2 “A number of contemporary social problems are located in families. Violence against women in the family—in the form of battering, marital rape, and incest—reflects the powerlessness of women in society.... Finally, changes in family organization have created greater societal needs for child care. Resistance to organized child care stems, in part, from the continuing belief that only biological mothers can best care for children. In sum, new policies are needed that provide supports for the diverse needs of families and recognize the new demands placed by changing systems of work and family life.” Ibid., 192-93.
3 Sapiro, 295.
4 Ibid., 435.
5 Hillary Rodham Clinton, It Takes A Village (Simon & Schuster, New York, 1996) 221-222.
6 “Conservatives further argue that the incentive for individuals to provide for their own families was stripped away by tax-supported public programs, especially those supporting the poor. Government intrudes in the family by telling parents how to care for and discipline children and how husband and wives should treat each other (e.g., by forbidding parents and husbands to beat their children and their wives).” Virginia Sapiro, 437.
7 Robertson, 135.
8 Melinda Gish, “Child Care Issues in the 107th Congress,” Congressional Research Service, March 10, 2003, 5.
9 Lynne M. Casper, “Whose Minding Our Preschoolers?” Current Population Reports, Household Economic Studies, P70-53, U.S. Department of Commerce, Economics and Statistics Administration, March 1996, 1.
10 “Motherhood Today—A Tough Job, Less Ably Done: As American Women See It,” 1.
11 Holcomb, 22.
12 Joan K. Peters, When Mothers Work: Loving Our Children Without Sacrificing Ourselves (Perseus Publishing, Cambridge, Massachusetts, 1997) 2.
13 Holcomb, 23.
14 Robertson, 42-43.
15 “Why have the NICHD study investigators never made it clear that the large majority of children experiencing poor-quality care function “in the normal range”? Why, in fact, when the study found, as it did two years ago, that low-quality care was related to more problem behavior when children were two and three years of age, was there no talk of aggression “in the normal range”? And why is it when higher levels of aggression and disobedience are found to be related to experiences like growing up in poverty or being reared by a depressed mother, that no one ever talks about aggression “in the normal range” as they so cavalierly do now when the issue is the depth of childcare experience?” Robertson, 54-55.
16 Ibid., 55.
17 Ibid., 71-72.
18 Ibid., 104.
19 National Institute of Child Health and Human Development Early Child Care Research Network, “Does Amount of Time Spent in Child Care Predict Socioemotional Adjustment During the Transition to Kindergarten,” Child Development, July/August, 2003, Volume 74, Number 4, 978.
20 Ibid., 981.
21 Ibid., 989.
22 Eberstadt, xiv.
23 Ibid., 6.
24 Ibid., 8.
Chapter 14: Politics: All Women Don’t Think Alike
1 “Women in Elected Office: Fact Sheet Summaries,” Center for American Women and Politics, Rutgers, The State University on New Jersey. http://www.cawp.rutgers.edu/Facts/Officeholders/cawpfs.html.
2 Ellen R. Malcolm, “Women Are A Huge Political Power—It’s Time They Are Treated as Such,” Seattle Post-Intelligencer, July 26, 2004.
3 Jane Musgrave, “Celebrities Rally Women Voters,” Cox News Service, October 26, 2004.
4 Richard Matland and David King, 2002, forthcoming in Cindy Rosenthal, ed. Women Transforming Congress. (University of Oklahoma Press), 17. Available at: http://ksghome.harvard.edu/~dking/rosenthalchapter.pdf.
5 Tom W. Smith & Lance A. Selfa, “When Do Women Vote for Women,” The Roper Center for Public Opinion Research, September/October, 1992.
6 Matland and King, 20.
7 Ibid., 16.
Chapter 15: Divorcing Uncle Sam
1 Ruth, xii.
2 Ibid.
3 Ibid., xiii.
4 Ibid., 2.
5 Ibid., 16.
6 Ibid., 8.
7 For a more expensive discussion of this issue, see Sommers, Who Stole Feminism.
8 Ruth, xiii.
9 “Police Release 911 Tapes Of Woman Who Killed Intruder,” WESH News, Orlando, Florida, May 31, 2005. Available at: http://www.wesh.com/news/4552505/detail.html.
10 Cancer Advocacy Coalition, News Release, “Deadly Silence Meets Growing Cancer Crisis,” January 16, 2003. Available at: http://www.canceradvocacycoalition.com/pages/2002-reportcard-news-release.htm.
11 Nadeem Esmail and Dr. Michael Walker, “Waiting Your Turn: Hospital Waiting Lists in Canada,” 14th Edition, The Fraser Institute, October 2004, 31. Available at: http://www.fraserinstitute.ca/admin/books/chapterfiles/wyt2004%20pt2.pdf#.
