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13 Hanson, “Confronting the Negativity Bias.”
14 Paul Gilbert and Sue Procter, “Compassionate mind training for people with high shame and self-criticism: overview and pilot study of a group therapy approach, “Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy 13, no. 6 (2006): 358, doi:10.1002/cpp.507.
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17 Hanson, “Confronting the Negativity Bias.”
18 Robin Nixon, “The Neuroscience of Self-Esteem, Self-Criticism and Self-Compassion,” Live Science, accessed January 30, 2017, http://www.livescience.com/14151-neuroscience-esteem-criticism-compassion.html.
19 Engel, “How Compassion Can Heal Shame from Childhood.”
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22 Gilbert and Procter, “Compassionate mind training for people with high shame and self-criticism,” 361.
23 Phillips, “Against Self-Criticism.”
24 Nixon, “The Neuroscience of Self-Esteem, Self-Criticism and Self-Compassion.”
25 Gilbert and Procter, “Compassionate mind training for people with high shame and self-criticism,” 361.
26 Homaira Kabir, “Letting Go Of Shame And Self Criticism,” The Huffington Post, accessed January 30, 2017, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/homaira-kabir/letting-go-of-shame-and-s_1_b_10525506.html.
27 Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind (New York: William Morrow, 2011), 63.
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29 Gilbert and Procter, “Compassionate mind training for people with high shame and self-criticism,” 368.
30 Neff, Self-Compassion, 53-54.
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46 Weintraub, “The Voice of Reason.”
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49 Kali Munro, “The Inner Critic: Accepting Ourselves,” KaliMunro.com |
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Notes: Chapter 5 – Deficiency Anxieties
1 Patrik Edblad, “How to Deal With Negative Emotions: Cognitive Reappraisal,” Selfication, accessed January 12, 2017, http://www.selfication.com/how-to-deal-with-negative-emotions/.
2 “Improve Your Perspective Using Cognitive Reappraisal,” Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Los Angeles, accessed February 8, 2017, http://cogbtherapy.com/cbt-blog/2014/5/4/hhy104os08dekc537dlw7nvopzyi44.
3 Michael Sun, “Psychological Skills: Changing Your Emotions – An Intro to Cognitive Reappraisal,” Psychology In Action, accessed February 8, 2017, http://www.psychologyinaction.org/2014/02/17/psychological-skills-changing-your-emotions-an-intro-to-cognitive-reappraisal/.
4 Amy Morin, “Taming Your Inner Critic: 7 Steps To Silencing The Negativity,” Forbes, accessed February 8, 2017, http://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2014/11/06/taming-your-inner-critic-7-steps-to-silencing-the-negativity/#545378656316.
5 Emily Nickerson, “How to Silence the Voice of Doubt,” The Muse, accessed February 8, 2017, https://www.themuse.com/advice/how-to-silence-the-voice-of-doubt.
6 Marcia Reynolds Psy.D., “How To Feel Good Enough,” Psychology Today, accessed February 8, 2017, https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/wander-woman/201312/how-feel-good-enough.
7 Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S., “3 Ways to Develop Self-Trust,” PsychCentral.com | World of Psychology Blog, accessed February 8, 2017, https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/10/17/3-ways-to-develop-self-trust/.
8 Paul Gilbert and Sue Procter, “Compassionate mind training for people with high shame and self-criticism: overview and pilot study of a group therapy approach, “Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy 13, no. 6 (2006): 365, doi:10.1002/cpp.507.
9 David Russell Schilling, “Knowledge Doubling Every 12 Months, Soon to Be Every 12 Hours,” Industry Tap, accessed February 8, 2017, http://www.industrytap.com/knowledge-doubling-every-12-months-soon-to-be-every-12-hours/3950.
10 JA Mangels et al., “Why Do Beliefs About Intelligence Influence Learning Success? A Social Cognitive Neuroscience Model. - PubMed - NCBI,” National Center for Biotechnology Information, accessed January 12, 2017, http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17392928.
11 Gwen Knowles, “Why Feeling Incompetent Is All Part Of The Career Change Process – And What To Do About It,” Careershifters, accessed February 8, 2017, http://www.careershifters.org/expert-advice/why-feeling-incompetent-is-all-part-of-the-career-change-process-and-what-to-do.
12 Knowles, “Why Feeling Incompetent Is All Part Of The Career Change Process – And What To Do About It.”
13 Nir Eyal, “Three Steps To Get Up To Speed On Any Subject Quickly,” Nir and Far, accessed January 12, 2017, http://www.nirandfar.com/2016/07/three-steps-get-speed-subject-quickly.html.
14 Josh Kaufman, “5 Secrets to Learning New Skills More Quickly Than You Ever Thought Possible,” Business Insider, accessed February 8, 2017, http://www.businessinsider.com/5-secrets-to-learning-new-skills-more-quickly-than-you-ever-thought-possible-2013-7.
15 Corbett Barr, “Deliberate Practice: What It Is and Why You Need It,” Expert Enough, accessed February 8, 2017, http://expertenough.com/1423/deliberate-practice.
16 James Clear, “What Do Experts Do For 10,000 Hours? How Experts Practice Better Than the Rest,” James Clear, accessed February 8, 2017, http://jamesclear.com/deliberate-practice-strategy.
