In the eighteenth century, approximately 25 percent of captives on slave ships were children, but by the nineteenth century, 40 percent were children. Children were easier to capture, control, fit into tight spaces, and overwhelm, and when they died, they were easier to discard.
Slave merchants and ship’s officers, among the prime beneficiaries of the slave trade, had their pick of the women, girls, and boys. For the pleasure and convenience of the captain and other men of rank on board, the women were held in quarters immediately below those of the ship’s officers. The crew members—many of whom had been recruited from poorhouses, jails, or insane asylums—also ravaged captives, especially boys. So this, I thought, was why the boys were sequestered away. These terrified children; they cried for their homeland, for their mothers. Our boys, not yet men.
In a heavily guarded section of the ship, African men lay shackled together, ankle to ankle, wrist to wrist. Their separation was intended to keep them under control and hide from them what was happening to the women and children elsewhere on the boat. The crew lived in constant fear of being overpowered by enraged African men.
Slave insurrections, motivated in part by the prisoners’ belief that their captors were cannibals, took place in one out of every eight to ten voyages. Most failed. Many of the rebellions occurred shortly before or after the ship set sail. Those on the open sea were the most dramatic.
One such uprising occurred in 1532 on a Portuguese ship named, of all things, Misericordia (“Mercy”). The ship was en route from São Tomé to Elmina when the 109 slaves aboard rebelled and killed all but three members of the crew. The three survivors escaped and rowed a small boat to Elmina. The ship and the Africans, however, were lost at sea.
Bonnie and I continued through the museum, taking in representations of slave auctions, the financially crippling and socially demeaning post–Civil War sharecropping system, and a black woman drinking from a rust-stained, cracked water fountain during the Jim Crow era. We saw true-to-life wax figures of African-American heroes of the nineteenth and twentieth centuries, including Sojourner Truth, Booker T. Washington, W.E.B. Du Bois, and Martin Luther King Jr. I looked at each exhibit and read each plaque, but I could not keep my mind off that black woman’s rape.
After more than two hours in the museum, Bonnie and I left and began the ride back to her home. Since entering the slave ship, we had not spoken.
Finally, she asked, “You okay?”
“I don’t know.”
The winter clouds had vanished, but the late-afternoon air remained so cold, the car windows fogged over. Bonnie turned up the defroster, but still, we could not see out. She pulled to the side of the road and waited for the windows to clear. We shivered, our breaths cones of white mist.
The screams and moans from the slave ship persisted in my mind. They drowned out the whirring of the car fan and the droning of the engine. I felt entombed, trapped in a ship’s hold. I wondered if Bonnie did too.
On average, fifteen to twenty of every one hundred Africans died during the Middle Passage, but the mortality rate was sometimes as high as 50 percent. The captives, naked and dehumanized, suffered unconscionable cruelty. They were chained, shackled, beaten, starved, mutilated, and raped. Some were tortured with thumbscrews, iron collars, or red-hot metal prods.
Though some crews tried to minimize the rate of death, disability, and injury among the human cargo, there was always some “wastage” that was tossed into the ocean as the ship sailed along. No matter how “humane” the crew, many Africans died before the ship reached its destination. But millions of stolen people—those, like Mandy, who called forth profound physical and mental fortitude—managed to survive the voyage, only to begin a life of bondage.
Would I have made it to the New World? In the museum, I’d imagined myself not as an observer of the rape, but its victim. I’d envisioned lying among up to a thousand fellow hostages, many dying of dehydration, measles, smallpox, dysentery, cholera, malaria, or pneumonia. We lay stacked between tiers of wooden platforms only two to four feet high. But I could not imagine being so desperate for air that I would strangle or bludgeon fellow prisoners to death. That level of anguish and fear was far beyond any emotion I knew.
Some prisoners hanged themselves, refused to eat and drink, or jumped overboard. And when no other means of death was available, some captives ripped out their tongues and choked themselves. Some went mad. Would I have been so desolate? Would I have risked my life to help the children, the most fragile of the captives?
