40 Days of Dating: An Experiment
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Dave Chappelle
George Carlin
Louis CK
Robin Williams
BOOKS
The Autobiography of Malcolm X by Alex Haley, The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand, In Search of the Miraculous by P.D. Ouspensky, A Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell, Nothing If Not Critical by Robert Hughes
TV SHOWS
Felicity
Sopranos
Daily Show with Jon Stewart
Cosby Show
Seinfeld
# loveis_______
sone_oppa designed by the devil to make you lose focus on what’s important.
Cristina Arce Smiling all the time, and not even knowing why.
Julia Amann Love is a disease with all kinds of beautiful and bad side effects and no chance of healing
Monica N. Samuel Love is like fire; it burns but still keeps you warm about an hour ago
Heissel Carvajal So common yet so rare. So needed yet so hardly given. So hard to find but when found...Hold onto it.
Garland Marie Watkins caring for someone’s happiness and well-being over your own.
flickster Love is holding your child for the first time
Kenneth B. Rodebert Love is always a risk. What if it does not work out? Ah, but what if it does.
lesliemambriz Unconditional
And_Agency: Love is to evol_ve forwards
dom_isdabest Love is pain in every imaginable way
Monica Leigh Stebbing Precious and all around us.
xnonHipsterfrede an illusion
Patryk Klos visit in another dimension without gravity
emilyzirimis Love is honest.
Cortnie LaBaire Tango when your differences make no difference
lisaschneller Love is life itself. Without it we would not be human.
Najmi Rosdi...intangible
sassci Love is when your faith in happiness and your desire to give come in human form.
kmtabish Blind... :)
Eduardo Gonzalez The reason why you wake up every day
Flávio Miguel Dos Santos waking up in the night, hugging her so tight and falling a sleep again
Seet Chareli a good snack of cup noodles at 3am.
Jerry Tamburro Is never selfish
Avinash Jai Singh a mirage
MolliRossDesign Love is him knowing how I like my coffee.
TylerDeeb not accomplished in 40 days.
AMNoe Coffee never about possession. But appreciation.
Monica Fam Armanious Giving yourself to another person and not expecting anything in return.
Monica N. Samuel Love is like fire; it burns but still keeps you warm
Matt Priest A 5 year old boy once told me that love is when you hold someone’s hand and you never want to let it go.
larational liking all of the same tv shows as someone else
TaraVictoriaL so cool! “Love is an adventure!”
Gayatri Makhijani Patience.
Drew_Lowther Love is a killer.
_sarisabel beautiful
Kristen Echevarria The best drug in the world.
Drew_Lowther Love is a killer.
brittmeyer9 Love is madness and sublimity; two mirrors facing each other, catching a glimpse of infinity.
stephaynee Love is free. fierce unconditional. commitment. active. dynamic. helping another person be better and letting them make you better.
kiminthirath Sharing your food without having second thoughts.
Kate Trotter The pain in your chest and the butterflies in your stomach.
Elsa Laino a burning thing
Denisse Villa Complete vulnerability
Mihir Deo sex without the guilt after finishing
Laura Taylor Love is how I feel about Jessica, but not how I feel about Tim #ladybias
Tara Seprita Supono motivation to be the best version of ourselves
Tom Cavill doing someone’s toast just the way they want it
Rachella Dubbeldam Ending up black and bruised after an amazing pillow fight.
ember_2 Love is Patience and Compromise.
ratsimihah Love is a b*tch.
Yoko Ono Love is the force of life. It keeps us alive, spread it and heal.
eggsnraam a motherfucker.
mirandamarie292 Love is hard.
Alex Peterson A decision. 40 years down the road when things are harder, it may still be a feeling for some, but to others it’s a decision to keep going.
Goutami Kkota a priced commodity... for which there is demand, but which is supplied without qualitative differentiation across a market.
jra3086 Worth it
hakepn7 both simple and complicated.
holameri Not having to explain your favorite ice cream flavors are raspberry and cinnamon, and that they do go well together
Hughlangis Love is a burrito
Lucy Bonner hugging your dog when you first get home from work
lesliehill1 love is a choice.
Cindy Liang Warming up the car for them before they go to work in the morning
ManeeshSidhu @jessicawalsh daring to be vulnerable.
JCA914 Love is when I can order your coffee, dinner, or drink for you because I already know.
Ian Wells Effortless when right, charity work when tried, and hard labor when forced.
