by Jean Haner
We went on to feng shui the house. When we were saying good-bye at the end, she said to me the one sentence I’d kept hearing from person after person in my feng shui work: “I feel like you came to my house and fell in love with me.”
Wow, did my heart sing, and with a flash, I realized that was my true calling in life! This is really what my work has always been about—with feng shui, face reading, Nine Star Ki, and energy clearing—I’m in the business of falling in love.
If this is your number, too, your work is to develop your own fearless heart, to hold a place of pure love in the world. It doesn’t mean that you stay wide open emotionally and let yourself get hurt, but instead that your heart has such healthy boundaries that it can genuinely dance with the energy of anyone you encounter and still be safe. It’s easy to say but not so easy to do, and the real work is always to open your heart to yourself.
Recognizing how your third number is expressed in your own life can help you move beyond your old limitations to embrace what you used to perceive as problems. Now you can understand them as lessons that are leading you further toward your greatest purpose. You may have discovered how yearnings you’ve felt throughout your life for a certain kind of work, lifestyle, or relationship have a powerful meaning within the context of your third number. With this knowledge, you may find ways to more easily reach your heart’s desire!
As you’ve seen, this seemingly simple set of three numbers reveals an intricate world of meaning. The very best way to integrate what you’re learning is to not only practice applying it to yourself, but also to use it in your experiences with others in real-life situations. The three numbers interact and influence each other in a unique and harmonious symmetry, just like all things in nature. The more you work with this system, the more you’ll see how it gives you a deep and thorough understanding of anyone’s true spirit.
However, you don’t always have to analyze at length in order to discern important information about someone. You can learn to get a glimpse of anyone’s patterns from their particular three-number design. In the next chapter, I’ll give you some examples to demonstrate.
CHAPTER 6
81 COMBINATIONS
In order to understand someone, you need to consider all aspects of their personal hidden symmetry—all three of their numbers and how they dance together. The effects of some qualities can be modified by the influence of others, so it’s important to remember that the numbers all interact. For instance, if someone is a 6.2.9, their Nine can make them reach out to someone in their desire for a heart-to-heart connection. But as soon as they’ve made an intimate contact, their Two’s lack of confidence and their Six’s sensitivity to that person’s energy can kick in and make them pull back. This can be a bewildering experience for the other person … unless they’ve read this book!
What follows are brief descriptions of each of the 81 different Nine Star Ki combinations to help you start to see ways the qualities can interact. When someone is in balance, they’ll live the healthy version of their numbers; if they are out of balance, however, the expression becomes unhealthy. Each section gives you brief snapshots of both so that you can learn to identify where someone is in their personal evolution. I’ve also included some examples of noteworthy people with those numbers. You’ll most likely recognize them as famous names from the world of self-empowerment; along with celebrities in entertainment, sports, or politics.
Of course, these are very abbreviated readings and show only a sampling of the ways these influences can weave together. To really understand someone, read the descriptions for each of their numbers in the previous chapters and then observe how these characteristics play out in your experience of them.
A note about twins: Because twins share the same birth date, they have the same Nine Star Ki numbers, but of course they have different personalities, so you might wonder how this system could have meaning here. Yet what you’ll find is that while they’ll both carry the essence and influence of their numbers, one twin will be the yang version of these qualities and the other will be the yin expression. In other words, the yang twin will be the more active and outgoing version of their numbers, more externally expressive; and the other will show the more introverted and quiet side of the same characteristics, more focused on their inner world. Every parent of twins whom I’ve worked with has immediately been able to identify which one is the yang twin and which is the yin.
Interestingly, I’ve worked with three sets of triplets over the years, and in every case, they recognized one sibling as the yang version, one as the yin, and for the third they all agreed it was as if that one had been dropped in from outer space—totally different in personality from the other two!
1.1.5
Healthy expression: You’re born with natural intuition, deep willpower, and a strong need for freedom and independence. Highly creative, you’ll probably live an unusual life. You have a magnetic personality and can develop your inner strength to help others do the same.
Unhealthy expression: You have the potential for arrogance, secretiveness, or suspicion.
Famous examples: Jennifer Hudson, Serena Williams, the Reverend Al Sharpton
1.2.4
Healthy expression: You have an adaptable and caring nature, and people find you easygoing and very likable. You may be artistic, yet cautious in life overall; even after you choose a direction, your life path just naturally involves lots of change.
Unhealthy expression: You can let fear and self-doubt block your progress.
Famous examples: Whitney Houston, Beyoncé Knowles, John McCain
1.3.3
Healthy expression: You have a creative nature and an idealistic desire to change the world, and people may be surprised by your incredible drive and determination. If you can tap into your strong inner discipline, you can achieve all your goals.
Unhealthy expression: You can be too direct and disregard others’ feelings.
