by Ed Seykota
PTP - it's not a quick fix, magic pill like that helps once and for all. It's more like a way of behavior to which you come, pos Degree, with a little help from its their friends. At first, it may seem rather artificial and awkward, giving varying results. Soon, it just becomes a part of your nature.
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Twenty minutes on the hot seat = years of therapy
My background includes training in disfuktsionalnoy environment where I mo mother was clinically diagnosed schizophrenic, and his father - an alcoholic. In childhood, I also went through the physical, emotional and sexual abuse. I participated in support groups and resorted to professional psychological counseling flow f and a half years.
In truth, I never expected that PT P will help me in this way. In the beginning I thought that PTP only allow me to improve my trading skills. Instead, I feel like a different person and see the world and people in a different light.
I feel more personal growth while sitting in the hot place for e 20 minutes, than by going to counseling with a psychologist for several years.
Two years ago, I experienced feelings. I did not have the toolbar emotions. I lived with a blindfold. I could not feel any of the basic emotions such as anger, sadness, fear, happiness, surprise and disgust.
This process is invaluable. It enriches my life.
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Taking yte sender and not the Message [18]
Communication - is proce ss in which information is transmitted from the sender ed to received Atelier. Typically, the information is transmitted in both directions ed as the sender and receiver roles are reversed.
In a "normal" conversation two people to open a channel, and then both try to send at the same time. In addition, they tend to emotionally react to the content of communication. When both are sent at the same time when both emotionally react to the content of another, communication is fast becoming dramatic. Parties raise opposition to each other on an increasingly high level of intensity of the spine as long as one of a thoron not close the channel.
Example:
A: I'd like to have a massage.
B: You're just the same as other men. I think you want more than that.
A: Well, it sounds like you should be familiar with many men.
B: Are you calling me a woman of easy virtue?
A: What do you call a woman who knows what "all the men?"
In PTP we ReA Gere on the content of the message, even if it looks not accept us. We support the communication to the moment when the sender completes the form. We accept the sender and ignore the data.
In TAP recipient acknowledges each message. The recipient can use the nod, a smile or other facial expressions, or some kind of verbal key, for example, "uh huh" or "thank you." If the receiver detects that the sender demonstrates the form, the recipient of the sender supports the development of the form. Similarly, the recipient of honors and supports the sender and support the channel open.
Example:
Q: I would like to have a massage.
D: Thank you for telling me. Tell me something else.
Q: Well, well. It seems to me that I feel emotional intimacy with you, when we are physically close.
D: Thank you for telling me this.
Q: Wow, I really like it when you listen to my feelings.
T: OK, tell me more.
Q: I am so happy that you are in my life.
D: I also feel happy from what you have in mine.
Or:
D: I would like to have a massage.
E: I'm too tired.
A: Thank you for telling me. Tell me something else.
E: I still come to after a hard day at work.
A: OK, tell me something else.
E: Yes, I'm still hungry because they do not have breakfast and supper and a.
A: Thank you for telling me.
E: I really like that you care about me.
D: I strongly care about you. You are very important to me.
E: When you care about me, it makes me feel close to you.
D: Yeah, I feel close to you.
E: I'm going to go buy something to eat, and then come back and be with you.
In PTP, we always take the sender, despite the neighing of his soda message. We create and maintain Field Recognition. We appreciate the channel more than the content, and we support the channel open. We accept the sender, even when it does not take us.
If we fail to take the sender, if we consider his words as attacks, if we begin to defend or counterattack, we just are involved in drama. The trail follows the drama usually do not have, which are available for parties.
At the meeting, the Tribe intending group I usually enough to unite all members to follow the task. In personal relationships, where the parties are interested in the behavior of each other, they are much softer le sink to the dramatic exchange.
When you feel an attack is, by her partner, Tes focuses on maintaining an open channel and on the acceptance of his partner and his feelings. Create and maintain field Confessions.
