newborn grandniece: Evelyn Perrault, phone interview with the author, July 22, 2006.
of the visitor: Pat Lamborn Kolbe, phone interview with the author, July 15, 2006.
“beautifully dressed”: Eileen Sibley Robinson, phone interview with the author from Edgartown, April 22, 2006.
“where we had tea”: Ibid.
her dear friend: “Mrs. William B. Coster,” New York Times, July 24, 1947, p. 21.
Reluctantly, she agreed: Truly Emily Post, 245.
“family does matter”: Dallas Morning News, July 27, 1952.
friends showed up: “F. Crowninshield Is Dead Here at 75: Advisor to Conde Nast Firm Introduced French Modernist Painters to the Country,” New York Times, December 29, 1947, p. 17.
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“exceedingly hard”: “Emily at the Barricades,” Boston Globe, January 18, 1948.
“the whole way”: William G. Post, e-mail to the author, July 18, 2006. For a fully fleshed biography that makes it clear why Emily and Mary Margaret McBride would be natural companions, see Susan Ware’s It’s One o’Clock and Here Is Mary Margaret McBride.
friend insisted: “Tea Party,” New Yorker, April 3, 1948, p. 22.
“popular culture”: Donna Halper, e-mails to the author, June 22, 2006, and August 6, 2006. See also Halper, Invisible Stars.
“down Fuller Street”: Pat Lamborn, phone interview with the author, July 14, 2006.
“I don’t care”: “Emily Post Gives Age, but Protests ‘Cruel’ Question,” Washington Post, November 30, 1948, p. 4.
“never grow old”: William Engle, “The Emily Post Story,” American Weekly, February 6, 1949, p. 18.
Time magazine: Time, August 29, 1949.
“heard her voice”: William G. Post, e-mail to the author, June 22, 2006.
“in society”: “Emily Post Tells Drivers How to Act,” Washington Post, May 10, 1949.
some of her readers: Worcester Gazette, May 10, 1949.
“for fall broadcast”: “Radio and Television: Video Broadcasters Unit Asks FCC to Ease ‘Freeze’ on New Station Applications,” New York Times, June 20, 1949, p. 34.
“a disaster”: William G. Post, interview with the author in Burlington, Vermont, July 29, 2006.
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Brooks remembers: Peggy Brooks, e-mail to the author, June 9, 2002.
“can see it”: Sonia Stein, “It’s Tough Enough on TV Without ‘Life’ Horning In,” Washington Post, February 18, 1951, p. L1.
the 1950 Etiquette: Quoted in Cleveland Amory, Who Killed Society?, 19.
Irene Dunne: “Tri-City Herald Social Events: U.S. Newspaper Women Pick America’s Influential Women,” Tri-City Herald, March 23, 1950, p. 6. Newspapers such as the Tri-City Herald also touted the upcoming feature in Pageant in April 1950.
Americans’ bedrooms: Ann Fessler, The Girls Who Went Away (New York: Penguin, 2007), 43. In 1961, however, Anthony Comstock’s Gilded Age proscriptions still held sway in his home state of Connecticut, where the law prohibited contraception counseling for married couples.
had the whim: “Ten Important Etiquette Changes Listed by Emily Post’s Assistant,” Denton Journal, January 12, 1951 (reprint of Cosmopolitan interview).
“particularly in France”: William Hunt, “Across the Desk,” Allegany City Newspaper, October 2, 1960.
“ doesn’t mean you!!”: Ibid.
from the cookbook: “Mrs. Post’s Party,” New Yorker, May 14, 1955.
cheerfully admitted: “She Was Leading Lady,” Vineyard Gazette, September 30, 1960.
“never mentioned again”: William G. Post, interview with the author, from Naples, Florida, April 2004.
“was doing there”: Isabel Paulantonio, phone interview with the author, February 12, 2002.
claimed, “Emily Post”: “Not Right, She Says,” Dallas Morning News, June 23, 1952.
Post for real: Etiquette, chapter 10.
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by Ned and Isabel: Cindy Post Senning, e-mail to the author, July 19, 2006.
