In the evening, when Jim came in, I recounted my adventure and showed him the card.
He surveyed it with a prolonged whistle. “Good now!” he said; “the ticket sent by the Providence Express. I see” —
“Who are these Van Arsdels, Jim?”
“Upper tens,” said Jim decisively. “Not the oldest Tens, but the second batch. Not the old Knickerbocker Vanderhoof, and Vanderhyde, and Vanderhorn set that Washy Irving tells about, — but the modern nobs. Old Van Arsdel does a smashing importing business — is worth his millions — has five girls, all handsome — two out — two more to come out, and one strong-minded sister who has retired from the world, and isn’t seen out anywhere. The one you saw was Eva; they say she ‘s to marry Wat Sydney, — the greatest match there is going in New York. How do you say — shall you go, Wednesday?”
“Do you know them?”
“Oh yes. Alice Van Arsdel is a splendid girl, and we are good friends, and I look in on them sometimes just to give them the light of my countenance. They are always after me to lead the german in their parties; but I’ve given that up. Hang it all! it’s too steep on a fellow that has to work all day, with no let-up, to be kept dancing till daylight with those girls. It don’t pay!”
“I should think not,” said I.
“You see,” pursued Jim, “these girls have nothing under heaven to do, and when they’ve danced all night, they go to bed and sleep till eleven or twelve o’clock of the next day and get their rest; while we fellows have to be up and in our offices at eight o’clock next morning. The fact is, it may do for once or twice, but it knocks a fellow up pretty fast. It’s a bad thing for the fellows; they get to taking wine and brandy and one thing or another to keep up, and the Devil only knows what comes of it.”
“And are these Van Arsdels in that frivolous set?” said I.
“Well, you see they are not really frivolous, either; they are nice girls, well educated, graduated at the Universal Thingumbob College, where they teach girls everything that ever has been heard of, before they are seventeen. And then they have lived in Paris, and lived in Germany, and lived in Italy, and picked up all the languages; so that when they have anything to say they have a choice of four languages to say it in.”
“And have they anything to say worth hearing in any of the four?” said I.
“Well, yes, now, honor bright. There’s Alice Van Arsdel: she ‘s ambitious as the Devil, but, after all, a good, warm-hearted girl under it — and smart! there ‘s no doubt of that.”
“And this lady?” said I, fingering the card.
“Eva? Well, she’s had a great run; she’s killing, as they say, and she’s pretty — no denying that; and, really, there ‘s a good deal to her, — like the sponge cake at the bottom of the trifle, you know, with a good smart flavor of wine and spice.”
“And she ‘s engaged to — whom did you say?”
“Wat Sydney.”
“And what sort of a man is he?”
“What sort? why, he’s a rich man; owns all sorts of things, — gold mines in California, and copper mines in Lake Superior, and salt works, and railroads. In fact, the thing is to say what he doesn’t own. Immense head for business, — regular steel-trap to deal with, — has the snap of a pike.”
“Pleasing prospect for a domestic companion,” said I.
“Oh, as to that, I believe Wat is good-hearted enough to his own folks. They say he is very devoted to his old mother and a parcel of old-maid aunts, and as he ‘s rich it’s thought a great virtue. Nobody sings my praises, I notice, because I mind my mammy and Aunt Sarah. You see, it takes a million-power solar microscope to bring out fellows’ virtues.”
“Is the gentleman handsome?”
“Well, if he was poor, nobody would think much of his looks. If he had, say, a hundred thousand or two, he would be called fair to middling in looks. As it is, the girls rave about him. He ‘s been after Eva now for six months, and the other girls are ready to tear her eyes out. But the engagement hasn’t come out yet. I think she ‘s making up her mind to him.”
“Not in love, then?”