You may find that while you are busy maintaining the field, your partner will not send you away, no matter what he says, even for you. You go to when to see its role in supporting their partner to feel the shape. You ignore the content of communication and focus on something m to be the recipient of their partner. In addition to the satisfaction of helping your partner to dissolve in, no, you also get the benefit of avoiding the drama and watching your partner settles down and replaced temper justice with mercy.
Intimacy - is a function of maintaining an open channel and acceptance of each other, regardless of content. The proximity is not that what you say, it is your commitment received yatiyu another person, even if, and especially if the content is the Covo that you do not want it SLN shat. In PTP - a version of unconditional love.
Beginners practice PTP sometimes forcibly transferred some of the processes in their daily lives. Newbie may require that his partner was his destination. Coercion does not work here. You can get someone else, just as it is you, and lead by example. If your desks ner does not want to be a recipient, you may receive in the fact that your partner does not want to be the recipient. Requirement h To someone else gets you is a sign of th fact that you act in a drama.
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Ideally
Through persistent practice PTP I came to this place in confidence, where I accept and love myself more than ever before. I accept and respect others as they are, and share more joy and love with your family and friends.
I feel that I have more confidence in myself. I feel th, as if it is easier going through his life's journey. I can clearly see that I have, and to share it with others. I know its purpose. More and more I am in now, where everything is perfect.
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Disappearance
Novoprishedshie in PTP in their first few collisions tions with him usually amazed disappearance. When he and fully feel so feeling u do not wage and hour uvstvo seems to disappear, taking with them the anxiety associated drama.
In the tutorial in this book, one of the initial exercise teaches partners to change, pushing each other to the feelings one experiences. Participants in this process is frequently noted surprise and amazement when painful feeling just disappears.
Painful feeling really disappears. We come to what would experience it differently. It becomes our guide, ally and friend. We find it less painful and more rewarding. We see its positive intention. It ceases to draw us into the drama and begins to lead us in the direction correctly th Life.
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Feeling usually cool enough
I notice that sometimes the feeling is the feeling of judgment, which, I believe, I feel.
For example, I can sit on the hot seat, believing that know how to feel fear. So, I discovered that what I really feel is the fear of judgment m.
When I get to the actual form of fear, it is usually cool enough and did not like the feeling of not judgment.
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Objectives
When you ete Global Developing skill in the outbreak have not-in You can use your skills as a basis for the process of the Millennium. Goals process - a process in which you define goals and then untie all the knots in between you and your goal.
The process uses Form Field Recognition to help identify the sender and unleash y-not, as he is traveling in the direction of peaceful self-acceptance and comprehension of right living.
By using the process of the Millennium les Confessions somewhat differently. Goals process allows the sender to travel in the direction of the target. It helps him realize his passion.
Sometimes we call the process of the Millennium "Die Hard", recognizing the seriousness of intent, which you must call in order for it to work.
To start a process and a recipient of the Millennium Ask After ivaet: "Show me what is smiling between you and your goal." As soon as you show the form of the feelings that stand between you and your goal, these feelings disappear. You get a sense of movement in the direction of your goal. To the extent the goal is for the most part a question of readiness to do what determines success in unleashing your not-goes a long way towards your settings for success.
During the process and you do not actually do any physical work towards the goal of working in its everyday sense. You do not make any calls and do not talk to people who r mo ut help you. The whole process you go through as a sender using the recipient. Emotional work, however, can be enormous.
In a discharge of process variations Millennium two people alternately reversed, so that both could unleash its y-not. The benefits of such a change of places that the quality of both - the sender and recipient - improves as the process continues. Goals process takes about an hour to two-stand and can have a profound effect.
When you finish the process of the Millennium, floods you confidence that you are on your way to your destination. Almost immediately you will find that the world conspires to your dreams become reality. For example, one of my friends tells traders t om that performs a process for the purpose of obtaining the Millennium used to brings more money to the management. It works by passing through its not-in untying blocked. Then, after the process and before he even started a marketing campaign, his phone starts ringing off the hook with offers of money management. Somehow this intention is passed and people respond when you go out of your own way.
