All the Single Ladies: Unmarried Women and the Rise of an Independent Nation

by Traister, Rebecca

  29. Hess, Amanda, “Abstinence Won’t Solve Hookup Culture,” Slate, April 1, 2013, http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/04/01/abstinence_won_t_solve_the_hookup_culture_donna_freitas_is_wrong_about_sex.html.

  Chapter Nine: Horse and Carriage

  1. Waldman, Katy, “Young People in Japan Have Given Up on Sex,” Slate, October 22, 2013, http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/10/22/celibacy_syndrome_in_japan_why_aren_t_young_people_interested_in_sex_or.html.

  2. Haworth, Abigail, “Why Have Young People in Japan Stopped Having Sex?” The Guardian, October 20, 2013, http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex.

  3. “Survey Shows One Third of Japanese Think Marriage Is ‘Pointless,’ ” Japan Daily Press, July 2, 2013, http://japandailypress.com/survey-shows-one-third-of-japanese-think-marriage-is-pointless-0231559/.

  4. Haworth, “Why Have Young People in Japan Stopped Having Sex?” The Guardian.

  5. Eurostat, Statistics Explained, http://ec.europa.eu/eurostat/statistics-explained/index.php/Main_Page.. Via Hillary White, “Italians Not Having Kids and Now, Not Getting Married Either, New Stats,” Lifesite News, June 6, 2011.

  6. Evans, Stephen, “Is the German Insult ‘Raven Mothers’ Holding Back Women at Work?” BBC News, March 11, 2011, http://www.bbc.com/news/business-12703897.

  7. Eurostat, Statistics Explained, http://ec.europa.eu/eurostat/statistics-explained/index.php/Main_Page.

  8. Luscombe, Belinda, “Who Needs Marriage? A Changing Institution,” Time, November 18, 2010, http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2032116,00.html.

  9. “Crude Marriage Rate,” Chartsbin.com, http://chartsbin.com/view/3219

  10. Hess, Amanda, “When It Comes to ‘Having it All,’ Men Want More,” Slate, October 31, 2013, http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/10/31/work_life_balance_study_professional_men_are_more_likely_than_women_to_want.html.

  11. Wade, Lisa, “Most Women Would Rather Divorce than be a Housewife,” The Society Pages, December 29, 2013, http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2013/01/28/mens-and-womens-gender-ideologies-ideals-and-fallbacks/.

  12. Cherlin, Andrew J., “In the Season of Marriage, a Question: Why Bother?” New York Times, April 27, 2013, http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/28/opinion/sunday/why-do-people-still-bother-to-marry.html?pagewanted=all.

  13. Adelman, Lori, “Amelia Earhart’s Prenup from the 1930s Lays Out a Pretty Darn Modern Vision of Marriage,” Feministing.com, December 12, 2010, http://feministing.com/2012/12/10/amelia-earhart-prenup-from-1930s-lays-out-a-pretty-darn-modern-vision-of-marriage/.

  14. Cotten, Trystan T. and Kimberly Springer eds., Stories of Oprah: The Oprahfication of American Culture, University Press of Mississippi, 2010, 23.

  15. Tauber, Michelle, “Oprah at 50: Prime Time of Her Life,” People, February 2, 2004.

  16. Rauch, Jonathan, “Red Families, Blue Families, Gay Families and the Search for a New Normal,”Journal of Law and Inequality, Summer 2010, via http://www.jonathanrauch.com/jrauch_articles/red-blue-and-gay-marriage/. And “Women’s Median Age at First Marriage by State,” LiveScience.com, March 18, 2013, http://www.livescience.com/27974-women-media-age-marriage-states.html.

  17. “Women Who Get Hitched Early, Divorce Early,” Indian Express, November 10, 2011.

  18. “U.S. Divorce Rate Statistics,” Centers for Disease Control, National Survey of Family Growth, May 23, 2015.

  19. Nellie Bly interview with Susan B. Anthony, The World, February 2, 1896, http://www.rarenewspapers.com/view/621269?acl=851761768&imagelist=1#full-images&rc=blog.

  20. Coontz. Stephanie, “The Disestablishment of Marriage,” New York Times, March 23, 2013, http://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/23/opinion/sunday/coontz-the-disestablishment-of-marriage.html?pagewanted=all.

  21. “The Decline of Marriage and Rise of New Families,” Pew Research Center, November 18, 2010, http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2010/11/18/the-decline-of-marriage-and-rise-of-new-families/3./

  22. Parker, Kim, “5 Facts About Today’s Fathers,” PEW Research Center, June 18, 2015, http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/06/18/5-facts-about-todays-fathers/.