“Well, she’s been queen so long she ‘s blasée and difficult, and likes to play with her fish before she lands him. But of course she must have him. Girls like that must have money to keep ’em up; that’s the first requisite. I tell you the purple and fine linen of these princesses come to something. Now, as rich men go, she ‘d find ten worse than Wat where there ‘s one better. Then she ‘s been out three seasons. There ‘s Alice just come out, and Alice is a stunner, and takes tremendously! And then there’s Angeline, a handsome, spicy little witch, smarter than either, that is just fluttering, and scratching, and tearing her hair with impatience to have her turn. And behind Angeline there ‘s Marie — she ‘s got a confounded pair of eyes. So you see, there ‘s no help for it; Miss Eva must abdicate and make room for the next comer.”
“Well,” said I, “about this reception?”
“Oh, go, by all means,” said Jim. “It will be fun. I’ll go with you. You see it’s Lent now, thank the stars! and so there’s no dancing, — only quiet evenings and lobster salad; because, you see, we ‘re all repenting of our sins and getting ready to go at it again after Easter. A fellow now can go to receptions, and get away in time to have a night’s rest, and the girls now and then talk a little sense between whiles. They can talk sense when they like, though one wouldn’t believe it of ‘em. Well, take care of yourself, my son, and I’ll take you round there on Wednesday evening.” And Jim went whistling down the stairs, leaving me to finish my article on the Domestic Life of the Ancient Greeks.
I remember that very frequently that evening, while stopping to consider how I should begin the next sentence, I unconsciously embellished the margin of my manuscripts by writing “Eva, Eva, Eva Van Arsdel” in an absent-minded, mechanical way. In fact, from that time, that name began often to obtrude itself on every bit of paper when I tried my pen.
The question of going to the Wednesday evening reception was settled in the affirmative. What was to hinder my taking a look at fairy land in a purely philosophical spirit? Nothing, certainly. If she were engaged she was nothing to me, — never would be. So, clearly there was no danger.
CHAPTER XV. THE GIRL OF OUR PERIOD
[Letter from Eva Van Arsdel to Mrs. Courtney.]
MY dear Friend and Teacher, — I scarcely dare trust myself to look at the date of your kind letter. Can it really he that I have let it lie almost a year, hoping, meaning, sincerely intending to answer it, and yet doing nothing about it? Oh, my dear friend, I was a better girl while I was under your care than I am now; in those times I really did my duties; I never put off things, and I came somewhere near satisfying myself. Now, I live in a constant whirl — a whirl that never ceases. I am carried on from day to day, from week to week, from month to month, with nothing to show for it except a succession of what girls call “good times.” I don’t read anything but stories; I don’t study; I don’t write; I don’t sew; I don’t draw, or play, or sing, to any real purpose. I just “go into society,” as they call it. I am an idler, and the only thing I am good for is that I help to adorn a house for the entertainment of idlers — that is about all.
Now Lent has come, and I am thankful for the rest from parties and dancing; but yet Lent makes me blue, because it gives me some time to think; and besides that, when all this whirling stops awhile, I feel how dizzy and tired it has made me. And then I think of all that you used to tell me about the real object of life, and all that I so sincerely resolved in my school-days that I would do and be, and I am quite in despair about myself.
It is three years since I really “came out,” as the phrase goes. Up to that time I was far happier than I have been since, because I satisfied myself better. You always said, dear friend, that I was a good scholar, and faithful to every duty; and those days, when I had a definite duty for each hour, and did it well, were days when I liked myself better than now. I did enjoy study. I enjoyed our
three years in Europe, too, for then, with much variety and many pleasures, I had regular studies; I was learning something, and did not feel that I was a mere do-nothing.
But since I have been going into company I am perfectly sick of myself. For the first year it was new to me, and I was light-headed and thought it glorious fun. It was excitement all the time — dressing, and going, and seeing, and being admired, and — well, flirting. I confess I liked it, and went into it with all my might — parties, balls, operas, concerts all the winter in New York, and parties, balls, etc., at Newport and Saratoga in summer. It was a sort of prolonged delirium. I didn’t stop to think about anything, and lived like a butterfly, by the hour. Oh, the silly things I have said and done! I find myself blushing hot when I think of them, because, you see, I am so excitable, and sometimes am so carried away that afterward I don’t know what I may have said or done!
