by Lord Byron
“I may truly say, without any parade of words, that I am deeply interested in Lord Byron’s welfare. He possesses, as his letter proves, a mind that feels, and that can discriminate reasonably on points in which it conceives itself injured. When I look forward to the Possibility of the exercise of his Talents hereafter, and his supplying the Deficiencies of fortune by the exertion of his abilities and by application, I feel particularly hurt to see him idle, and negligent, and apparently indifferent to the great object to be pursued. This event, and the conversations which have passed between us relative to it, will probably awaken in his mind a greater degree of emulation, and make him studious of acquiring Distinction among his Schoolfellows, as well as of securing to himself the affectionate regard of his Instructors.”]
5. — To his Mother.
Harrow-on-the-Hill, June 23rd, 6th, 8th, 30th, 1803.
My dear Mother, — I am much obliged to you for the Money you sent me. I have already wrote to you several times about writing to Sheldrake: I wish you would write to him, or Mr. Hanson to call on him, to tell him to make an Instrument for my leg immediately, as I want one, rather. I have been placed in a higher form in this School to day, and Dr. Drury and I go on very well; write soon, my Dear Mother.
I remain, your affectionate Son,
BYRON.
6. — To his Mother.
Southwell, [Sept. 1803].
MY DEAR MOTHER, — I have sent Mealey to day to you, before William came, but now I shall write myself. I promise you, upon my honour, I will come over tomorrow in the Afternoon. I was not wishing to resist your Commands, and really seriously intended coming over tomorrow, ever since I received your last Letter; you know as well as I do that it is not your Company I dislike, but the place you reside in. I know it is time to go to Harrow. It will make me unhappy; but I will obey. I only desire, entreat, this one day, and on my honour I will be over tomorrow in the evening or afternoon. I am sorry you disapprove my Companions, who, however, are the first this County affords, and my equals in most respects; but I will be permitted to chuse for myself. I shall never interfere in your’s and I desire you will not molest me in mine. If you grant me this favour, and allow me this one day unmolested, you will eternally oblige your
Unhappy Son,
BYRON.
I shall attempt to offer no excuse as you do not desire one. I only entreat you as a Governor, not as a Mother, to allow me this one day. Those that I most love live in this County; therefore in the name of Mercy I entreat this one day to take leave, and then I will join you again at Southwell to prepare to go to a place where — I will write no more; it would only incense you. Adieu. Tomorrow I come.
[Footnote 1: This letter is endorsed by Hanson, “Lord Byron to his mother, “1803”. In September, 1803, at the end of the summer holidays, Byron did not return to Harrow. Dr. Drury asked the reason, received no reply, and, on October 4, applied to Hanson for an explanation. Hanson’s inquiry drew from Mrs. Byron, on October 30, the following answer, with which was enclosed the above letter from Byron: —
“You may well be surprized, and so may Dr. Drury, that Byron is not returned to Harrow. But the Truth is, I cannot get him to return to school, though I have done all in my power for six weeks past. He has no indisposition that I know of, but love, desperate love, the ‘worst’ of all ‘maladies’ in my opinion. In short, the Boy is distractedly in love with Miss Chaworth, and he has not been with me three weeks all the time he has been in this county, but spent all his time at Annesley.
If my son was of a proper age and the lady ‘disengaged’, it is the last of all connexions that I would wish to take place; it has given me much uneasiness. To prevent all trouble in future, I am determined he shall not come here again till Easter; therefore I beg you will find some proper situation for him at the next Holydays. I don’t care what I pay. I wish Dr. Drury would keep him.
I shall go over to Newstead to-morrow and make a ‘last effort’ to get
him to Town.”
The effort, if made, failed. On November 7, 1803, Mrs. Byron wrote again: —
“Byron is really so unhappy that I have agreed, much against my inclination, to let him remain in this County till after the next Holydays.”
It was not till January, 1804, that Byron returned to Harrow.