I have reports from people using the process of the Millennium to attract buyers, finding a partner to improve relations, better relations with parents and children, finding a home, started a pregnancy, making a lot of money and start a business. This list goes on and on.
Another benefit from the process of the Millennium is h it clarifies the intention. If someone really wants to achieve the goal, then the goal itself seems to disappear. When it disappears, it frees up space etc. To the other targets that are smiling more in line with the good life.
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It really works
Firstly, let me say that in my business has come significant progress since that time, as in our tribe's visited in early 2004. I'm on a new high territory and enjoy the challenge of new levels of stimulation and new levels of performance.
Physically, I am also very much progresses, it becomes a new caliber athlete.
Significantly in the PTP, is the fact that it really works. Contrary to what had, that we humans think of our mind and body, in m wide sense of these words, we still have a lot to learn. When it comes to psychology, there are things that work, things that do not work and things that work for some and not for others.
My personal experience is that many Western psychotherapeutic techniques huddling together and often ineffective. "Talk e" and "therapy" is usually transformed into dacha definitions and analyzes, of which there is no easier by the direct approach to the issues (judgments, feelings and forms) and does not stimulate personal growth.
In addition, I found that self-treatment and are often only short-lived attempt to divert or destroy the conscious mind and try to skip some feelings through the filter of judgment, often as part of the continuing drama rather than continuations of the underlying form.
PTP is special in its innovative approach and forwards in approaching judgments, feelings and forms, resolution and dissolving them and, as such, produces stunning results.
In my own experience in PTP leads to a dramatic personal growth, achievement of the objectives, improve personal relationships and general enhances the experience in all respects. I increased sense of awareness, increased depth of compassion, persistent ivost, attention, loyalty and currently own aspirations, there was a big "fluidity" and a sense of deep and true confidence.
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Questions Why does not work
Title to this chapter has two meanings. One says that the questions do not work and that you have to learn why they do not work. Another meaning is that questions beginning with " why ", particularly inefficient. The ambiguity of the title is symptomatic of the problem and reflects with questions. In PTP we avoid asking GPs Ros. Instead, we share the feelings. For information we share a sense of wonder, curiosity and desire to know. The information that we pass, when share our desire to know the sender helps to focus and transmit the compressed response.
When we asked, we do not open enough information about what it is we want. The recipient must issue to guess what we want. Responses to some questions require Dogadov tion. In general, you can get much better information be sending their feelings about what you want, rather than asking for information.
Issues such as the following examples show, inside is not ambiguous:
Q: Do you have time?
A: No, I'm busy.
Q: No, that's not what I mean. Do you have time?
A: No, I Newsweek (Time and Newsweek name of the newspaper).
Q: No, that's not what I mean. Do you have time?
A: No, Sally has in its schedule of meetings.
Q: No, that's not what I mean. Do you have time?
A: Today 3:15, plus or minus a couple of minutes.
Q: No, that's not what I mean. Do you have time?
A: Planting a flight at 7:45 am and departure at 8:15.
Q: No, that's not what I mean. I want to know , if you have a new speed record , so I can stop worrying about this .
A: Oh, I did it. I have time. And we have a new record, 11.385 seconds.
When you need information, talk to people, you need to open so many senses as you can. The more you discover about that feeling, that it more than the other person understands what you need, and the more accurate the response you get.
Questions of "why" is particularly ambiguous. VP TP we maintain that the intention of I = result. We support that causality - a social myth. "Why" questions require reasons. We maintain that the questions why, in a fundamental sense, m, do not have an answer. Moreover, the "why" questions reinforce public myth about cause and effect and indirectly undermine the idea of Liability.
In PTP we communicate using language CDF -n (subject, verb and object - present). We avoid asking questions.
Beginners usually feel some discomfort, trying to reformat the questions in the discovery of what you feel. As soon as the Cubs practice these agreements, it improves their skills. When he and I start t floor uchat good results
in the combustion of n and in the exchange of feelings, they feel more comfortable using it. Those people who oppose the use of CDF-N and / or ask endless questions are likely to be involved in th as a drama.