by Jean Haner
In other words, if you become angry, your system gets swept away in anger for minute and a half. If you remain angry after that time, it’s because consciously or unconsciously, you’ve chosen to stay there. You are actually completely in charge of whether you click back into the feeling again after that brief time has passed.
The reason an emotion continues after 90 seconds is because we’re so used to it that we believe it as reality. We get swept up into the story we know so well about who we are and what our life experience is. Again and again, we re-create that emotion the moment its effects begin to fade from our physical body and in the same way, we re-create our “story,” continuing to manifest our future based on our past.
So, just as with the Chinese finger trap, the way to change your relationship with your experience is to relax into it, which will help you let go of how you habitually used to react. Remember that your thoughts and emotions are simply patterns of nature, not something you’re doing wrong. Really, all any feeling wants is to be welcomed with tenderness. When you can recognize your emotions, perceptions, and behaviors as being simple expressions of your natural design, it liberates you to step out of your story and love whatever comes.
A Seven’s thoughts will always tend toward self-criticism and still move to create beauty in the world; a Nine will always fear rejection, yet radiate affection; a Five will always crave appreciation but selflessly offer support, just as an oak grows acorns and a bird sings its insistent song. A feeling is just a feeling. Let it come and watch it go—another will come right after. These are the beautiful waves of energy implicit in your hidden symmetry. The more you can let yourself surf those waves, the more ease and the less stress you’ll have in your system, and life will just unfold. When you’re in balance, you’re in alignment with nature—wuwei—and like that tree, you just grow.
AFTERWORD
Moving Forward
You can use Nine Star Ki to discover the beautiful symmetry of your own inner plan, as well as the hidden design imprinted in the lives of the people around you. The more you develop your knowledge of the elements and numbers, the more insights you’ll gain, the more “Aha!” moments you’ll have that can help you create a life that’s in alignment with your true nature. This is not about finding out what’s “wrong” with you or anyone else. It’s about discovering how to harmonize your unique qualities so that you can live in a healthy and positive way.
One of the best ways to develop your skills with Nine Star Ki is through simple observation. Once you know someone’s numbers, keep them in mind. As you pay attention, you’ll be fascinated by how these characteristics emerge in any interaction you have with them and by what you notice about their strengths, challenges, beliefs, and desires—and the story they’re continuing to tell themselves about who they are and what life is like.
You may find that you’re amazed by how easily you can see these qualities at play in everyone else’s life; yet when it comes to understanding your own three numbers, you might relate strongly to some of the descriptions, but not be able to discern some of your most important patterns. This is because you’re too close. None of us can fully see our own “stuff,” so it can be fun to use this book with friends, to let them read the descriptions of your numbers and point out how they’re apparent in ways you never recognized!
And I really should warn you, this can be addicting! When you meet someone new, you may immediately try to find some excuse to ask their birth date; when someone’s in the public eye, you’ll be jumping online to research when they were born. One easy way to keep up with things is to check my website, where you’ll find free tips and stories and where you can ask questions or share comments: www.jeanhaner.com.
If I were to do a personal reading for you, I’d look at the design in both your birth date and the features of your face, because the messages communicated in your face can modify the imprint of your birth date, and reveal other important aspects of who you came here to be. Together, these present the most complete picture of your true inner spirit, far more than any other system I’ve ever found. If you’re looking for the next step, I’d recommend learning about Chinese face reading in order to see how other qualities of your personality and life map are revealed in your face. (You can find lots of free information about face reading on my website as well.)
You were born with a unique spirit that is yours and yours alone, yet which is also a part of the greater patterns of the whole of nature. The more fully you can embrace yourself for who you really are, the more you can move into a place of confidence and compassion, where you can fulfill your sacred purpose in the world. I’ll meet you there.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I’m over-the-moon grateful to my soul sister Louise Hay for her loving recognition and support of my work. In the process of writing this book, we discovered that our ancestors emigrated from the same part of what is now the Czech Republic to Chicago at about the same time, so who knows—perhaps our essence is literally intertwined in past generations! What I do know for sure is that we share the same spirit ancestors, guiding us to share messages of love in the world, and I’m dumbstruck with honor and awe that I get to do so in such great company.
I also want to thank Laurel Kelly and John Sims for their boundless love and generosity to me on so many levels, and for giving me unlimited petting access to their cat, Junior, every time I’m in town. (Thank you, too, Junior.) How did I get so lucky? Thanks to my sister and brother-in-law, Diane and Eric Anderson, for all their love over the years; and to Jeffrey Wai-Ming Dong for his influence on this material and for being a man I’m so proud to call my son.
Deep bow to all my teachers, including Lorie Dechar, Jon Sandifer, and William Spear; as well as a big thanks to my absolute queen of an editor, Shannon Littrell, and to friends Beth Atchison and Ruth Mikos for their patient research of birth dates!
Thank you also to everyone who has worked with me in exploring the miracles of their hidden symmetry over the years and to those of you still to come. You’ll never know how deeply you touch my heart.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jean Haner, a 2.7.9 and the author of The Wisdom of Your Face and The Wisdom of Your Child’s Face, teaches compassionate and affirming ways for you to understand your true nature and to feel love for everyone in your life, including that reflection in the mirror. With her 30-year background in ancient Chinese principles of balance and health, Jean is well known for providing fascinating and practical information that can be put to immediate use in your life.
Jean married into a Chinese family when she was in her 20s and first began to learn about Chinese culture, philosophy, and medicine from her very traditional mother-in-law. It wasn’t until after her wedding that she discovered the family had had her birth date evaluated to see if she was a “lucky” match for her husband, and that even the date and time of the ceremony had been determined according to what would bring the most luck for the family.
She went on to study the deeper foundations of what the ancient Chinese had discovered about the cycles of time with many teachers over the years, and learned that it has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with learning to be true to your nature.
For free updates and information on Jean’s readings, workshops, and professional trainings, visit www.jeanhaner.com.
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