RySwiers Love is a warm blanket
John Morgan Love is a blank canvas that we should paint on
Hoodad Moslemi Nejad Love is a complicated mystery
andrehyna Love is the one thing we look for in life, whether we admit it or not.
Kerrysmith92 life’s greatest mystery
RyanWakeUp Love is finding someone just as weird as yourself.
LoveShackable Love is life.
lolthai Love is 2/3 the greatest joy you’ll ever know and 1/3 the worst pain of your life.
walkwithwah is like a long marathon. You never know how it ends though you might have given it your all
melissanurre “Love is the closest thing we have to magic.”
chelpants love is my husband.
Timothy Stroh Love is like sampling a teaspoon of a tablespoon of the finest chocolate syrup running down the stem of a cactus all the while getting poked by its myriad of spines. If you are lucky enough to lick up a little sweet and come away smiling, one might know if the search for love was actually worth it.
bellsq Love is not about happy endings. Love is keep going forward with happiness.
Gerard Lopez Love is a blank canvas that we should paint in
Stephtacular22 Love is being unselfish. Their happiness is the only thing that matters to you. Even if it means letting go.
lisaschneller Love is life itself. Without it we would not be human.
Mari Zuñiga waking up at 5 am because our countries have a 15 hour difference
alibops87 bloody marvelous (and occasionally devastating) hopefully the former more often
Agustin Contreras Love is giving someone everything they want, no matter how much it destroys.
Jexpo1976 Love is a term used by many to describe the things they like. Real love is complicated.
philenetanlove is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own
Hallo_Kai a never ending compromise. tricky.
SimonCheadle evol backwards
YuhinaL Love is finding a common honesty in the grey areas
Nili Askari Love is accepting someone for who they are and not trying to change them, flaws and all!
Alyssa Ramirez love is unselfish
João Abreu Love is—a fire that burns without being seen...
NateDaubert dangerous
andsherants Love is coffee.
DATING MAP
The map shows some of our date spots from the experiment. We’ve also included many of our favorite spots in New York.
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1. The Fat Radish: 17 Orchard Street, NYC 10002
We had our first date here. Excellent food and cocktails on the Lower East Side/Chinatown border.
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2. Lucille Lortel Theatre: 121 Christopher Street, NYC 10014
We went to the play Really Really here on Day Three.
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3. Ace Hotel: 20 West 29th Street, NYC 10001
One of our usual hangouts. On Day Six of the experiment we went for drinks with mutual friends.
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4. Madison Square Garden: 4 Pennsylvania Plaza, NYC 10001
We went to a Knicks game here on Day Ten. Tim’s favorite.
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5. Aire Ancient Baths: 88 Franklin Street, NYC 10013
Steam rooms and thermal baths in Tribeca. One of Jessie’s favorite spots. We went here on Day Thirteen.
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6. The Grey Dog: 242 West 16th Street, NYC 10011
We went here for breakfast on Day Fourteen. A nice local coffee spot for lunch and dinner dates. 7. Mandarin Oriental MOBar: 80 Columbus Circle, NYC 10023
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7. Mandarin Oriental MOBar: 80 Columbus Circle, NYC 10023
A cocktail bar near Columbus Circle with beautiful city views. The Mandarin Oriental Spa is also a favorite spot.
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8. City Bakery: 3 West 18th Street, NYC 10011
One of our usual breakfast and coffee hangouts.
This place has the best pretzel croissants, and their hot chocolate is to die for.
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9. Trailer Park Lounge: 271 West 23rd Street, NYC 10011
A fun, kitschy place decorated like a trailer park. It’s a regular local spot near Jessie’s office for Tater Tots and margaritas.
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10. Middle Branch: 154 East 33rd Street, NYC 10016
Cozy jazz-infused speakeasy lounge with great cocktails and bar snacks. It’s a slightly hidden spot on Third Avenue near Tim’s apartment. We went here on Day Twenty-Four right before the jazz show.
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11. Jazz Standard: 116 East 27th Street, NYC 10016
One of Tim’s favorite jazz clubs. We went to it on Day Twenty-Four.
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12. Ports Coffee & Tea Co.: 251 West 23rd Street, NYC 10011
Cozy espresso and tea bar across from Jessie’s office on 23rd Street. A regular spot where we meet up.
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13. The Smile: 26 Bond Street, NYC 10012
A great dinner spot in NoHo that we both love.
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14. Pure Food and Wine 54 Irving Place, NYC 10003
One of Jessie’s favorite date spots. Romantic backyard patio and an all-raw-food cuisine.