From time to time during the transatlantic voyage, the crew forced the survivors, the “lucky” ones, up to the deck to dance for the amusement of the captain and other officers. I closed my eyes and had visions of haggard captives dancing to the hesitant percussion of an African drum while the shrill voices of a chorus of fellow prisoners sang in myriad languages and dialects. I heard cat-o’-nine-tails snap against the backs and legs of dancers who were reluctant, sluggish, ill, or simply not agile in order to keep their steps lively, their voices loud. Had Mandy danced and sung? Would I have been among the performers?
During my visit to Virginia, Ann Miller told me that the stench of approaching slave ships reached harbors miles away. At the end of the voyage, which could last anywhere from one to nine months, the ship was a scene of living skeletons, stumbling and crawling.
Near the shore, white men took turns lashing the survivors with bullwhips to make sure every prisoner was beaten into submission. The sign over the exhibit of a captive being whipped read AT LEAST THIRTY PERCENT DIED DURING THE “BREAKING” PERIOD. In terms of waste, the slave trade was remarkably inefficient. But Mandy survived the transatlantic voyage. She endured the breaking period. She withstood enslavement.
I felt only a small portion of the fear, pain, and loss my ancestors must have suffered as the ship carried them away from everything they knew and everyone they loved. There had been moments when I was in the vessel’s hull with my forebears, lying there shrouded in darkness and overwhelmed by the misery, terror, and death around me. The feeling was devastating. I felt I had finally absorbed the meaning of the part of my family credo that says “You come from African slaves.”
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“Visiting”
I never heard my mother use the word sex. For her generation, people born in the early 1900s, sex outside of marriage was a sin. In the 1950s and ’60s, when I was growing up, there were topics no one talked about in public. Television, film, newspapers, and radio followed a code of morality too. It was a world without social media and the internet; unlike today, images and language steeped in sex were not ubiquitous, and privacy was not obsolete.
For my mother and other black women who had escaped the Jim Crow South, and for those who had not, there was also the multigenerational memory of the predatory white male. African-American mothers faced the quandary of how to maintain modesty and decency while warning their daughters about unwanted sex.
Mom often told me stories about our ancestors while she sat at her sewing machine. I recall one I heard when I was eleven.
“What was Coreen’s father’s name?” I asked as I stood waiting for my next round of fittings.
“He was James Madison Sr. His son, the one who became president, was James Madison Jr.” I can still see Mom, hunched over the machine, seeming a little nervous as she continued to sew.
“How did Mandy and the president’s father meet each other?”
Mom explained that Madison Sr. owned colored people. They were his property—his slaves. They had to follow his every order, take care of his every need, and fulfill his every desire. Mandy was one of Madison’s slaves. He was her master. The slaves called him Massa.
“Whenever he felt like it,” Mom said, “Massa could walk into any cabin where slaves lived and visit whichever woman he wanted.”
“Visit?” I asked.
“Yes. Massa went from cabin to cabin. That’s the way it was back then.”
“Like gentlemen visited yo
u before you met Daddy?” I said.
“What I’m talking about is very different,” she said, her eyes on her sewing, her foot pressing harder on the pedal, the needle a flashing blur.
“What’s different?” I asked, struggling to understand what Mom was trying to say.
“What happened to Mandy.”
“What happened to her?” I persisted.
“Mandy attracted the master’s attention because she could pick cotton fast.”
“Did Mandy get a reward for being a good worker?”
“No. Massa punished her.”
“Why?”
Mom looked up at me. “She was his slave.”
“How did he punish her?”
Mom hesitated and looked down again. “I’ll tell you later. Not now. You’re too young.”
“I’m almost twelve,” I complained.
“I know.” She stopped sewing. “When I was your age, I was curious, just like you.”
