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declared invalid so she and her child could be removed.30 A similar case

  was that of Elizabeth Jones, who married John Morgan, her uncle-in-

  law, in 1843. After he died, Elizabeth went on relief and at first took the

  settlement of her ‘husband’. However, the parish authorities soon learned

  that her marriage was invalid. Though Elizabeth’s mother was only a half-

  sister (because illegitimate), the laws of consanguinity held, and Elizabeth

  went back to her home parish, her marriage declared void in a very public

  manner.31

  Stil , if the families could avoid the Poor Law, they might live together

  (or even marry) without serious consequences. Most couples in affinal

  unions – and even some consanguineous ones – remained part of their

  communities. Denham, in a typical passage from the 1848 Commission,

  insisted such marriages were not considered immoral by ‘intelligent and

  well-informed people.’32 In addition, the reluctance of juries to convict for

  perjury shows support, or at least indifference, to the legal position. Cases

  with close blood relations or large age differences might excite disapproval,

  but affinal marriages would not. In other words, popular self-marriage

  persisted through the Victorian era. Indeed, judges’ and juries’ leniency

  indicated that working-class behaviour influenced the state to mitigate the

  punishments for illegal unions.

  Middle-class marriages of prohibited degrees

  Middle-class people also married within the prohibited degrees, but they

  had a smaller range of acceptable partners. The overwhelming majority

  of the records concern in-laws. Of the twenty-seven legal cases that show

  marriages of too close proximity in the middle class, twenty-five were affinal

  (the two exceptions were a half-nephew/half-aunt and an uncle/niece). The

  disgust for blood marriages in higher life was evident in the uncle/niece

  case; the judge who voided that marriage called it ‘exceedingly revolting to

  the opinions and feelings of mankind’.33 In addition, the range of acceptable

  affinal marriages was smal , since eighteen of the affinal cases involved

  marriage with a deceased wife’s sister. Only one other category, that of

  marriage with a deceased husband’s brother, got more than one case, and

  there were only two of these, both before 1850. Though the sample is smal ,

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  it indicates that the middle classes had more taboos about consanguineous

  and affinal unions than the working class, and that the ban against such

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  unions increased over time. Of the seven affinal cases not involving the

  sister of a deceased wife, only two occurred after 1816.34

  The witnesses before the Royal Commission in 1848 gave slightly more

  variety in their examples, but the vast majority were still affinal, usual y of

  a deceased wife’s sister or niece, and occasional y of a deceased husband’s

  brother. Thomas Campbell sent out investigators to all areas of England,

  and each diligently searched for affinal marriages. The total came to 1,648

  cases, and of these 1,501 were marriages with a deceased wife’s sister, and

  a further 147 were with a deceased wife’s niece or another affinal relative.

  There were six cases of men marrying their blood nieces, but these cases

  were dwarfed by those with in-laws.35

  Before 1835, these marriages at least had the chance of remaining

  valid at law. In El iott and Sugden v. Gurr in 1812, for instance, the marriage

  in question was that of Sarah Lester and her deceased husband’s nephew,

  William Gurr. Sarah’s brother and sister sued to get her estate from

  William after she died intestate, but the courts rejected their attempt: since

  the marriage had not ‘been declared void in the lifetime of the parties[,]

  the husband remained husband to all civil purposes’.36 All such couples,

  though, ran a risk of a hostile party suing within their lifetimes. Anne and

  David Williams were aunt and nephew-in-law; their marriage was upset

  when James Bryant brought an incest case against them in 1769, most likely

  to protect the property for the children of the first marriage. As indicated

  in Chapter 1, too, the nature of the unions could be an advantage to a

  spouse who wished to leave. Charlotte Aughtie married her brother-in-

  law, William, fourteen months after the death of her husband. She sued to

  be relieved of the marriage in 1810, apparently to protect her inheritance.

  Judges increasingly disapproved of these kinds of suits, though. In a

  case in 1888, a woman who married her deceased sister’s husband sued

  to get a declaration of nullity. The judge granted the request, but refused

  costs, since he thought it ‘odd, when two people choose to go through a

  ceremony which they both of them know to be illegal and void, that either

  of them should be entitled to come here and ask for a decree of nullity.’37 In

  the working classes, the ability to walk away from such unions primarily

  benefited men, but in the middle classes, both sexes took advantage of the

  loophole, which was perhaps what concerned the judge.

