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  the 1870s, 39 per cent in the 1880s, and 37 per cent in the 1890s. Thus, the

  punishments bifurcated over the course of the century. Serious bigamies,

  usual y those involving fraud, received long sentences, but the majority

  received lesser punishments.

  As these statistics indicate, circumstances were crucial to verdicts

  and sentencing; the courts pondered a number of factors before giving

  out punishments. The first consideration was the prosecutor in the case;

  someone had to bring the matter to the attention of the authorities. Most

  of the time, the prosecutor was the first or second spouse of the defendant.

  Of the 167 cases in my selection with a named prosecutor, the first spouse

  did so forty-five times (twenty-nine wives and sixteen husbands). When

  the first spouse prosecuted, the court considered her or his motives. If

  the first spouse were a woman who had been unjustly deserted, the court

  was sympathetic, but judges and juries would not support vindictive

  prosecutions.12 First husbands who prosecuted were even more suspect,

  since they could support themselves. For instance, Joseph Morant left his

  wife in 1859 after six years of marriage. Caroline remarried in 1864, and

  when Morant reappeared in 1872, he had her arrested. The jury acquitted

  her, and Morant then asked if he could have her back. Commissioner

  Kerr snapped, ‘Certainly not. How can a fellow like you have the face to

  complain seeing that you suddenly leave your wife and remain away from

  her for 13 years…? It is preposterous to make such a request.’13

  Second spouses far outnumbered first ones as prosecutors. Of the

  167 cases with identified prosecutors, 61 were second wives, 8 were second

  husbands, 13 were members of the second wives’ families, and 4 were

  members of second husbands’ families. Thus, almost 45 per cent of the

  prosecutors were second wives or their relatives. The key to the court’s

  reaction here was the information available to the second spouse. If she

  had been tricked into an invalid marriage, the court would be severe; if

  she knew the connection, the sentencing was light. Justice Lush believed

  that Ebeneezer Derby had told his second wife that he was already married

  so gave him only one day. In contrast, Justice Denman fumed at Robert

  Steventon in 1880. Judith Killen, his second wife, did not know that he was

  married, and he had also sold up her property after they ‘wed’. Denman

  complained, ‘this was not an ordinary case of bigamy but one of cruel

  deception.’ He gave Steventon five years.14

  If neither spouse prosecuted, family members usual y did. Brothers,

  in-laws, cousins, aunts, and uncles, as well as parents, got involved. Martha

  Blaney’s parents instituted the arrest of her husband, William Johnson, in

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  1830. Johnson had sent Blaney to the hospital with his violent behaviour,

  and Blaney’s parents used his previous marriage in 1828 to free her. Men’s

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  families also intervened, especial y in the few cases involving well-off people.

  Annabel a Robertson had become a governess after her first marriage had

  failed, due, she claimed, to the cruelty of her husband. She worked for the

  Radermacher family and fell in love with the oldest son, and the couple

  married in 1854. The elder Mr Radermacher discovered her previous

  marriage and prosecuted her ‘to shield his son from the consequences of

  the illegal contract’.15

  Public prosecutions were rare, totalling 19 cases, and fall into two

  main categories. First were ‘serial’ bigamists, those who used marriage to

  defraud people. Twenty-seven defendants had married three or more times,

  and ten of these resulted in public prosecutions. Most serial defendants (89

  per cent, or 24 of 27) were men. A typical case was that of Robert Taylor,

  who had married six women by 1840 by pretending to be the heir to a large

  fortune. He was convicted three times and final y received fourteen years,

  so at least he did not marry anyone else for awhile. These men had found

  an easy way to make money by fraud, and some were probably professional

  con men. A bigamist in prison with R. M. Fox during the First World War

  bragged that ‘his offense was better than stealing’, though an indignant

  pickpocket disputed this.16

  In contrast, only two women in my study made a career of marrying,

  and one was in the late eighteenth century. Sarah Lane pleaded guilty to

  bigamy in 1764; she had married four men and was branded on the hand.