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15. Chelsea Piers: 62 Chelsea Piers, NYC 10011
On Day Thirty-Three we attempted to hold hands for the entire day. We went bowling and played pool.
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16. Bluebell Café: 293 Third Avenue, NYC 10010
A usual hangout spot for wine after we teach design classes at the SVA in NYC.
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17. Whole Foods: 4 Union Square South, NYC 10003
Tim has a history of meeting women here.
THANK YOU
We can’t thank those who made this book possible without first thanking everyone who helped us carry out the experiment and the website.
Our eternal gratefulness goes to all eighty of the illustrators who helped bring the website to life. A huge thank you to Eric Jacobsen for his tireless work building a magnificent site (and for putting up with our design snobbery).
Our deepest gratitude goes to Santiago Carrasquilla and Joe Hollier for shooting and editing lovely videos.
We’re grateful to Deborah Aaronson, Andrea Danese, Anna Oseran, Emily Albarillo, True Sims, Danny Maloney, and the entire Abrams family for publishing our book.
Thank you to the always precise Kevin Brainard, Jason Nuttall, and Raul Aguila for designing one hell of a book.
Also to Esther Li, Jordan Shevell, and Rikke Elverdam for all their help. We’re additionally thankful to Bo (RL Fahs) for catching our grammar and spelling mistakes along the way. Huge thanks to our therapist during the experiment, Jocelyn Charnas, for taking on a couple of crazies like us and for contributing to this book.
We’re very thankful to all the wonderful people we met along this journey, who showed interest in our project, and who gave us great advice, including: Ray Javdan, Nancy Schuster, Sarah Schechter, Joy Gorman, Lorene Scafaria, Michael Sugar, Michael Suscy, Michael Costigan, Kristen Bell, Scott Stuber, Sophie Mas, Brian Grazer, Julia Brownell, Zooey Deschanel, Josh Schwartz, Reese Witherspoon, and Bruna Papandrea, as well as Cait Hoyt, Michelle Weiner, Matt Rosen, and Ryan Ly of CAA.
A huge thank you to our extremely talented and lovely friends who contributed stories: Erik Marinovich, Brian Collins, Laura Moses, Stefan Sagmeister, Julia Hoffmann, Esteban Apraez, Nicole Jacek, Noreen Morioka, Laura Danforth, Paula Chu, Lorene Scafaria, Zipeng Zhu, Rachel Shechtman, John Fulbrook, and Maayan Pearl. We’re honored to have you in our book.
Our hearts go out to all the fans who followed us and connected to our story, who reached out to us via email or through social networks, and who were inspired by our story to tackle their own fears and habits in relationships.
Also, a quick shout-out to Don and Cecilia Moorcroft for sharing their story with us—we were driven to tears. Finally, thanks to the many media outlets around the world that covered and shared our story.
I am forever grateful to my mom for always supporting me without judgment; to my wonderful grandparents for their constant inspiration; to Dave Suster for always being the father-figure; to my brothers, Zachary and Jeremy Goodman; to my “brother from another mother,”
Aaron Taylor; and to an amazing group of family, friends, and mentors—you know who you are.
Also, thank you to all the art teachers I had at Cuyahoga Community College and at the School of Visual Arts—your encouragement inspired me more than you know. I am additionally thankful to Sarah Walsh, for managing our email inbox (we literally would have died without you), and to Joe Walsh, for lending his suport and time when we were trying to make important business decisions. My sincere appreciation to Stefan Sagmeister for all his support of our project.
Lastly, my deepest gratitude goes to my friend and coconspirator, Jessie. What an insane journey we’ve been on; I’m truly honored to have you in my life.
First of all, a huge thank you to my family. Mom and Dad, thank you for your constant love and support of this (and every) endeavor. Mom, I love you with all my liver! Thanks for helping us manage our email inbox and press. Dad, thanks for your business advice and our AIM conversations. Lauren, thank you for always being a source of joy and humor; your free spirit and confidence are always an inspiration. Thank you, Zak, for all your love, support, and patience as you endured the publicity around this crazy project.
Stefan Sagmeister, I am eternally grateful for your support and contribution to the project. Watching you take risks in your own work and The Happy Film gave us the courage and inspiration we needed to launch our story in public.
Finally, thank you, Tim, for your honesty, support, and friendship. This was one of the craziest journeys I’ve ever been on—I couldn’t have done it with anyone else.
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