And now all this is coming to some end or other. This going into company can’t last forever. We must be married — that’s what we are for, they say; that’s what all this dressing, and dancing, and flying about has got to end in. And so mamma and Aunt Maria are on thorns to get me off their hands and well established. I have been out three seasons. I am twenty-three, and Alice has just come out, and it is expected, of course, that I retire with honor. I will not stop to tell you that I have rejected about the usual number of offers that young ladies in my position get, and I haven’t seen anybody that I care a copper for.
Well, now, in this crisis comes this Mr. Sydney, who proposed to me last fall, and I refused point-blank, simply and only because I didn’t love him, which seemed to me at that time reason enough. Then mamma and Aunt Maria took up the case, and told me that I was a foolish girl to throw away such an offer: a man of good character and standing, an excellent business man, and so immensely rich —— with such a splendid place at Newport, and another in New York, and a fortune like Aladdin’s lamp!
I said I didn’t love him, and they said I hadn’t tried; that I could love him if I only made up my mind to, and why wouldn’t I try? Then papa turned in, who very seldom has anything to say to us girls, or about any family matters, and said how delighted he should be to see me married to a man so capable of taking care of me. So, among them all, I agreed that I would receive his visits and attentions as a friend, with a view to trying to love him; and ever since I have been banked up in flowers and confectionery, and daily drifting into relations of closer and closer intimacy.
Do I find myself in love? Not a bit. Frankly, dear friend, to tell the awful truth, the thing that weighs down my heart is, that if this man were not so rich I know I shouldn’t think of him. If he were a poor young man, just beginning business, I know I should not give him a second thought; neither would mother, nor Aunt Maria, nor any of us. But here are all these worldly advantages! I confess I am dazzled by them. I am silly, I am weak, I am ambitious. I like to feel that I may have the prize of the season — the greatest offer in the market. I know I am envied, and oh, dear me! though it’s naughty, yet one does like to be envied. Besides, to tell the truth, though I am not in love with him, I am not in love with anybody else. I respect him, and esteem him, and all that, in a quiet, negative sort of way, and mother and Aunt Maria say everything else will come — after marriage. Will it? Is it right? Is this the way I ought to marry?
But then, you know, I must marry somebody — that, they say, is a fixed fact. It seems to be understood that I am a sort of helpless affair, to be taken care of, and that now is my time to be disposed of; and they tell me every day that if I let this chance go, I shall regret it all my life.
Do you know I wish there were convents that one could go out of the world into? Cousin Sophia Sewell has joined the Sisters of St. John, and says she never was so happy. She does look so cheerful, and she is so busy from morning till night, and has the comfort of doing so much good to a lot of those poor little children, that I envy her.
But I cannot become a Sister. What would mamma say if she knew I even thought of it? Everybody would think me crazy. Nobody would believe how much there is in me that never comes to light, nor how miserable it makes me to be the poor, half-hearted thing that I am.
You know, dear friend, about sister Ida’s peculiar course, and how very much it has vexed mamma. Yet, really and truly, I can’t help respecting Ida. It seems to me she shows a real strength of principle that I lack. She went into gay society only a little while before she gave it up, and her reasons, I think, were good ones. She said it weakened her health, weakened her mind; that there was no use in it, and that it was just making her physically and morally helpless, and that she wanted to live for a purpose of her own. She wanted to go to Paris, and study for the medical profession; but neither papa, nor mamma, nor any of the family would hear of it. But Ida persisted that she would do something, and finally papa took her into his business, to manage the foreign correspondence, which she does admirably, putting all her knowledge of languages to account. He gives her the salary of a confidential clerk, and she lays it up, with the intention finally of carrying her purpose.
Ida is a good, noble woman, of a strength and independence perfectly incomprehensible to me. I can desire, but I cannot do; I am weak and irresolute. People can talk me round, and do anything with me, and I cannot help myself.
Another thing makes me unhappy. Ida refused to be confirmed when I was, because, she said, confirmation was only a sham; that the girls were just as wholly worldly after as before, and that it did no earthly good.
