toileting accidents
younger behavior
Regularity
in children
in parent
Reinforcement
Relationship-building strategies
connecting
decision making
destination, awareness of
with feeling children
Relationship-building strategies (cont.)
goal-setting
emotion coach vs. intimidator
role models
stop and start strategies
Repetitive behaviors
Research, impact of
Resentment, toward child
Respectfulness
Responsive parents
Reward and punishment theories
Reward systems
Risk-taking behaviors
Ritualistic behavior
Rituals, benefits of
Role models, parents as
Role play
Rumination
Sadness, Emotion Coach response vs. Intimidator
Safety rules
Sagen, Judy
Sapolsky, Robert
Sears, William, M.D.
Self-discipline, development strategies
emotions, identification of
learning to stop oneself by learning what to do
support child when he fears
Self-esteem
Self-motivation
Self-sufficiency
Sensitive parents
Sensitive responses
Sensitivity
in children
in parent
Sensitivity/Analytical response styles
feelers, see Feeling children
identifying style preferences
styles of
thinkers, see Thinking children Sensory activities, temper tantrums and
Sensory integration dysfunction (SI)
Separation
difficult
safety and
Separation anxiety
Seven Habits of Highly Successful People (Covey)
Sexual activity, premature
Shadow symptoms
Shaming
Shapiro, Lawrence
Shouting, See also Yelling
Shutting down
Siblings, stress and
Silent resister
Single parenting
Skill development, importance of, See also specific types of skills
Sleep, generally
deprivation
patterns, disruptive
Slow-to-adapt children
Smothering
Social skills
extroverts and
importance of
negotiation, see Negotiation
Solution
decision making
in problem solving
selection of
working together on
Soothing and calming strategies
deep breathing
determination of
distractions
physical activity
planning
sensory activities
space
Space, temper tantrums and
Spanking
Spoiling children
Stability, benefits of
Standards
changing
enforcement, see Standards enforcement strategies
importance of
review of
setting, see Standard-setting
Standards enforcement strategies
attention and
backup
in cars
changes in
coaching tips
consequences
consistency
cooperation and
guilt, dealing with
hitting behavior
importance of
intensity factor
matching words and actions
mistakes with
planning
practice with children
in public
respectfulness
steps to
throwing behavior
tips
Standard-setting
clarifying standards
impact of
mixed messages
Stealing
Stepping away, strategies for
Stereotypes
Stop and start strategies
intensity and
overview
strategies for
Stress, generally
assertive behavior and
coaching tips
cues
cycle
experiences that create
as fuel for power struggle
level, monitoring
negotiations and
reduction strategies, see Stress reduction strategies
signaling behaviors
standards, enforcement of
Stress hormones
Stress reduction strategies
mental-health days
nurturance
predictability
rituals
stability
Striking back
Suicide, adolescent
Supportive parents
Support system, importance of,
Swearing
Tact
Taking a break
Team approach, medical issues
Temper tantrums
intensity, management strategies
standards enforcement strategies
stopping strategies, see Temper tantrums, stopping strategies
Temper tantrums, stopping strategies
ally, parent as
anger/rage
escalation
eye level
monitoring emotions
soothing and calming strategies
spoiling children
stress cycle
success with
time frame
tips for
Temperament, see specific types of temperament
assertive behavior and
child, see Child temperament
coaching tips
as fuel for power struggle
negotiation skills and
parental, see Parent temperament
understanding
Testing the waters
Thinkers, see Extroversion; Introversion
characteristics of
coaching, see Thinking children, coaching guidelines
extroverted parents
gender differences
introverted parents
Thinking children, coaching guidelines
deal with facts first
explain why
justly apply rules
let them feel competent
in school
teach to be truthful and tactful
Thinking style
Thomas, Alex, Dr.
Thomas, Ruth, Ph.D.
Threats
M Corporation
Throwing behavior
Thyroid problems
Time frame
Time-outs
Toddlers
boundaries for
firm action and
Toileting accidents
Toilet training
Tone of voice
Tourette’s syndrome
Transitions, dealing with
Travel, stress and
Triggers, temperament traits, See also Fuel for a power struggle
Trust
development, importance of
empathy and
Trustworthiness
Truth, value of
Twin studies
Undersensitivity
Understimulation
Unresponsive parents
Venturing out, safety issues
Visitations
Vulnerability
Walking, as anger management strategy
Weather, impact on stress
Wetting behavior
Whining
Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers: A Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Diseases and Coping (Sapolsky)
Worries, advice and
Worry, Emotion Coach response vs. Intimidator
Yelling
Younger behavior, regression to
Youth violence
About the Author
MARY SHEEDY KURCINKA, author of Raising your Spirited Child, is a nationally and internationally noted family educator providing training for parents and professionals. She has more than twenty years’ experience as a pioneer and award-winning educator in Minnesota’s Early Childhood Family Education Program and is the founder of the Spirited Child and Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles workshop. She lives with her family in Eagan, Minnesota.
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