Gramps was a vivid storyteller, Mom said, but whenever she asked him about Mandy and the massa, he would change the subject. One day, Mom decided to ask her aunt Laura, Gramps’s oldest, and rather grumpy, sister. They were alone in the kitchen. Aunt Laura was facing the stove, frying chicken in a big iron skillet.
“Aunt Laura,” my mother said, “what did President Madison’s father do to Mandy?”
Aunt Laura whirled around, the chicken sizzling, the grease popping behind her. She was a big woman; now she looked even bigger. “Ruby,” she said, glaring and waving a long fork, “don’t bother me with that kind of question. I don’t remember none of that old stuff. Besides, you’re too young. Forget about it.”
As I stood beside her sewing machine, Mom looked me in the eye and said, “My aunt was right. Eleven is too young.”
For help with teaching my brother and me about sex and other important day-to-day concerns, Mom turned to Jack and Jill of America, a national organization founded in 1938 to inform, encourage, and inspire black youths. Our parents enrolled the two of us in the Oakland chapter. Meetings took place in members’ homes, safe places to approach uncomfortable issues. Though Jack and Jillers had serious discussions, we also had fun. We bowled, played tennis, and went horseback riding. The moms took us to lectures, museums, operas, ballets, and concerts. The dads showed up at the picnics.
The first time I heard the word sex was at a meeting in 1956. I was thirteen. The early-teens group had gathered in the Waltons’ house, an expanse of stuffy rooms overfilled with ornate furniture encased in thick plastic slipcovers. My mom’s close friend Edwina Walton, a tan-colored woman with tightly curled graying hair, wore an ill-fitting mauve dress, black flats, and a strand of pearls. Her favorite topics were “proper behavior” and “good morals.” It was often difficult to figure out what she was trying to tell us. She was an articulate, haughty woman, but that day, standing in the center of her harshly lit living room, her voice was shaky and halting.
“Who knows how babies are made?” she asked out of the blue. My mother had not told me what the topic of the meeting would be.
We all looked at each other. Leon, a rambunctious, athletic boy wearing a blue blazer, his shirttail hanging out, threw up his hand.
“You go all the way,” he announced.
Surprised, Mrs. Walton asked, “What does that mean?”
“It means you do it.” Leon grinned.
There were a few snickers.
She persisted. “Who does what?”
“A boy and a girl have sex,” he answered.
Mrs. Walton turned red, stiffened, and stepped toward him. “That’s an ugly thought, young man.” Leon slouched in his chair. “A man and a woman get married, and then what they do together is called ‘making love.’” She continued, placing her hands over her heart. “And it’s a beautiful union of their hearts and souls.”
That’s weird, I thought, the backs of my bare arms sticking to the hard plastic of the sofa.
Some of my fellow Jack and Jillers looked amused, others confused, like me. Not one of us said a word. I didn’t believe Leon knew what he was talking about, so I thought Mrs. Walton was going to answer the question herself. But she turned away from Leon, clapped her hands, and said to the group, “Mildred Thompson will hold the next meeting, and you will have a debating contest about the pros and cons of the freedom of speech.”
Linda, who was a little older than the rest of us, said, “We should choose teams by sex.” She giggled, and a few others joined her.
I held my breath as Mrs. Walton twisted her necklace and glared at Linda. “The children on my right, team A, will discuss the pros; those on my left, team B, will discuss the cons,” Mrs. Walton said. “You may use any research materials you like—library books, encyclopedias, magazines, newspapers, and so forth. Each group will choose a captain, and he or she will come up with an outline of the key points of the team’s argument. That’s what you will talk about next time.”
The meeting was over, and the only thing we had learned about sex was that grown-ups didn’t know how to tell us about it. As we gathered our things, Mrs. Walton looked relieved.
Over the years, the Jack and Jillers met at different homes and discussed many topics, but never again did we talk about sex. From time to time, my mother would try to talk to my brother and me about it, but her message was elusive and often odd. I remember her saying, “After Mommy and Daddy got married, we slept together, then, nine months later, Bettye, you popped out, and seven years after that, Biff, you popped out too.”