Miss Mary Anne Chaworth, the object of Byron’s passion, was then living with her mother, Mrs. Clarke, at Annesley, near Newstead (see ‘Poems’, vol. i. p. 189, and note 1). The grand-niece of the Mr. Chaworth who was killed in a duel by William, fifth Lord Byron, on January 26, 1765 (‘Annual Register’, 1765, pp. 208-212; and ‘State Trials’, vol. xix. pp. 1178-1236), and the heiress of Annesley, she married, in August, 1805, John Musters, by whom she had a daughter, born in 1806. (See “Well! thou art happy!” ‘Poems’, vol. i. p. 277; see also, for other allusions to Mrs. Chaworth Musters, ‘ibid’., pp. 210, 239, 282, 285; and “The Dream” of July, 1816.) In Byron’s memorandum-book, he describes a visit which he paid to Matlock with Miss Chaworth’s mother, her stepfather Mr. Clarke, some friends, “and ‘my’ M. A. C. Alas! why do I say MY? Our union would have healed feuds in which blood had been shed by our fathers, — it would have joined lands broad and rich, it would have joined at least ‘one’ heart, and two persons not ill matched in years (she is two years my elder) and — and — and — ’what’ has been the result?” (‘Life’, p. 27).
Mrs. Musters, after an unhappy married life, died in February, 1832, at
Wiverton Hall, near Nottingham.
The connection between the families of Chaworth and Byron came through the marriage of William, third Lord Byron (died 1695), with Elizabeth Chaworth (died 1683), daughter of George Chaworth, created (1627) Viscount Chaworth of Armagh (Thoroton’s ‘Nottinghamshire’, vol. i. p. 198).]
[Footnote 2: Owen Mealey, the steward at Newstead.]
7. — To the Hon. Augusta Byron.
[At 63, Portland Place, London.]
Burgage Manor, [Thursday], March 22d, 1804.
Although, My ever Dear Augusta, I have hitherto appeared remiss in replying to your kind and affectionate letters; yet I hope you will not attribute my neglect to a want of affection, but rather to a shyness naturally inherent in my Disposition. I will now endeavour as amply as lies in my power to repay your kindness, and for the Future I hope you will consider me not only as a Brother but as your warmest and most affectionate Friend, and if ever Circumstances should require it your protector. Recollect, My Dearest Sister, that you are the nearest relation I have in the world both by the ties of Blood and affection. If there is anything in which I can serve you, you have only to mention it; Trust to your Brother, and be assured he will never betray your confidence. When You see my Cousin and future Brother George Leigh, tell him that I already consider him as my Friend, for whoever is beloved by you, my amiable Sister, will always be equally Dear to me.
I arrived here today at 2 o’clock after a fatiguing Journey, I found my Mother perfectly well. She desires to be kindly remembered to you; as she is just now Gone out to an assembly, I have taken the first opportunity to write to you, I hope she will not return immediately; for if she was to take it into her head to peruse my epistle, there is one part of it which would produce from her a panegyric on a friend of yours, not at all agreeable to me, and I fancy, not particularly delightful to you. If you see Lord Sidney Osborne I beg you will remember me to him; I fancy he has almost forgot me by this time, for it is rather more than a year Since I had the pleasure of Seeing him. — Also remember me to poor old Murray; tell him we will see that something is to be done for him, for while I live he shall never be abandoned In his old Age. Write to me Soon, my Dear Augusta, And do not forget to love me, In the meantime, I remain, more than words can express, your ever sincere, affectionate
Brother and Friend,
BYRON.
P.S. Do not forget to knit the purse you promised me, Adieu my beloved
Sister.
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Footnote: 1. The Hon. Augusta Byron, Byron’s half-sister (January, 1783-November, 1851), was the daughter of Captain John Byron by his first wife, Amelia d’Arcy (died 1784), only child of the last Earl of Holderness, Baroness Conyers in her own right, the divorced wife of Francis, Marquis of Carmarthen, subsequently fifth Duke of Leeds. After the return of Captain and Mrs. Byron to London early in 1788, she was brought up by her grandmother, the Countess of Holderness. When the latter died, Augusta Byron divided her time between her half-sister, Lady Mary Osborne, who married, July 16, 1801, Lord Pelham, subsequently (1805) Earl of Chichester; her half-brother George, who succeeded his father as sixth Duke of Leeds in 1799; her cousin, the Earl of Carlisle; and General and Mrs. Harcourt. From their houses her letters during the period 1803-7 are written. In 1807 she married her first cousin, Colonel George Leigh of the Tenth Dragoons, the son of General Charles Leigh, by Frances, daughter of Admiral the Hon. John Byron. By her husband, who was a friend of the Prince Regent and well known in society, she was the mother of seven children. Their home was at Newmarket, till, in April, 1818, they were granted apartments in Flag Court, St. James’s Palace, where she died in November, 1851.
