And once these thoughts develops, people say that a boy and girl can’t be best friends!!
This is because many people term addiction as love, some term infatuation or even liking as love.
The View Of Society On A Girl Boy Relationship:-
Nearly 85% of people thinks that boy and girl can be bf/gf. Take yourself, If you see a couple at a park, mall etc the first thing that comes to the mind is that they are gf/bf. Not even that they could be brother and sister. So my dear friend, if you can’t think even of bro-sis relation, best friends are far away. Its the usual mentality and its very difficult to change.
So my friend if your best friend is of your opposite sex, adjust to live in a questionable society..
CHAPTER 9:- SOCIETY OF FORMALITIES RATHER THAN REALITIES…!!!
What is reality?
“Reality can be defined as a phenomenon when the things are actually as they appear to be.”
What is Formality?
“Formality can be defined as those things which we do just because we are taught to do it. Whether the teacher is the society or our parents.
A few decades back, we lived in a real world. Gradually that real world is turning into a formal world. Almost everything we do nowadays is because we think it’s our duty. It’s the rarest of rare case when we actually run our minds while doing things. I know it seems a bit confusing, but let me explain you with the few most simple of examples:-
EXAMPLES: - 1. RESPECTING THE ELDERS
In our Indian Culture, earlier people used to touch the feet of the elders. It was actually done to respect the elders. By touching the feet, people used to bend down towards their elders showing respect. The elders felt respected and they shower their blessings whole-heartedly. This was the reality. Now the formality: Nowadays people even hardly touch the knee and the elders too just murmur something like “BE HAPPY”,”GET SUCCESS” etc. The actual love and respect has vanished some-where.
2. FRIENDSHIP:-
Earlier, if two guys/girls are friends, that means they are together in every situation whether it’s happiness or sadness. The two will always assist each other in every manner possible. That was the reality of friendship.
And now, you talk to a stranger on any social network for a few days, and you too become friends. Yeah, it is a formality nowadays, that every person you are interlinked with Is either your elder, your junior or your friend. The true spirit of friendship is lost somewhere.
3. EDUCATION:-
Earlier, learning meant a lot for anyone. They used to study a particular topic or thing, because they were actually interested in knowing about the in’s and out’s, the pro’s and con’s of that particular topic. They learnt every single detail and also have the desperation to learn more. That was the real education.
And Now, people study and learn, so that they can sit in an examination, score good marks, get a job, earn money and live their life. All In a very formal way.
My above examples must have made it very clear that the world is now of formalities rather than reality. And you the worst thing,
ITS TOO LATE TO CHANGE THIS..!
CHAPTER 10:- MEDIA AND MANIPULATORS OF THE SOCIETY
I have been long gone from writing. But there is something that provoked me to write and this is indeed very very serious. Its not only about Media, Its about the Manipulators around us.
We all know how much media hikes anything. But what we don’t know that Media is a selfish creep who just wants popularity. Media doesn’t care whether the news is real or fake. All it wants is popularity and more and more readers.
The Haryana bus incident:- It has been recently found that the girls were the culprit. They beat up the boys and then told the media that the boys were being vulgar with them. But the truth is there was a fight for the bus seat. The girls beat them up badly and the boys did nothing as they were girls.. #true_story
Not only this, there are few girls around who find the best way to insult a boy is by insulting them for sexually harassment.
I have recently witnessed a case in which the boy doesn’t even know the girl who has claimed to been sexually harassed. What I know is that the girl and her friends maybe were having some problems with the boy and his friends and that’s why they adopted the easiest method to insult him. And you know what before publishing it in public. Media neither asked for any proof nor set up any enquiry. The Girl and her friends manipulated the guy and he was insulted in the media.
Coming to the manipulators now. When some shitty people start to realise that they are doing wrong and no one is coming to help them. They start to manipulate their own friends and convince them that they are right.
And in this process they start taking the help of media by making some false story with some really interesting facts and incidents. Again our dear media never cross question them and start to support them.
The manipulators start to insult the ( well, i won’t say innocent, but yes non-manipulators. And i also wont say that they are right, but yes much less wrong) . In this process, many innocent are also manipulated and they also start indulging in the wrong activities.
On the other hand, in most of such cases, the victims of the media cruelty are matured person, who knows that publishing anything in media is one’s own insult. Well i want to write many more things, but i know my dear friends will write it down in the comments.
“COME ON RAISE YOUR VOICE NOW!!!”
CHAPTER 11:- TIME TO CHANGE- NEGLECT THE SOCIETY
Sis! I just can’t go for modelling. Society will consider me a slut.”
“Nopes! I can’t leave my academics for sports. My relatives and neighbours will insult me.”
“Dude! I just can’t propose that girl, Society will tease me.”
“We should stop talking. Society misinterprets us.”
“What have you done my son? Your late grandpa will be ashamed of it.“
These stupid looking are the most usual questions in our day to day life. Before doing most of the activities, there is a question that always arises in our mind, ” What will the society think of us?” The difference lies whether we think over that question or not.
SOCIETY:- I define society as ” a group of persons either living or dead who are our biggest criticizers as well as our biggest praisers, and many-a-times they decide our way of living.” The fifth line clarify the use of the word “dead.” Society hugely effect our way of living. Its society that have given rise to the words like, “hesitation”,”nervousness”,”ashamed”,”shyness.”
I hesitate to speak in public. I get nervous in front of a huge crowd. I should be ashamed of myself as i was insulted by the society. He is too shy as he is afraid to speak in society.
Think Over it and tell me if I am Wrong.
The question arises now : How To Neglect The Society? Well the answer is here:-
I know there are people around who are easily effected by the society’s views. But I want them to realise that , “It is you who is living your life. You are the one who should dominate your life. If your life is affected by the society, then you are a fucking servant of the society. Your acts should be satisfying to you and the people you care about, not to some random person from “the society.” Your acts should make you smile, not necessarily the society. You should live an independent life in which you have the complete control over your life. If society claims you of anything:-
LISTEN, SMILE, AGREE AND THEN DO WHATEVER THE FUCK YOU WERE GONNA DO.
CHAPTER 12:- CONCLUDING:- HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL SPECIAL
The title gives ample amount of idea about what this topic is all about.. Let me directly introduce you the points..
1 & 2:- Respect and Self Respect:-
Always remember, whosoever are you. Whether you are a dumbo or a mastermind, Whether you are the laziest or the most active, whether you are good or bad. There is always something in you that makes other people to respect you. Highlight that quality of yours, and maintain its standard. For example, if
you know that the society hates you, but you are great in sports. Then the society will respect you as a sportsperson. Then if you just neglect the society and keep focusing only on your sport, You will build up your self respect.
And Mark My Words, “Someday or the other, the society will think of you only as a respectful sportsperson.” And believe me, “You will feel special.”
3. The Smile:-
The best part of any person is his/her smile.No matter whatever the situation is, whether you are good or bad, ugly or beautiful. If you carry a smile on your face, every single person will talk you in a smiling fashion that will make you feel special.
4. Help But Never Show Up:-
” Thanks For Helping Me, You are Really Sweet.” How would you feel if anyone says this line to you. Always try to help the person you care about, whether its your family, friends, anyone. Cause once you get to hear the above mentioned line. Mark My Words
“You will feel like the king of the world.”
5. The Way You Talk:-
This is based on Newton’s Third Law.
The way you talk with anyone, is the way they will talk with you. If you want someone to be polite with you, be polite with them. If you want to keep a HI! Hello! relation with someone interact less with them.
To be honest, I have not been able to express my feelings fully. But I am telling you if you think on this topic, and inculcate these things in your life.. You can proudly say that
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