  Anne Wood, who was tried in 1870, was also a serial bigamist. She had

  already married three men when she went through another ceremony with

  George Wood. Wood testified that ‘she acted most improperly, obtaining

  money under false pretenses from his friends’. She also opened his letters

  and helped herself to any money they contained. The Common Serjeant

  gave her twelve months in prison.17 The only other woman with three

  husbands was Margaret Milton. Despite her multiple spouses, she was not

  a ‘professional’ bigamist; her case is discussed in the section on ‘acceptable’

  bigamy, below.

  The second major type of public prosecution involved men who

  deserted their wives and left them chargeable to the parish. For example,

  in 1880 Edward Prince was arrested for deserting his wife and three

  children. By the time the police caught him in January 1880, he had already

  remarried. The police added a charge of bigamy to the original charge, and

  he served three months. Other men tried to get out of supporting their

  second wives by proving they were not legal y married; the authorities

  retaliated by bringing bigamy charges. In 1895, James Coaley deserted his

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  first wife, then had two children with a second. He deserted the second wife

  as wel , and the JPs ordered him to support her. He refused and produced

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  his first marriage certificate to demonstrate why. He was promptly arrested

  for bigamy, convicted, and sentenced to twelve months at hard labour.18

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  The majority of bigamous families were from the working class. Of the

  187 cases where the newspapers mention a specific occupation, 144 were

  working-class, 31 were lower-middle, middle-class or upper-class, and 12

  involved mixed class pairings.19 Over three-quarters of the cases, then,

  were entirely in the working class, and 84 per cent had at least one working-

  class partner. Most of the middle-class cases involved lower-middle class

  families who meshed well with the working-class people around them. An

  example was Maria Humphries, who owned a lodging house; her second

  husband was Edwin Fisher, a navvy, who boarded with her. Though she

  was of a higher class, the difference was smal .20

  The few with large class differences interacted with gender in complex

  ways. Some men married bigamously in an effort to gain control of women’s

  money fraudulently, but most were simply trying to better themselves.

  James Foster married Ada Tucker, the daughter of the an admiral, in 1889.

  Foster had been in the navy and did odd jobs around Tucker’s home, and

  they courted for seven months. When she learned he had already married

  in 1864, she prosecuted him for bigamy, annoyed that she had ‘raised him’

  only to be ‘ruined’. Judges and juries were dubious about men who used

  women to make their fortunes, and Foster received twelve months in

  prison.21

  The other major category of cross-class cases involved women

  who married men of higher class. Women using marriage in this way

  was far more acceptable to judges and juries, though women who were

  ‘adventuresses’ did not get much sympathy. Eliza Manley married Thomas

  Archer, a wealthy man, in the 1850s. The two lived extravagantly for some

  months until Archer tried to divorce her, at which point he discovered

  she was already married. At her trial in 1860, the Recorder gave her two

  months at hard labour. More typical y, the women were servants, and the

  marriages were of doubtful legality. Richard Dames was an officer in the

  militia and the son of a sugar refiner. At the age of nineteen, in 1879, he

  secretly married a servant in his mother’s house, Elizabeth Pace, by making

  false statements to the registrar. When he married a more suitable woman

  in 1882, Pace unsuccessful y prosecuted him for bigamy.22 Despite their

  press coverage, these cases were a minority; most bigamies occurred within

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  the working class.

  Whatever their class, these couples shared reasons for marrying and

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  for ‘self-divorce’, and their communities accepted bigamous families under

  certain conditions. Historians have noted the influence of neighbours on

  working-class families; they often served as alternative authority structures

  on social and domestic issues.23 Most historians have centred on neighbours’

  roles as enforcers of certain levels of family harmony, cleanliness, and

  sexual conformity. In contrast, bigamy cases, like affinal marriages, show

  that communities could be flexible; a strict adherence to the law was not

  always necessary.

  The major circumstance that made bigamy acceptable was if

  the bigamist had a good reason for leaving her or his first spouse. Not

  surprisingly, then, bigamists explained their desertions by highlighting the

  ‘misbehaviour’ of their husbands/wives, a highly gendered term. When

  applied to wives, it usual y meant sexual misconduct. Benjamin Griffiths left

  his wife when she had an affair with his nephew. Similarly, William Trouse’s

  wife ‘had become an abandoned woman’. Both men argued at their trials

  that their desertions of such women were justified. Their arguments were

  persuasive, because neither had neighbours testify against them, and the

  judges in the trials (Platt and Huddlestone) gave them nominal sentences

  (Griffiths paid a fine of one shilling, and Trouse served one day).24 Since

  few poor men or women could afford a divorce, courts kept this in mind.

