioning one way or another. Opponents of routine circumcision argue that removing the foreskin lessens the sexual sensitivity of the gl
ans since it constantly rubs directly against clothing. There is simply no evidence demonstrating that circumcision makes a difference to sexual excitement, erection, and the ability to reach orgasm or the ability to have a pleasing and complete sex life with a partner.

  Vaginismus:

  A Better Sex Definition: Vaginismus is a purely psychological condition that occurs in women causing the muscles surrounding the vagina to close so tightly that they will not allow anything in. Women with vaginismus believe that they have no control over their vaginal muscles (which is not true). Vaginismus is due to earlier unresolved sexual traumas, fears, or anxieties. Psychological and behavioral therapies are helpful for dealing with this issue.

  Withdrawal:

  A Better Sex Definition: Withdrawal is the removal of the penis from the vagina before ejaculation occurs. This is NOT an effective contraceptive method. The pre-ejaculate lubricating fluids contain sperm capable of fertilization. A condom is recommended for safer sex and contraceptive practices.

  X-rated:

  Pynk Definition: Explicit sex acts, mainly used in pornographic movies.

  Yoni:

  Pynk Definition: An ancient Indian term for vagina, often mentioned in the term Yoni massage, aka pussy massage.

  Zoophilia:

  Pynk Definition: Fetish involving sex with animals.

  Definitions A–W are provided courtesy of the Adult Education Sex Dictionary terms listed on www.bettersex.com, where you will also find information on various Better Sex categories, including Adult Sex Education, Adult Sex Toys, Adult Movies, and more. You can log on to www.bettersex.com for more information.

  READING GROUP GUIDE

  1. Do you feel you understood Miki’s need to have as many men as she did? Was it kind of a boomerang effect? What would you say was her biggest character flaw, other than her addiction to sex?

  2. As far as Valencia was concerned, should Greg have understood her need for the girls, being that she accepted his chronic need for masturbation? Should he have been more patient, since they had experienced various partners throughout their long relationship and she helped him out as far as his career was concerned?

  3. With Teela agreeing to allow Austin to be with other women as long as she could watch, do you think she got what she deserved, or was he the one who crossed the boundaries of their relationship? What would you like to see happen to her?

  4. Did you begin to feel some understanding for Brandi’s situation toward the end of the story? In the end, did you see her as a victim or as a criminal?

  5. Which character would you say had the biggest addiction to sex and why?

  6. Have you ever had sex with a stranger, meaning sex with someone you’d known less than a few hours? Did it grow into more or was it a one-time, hit-it-and-quit-it incident?

  7. What was the most dysfunctional sexual scene in Sexaholics?

  8. Which lady would you like to see make an appearance in a future Pynk book? Why?

  9. Out of all the male characters in Sexaholics, which one do you think was the best lover? What was it about his sex habits that impressed you?

  10. Do you personally know of anyone in your life who might be a sexaholic, but perhaps they’re unaware of the intensity of their situation? What makes you suspect they could be addicted to sex?

  11. If you were to classify yourself as having one addiction, what would it be? Food, gambling, alcohol, surfing the web, porn, cigarettes, shopping, shoes, sex, etc.

  12. What would you do if a best friend betrayed you the way Valencia betrayed Miki? Did Valencia get what she had coming to her when all was said and done?