12 Robertson, 126.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I owe a deep debt of gratitude to the Independent Women’s Forum—in particular, Michelle Bernard, Charlotte Hays, Heather Higgins, Ricky Silberman, Nancy Pfotenhauer, Christie Hobbs, Arianne Massey, and Jen Gustafson—for supporting me during the writing of this book. Thanks also to Lida Noory, Arrah Neilson, Bambi Little Juarez, Joy Downey, Tatiana Posada, and Alyson Gabel for their help with research.
I am grateful to the team at Regnery, Stephen Thompson, Harry Crocker, and Marji Ross, for giving me the opportunity to write this book.
Most of all, I am thankful for the support of my family and friends, including Julie Gunlock, April Ponnuru, Trish McDonough, Charlie Korsmo, Emily Porter, Frank Micciche, Retha and Ronald Lukas; my parents, Peter and Dianne Lips, who supported me in this and everything else; and, Brad and Cindy Lips for their thoughtful feedback.
A special thanks to my brother, Dan Lips, for his endless edits and counsel, and my husband, Aaron, the best editor and friend I could hope for.
This book is dedicated to my daughter, Molly Dianne.
INDEX
A
abortion: debate over; in Europe; as health issue; health of the mother exception and; media and; pro-life position on; Roe v. Wade and; teen pregnancy and; voting priorities of women and; women’s magazines and; women’s studies and. See also casual sex
abstinence: casual sex vs.; criticism of; effectiveness of; political correctness and; pregnancy and; STDs and
academia. See women’s studies
The Accidental Virgin (Frankel)
The Accused
affirmative action
Alan Guttmacher Institute
Allure
American Academy of Pediatrics
American Association of University Women
American Infertility Association
American Pie
American Society of Reproductive Medicine (ASRM)
Anderson, Margaret L.
Aniston, Jennifer
Anthony, Susan B.
Appleton, Ashton
ASRM. See American Society of Reproductive Medicine
B
The Bachelor
Bainum, Meghan
Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either (Kerner)
Belsky, Jay
A Better World for Our Children: Rebuilding American Values (Spock)
Beverly Hills 90210
birth control. See condoms; contraception
Blakeslee, Sandra
Brady Campaign to End Gun Violence
Brazelton, T. Berry
Breakfast Club
Bureau of Labor Statistics
Bush, George H. W.
Bush, George W.
C
Canada
The Case against Divorce (Medved)
The Case for Marriage (Waite and Gallagher)
casual sex; biological aversion to; condoms and; contraception and; negative sides of; regret and; sexual revolution and; television and; women’s magazines and. See also sex
CDC. See Center for Disease Control and Prevention
Ceasefire! Why Wo
men and Men Must Join Forces to Achieve True Equality (Young)
celibacy. See abstinence
Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)
Center for Reproductive Rights
childbearing. See fertility
children: daycare and; divorce and
chivalry
Chloe Does Yale (Krinsky)
ChristianityToday
Cinderella
Cline, Sally
Clinton, Bill
Clinton, Hillary
CNN
cohabitation
commitment: dating and; marriage and; romantic relationships and; sex and
condoms: casual sex and; fallibility of; safe sex and; STDs and
contraception: safe sex and; sex and; sex education and; STDs and
“Contract on America,”
Cosmopolitan
Couric, Katie
courtship. See dating
Creating Life: Professional Women and the Quest for Children (Hewlett)
Crittenden, Danielle
culture. See popular culture
Cutler, Jessica
Cutting Loose: Why Women Who End Their Marriages Do So Well (Appleton)
D
dating: in college; commitment and; hooking up and; important role of; parents and; popular culture and; roles of men and women in; sex and; traditional; women and; women’s loss of power and. See also relationships
Dawson’s Creek
daycare: alternatives to; criticism of; feminism and; government-subsidized; negative effects of; politics and; research on; women’s studies and
Day Care Deception: What the Child Care Establishment Isn’t Telling Us (Robertson)
Declaration of Independence
Declaration of Sentiments
Democrats
Desperate Housewives
discrimination, gender-based
diversity
divorce; children and; government and; happiness and; law and; marriage and; misinformation about; popular culture and; regret and; remarriage and; society and; women’s studies and. See also marriage
Doe vs. Bolton
domestic violence
Dworkin, Andrea
E
Eberstadt, Mary
education: feminism and; school choice and; women and
Emily’s List
England
Epidemic: How Teen Sex Is Killing Our Kids (Meeker)
Equal Employment Opportunity Commission
ER
Europe, abortion in,
F
fairytales
“Fallout from Breastgate: Sexual Assault as Entertainment” (Thurs)
family: career and; feminism and; nuclear; traditional; women in workforce and; women’s movement and
Farrell, Warren
Fein, Ellen
Feldt, Gloria
The Feminine Mystique (Friedan)
feminism: culture and; daycare and; definition of; Democrats and; education and; family and; fertility and; “first-wave” of; government and; innate differences between men and women and; lesbianism and; marriage and; meaning of; media and; modern; politics and; popular culture and; romantic relationships and; “second-wave” of; sex and; Social Security and; taxation and; “third-wave” of; violence against women and; women in workforce and; women’s equality and
The Feminist
Feminist Majority
fertility: age and; delaying childbearing and; feminism and; health and; smoking and; television and; truth about; women’s studies and
Foster, Jody
France
Frankel, Valerie
Friedan, Betty
Friends
G
Gallagher, Maggie
Gandy, Kim
Garrett, C. D.