  23. “American Time Use Survey—2014 Results,” Bureau of Labor Statistics, U.S. Department of Labor, June 24, 2015, http://www.bls.gov/news.release/pdf/atus.pdf.

  24. Chernoff, Allan, “The Millennials—Ever Optimistic about Jobs,” CNN Money, May 18, 2011.

  25. Dewan, Shaila and Robert Gebeloff, “More Men Enter Fields Dominated By Women,” The New York Times, May 20, 2012, http://www.nytimes.com/2012/05/21/business/increasingly-men-seek-success-in-jobs-dominated-by-women.html?pagewanted=2&_r=1&emc=eta1.

  26. Livingston, Gretchen, “Growing Number of Dads Home with Kids,” Pew Research Center,” June 5, 2014, http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/06/05/growing-number-of-dads-home-with-the-kids/. Via Miller, Claire Cain, “More Fathers Who Stay at Home By Choice,” New York Times, June 5, 2014 http://www.nytimes.com/2014/06/06/upshot/more-fathers-who-stay-at-home-by-choice.html.

  27. Esteve, Albert and J. Garcia-Roman and I. Permanyer, “The Gender-Gap Reversal in Education and Its Effect on Union Formation: The End of Hypergamy,” Population and Development Review, vol. 38, issue 3, September 2012, http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/10/121030093739.htm.

  28. Oxfeld, Jesse, “Yesterday an Oppressed Minority, Today an Old Maid,” New York Observer, June 2013, http://observer.com/2013/06/yesterday-an-oppressed-minority-today-an-old-maid/#ixzz2nJtZg4lX.

  29. Thomas, June, “Don’t Be a Wife: I’m a Lesbian and I’m Never Getting Married. Why Are You?” Slate.com, November 2012.

  30. Goldman, Emma, Anarchism and Other Essays, 233–245.

  31. Issenberg, Sasha, “With These Words,” New York, July 27, 2012.

  32. Walsh, Susan, “The Chances of Divorce May Be Much Lower Than You Think,” Hooking Up Smart, June 13, 2012, http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2012/06/13/relationshipstrategies/your-chances-of-divorce-may-be-much-lower-than-you-think/.

  33. Angier, Natalie, “The Changing American Family,” The New York Times, November 26, 2013, http://www.nytimes.com/2013/11/26/health/families.html.

  34. North, Anna, “Hanna Rosin: Hookup Culture is Changing,” Salon.com, September 1, 2013, http://www.salon.com/2013/09/01/hanna_rosin_hookup_culture_is_changing/.

  35. Lewin, Tamar, “Census Finds Single Mothers and Live-In Partners,” The New York Times, November 5, 2010.

  36. Stevenson, Betsey and Justin Wolfers, “Valentine’s Day and the Economics of Love,” Bloomberg View, February 13, 2013, http://www.bloombergview.com/articles/2013-02-13/valentine-s-day-and-the-economics-of-love.

  37. Rudder, Christian, “How Your Race Affects The Messages You Get,” Ok Trends Dating Research, okcupid.com, October 5, 2009, http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/.

  38. Faludi, Backlash, 1.

  39. Harris, Tami Winfrey, “Marriage Is Like Kitchenware and It Doesn’t Matter What Men Want,” Clutch, February, 2013. http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2013/02/marriage-is-like-kitchenware-and-it-doesnt-matter-what-men-want/.

  40. “Real Talk: Tyrese Says You Need a Man,” Essence.com, November 17, 2011.

  41. Andrews, Helena, “Setting the Record Straight,” Marie Claire, April 12, 2012, http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/advice/a7010/interracial-relationships/.

  42. Aronowitz, Nona Willis, “I Wish I Wasn’t Married: In Defense of Domestic Partnerships for Straight Couples,” Good, July 16, 2011, http://www.good.is/posts/domestic-partnerships-should-be-an-alternative-to-marriage-for-all-couples.

  43. Jane Austen’s Letters, 292.

  Chapter Ten: Then Comes What?

  1. Garber, Megan, “The IVF Panic: All Hell Will Break Loose, Politically and Morally, All Over the World,” The Atlantic, June 25, 2012, http://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2012/06/the-ivf-panic-all-hell-will-break-loose-politically-and-morally-all-over-the-world/258954/.

  2. Davey, Melissa and Philip L
y, “Doctors Warn Women Not to Rely on IVF As More Give Birth in their 50s,” Sydney Morning Herald, June 15, 2013.

  3. Martin, Daniel, “Number of Babies Born to Women 45 and Older Trebles in Just Ten Years,: Daily Mail, January 27, 2012.

  4. Kluger, Jeffrey and Alice Park, “Frontiers of Fertility,” Time, May 30, 2013, http://healthland.time.com/2013/05/30/frontiers-of-fertility/.