“inferior class”: “Is the Customer Always Right?,” Dallas Morning News, June 29, 1952, p. 2.
“out of his range”: “Emily Post,” Dallas Morning News, June 15, 1952.
over the years: “Literary News: Minding Our Manners,” Newsweek, August 11, 1958.
“ ‘one’s own imperfection’ ”: Dallas Morning News, July 27, 1952.
one in 1945: The Bell Syndicate, Inc., September 4, 1952.
within minutes: Obituary, New York Times, October 2, 1953, p. 21.
“damaging their lives”: William G. Post, phone interview with the author, July 18, 2004.
Emily and the institute: Ibid.
by an assistant: “Emily Post Gems Shown,” New York Times, July 1, 1954, p. 29, and letter to Mr. and Mrs. Donald Moore, courtesy of Michael Fredman, private collection. Also see “Book Notes,” New York Times, January 7, 1938, about the 877-page edition of Etiquette the Braille Institute signed to publish with Funk and Wagnalls. The Times claimed it would fill eleven volumes. The expense proved prohibitive, and whether Funk and Wagnalls or the Braille Institute or Emily herself funded the project remains unclear; her family “never heard anything about such a volume,” according to Cindy Post. The Library of Congress, where the trail stops, cannot locate the publication. Thanks to Julie Uyeno, Information Resources Librarian, Braille Institute Library Services, Los Angeles.
received priority: Newport Daily News, August 25, 1954.
“American living”: “News and Activities in the Advertising and Marketing Fields Here and Elsewhere,” New York Times, October 20, 1954, p. 48. During the fall and early winter of 1954, Emily again revisited the past, in what must have been a glorious occasion for the adoring daddy’s girl. Samuel Graybill, a doctoral student of Vincent Scully’s at Yale’s School of Architecture, interviewed Emily repeatedly about her father, discussing his architecture and his life. (Samuel Graybill, phone conversation with the author, November 8, 2004.)
trumped the Waldorf: Justin Kaplan, “A Rose for Emily,” Harper’s Magazine, March 1969, pp. 106–9.
“meal at all”: “Mrs. Post’s Party,” New Yorker, May 14, 1955, p. 15.
“ ‘Where’s the food?’ ”: Time, May 2, 1955.
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brother responded: Geoffrey T. Hellman, “Onward and Upward with the Arts: The Waning Oomph of Mrs. Toplofty,” New Yorker, June 18, 1955.
“calling card”: Display ad, New York Times, June 24, 1951, p. 76.
“NOT a ‘lady’ ”: Newsweek, April 25, 1955.
“to the club”: Hellman, “Onward,” p. 13.
“a whipping boy”: Ibid.
past four years: “Literary News: Minding Our Manners,” Newsweek, August 11, 1958.
January 1, 1959: Contracts courtesy of Helen Moore at HarperCollins.
just “old age”: Isabel Paulantonio, phone interview with the author, November 21, 2002.
“October 27, 1873”: Los Angeles Times, September 27, 1960, p. 1; also “Emily Post Is Dead Here at 86,” Chicago Tribune, September 27, 1960, p. 1.
“deal of laughter”: “Sensible Shaper of U.S. Manners,” Life, October 10, 1960, p. 73.
“through the lorgnette”: “Emily Post Is Dead Here at 86: Writer Was Arbiter of Etiquette,” New York Times, September 27, 1960, p. 1. Over forty years later, the country would again pay homage to the importance of etiquette to a nation’s welfare when, in 2006, Judith Martin (“Miss Manners”) was crowned with the Presidential Medal of Freedom.
“necessarily elaborate”: “Emily Post,” New York Times, September 28, 1960, p. 38.
“things by rote”: “She Was Leading Lady in American Life to Millions,” Vineyard Gazette, September 30, 1960.
“of morals, too”: “Sensible Shaper of U.S. Manners.”
redolent of her past: “Emily Post” and “Rites for Emily Post,” New York Times, October 2, 1960. Services in her honor were held at Manhattan’s St. James Protestant Episcopal Church.<
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