Energy Healing Made Easy

by Abby Wynne

  You might like to finish by placing your hands on yourself, sitting down and just breathing as the light continues to flow through your body.

  Stay grounded!

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  Energy Healing on a ‘needs’ basis

  How else do you think you can apply the principles of Energy Healing to your life? Are there other areas that I’ve not mentioned here in which it would be suitable for you to feel more empowered by getting big in your energies? For example you could apply the ‘family systems’ exercise to projects at work that are getting on top of you. Visualize the project you’re working on and then push it out of your energy field when you go home so it doesn’t preoccupy you all evening! Don’t be any less gentle with this than you would be with a family member; you don’t know who is connected to this project and the energy of the project itself might get damaged if you do it too roughly!

  Many of these exercises are ready to use in your daily life, but they’re on a ‘needs’ basis rather than something you need to do every day. In the next chapter we will look more deeply at how you can bring Energy Healing into your life as a daily spiritual practice, taking you further down the road of healing.

  Chapter 7

  Energy Healing as a spiritual practice

  It’s more than likely you already have a spiritual practice, you just may not realize it.

  What is a spiritual practice?

  Anything that helps you connect to your Spirit, helps you feel better, calmer, more relaxed and happy, can be considered a spiritual practice. It’s a practice because it’s never done, never finished, you keep doing it. The intention for a practice is to be mindful rather than on autopilot – to have your focus of awareness fully present so you can experience your practice fully, deeply and wholeheartedly.

  Setting a specific routine for a spiritual practice might be too ambitious if it doesn’t suit your lifestyle. You don’t have to spend 20 minutes in meditation every morning if it’s too big a commitment. If you can do it, great, but if it’s more than likely that you won’t be able to do it, you may spend the day feeling bad about not doing it, which defeats the purpose in the first place. A spiritual practice should be manageable and something that you enjoy and can do anytime you want, whenever you feel you need it.

  Why do we need a spiritual practice?

  When I ask my clients if they have a daily spiritual practice some of them look at me sideways, as if I’m speaking a foreign language. For me, a daily spiritual practice is vital for good health. Taking time out every day to reconnect with yourself is like a reset, it helps you get your priorities back in the right order instead of allowing yourself to drift and the energies around you to magnify your fears and doubts.

  We do so many things on autopilot that we may not even be aware that we are doing them. For example, I always used to forget if I’d locked my car when I’d parked it. Then when I was miles away, my heart would leap up into my chest, and I’d be worried, ‘Did I lock the car?’ I’d never remember! I’ve lost count of the number of times I had to go back to the car just to check it! I now mindfully lock my car every time I park by stopping for a moment before I walk away and bringing my attention and awareness to it. Sometimes I even say ‘I am locking the car now’ as I lock it. From time to time I’ll still ask myself if I have locked the car, and I can say for certain the answer is always ‘yes’. Once we have awareness, we are present, and we have a choice. The key is to get the awareness.

  The problem is, when we tune out our mind tends to wander, we lose awareness of what we are doing and we tend to gravitate towards the things that are upsetting us. By doing this, we are feeding our energy and awareness into things we don’t actually want to grow. Pulling our energy back from wandering thoughts, from what we are feeding, is so important, and if we incorporate this into a daily practice, we get better at doing it.

  We live in a community, not in isolation

  We are surrounded by people, and whether we spend time with them every day or not, we still get affected by them. For the most part, people are not responsible for their emotional energies and tend to ‘dump’ them on other people and walk away. I’m sure you’ve experienced this. It’s not that people do it on purpose, they just don’t know what else to do. If we can check in with ourselves every day, clear what is not ours and reorganize what is, it stops a build-up over time, which can make us sick.

  ‘I met with the girls for lunch. It was the usual chatter, but Rosemary was very quiet. I knew something was wrong, so I asked her, and she burst into tears. She told us that she thought her boyfriend was going to break up with her. We held her hand and listened as she went over all the things that were going on in her head. When she was finished, her eyes were brighter, and she looked better, but I felt tired. When I went out of the restaurant, I felt a heaviness in my chest, and it stayed there all day, in fact, now that I think of it, it didn’t lift from me until after dinner.’

  Does this sound familiar? It’s not that Rosemary knowingly dumped her emotional pain onto her friend, but her friend wanted to look after her so naturally she took it on, and she went home with it. Rosemary felt better, but her friend didn’t.