  5. Ibid.

  6. “Common Myths About Having a Child Later in Life,” CBS News, August 7, 2012.

  7. “Births: Final Data for 2013,” National Vital Statistics report, Centers for Disease Control, http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr64/nvsr64_01.pdf.

  8. Livingston, Gretchen, and D’Vera Cohn, “The New Demography of Motherhood,” Pew Research Center, May 6, 2010, http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2010/05/06/the-new-demography-of-american-motherhood/.

  9. Grigoriadis, Vanessa, “Baby Panic,” New York, May 20, 2002, http://nymag.com/nymetro/urban/family/features/6030/index2.html.

  10. Aronowitz, Nona Willis, “Mo’ Children Mo’ Problems,” The American Prospect, June 14, 2013, http://prospect.org/article/mo-children-mo-problems.

  11. Twenge, Jean, “How Long Can You Wait to Have a Baby?” The Atlantic, July 2013, http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/.

  12. Rothman, Michael, “Oprah Winfrey Reveals Why She Never Had Children,” Good Morning America, ABC News, December 12, 2013.

  13. Caldwell, Robin, “The Daughters of Dorothy Height,” politic365.com, April 21, 2010, http://politic365.com/2010/04/21/the-daughters-of-dorothy-height/.

  14. Interview with Kim Cattrall, “Woman’s Hour,” BBC, September 14, 2015.

  15. Glenn, Cheryl, Rhetoric Retold, 162.

  16. Hadfield, Andrew, The Cambridge Companion to Spenser, 192.

  17. Sandler, Lauren, “Having It All Without Having Children,” Time, August 12, 2013, http://time.com/241/having-it-all-without-having-children/.

  18. Abma, J., and G. Martinez, “Among Older Women in the United States: Trends and Profiles,” Journal of Marriage and the Family, Vol. 68, 2006, 1045–1056.

  19. Hoffman, Piper, “Be Jewish and Multiply? Perhaps Not,” JTA.org, November 20, 2013, http://www.jta.org/2013/11/20/life-religion/be-jewish-and-multiply-perhaps-not#ixzz2nlqB7srr. not#ixzz2nlqB7srr.

  20. Friedman, Ann, “The Real Reason Twentysomething Women Are Worried,” New York, December 17, 2013, http://nymag.com/thecut/2013/12/real-reason-20-something-women-are-worried.html.

  21. Notkin, Melanie, “The Truth About the Childless Life,” Huffington Post, October 1, 2013.

  22. Stewart, Dodai, “When Motherhood Never Happens,” Jezebel.com, May 8, 2012, http://jezebel.com/5908514/when-motherhood-never-happens.

  23. Jacoby, Jeff, “The Baby Bust Generation,” The Boston Globe, December 6, 2012, http://www.jeffjacoby.com/12678/the-baby-bust-generation.

  24. Last, Jonathan, “America’s Baby Bust,” Wall Street Journal, February 12, 2013.

  25. Harris-Perry, Melissa, “Obama and the Black Daddy Dilemma,” The Nation, June 17, 2009, http://www.thenation.com/article/obama-and-black-daddy-dilemma/.

  26. “Disapprove of Single Mothers,” Pew Research Center, January 6, 2011, http://www.pewresearch.org/daily-number/disapprove-of-single-mothers/.

  27. Kurtzleben, Danielle, “Two Parents, Not Just Two Incomes, Are What Help Kids Get Ahead,” Vox.com, September 16, 2014, http://www.vox.com/2014/9/16/6135445/marriage-cohabitation-inequality-social-mobility-children-contraception.

  28. Brown, Susan L.,“Marriage and Child Wellbeing: Research and Policy Perspectives,” Journal of Marriage and Family, vol. 72, October 2010, 106201063.

  29. Roiphe, Katie, “In Defense of Single Motherhood,” New York Times, August 11, 2012, http://www.nytimes.com/2012/08/12/opinion/sunday/in-defense-of-single-motherhood.html?pagewanted=all.

  30. Ibid.

  31. “Why I Froze My Eggs,” Newsweek, May 1, 2009, http://www.newsweek.com/why-i-froze-my-eggs-79867.

  32. Dana, Rebecca, “The Vitrification Fertility Option,” Newsweek, January 23, 2012, http://www.newsweek.com/vitrification-fertility-option-64265.

  33. American Society of Reproductive Medicine.

  34. Richards, Sarah Elizabeth, “We Need to Talk About Our Eggs,” The New York Times, October 22, 2012.

  35. Richards, Sarah Elizabeth “Why I Froze My Eggs (And You Should Too)” The Wall Street Journal, May 3, 2013.

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