Famous examples: Nelson Mandela, Jack Kornfield, Pema Chödrön
1.4.2
Healthy expression: Your gentle way of being belies your deep inner strength. You always want to help others and are willing to patiently set your own needs aside to do so. With your creative nature, you’re sure to find ways to express your artistic side.
Unhealthy expression: You may struggle with self-doubt or give away your power to others.
Famous examples: Johnny Depp, Natalie Portman, Kris Kristofferson
1.5.1
Healthy expression: You have a deep emotional nature and incredible willpower. Your need for freedom and independence will factor into every decision you make. Highly creative and intuitive, you might live the life of an artist or healer.
Unhealthy expression: You may be overly ambitious or secretive and ruled by fear.
Famous examples: Priscilla Presley, Mike Myers, Wayne Brady
1.6.9
Healthy expression: You’re a creative free spirit, independent and adventurous. Warm and gracious with others, you can put anyone at ease. But you’re not always extroverted—you also benefit from regular times of solitude.
Unhealthy expression: You can feel overwhelmed and anxious, especially if life goes too fast.
Famous examples: Michelle Obama, Jackie Chan, Jet Li
1.7.8
Healthy expression: Thanks to your imaginative nature, you may end up working in the arts. You love private time because that’s when your creative juices flow. There’s a lot you may not say in order to spare others’ feelings or because you don’t believe they’d understand.
Unhealthy expression: You can be insecure, secretive, or stubborn.
Famous examples: Brad Pitt, Quentin Tarantino, Mary Tyler Moore
1.8.7
Healthy expression: You need your space in life, and regular solitude is like vitamins for you. You can power through difficult times with your deep inner strength. You have a natural charm with people because you’re so good at reading them.
Unhealthy expressi
on: You may have secrets or just say whatever you think people want to hear.
Famous examples: John Travolta, Ron Howard, Bette Midler
1.9.6
Healthy expression: You’re intuitive and sensitive, with insights other people lack, and because of this you can be a very inspiring influence. You’ll have a strong vision of what to do in any situation and care about doing things right.
Unhealthy expression: You can be obstinate or try to manipu-late people.
Famous examples: Jenny McCarthy, John Lithgow, Henry Winkler
2.1.6
Healthy expression: Kind and caring, you highly value family and all your relationships. You’ll be able to take charge when necessary and do whatever needs to be done. You have an emotional depth others may not recognize.
Unhealthy expression: You may act like a victim or hold on to hurt feelings far too long.
Famous examples: Ewan McGregor, Rosie O’Donnell, Diana Ross
2.2.5
Healthy expression: You feel compelled to help others and may end up at the center of a movement or organization, even as you struggle with self-confidence. You want deep and long-lasting friendships and will invest time and energy in all your relationships.
Unhealthy expression: You can be critical or controlling or feel sorry for yourself.
Famous examples: Chelsea Clinton, Woody Allen, Martha Beck
2.3.4
Healthy expression: You want to make the world a better place and will do best working within an organization to gently change the system from the inside rather than being a rebellious activist. People respond to your kind, gentle nature.
Unhealthy expression: You can get lost in self-doubt, overthink things, or struggle with depression.
Famous examples: Thich Nhat Hanh, Tony Shalhoub, Winona Ryder
2.4.3
Healthy expression: You have an enormous drive to be of service, and you can be a real force for change in the world. You can help motivate people to create a new vision for moving forward in life and keep them headed in the right direction.
Unhealthy expression: You may struggle with frustration, anger, or depression.
Famous examples: Louise Hay, Amma (“the Hugging Saint”), Lance Armstrong
2.5.2
Healthy expression: You’re kind and generous, with a sincere desire to do good work. It will be important to you to establish a good home and have lifelong friends. Your attention will always go toward the needs of others, and you enjoy being a source of support for those you care about.
Unhealthy expression: You can criticize and complain or act like a victim.
Famous examples: Lyndon Baines Johnson, Alfred Hitchcock, Steve Carell
2.6.1
Healthy expression: You work hard on any project because you care so much and want to get it right. You need freedom and flow in life, yet you honor your responsibilities and devote time and energy to authentic connections with friends and family.
Unhealthy expression: You may expect others to take care of you without doing much in return.
Famous examples: Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Kristi Yamaguchi, Wesley Snipes
2.7.9
Healthy expression: You’re warm, affectionate, and attuned to communicating in ways people can understand. Your strong sense of devotion can move you toward careers involving helping others, especially ones that center around teaching. Your life may revolve around your work.
Unhealthy expression: You’re hypersensitive and may sacrifice yourself for others to the extreme.
Famous examples: the Dalai Lama, Benazir Bhutto, Tom Cruise
2.8.8
Healthy expression: Incredibly loyal and caring, you have a quiet depth of strength and provide a sense of safety and stability for the people in your life. You can work long and hard and will always be the one to help the underdog.