  When we are on autopilot, if our thoughts are feeding the fears and the doubts, we resonate with the fears and the doubts, and are more likely to pick up on other people’s fears and doubts too. Studies in positive psychology have shown that we have a tendency to feel more stressed when we are surrounded by stressful things such as media reports or violence on television. So even if we are not surrounded by people, we can be surrounded by media that affects us in the same way.

  We also prefer to go with the crowd rather than stand out from it. Our basic nature wants to help, too, so we have a tendency to get drawn into feelings, behaviours and stories that belong to the group, rather than to us as individuals. In Ireland, where I live, people love a good story, and they tell it and tell it and tell it again, so much so that the story itself takes on a life and an energy of its own. When the story is about murder or suicide, war or epidemics, the stories can take more and more of our energies away from us and we contract our biofield, and feel smaller and smaller and less able to function.

  Having a spiritual practice reminds us of who we are

  It’s time to recognize that if we take on other energies that are not ours we can drown under the weight of them. We also need to recognize that if we give everything of ourselves away to everyone else, we have nothing left to give. A daily practice is vital to remind us of what belongs to us and what does not, and it gives us an opportunity to reconnect to our intuition and raise our vibration. This is being responsible for our energies, and as I said above, most people are not responsible, so perhaps now it’s time to take responsibility and just do it. Every day. It’s not that you are going to change the world by having a spiritual practice, but it’s more likely you will be able to find happiness and balance in your own life if you do.

  We have a tendency to take on other people’s heavy energies.

  We also have a tendency to give our energies away to other people, situations, fears and emotional/physical pain.

  We need to take our energies back, clear them and heal them, so we can come into balance and stay healthy.

  Just as a car needs petrol so it can keep driving, our Life Force Energy is the fuel that drives us. We need to take time every day to take back our energies from areas that are draining them, to feed and clear them of other people’s needs and wants, and to heal them to raise their vibration. When we do this, we come into alignment, resonate with peace, joy and love and are at our best.

  How to create your own daily spiritual practice

  In order to create your own spiritual practice, you need to choose something you enjoy, something that can fit into your day, and something that doesn’t feel like a mountain to climb! I’ve outlined some ideas here that you might like to try. Give them a go and see what works best for you.

  If you want more inspiration, do com
e and visit me on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest or my blog, as I regularly share exercises and meditations that people find very helpful. I also hold online classes in which I help you create your own daily spiritual practice. You can tell me how you get on with these exercises and share your experiences with others on social media.

  Bringing all the pieces together

  Before we start creating our own daily spiritual practice, let’s take a quick review of what we have learned so far, so you know what you have to work with.

  Your energy is not always in your body: You found the focus of your awareness, brought it into your body, and felt how different that is to the normal way we live, with our Life Force Energy being mostly outside our bodies, up around our minds. Let’s change that, and have ‘being centred’ as the new normal!

  You function best when you are centred: You then learned how to centre yourself properly by bringing the focus of your awareness down through your body, connecting into your heart. This is invaluable as it really helps you feel more contained in your body. It feeds your body with more energies too, so you are healthier, and have a good connection to your intuition and a clear way of getting a yes or no answer.

  When you are grounded you stay in your body: You brought your energy connection down to Mother Earth to anchor yourself and feel strong and secure. You learned how to bring energies up from Mother Earth to cleanse yourself and help you feel supported.

  Getting big in your energies is a good thing to do: You learned how to connect to a source of higher vibrational energy outside your body. You tuned in to the energies of healing, of unconditional love and light, and learned how to expand your energy field so that you can step into your true potential. You also learned how to send some of this energy to people you love.

  You don’t want to carry other people’s energies: You’ve been doing clearing work throughout this book even though you might not have known what it’s called. Breathing out anxiety is clearing it from your system. Like clearing the dye from the swimming pool, you’ve learned that raising your energies to a higher vibration clears out all the energies that are at a lower vibration. When you are at a high vibration and clear in your Life Force Energy, you are able to be your best self.

  When combined with conscious awareness, intention and permission, your Life Force Energy can be the key to creating stability and happiness in your life. It can help you feel more connected to your intuition, so you are aware of how you feel in your heart as well as what you think in your mind. A daily spiritual practice that keeps you connected to all of these aspects of your Self empowers you to be able to reach your full potential as a human being.

  Clearing as a spiritual practice

  Just as we can bring our energies back to ourselves, we can also send other people’s energies back to them, gently and with love. Now in the case of Rosemary, it might not benefit her to have her emotional pain come back, so we can also send it to Mother Earth to be processed, just as she processes our own anxieties and emotional pain.