Well, you see, I was confirmed; and, oh, dear me! I was sincere, God knows. I wanted to be good — to live a higher, purer, nobler life than I have lived; and yet, after all, it is I, the child of the Church, that am living a life of folly, and show, and self-indulgence; and it is Ida, who doubts the Church, that is living a life of industry, and energy, and self-denial.
Why is it? The world that we promise to renounce, that our sponsors promised that we should renounce — what is it, and where is it? Do those vows mean anything? if so, what? I mean to do all that I ought to; but how to know what? There’s Aunt Maria, my godmother, she did the renouncing for me at my baptism, and promised solemnly that I should abjure “the vain pomp and glory of the world, with all covetous desires of the same; that I should not follow, or be led by them;” yet she has never, that I see, had one thought of anything else but how to secure to me just exactly those very things. That I should be first in society, be admired, followed, flattered, and make a rich, splendid marriage, has been her very heart’s desire and prayer; and if I should renounce the vain pomp and glory of the world, really and truly, she would be utterly heartbroken. So would mamma.
I don’t mean to lay all the blame on them, either. I have been worldly, too, and ambitious, and wanted to shine, and been only too willing to fall in with all their views. But it really is hard for a person like me to stand alone, against my own heart, and all my relatives, particularly when I don’t know exactly, in each case, what to do, and what not; where to begin to resist, and where to yield.
Ida says that it is a sin to spend nights in dancing, so that one has to lie in bed like an invalid all the next day. She says it is a sin to run down one’s health for no good purpose; and yet we girls all do it — everybody does it. We all go from party to party, from concert to ball, and from ball to something else. We dance the german three or four nights a week; and then, when Sunday comes, sometimes I find that there is the Holy Communion — and then I am afraid to go. I am like the man that had not on the wedding garment.
It seems to me that our Church services were made for real Christians — people like the primitive Christians, who made a real thing of it; they gave up everything and went down and worshiped in the catacombs, for instance. I remember seeing those catacombs where they held their church far down under ground, when I was in Rome. There would be some meaning in such people’s using our service, but when I try to go through with it I fear to take such words on my lips. I wonder that nobody seems to feel
how awful those words are, and how much they must mean, if they mean anything. It seems to me so solemn to say to God, as we do say in the Communion service, “Here we offer and present unto Thee, O Lord, ourselves, our souls and bodies, to be a reasonable, holy, and living sacrifice unto Thee” —
I see so many saying this who never seem to think of it again; and, oh, my dear friend, I have said it myself and been no better afterward, and now, alas! I too often turn away from the holy ordinance because I feel that it is only a mockery to utter them, living as I do.
About this marriage. Mr. Sydney is not at all a religious man; he is all for this world, and I don’t think I shall grow much better by it. I wish there were somebody that could strengthen me, and help me to be my better self. I have dreams of a sort of man like King Arthur, and the Knights of the Holy Grail — a man, noble, holy, and religious. Such an one I would follow if I broke away from every one else; but, alas! no such are in our society, at least I never have met any. Yet I have it in me to love, even to death, if I found a real hero. I marked a place in a book the other day, which said, “There is not so much difficulty in being willing to die for one as finding one worth dying for.” I haven’t, and they laugh at me as a romantic girl when I tell them what I would do if I found my ideal.
Well, I suppose you see how it’s all likely to end. We drift, and drift, and I shouldn’t wonder if I drifted at last into this marriage. I see it all before me, just what it will be, — a wonderful wedding, that turns all New York topsy-turvy; diamonds, laces, cashmeres, infinite flowers, and tuberoses of course, till one’s head aches; clang and ding, and bang and buzz; triumphal processions to all the watering-places; tour in Europe, and then society life in New York ad infinitum.
Oh, dear, if I only could get up some enthusiasm for him! He likes me, but he don’t like the things that I like, and it is terribly slow work entertaining him — but when we are married we sha’n’t see so much of each other, I suppose, and shall get on as other folks do. Papa, and mamma hardly ever see much of each other, but I suppose they are all right. Aunt Maria says, love or no love at the beginning, it all comes to this sort of jog-trot at the end. The husband is the man that settles the bills, and takes care of the family, that’s all.
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