gay rights movement
Geller, Jaclyn
gender: controversy about; as social construct; society and
Genital Appropriation Era
Glamour
Glenn, Norval
Good Morning America
Gore, Al
government: affirmative action and; daycare and; dependence on; divorce and; expansion of; feminism and; health care and; Social Security and; taxation and; women in workforce and
Grant, Amy
Greer, Germaine
Gruber, Jonathan
Guidelines for Comprehensive Sexuality Education
H
hanging out
happiness: divorce and; women in workforce and
The Happy Hook Up: A Single Girl’s Guide to Casual Sex
Harris Interactive
Harvard University
HBO
Head Start
health: abortion and women’s; fertility and; marriage and
health care
Here Comes the Bride: Women, Weddings, and the Marriage Mystique (Geller)
He’s Just Not That Into You (Behrendt and Tucillo)
Hewlett, Sylvia Ann
Higginbotham, Anastasia
Holcomb, Betty
Home-Alone America: The Hidden Toll of Day Care, Behavioral Drugs, and Other Parent Substitutes (Eberstadt)
homosexuality. See lesbianism, lesbians
hooking up
Hopkins, Nancy
I
Independent Women’s Forum
infertility. See fertility
Institute for American Values
An Introduction to Women’s Studies: Gender in a Transnational World
Ireland
Issues in Feminism: An Introduction to Women’s Studies (Ruth)
It Takes a Village (Clinton)
J
Jackson, Janet
Jong, Erica
Justice Department
K
Kaiser Family Foundation
Kerner, Ian
Kerry, John F.
Koss, Mary
Krinsky, Natalie
L
Labor Department
Ladies’ Home Journal
law, divorce
Legally Blonde
lesbianism, lesbians: feminism and; violence against women and
Lewinsky, Monica
Lewis, Julia
Life Legal Defense Fund
Lifetime television network
Lips, Hilary M.
Listen Up: Voices from the Next Feminist Generation
Lopez, Kathryn Jean
love, sex and
M
MacKinnon, Catharine
Mademoiselle
Malcolm, Ellen R.
Marie Claire magazine
Marquardt, Elizabeth
marriage: benefits of; cohabitation vs.; commitment and; decline of; feminism and; finances and; happiness and; health and; as important goal; misinformation about; popular culture and; sex and; society and; television and; traditional; violence against women and; wedding industry and; women’s studies and. See also divorce
Martin, Donna
The Mary Tyler Moore Show
Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT)
media: abortion and; feminism and; innate differences between men and women and; violence against women and; women’s voting power and
Media Research Center
Medved, Diane
Meeker, Meg
men: as breadwinners; economic relationship between women and; as enemies; innate differences between women and; marriage and; romantic relationships and; violence against; voting preferences of
Millet, Kate
MIT. See Massachusetts Institute of Technology
mommy wars
morality, society and
Morgan, Robin
Morse, Jennifer Roback
Mott, Lucretia
Ms. magazine
N
NARAL Pro-Choice America
National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy
National Committee for Pay Equity
National Crime Victimization Survey
National Institute of Allergy and In
fectious Diseases
National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
National Organization for Women (NOW)
National Parenting Association
National Right to Life Committee
National Survey of Families and Households
National Women’s Law Center
National Women’s Studies Association
NBC
Necessary Compromised
The New Single Woman (Trimberger)
New York University
NICHD. See National Institute of Child Health and Human Development
Not Guilty! The Good News for Working Mothers (Holcomb)
NOW. See National Organization for Women
nuclear family
O
O’Beirne, Kate
The O. C.
Okin, Susan
Oprah
P
parents: dating and; teen’s attitudes toward sex and
Parker, Sarah Jessica
patriarchy
peer pressure
Peron, Eva
Peters, Joan K.
Pew Research Center for the People & the Press
Pitt, Brad
Planned Parenthood
Playboy
Podles, Mary Elizabeth
politics: daycare and; feminism and; sex education and; women and
popular culture: dating and; divorce and; feminism and; marriage and; sex and; sex education and
Porn Generation (Shapiro)
pregnancy: abstinence and; women’s vulnerability and
premarital sex. See casual sex; sex
promiscuity. See also casual sex
Promise Keepers
Psychology Today
Public Agenda
R
rape: date; definition of; statistics for. See also violence against women
The Real World
Redbook
regret: casual sex and; divorce and
relationships: chivalry and; commitment and; feminism and; gender roles in; hanging out and; hooking up and; men’s roles in; traditional roles in; violence against women and. See also dating
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