17 Drake Baer, “Why “Deliberate Practice” Is The Only Way To Keep Getting Better,” Fast Company, accessed February 8, 2017, https://www.fastcompany.com/3020758/leadership-now/why-deliberate-practice-is-the-only-way-to-keep-getting-better.
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19 Bruce Nussbaum, Creative Intelligence: Harnessing the Power to Create, Connect, and Inspire (New York: Harper Business, 2013).
20 Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come from: The Natural History of Innovation (New York: Riverhead Books, 2010), 10.
21 Daniel Gogek, “How Pixar Transformed Their Criticizers into Creators: The Magic of “Plussing”,” Think Like An Innovator, accessed February 8, 2017, http://www.thinklikeaninnovator.com/how-pixar-transformed-the-criticizers-into-creators-the-magic-of-plussing/.
22 Kirby Ferguson, “Everything Is a Remix,” Everything Is a Remix, accessed January 12, 2017, http://everythingisaremix.info/.
Notes: Chapter 6 – Comparison Syndrome
1 Shane Parrish, “Mental Model: Bias from Envy and Jealousy,” Farnam Street, accessed February 9, 2017, https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/2016/08/mental-model-bias-envy-jealousy/.
2 Parrish, “Mental Model: Bias from Envy and Jealousy.”
3 Henrik Edberg, “How to Overcome Envy: 5 Effective Tips,” Practical Happiness Advice That Works | The Positivity Blog, accessed February 9, 2017, http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2010/07/13/how-to-overcome-envy/.
4 Jeremy Golden, “6 Apps to Stop Your Smartphone Addiction,” Inc.com, accessed February 10, 2017, http://www.inc.com/jeremy-goldman/6-apps-to-stop-your-smartphone-addiction.html.
5 Emily Nickerson, “How to Silence the Voice of Doubt,” The Muse, accessed February 8, 2017, https://www.themuse.com/advice/how-to-silence-the-voice-of-doubt.
6 Sonya Derian, “Stop Comparing: An Alternative to Competing with People,” Tiny Buddha, accessed February 9, 2017, http://tinybuddha.com/blog/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others/.
7 Henrik Edberg, “How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others (and Start Empowering Yourself),” Practical Happiness Advice That Works | The Positivity Blog, accessed February 9, 2017, http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2014/09/03/comparison-trap/.
8 Sonya Derian, “Stop Comparing: An Alternative to Competing with People,” Tiny Buddha, accessed February 9, 2017, http://tinybuddha.com/blog/stop-comparing-yourself-to-others/.
9 Nilofer Merchant, “Onlyness (The Topic and the Talk at TEDxHouston),” Nilofer Merchant, accessed February 9, 2017, http://nilofermerchant.com/2013/01/17/onlyness-the-topic-and-the-talk-at-tedxhouston/.
10 Nilofer Merchant, “What Color Is My Weird? (How to Find Your Onlyness, Part I),” Nilofer Merchant, accessed January 12, 2017, http://nilofermerchant.com/2015/01/20/what-color-is-my-weird-how-to-find-your-onlyness-part-i/.
11 Theodore A. Powers, Richard Koestner, and David C. Zuroff, “Self–Criticism, Goal Motivation, and Goal Progress,” Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology 26, no. 7 (2007): xx, doi:10.1521/jscp.2007.26.7.826.
12 Mike Robbins, “Are You Threatened by Other People’s Success?,” The Huffington Post, accessed February 9, 2017, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mike-robbins/overcoming-insecurity_b_3295802.html.
13 Alexander H. Jordan et al., “Misery Has More Company Than People Think: Underestimating the Prevalence of Others’ Negative Emotions,” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 37, no. 1 (2011): xx, doi:10.1177/0146167210390822.
14 Daniela Tempesta, “Why You Should Stop Comparing Yourself to Others,” The Huffington Post, accessed February 9, 2017, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/daniela-tempesta-lcsw/comparing-yourself_b_4441288.html.
15 Kristin Neff, Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind (London: Hodder & Stoughton, 2011), 62.
16 Parrish, “Mental Model: Bias from Envy and Jealousy.”
17 Susie Moore, “How to Overcome Social Comparison,” The Huffington Post, accessed February 9, 2017, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/susie-moore/comparison_b_4646013.html.
18 Cal Newport, “The Steve Martin Method: A Master Comedian’s Advice for Becoming Famous - Study Hacks,” Cal Newport - Study Hacks Blog, accessed February 9, 2017, http://calnewport.com/blog/2008/02/01/the-steve-martin-method-a-master-comedians-advice-for-becoming-famous/.
19 Denise Jacobs, “Acknowledge Accomplishment,” The Pastry Box Project, accessed February 9, 2017, https://the-pastry-box-project.net/denise-jacobs/2012-july-21.
20 “Know Your Brain: Reward System — Neuroscientifically Challenged,” Neuroscientifically Challenged, accessed February 10, 2017, http://www.neuroscientificallychallenged.com/blog/know-your-brain-reward-system.
21 Patrik Edblad, “The Power of Small Wins: Why Celebrating Your Progress is Crucial for Long-Term Success,” Selfication, accessed February 10, 2017, http://www.selfication.com/motivation/the-power-of-small-wins/.
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