  As these cases indicate, the middle classes preferred to have a

  marriage ceremony, but they did not have to risk prosecution. Because of

  their means, they could go abroad to one of the countries that permitted

  affinal marriages, including Switzerland and many German states. Though

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  such marriages were not valid at English law, the marriage certificate and

  ceremony gave public sanction to the union. Many, in the first few decades

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  after the 1835 act, even hoped that the laws would soon change or at least

  that their children might be legitimised. One barrister testified that he

  had married his deceased wife’s sister in Holstein. Though he knew the

  marriage was void in England, he hoped that the English courts would

  uphold his conveyance of his property to his children.38

  Considerable disadvantages came with contracting a marriage that

  was not recognised at English law. Why, then, did so many couples do so?

  Most participants insisted that the first wife wanted her sister to marry her

  husband and care for their children, a reason that echoed the concerns of

  the working class. A stockbroker who married his wife’s sister in Denmark

  in 1844 claimed that his wife had said, ‘she should die happy’ if he did so. A

  Manchester businessman testified that he married
his sister-in-law because

  his wife had ‘expressed a very strong desire’ for it. Such concerns lasted well

  past mid-century. John Pettifer wrote to the Home Office in 1907 to lobby

  for a change in the law because, he explained, his dying wife ‘begged of

  me to have her sister to mother & care for her children out of respect for

  her & her family.’39 Aunts were natural caregivers for children, and their

  maternal duties put them in the place of a wife. William Holman Hunt,

  the Pre-Raphaelite painter, lost his first wife, Fanny Waugh, in childbirth.

  The maternal family took charge of the baby, Cyril, as a matter of course,

  particularly Fanny’s younger sister, Edith. In time, Hunt became attached

  to her as wel , and they married a few years later in Switzerland.40

  Many men preferred women they already knew and who would cause

  minimal disruption. Thomas Franklyn grew up with both of his future

  wives, two of eleven sisters. After his wife’s death, he turned to a woman he

  ‘knew … to be virtuous and good’. The larger community also understood

  these reasons; when Lord George Hill married his deceased wife’s sister,

  his tenants said ‘how wise George had been not to bring a stranger into

  his family.’ In addition, men did not want to part their sisters-in-law from

  children they loved. Richard Cobden’s sisters both married William Sale,

  and Cobden supported the second union. His younger sister had acted as a

  second mother, and Cobden believed ‘it would have been almost the death

  of my sister if she had been obliged to part with the child.’41

  Because of the illegal status of these unions, families could react

  negatively to them. Waugh’s parents were furious when she announced her

  engagement to Hunt and forbade the match. Hunt’s mother disinherited

  him, and Edith also lost all hope of a marriage settlement by the terms

  of her father’s wil . The feud estranged two branches of the family for

  decades.42 Nor were the Waughs unique in their concern. Henry Thornton,

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  a prominent mid-century banker, married his deceased wife’s sister in

  1852. His siblings opposed the marriage vehemently. Only his eldest sister,

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  Marianne, remained in contact with him; the rest refused to receive them.

  They would not even refer to his wife, Emily Dealty, by her married name,

  always styling her ‘E. D.’ in letters.43

  Several of the witnesses to the Royal Commission also mentioned

  family opposition in their testimony. James Brotherton testified that when

  one Independent minister married his sister-in-law, it ‘gave rise to much

  family bickering’. An anonymous barrister who married his deceased

  wife’s sister in Holstein admitted that some of his relatives disapproved.