  James Mitchel ’s wife left him for another man, so he remarried; at the trial

  in 1854, Justice Erle asserted ‘if the prisoner had been in a higher rank of

  life, he would have been divorced, and then he could have legal y married

  to the second person.’ He gave Mitchell only three days.25

  Men were also reluctant to remain in marriages in which the wives

  were too assertive. Joseph Ainley, a peddler, ran away from his wife, Sarah,

  after only one week because, he said, she had ‘taken upon herself to become a

  tyrant in the house’, including throwing him out after an argument. Charles

  Matthews, an accountant in Bristol, characterised his first wife, Elizabeth,

  as a ‘woman of very violent temper’. When arrested, he remarked that ‘he

  would rather go to prison than go back to his wife.’26 Whether or not their

  tempers had been provoked, these women had stepped over the bounds

  of acceptable behaviour, so their husbands felt free to find happiness

  elsewhere. In fact, one detective testified that Matthews’s neighbours

  supported his version of events. Matthews was lower-middle class, so his

  community’s flexibility was particularly noteworthy.

  Money was also often a bone of contention. Husbands might accuse

  wives of ‘misbehaviour’ if they did not share property or earnings. Jane

  Bristow, the second wife of Peter Collen, a labourer, claimed that as soon

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  as Peter married her, he became abusive: ‘he demanded her money, and

  when she refused him, said, “What do you suppose I married you for

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  except your money?”’ Jane might have been overstating the case to excuse

  herself, but some husbands confessed that money led to trouble. George

  Galway, a traveller, admitted that he and his wife, married since 1825, had

  serious problems after she inherited property in 1843. That acquisition led

  to arguments, and he soon left.27 With resources chronical y short, conflicts

  over money were bitter. Because providing was one of the linchpins of

  Victorian masculinity, especial y after 1850, men reacted badly to any

  challenges to it.28

  Final y, men felt justified in refusing to live with women who were

  not successful housekeepers. First, women should balance the family’s

  budget; men could not live with women who squandered their pay. George

  Braidwood accused his first wife of such reckless s
pending that she ‘caused

  the home to be broken up’.29 Second, women were to be nurturing and

  caring. John Calvert said he had been unhappy with his first wife, because

  she ‘had left him twice when he was seriously il ’, a dereliction of wifely

  duty. Patrick Leach, an Irishman in York, summed up these expectations

  when he explained why he had separated from his wife: she ‘treated him

  very il , neglected his children, and sold him up, on account of which he

  imagined that he was justified in taking another wife.’30

  Women had their own meanings for ‘misbehaviour’. Primarily, the

  term meant violence, and these claims elicited mercy in bigamy trials. Eliza

  Gallivan had particularly bad taste in husbands. Her first husband went to

  prison for gouging out one of her eyes and stabbing her. She then remarried

  but had to run away again when her second husband threatened to gouge

  out her remaining eye. Although most women did not have such horror

  stories, many claimed that ‘ill-treatment’ or ‘disgraceful’ behaviour had

  forced them from their homes.31 Stephen Aldhouse’s first wife left him due

  to his ill treatment. He then married Hephzibah Roberts in 1837; though

  she had two children with him, she, too, left him for abusing her. Roberts,

  unlike Frances, was able to free herself from his threats by prosecuting

  him for bigamy, and he was transported for seven years.32 Violence may

  have been an accepted part of working-class marriage, but not all women

  tolerated it.

  Second, ‘misbehaviour’ for men included failure to provide. James

  MacDonald, a clerk, married three women between 1847 and 1863. His first

  wife, who had four children with him, tracked him down and prosecuted

  him. According to the court reports, ‘He had treated all three wives with

  the grossest neglect’. Not surprisingly, the judge gave him seven years.33

  On the other hand, many times, women justified their illegal remarriages

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  by the need to find a provider. Like MacDonald, Margaret Milton had

  married three times by 1872. Unlike him, though, Milton pleaded the need

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