For my fifteenth birthday, Mom and I redecorated my room. I chose pink paint for the walls, and she designed the curtains, bed covering, and skirt around the vanity, all in white organdy with wide ruffles along the edges. As a finishing touch, Mom bought a white rug with pink roses.
One evening, Mom tapped on my door.
I felt grown up sitting at the kidney-shaped dressing table with its three-way mirror and reflecting tabletop, arranging bottles of cologne and trying out different shades of lipstick. “Come in,” I said.
Mom opened the door as I was applying Persian Melon to my lips. She wore a pale blue shirtwaist dress and a floral-print apron.
“That lipstick is perfect for a Sunday-afternoon lady,” she said, standing beside the dressing table. “It’s not gaudy like Saturday-night gals wear. Those Jezebels smear on a ton of makeup, squeeze into low-cut, skintight dresses, then go to nightclubs and try to attract men.”
I waited for Mom to tell me what happened next.
“Dinner’s about ready,” Mom said, turning toward the door. She paused. “I was a Sunday-afternoon lady. When a gentleman came to visit me, he brought flowers, and we sat in the living room with my parents. If he did not greet my parents properly, he was not allowed to come again.”
Mom and Dad expected my brother and me to make them proud and advance the gains that they, and the generations before them, had made. Dad was a founding board member of the First AME Church in Oakland. Every Sunday, I attended service wearing a freshly ironed dress, a hat, white gloves, polished shoes, and sheer stockings. Once home, I could remove the hat and gloves, but I stayed dressed up all day. And I always sat with my ankles crossed.
As Mom sewed and recounted stories from our family saga, I, without realizing it, memorized the many small details. Mom’s narration was usually animated, but when she talked about Mandy becoming pregnant, she didn’t look up from her sewing; her voice was flat, her explanation stunted. She said, “Mandy was not a Jezebel, but she wasn’t married when the massa made her have a baby.” I knew something was missing. The stories not told were as much a part of my family history as the stories told again and again.
When I was almost eighteen, Mom helped me prepare for the senior prom. After I’d gone from shop to shop and tried on dozens of dresses, I discovered a pale blue organdy gown in my mom’s closet. I pulled it out and admired the flower appliqués on the bodice and above the hem.
“Why don’t you wear this anymore?” I asked.
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“It’s getting a bit too small.”
“Can I wear it to the prom?”
“Of course, but I’ll have to take it in to make it fit that figure of yours.”
I stood beside her sewing machine, pleased that I was going to wear such a pretty dress. I’d noticed that the dresses she made for me lately, as I was getting ready to go to college, were often cinched at the waist and snug across the breasts and hips. To catch the “right” kind of man someday, I now understood, I was supposed to be a look-but-don’t-touch kind of girl.
Without preamble, Mom said while she made the alterations, “Nobody ever explained ‘visiting’ to me. Aunt Laura and most other folks in the family did not want to remember the past, and for Daddy, even thinking about some issues was not consistent with being a good Christian. Certain matters were not to be discussed, especially between father and daughter. Finally, when I was around your age, I figured out for myself what happened to Mandy.”
“What happened?” It had been years since she had promised me an explanation. By this point, I thought I knew the answer, but I was eager to hear the details.
“When Mandy was fifteen or sixteen,” Mom said, choosing her words carefully, “Madison Sr. took his pleasure with her. As a result, she gave birth to his daughter Coreen. Then, when Coreen became a young woman, his son did exactly the same thing to her. Coreen might have been a little older.”
The sewing machine whirred faster. I knew what Mom was not telling me, and that knowledge was unsettling to both of us. She and I were women too.
When Mom came to deliver the box, some twenty-nine years after the prom, she was still uncomfortable talking about what had happened to Mandy and Coreen. By then, I was married and had my own teenage daughter. I felt awkward talking to Nicole about sex and sexual abuse, but I was clear, and my daughter was tolerant.
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