  The woman’s family objected more often, knowing that she would bear the

  brunt of social and legal disabilities. Another barrister who married his

  deceased wife’s sister admitted that her father opposed the marriage at first,

  though he later relented. His father-in-law explained, ‘it was his duty to

  oppose it, because he considered it illegal.’44

  All the same, many families were warmly supportive. At times,

  maternal families promoted the marriages because they did not want

  an unmarried sister-in-law living with a now-widowed man, as many

  witnesses in 1848 attested.45 At other times, relatives were simply happy

  to keep congenial in-laws in the family fold. John Crook married two

  sisters, first Sarah Ann Hil , who died in 1851, then Mary Hil . John Hil ,

  the women’s father, showed no disapproval of the second marriage, leaving

  his property to Mary and John and their children. A similar case was that

  of John Harrison, who had continued to associate with his daughter and

  son-in-law, James Higson, despite the fact that James had first married

  John’s sister. He, too, left his daughter his property, and he always referred

  to Anne as James’s ‘wife’.46

  Most of the siblings in these families apparently managed to blend

  together, at least as well as any of the stepfamilies that were common in an

  age of high mortality. In the case of marriages with a deceased wife’s sister,

  the children from first and second marriages were both half-siblings and

  cousins, which may have made them closer. In the Hunt family, Cyril got

  along well with his half-sister and brother, Gladys and Hilary. Gladys was

  jealous of her full sibling, but adored Cyril.47 Some families had large age

  differences, so older siblings might resent sharing the estate with a new

  family, but the majority of the legal cases over incestuous marriages did

  not involve legitimate siblings trying to disinherit their half siblings. Most

  will disputes occurred when extended kin tried to get the estate or when

  the crown claimed it.48 Unsurprisingly, the harmony was not unanimous.

  Some of those testifying before the Royal Commission argued that such

  marriages led to tensions. Revd Joseph Owen, a vicar in Staffordshire,

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  knew a family who quarrelled over property. During the argument ‘one of

  the children of the first marriage … cast into the teeth of the children of the

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  second marriage their illegitimacy.’49 Stil , though this case was not unique,

  it was not the norm.

  Tensions were greater between the generations than between siblings.

  One man testified that his eldest daughter was jealous of her aunt’s position

  in the house; he hoped by marrying his sister-in-law, the daughter would

  be more reconciled to sharing housekeeping.50 The close relationship

  between fathers and daughters in middle-class homes would have made

  the transition to a new stepmother hard for some daughters. In addition,

  when the second wife had children herself, she might show preference to

  her own. Waugh became jealous of her stepson, Cyril, after her marriage

  to Hunt, so she favoured her own son and daughter.51 Ironical y, too, the

  success of the maternal aunt might mean that paternal ones suffered.

  Marianne Thornton had tended her nieces since their mother’s death, but

  lost them when they left the country with their father and new step-mother.

  She was broken-hearted at their ‘exile’.52

  Though tensions within the nuclear family circle existed, the majority

  of testimonies indicated positive reactions of extended family and friends.

  The attitude of the wi
der middle-class society was more problematic,

  since the middle class had strict standards about sexuality. And, equal y

  important, the participants in these marriages felt uneasy themselves.

  Diana Holman-Hunt argued that Hunt and Waugh ‘imagined slights

  where none were intended’ during their engagement. The stockbroker

  who married his wife’s sister warned his friends about his marriage before

  they called so they could decide if they still wanted to do so. Indeed, some

  couples moved to new cities where no one knew them to avoid possible

  slights.53 Not all these fears were unfounded. When Edith Waugh called

  on the Rosettis after her marriage, for instance, Christina Rosetti refused

  to receive her. Problems were particularly acute for those couples whose

  vicars disapproved; a surgeon in Shropshire lost almost all his friends when

  his marriage to his wife’s sister offended his clergyman.54

  The disapproval became more serious after mid-century. Henry

  Thornton made an all-out effort to have the prohibition against marriage

  with deceased wives’ sisters removed in 1850. The ecclesiastical party in

  Parliament defeated the bil , but they were alarmed by the attempt and

  became less tolerant as a result. Thornton’s own brother-in-law, Revd

  Charles Forster, approved of his Bishop’s attempts to punish affinal matches.

  Forster’s bishop told the clergy to ‘treat the man as excommunicate and to

  reject him from the Communion; to refuse to church the woman; and to

  register the children as illegitimate.’55 At the least, no middle-class person

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  could remain ignorant of the illegality of these unions after the Royal

  Commission of 1848 and the defeat of the 1850 bil . Thus, anyone who

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  lived in a parish with a disapproving vicar could find themselves social y

  snubbed.

  As a result, the couples’ lives were subject to various disruptions.

  J. S. Thorburne reported of a woman and her brother-in-law who were

 

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