Augusta Byron seems scarcely to have seen her brother between his infancy and 1802. Lady Holderness and Mrs. Byron were not on friendly terms, and it was not till the former’s death that any intimacy was renewed between the brother and sister. Writing on October 18, 1801, to Augusta Byron, Mrs. Byron says, in allusion to the death of Lady Holderness,
“As I wish to bury what is past in oblivion, I shall avoid all reflections on a person now no more; my opinion of yourself I have suspended for some years; the time is now arrived when I shall form a very decided one. I take up my pen now, however, to condole with you on the melancholy event that has happened, to offer you every consolation in my power, to assure you of the inalterable regard and friendship of myself and son. We will be extremely happy if ever we can be of any service to you, now or at any future period. I take it upon me to answer for him; although he knows so little of you, he often mentions you to me in the most affectionate manner, indeed the goodness of his heart and amiable disposition is such that your being his sister, had he never seen you, would be a sufficient claim upon him and ensure you every attention in his power to bestow.
Ah, Augusta, need I assure you that you will ever be dear to me as the Daughter of the man I tenderly loved, as the sister of my beloved, my darling Boy, and I take God to witness you once was dear to me on your own account, and may be so again. I still recollect with a degree of horror the many sleepless nights, and days of agony, I have passed by your bedside drowned in tears, while you lay insensible and at the gates of death. Your recovery certainly was wonderful, and thank God I did my duty. These days you cannot remember, but I never will forget them … Your brother is at Harrow School, and, if you wish to see him, I have now no desire to keep you asunder.”
From 1802 till Byron’s death, Augusta took in him the interest of an elder sister. Writing to Hanson (June 17, 1804), she says —
“Pray write me a line and mention all you hear of my dear Brother: he was a most delightful correspondent while he remained in Nottinghamshire: but I can’t obtain a single line from Harrow. I was much struck with his general improvement; it was beyond the expectations raised by what you had told me, and his letters gave me the most excellent opinion of both his Head and Heart.”
In this tone the letters are continued (see extracts p. 39; p. 45, note 1; and p. 97 [Letter 48], [Foot]note 1 [further down]).
From the end of 1805, with some interruptions, and less regularity, the correspondence between brother and sister was maintained to the end of Byron’s life. To Augusta, then Mrs. Leigh, Byron sent a presentation copy of ‘Childe Harold’, with the inscription:
“To Augusta, my dearest sister, and my best friend, who has ever loved me much better than I deserved, this volume is presented by her father’s son and most affectionate brother.”
She was the god-mother of Byron’s daughter Augusta Ada, born December 10, 1815. In January, 1816, when Lady Byron was still with her husband, she writes of and to Mrs. Leigh:
“In this at least, I am ‘truth itself,’ when I say that, whatever the situation may be, there is no one whose society is dearer to me, or can contribute more to my happiness.”
Lady Byron left Byron on January 15, 1816. Writing to Mrs. Leigh from Kirby Mallory, she speaks of her as her “best comforter,” notices her absolute unselfishness, and says that Augusta’s presence in Byron’s house in Piccadilly is her “great comfort” (Lady Byron’s letters to Mrs. Leigh, January 16 and January 23, 1816, quoted in the ‘Quarterly Review’ for October, 1869, p. 414). Through Mrs. Leigh passed many communications between Byron and Lady Byron after the separation. To her, Byron, in 1816 and 1817, wrote the two sets of “Stanzas to Augusta,” the “Epistle to Augusta,” and the Journal of his journey through the Alps, “which contains all the germs of ‘Manfred’ (letter to Murray, August, 1817). She was in his thoughts on the Rhine, and in the third canto of ‘Childe Harold’: —
”But one thing want these banks of Rhine,
Thy gentle hand to clasp in mine.”
To her he was writing a letter at Missolonghi (February 23, 1824), which he did not live to finish, “My dearest Augusta, I received a few days ago your and Lady Byron’s report of Ada’s health.” He carried with him everywhere the pocket Bible which she had given him. “I have a Bible,” he told Dr. Kennedy (‘Conversations’), “which my sister gave me, who is an excellent woman, and I read it very often.” His last articulate words were “My sister — my child.”
