by Nyrae Dawn
SEBASTIAN’S RULE: Confidence
Confidence is a huge one for me. I hear people say I’m cocky… and maybe in some ways I am, but it’s not in the way I think I’m better than everyone else. I’m confident and I don’t see that as a bad thing.
Especially since I’m big on all of YOU being confident too. Stand your ground. Know what you’re good at. Show what you’re good at. Hold your head high. How is that a bad thing?
If girls only take one thing from me, I want it to be, “its okay to be confident.” Hell, it’s important to be.
Or to try to be. Like I told Invisible But Not Ugly, even if you can’t fully go there, try to fake it. You never know when it might start bleeding into who you really are.
Confidence is key. You got this.
CASE NUMBER SIX:
Dear Doctor Hook-up,
Okay, here's the deal. I'm not the best looking person you'll ever meet. But I'm not exactly ugly. Just plain. There's nothing wrong with that right? Well I need a man. And my problem is, I don't have a particular one in mind. I just need a date for Prom. I CANNOT go by myself and I am NOT going with my brother's Trek-dork friend. This stays between us, or I break your face. I will have you know I can do that too. You don't want to test me on that one. Get back to me ASAP if you can help, cuz prom is in a week.
I'm not making up a name for myself btw, Just Reply.
Just Reply,
Dude, I seriously don’t even know where to start here. Okay, that’s a lie because I know my shit, but bear with me, because it’s a list. First, what’s it with girls and the word ugly today? You know what? Even if I thought that about myself, I wouldn’t let onto it. It’s all about the impression you give.
Second, chill with the attitude, kay? You want a guy to run for the hills? That’s the first way to make it happen. Be strong… that’s all good, but when you find a guy, don’t threaten to break his face like you did with me. It’s kind of a buzz kill.
And third and this is the most important, no need here. I’ve seen this a million times. You don’t NEED a guy. You might WANT one, which is all good, but you don’t need one. That’s setting yourself up for heartbreak. It might sound like I’m being all sappy here, but I’m not. I’ve seen it and it sucks—that’s enough about that. It’s private biz.
My advice for you is be picky. Have someone in mind. Don’t settle for anyone. It screams needy and that’s not a good thing. This may make me sound like an ass, but it’s almost an art form… finding someone you’re into. You need to know what you want. You can’t get it till you know what it is. Like I’ve told my boy a million times, you’re not picking between McDonalds and Taco Bell here. This is serious shit.
Later,
Hook-up Doctor
SEBASTIAN’S RULE: Confidence
Confidence. Flip backward a few pages and read it again.
SEBASTIAN’S RULE: Want Vs. Need
This rule is tied with confidence for me. Again, trying to go there without giving away spoilers, but I’ve seen what happens when girls think they NEED a guy.
You don’t.
Let me repeat that again.
You don’t.
I’m a guy and cool with that. I don’t want to be needed. And you don’t want to need. That’s when you get yourself in too much trouble and get hurt.
I don’t like to see girls get hurt. It’s no bueno.
Like someone. Want them. Crush on them. Date them. Kiss them. Whatever. Just remember you don’t need them.
SEBASTIAN OUT!
Short, sweet and to the point. Nyrae gave me a word count limit and I hit it. Hope this helped. Or gave you a laugh (I’ve been told I’m funny as hell), or that you got SOMETHING out of it.
Time for the Hook-up Doctor to hang up his stethoscope. Except I’m not really that kind of doctor, but you get the message.
If you want more from the Hook-up Doctor… or even just want to see what went down when I went a little crazy check out my book, WHAT A BOY WANTS.
I’m off to have dinner with my girl.
Ca’tcha on the flip side.
Sebastian Hawkins
AKA
The Hook-up Doc
For more of Sebastian’s antics and to see how well his advice went when he fell in love himself, check out WHAT A BOY WANTS by Nyrae Dawn. Available now for Nook and Kindle.
Books by Nyrae Dawn:
WHAT A BOY WANTS
WHAT A BOY NEEDS
FREEING CARTER
MEASURING UP
KARMA BITES
Follow Sebastian on Twitter:
@BastianAndJaden
Visit Nyrae online:
http://www.nyraedawn.blogspot.com
Acknowledgement:
Thanks so much to Allie B. and Jenny for helping give Sebastian fun questions to answer.
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