Unhealthy expression: You can be judgmental and resistant to change.
Famous examples: John F. Kennedy, Marilyn Monroe, George Lucas
2.9.7
Healthy expression: You have a sincere desire to help others and make them happy, and you’re far more sensitive to people’s energy than they may realize. Charming and gracious, you can excel at inspiring people to live better lives.
Unhealthy expression: Your responsibilities may feel too heavy, and you struggle with perfectionism and a sensitivity to energy.
Famous examples: Oprah Winfrey, Howard Stern, Justin Timberlake
3.1.7
Healthy expression: You’re energetic and enthusiastic and can easily charm people to your benefit. You’re more sensitive and emotional than others recognize. Highly creative, you’ll want to use your ideas to make the world a better place.
Unhealthy expression: You overreact to criticism and may be driven by the desire for status.
Famous examples: Princess Diana, Liam Neeson, Ricky Gervais
3.2.6
Healthy expression: You’re driven to prove yourself and want to feel proud of your achievements. When you get down to work, you manage any self-doubt and then really take charge and attend to all the details so that things are done and done well.
Unhealthy expression: You can be competitive, judgmental, or critical.
Famous examples: Tina Fey, George Clooney, Katharine Hepburn
3.3.5
Healthy expression: You have a powerful vitality that draws other people’s attention. You’re very goal oriented, and it’s important to you to stay active. You’ll always feel driven to learn, grow, and achieve and may help others do the same.
Unhealthy expression: You may struggle with anger, depression, or addiction.
Famous examples: Elvis Presley, Jim Carrey, Kate Hudson
3.4.4
Healthy expression: Your gentle, adaptable nature helps you work well with people; and you may assist others in improving their lives. Your active mind can think of more than one solution to any problem. If plan A doesn’t work, you have B and C ready to go.
Unhealthy expression: You can be skeptical, judgmental, or challenged by depression.
Famous examples: Gloria Steinem, Queen Latifah, Mariah Carey
3.5.3
Healthy expression: You may be a catalyst for others; you don’t coddle people but get them moving again toward positive growth. Your logical mind can see what’s wrong in the world, and you’ll feel a strong drive to change things for the better.
Unhealthy expression: You can struggle with anger, depression, or addiction.
Famous examples: George Harrison, Caroline Myss, Meg Ryan
3.6.2
Healthy expression: You’re driven and dedicated, with firm ideas of what you want from life. You have the energy to achieve your goals and the patience to finish what you start. Relationships will give you important lessons.
Unhealthy expression: You can be selfish or demanding and sensitive to criticism.
Famous examples: k. d. lang, Margaret Thatcher, Jeff Goldblum
3.7.1
Healthy expression: Highly creative, you’re ambitious and driven, yet you always honor your need for freedom. Your vitality and determination can take you far—and as you trust your intuition, life can carry you to interesting places.
Unhealthy expression: You may be stubborn, pushy, or ruled by fear.
Famous examples: Pink, Julio Iglesias, Chevy Chase
3.8.9
Healthy expression: With your strong personality and powerful energy, you’re able to inspire and motivate others. You combine a logical approach with warmth and enthusiasm, and your focused drive helps you achieve your goals.
Unhealthy expression: You can be judgmental, pushy, or impulsive.
Famous examples: Robert De Niro, Jay Mohr, Roger Waters
3.9.8
Healthy expression: You’re a hard worker, and your focus may be on helping others or making the world a better place. If you combine your logical mind and intuitive insight with your single-minded determination, you can accomplish great things.
Famous examples: Barack Obama, Mick Jagger, Marianne Williamson
4.1.8
Healthy expression: You have an adaptable nature and an emotional depth others might not recognize. You’re a hard worker with high moral principles, and you’ll be a lifelong student, always looking for ways to develop yourself.
Unhealthy expression: You can be skeptical, judgmental, or lack self-confidence.
Famous examples: Jimmy Carter, Sting, Zach Galifianakis
4.2.7
Healthy expression: An excellent communicator, you’re witty and charming with other people, able to make everyone feel welcome. As you learn to manage your perfectionism, you empower yourself to create a beautiful life and feel proud of your accomplishments.
Unhealthy expression: You can overanalyze, procrastinate, or be too self-critical.
Famous examples: Sean Penn, Antonio Banderas, Jack Black
4.3.6
Healthy expression: It’s important to you to feel proud of your achievements, and you may rise to the top within a structured system. You’ll always be focused on getting work done and learning new things, and you don’t like to waste time or effort.
Unhealthy expression: You can be cynical or easily frustrated with others.
Famous examples: Harrison Ford, Amelia Earhart, Jennifer Lopez
4.4.5
Healthy expression: You have an easygoing, diplomatic nature, and you may be influential in your career. An excellent thinker and an idealist, you can use your analytical ability to help others. Life will be full of change and growth.