Several volumes of Mrs. Leigh’s commonplace books are in existence, filled with extracts mostly on religious topics. She was, wrote the late Earl Stanhope, in a letter quoted in the ‘Quarterly Review’ (October, 1869, p. 421), “very fond” of talking about Byron.
“She was,” he continues, “extremely unprepossessing in her person and appearance — more like a nun than anything, and never can have had the least pretension to beauty. I thought her shy and sensitive to a fault in her mind and character.”
Frances, Lady Shelley, who died in January, 1873, and was intimately acquainted with Byron and his contemporaries, speaks of her as a “Dowdy-Goody.”
“I have seen,” she writes
(see ‘Quarterly Review’, October, 1869, p. 421, quoting from a letter signed E. M. U., which appeared in the ‘Times’ for September II, 1869),
“a great deal of Mrs. Leigh (Augusta), having passed some days with her and Colonel Leigh, for my husband’s shooting near Newmarket, when Lord Byron was in the house, and, as she told me, was writing ‘The Corsair’, to my great astonishment, for it was a wretched small house, full of her ill-trained children, who were always running up and down stairs, and going into ‘uncle’s’ bedroom, where he remained all the morning.”]
[Footnote 2: See preceding note.]
[Footnote 3: Francis, fifth Duke of Leeds, married, October 14, 1788, as his second wife, Miss Catherine Anguish, by whom he had two children: the eldest, a son, Sydney Godolphin Osborne, was born December 16, 1789.]
[Footnote 4: Joe Murray had been for many years in the employment of William, fifth Lord Byron. At his master’s death, in 1798, he was taken into the service of the Duke of Leeds.
”I saw poor Joseph Murray the other night,” writes Augusta Byron to
Hanson (June 17, 1804), “who wishes me particularly to apply to Col.
Leigh, to get him into some City Charity which the Prince of Wales is
at the head of.
I cannot understand what he means, nor can any body else, and therefore, as he said he was advised by you, I think it better to apply to you on the subject. I’m sure Col. Leigh would be happy to oblige him; but in general he dislikes asking favours of the Prince, and this present moment is a bad one to chuse for the purpose, as H.R.H. is so much taken up with public affairs. I am very anxious about poor Joseph,
and would almost do anything to serve him. I fear he is too old and infirm to go to service again.”
Three years later (March 19, 1807), Augusta Byron writes again to Hanson: —
“I have just had a pitiful note from poor old Murray, telling me of his dismissal from the Duchess of Leeds; but he says he does not leave her till June. I therefore hope something may in the mean time be done for him. He requests me to write word of it to my Brother. I shall certainly comply with his wishes, and send two lines on that subject to Southwell, where I conclude he is.”
Byron made Murray an allowance of £20 a year (see Letter 83), took him, as soon as he could, into his service, and was careful, as he promises, to provide that he should not be “abandoned in his old age.” His affection for Murray is marked by the postscript to the letter to Mrs. Byron of June 22, 1809 (see also ‘Life’, pp. 74, 121); as also by his draft will of 1811, in which he leaves Murray £50 a year for life.
8. — To the Hon. Augusta Byron.
[63, Portland Place, London.]
Southwell, March 26th, 1804.
I received your affectionate letter, my ever Dear Sister, yesterday and I now hasten to comply with your injunction by answering it as soon as possible. Not, my Dear Girl, that it can be in the least irksome to me to write to you, on the Contrary it will always prove my Greatest pleasure, but I am sorry that I am afraid my correspondence will not prove the most entertaining, for I have nothing that I can relate to you, except my affection for you, which I can never sufficiently express, therefore I should tire you, before I had half satisfied myself. Ah, How unhappy I have hitherto been in being so long separated from so amiable a Sister! but fortune has now sufficiently atoned by discovering to me a relation whom I love, a Friend in whom I can confide. In both these lights, my Dear Augusta, I shall ever look upon you, and I hope you will never find your Brother unworthy of your affection and Friendship.
I am as you may imagine a little dull here; not being on terms of intimacy with Lord Grey I avoid Newstead, and my resources of amusement are Books, and writing to my Augusta, which, wherever I am, will always constitute my Greatest pleasure. I am not reconciled to Lord Grey, and I never will. He was once my Greatest Friend, my reasons for ceasing that Friendship are such as I cannot explain, not even to you, my Dear Sister, (although were they to be made known to any body, you would be the first,) but they will ever remain hidden in my own breast.