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  Exercise: clearing your energy field

  Here is a simple method for clearing other people’s energies from your energy field. This is something that will really benefit you if you do it regularly, as part of your daily routine, as well as doing it when you feel you need to.

  Be centred in yourself, ground yourself, and know that you may be slightly ‘off’ because you’re possibly carrying energies that don’t belong to you.

  Set your intention out loud to clear (or in your mind if you’re in a public place).

  Say the following: ‘Any energies in my energy field that are not mine, I release to wherever they need to go, for the highest good of all.’

  Wait and see how you feel. You’re stirring up your energy too, so you may actually be feeling residual emotions around the ones you’ve just released

  Feel your feet on the ground. Ground yourself more if you can.

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  We ask for the energies to be released for the highest good of all, because we don’t really know what is best for others. For example, if Rosemary’s friend was angry for being ‘dumped on’, she might try to send Rosemary back her own emotional pain. Perhaps that would make things significantly worse for Rosemary, and push her into a clinical depression. We will never know all the answers. Rather than make the decision yourself, let the universe do what it does best.

  Clearing around specific events or situations

  Clearing other energies from our energy field isn’t restricted to energies from people. When there is an event or a situation that involves many people, they might all invest their spiritual energies, including you, and it can get ‘muddy’ and difficult to focus when it comes to making a decision. An example might be a wedding, where too many people want to help with the arrangements, or a work situation where politics are involved.

  Can you remember a situation or event that preoccupied you for a lot of time, weighing you down and making you feel drained just thinking of it? Did you feel like you wanted to run away? Sometimes feelings of avoidance are because your energy is being drained, and you don’t have anything left to give. Your avoidance is not because you don’t want to do it, or because you’re being lazy, it’s because you are scraping the bottom of the barrel when it comes to your energy levels, and you need to preserve yourself.

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  Exercise: clearing your energy field of a situation or group of people

  This technique starts with you taking back the energies you’ve invested in the situation/event so you feel better in yourself. Then once you feel grounded and centred, you can give back the energies that are not yours. Use a situation from your past for this exercise now, so you can see how it feels to release the energies around it. Then you can incorporate it into a spiritual practice and use it whenever you need to.

  Think of the situation in your mind, visualize it however you can, go back to the last time you were involved with it and recreate it in your imagination. Have it in freeze frame, as if you’ve stopped the video playing and everyone is standing still. Step into your body in this image, and allow yourself to feel what you were feeling in that moment. If it’s too strong for you, you can turn down the intensity, a bit like turning down the volume on the stereo.

  Breathe and notice how you feel when you do this – notice the shift in your body as you take on the energies from that moment in time and space. Feel your feet on the ground.

  Imagine that your energy is like sparkly fairy dust (go on, try it!!) What colour is it? Visualize how it’s distributed around the people in your mind, around the room.

  Ask for it to come back to you, clear and at a high vibration.

  Wait and imagine the sparkles gathering together, coming together into a ball of light. You’re pulling your investment out of the situation.

  Let the ball of light enter your energy field. At this point, you may be feeling much calmer and more contained in yourself.

  Now breathe again, check in with your energy and sense if you have any energies that don’t belong to you.

  Say the following: ‘I give permission for any energies in my energy field that are not mine to leave now.’

  Wait again, breathe, soften, relax and let them leave. Notice how you feel.

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  Having the awareness that you may be carrying energies belonging to others or to situations enables you to disconnect from them and bring yourself back to yourself. Without the awareness, what usually happens is that we think it’s all our own stuff and start to analyse what’s going on, create negative thought patterns, get caught up in heavy emotions and make things worse.

  If your first stop is always to clear your energies, and then check in and see how you feel, you get clearer on what is your stuff, and what is not. Using clearing techniques as part of a daily spiritual practice stops these energies from building up over time, and helps you have a better awareness and connection to yourself.

  Taking back your energ
ies as a daily spiritual practice

  Sometimes we invest so much of ourselves in something that it might be difficult to call our energies back. We think about it all the time. We visualize what we want, we hope, dream, expect and get disappointed if it doesn’t happen the way we want it to, when we want it to. We may feel we have some control over a situation or a person by being so invested, but in fact, our energies are jamming up the works.

  The most amazing thing about using this technique is that when you take your energy back you free up space for the energies around whatever the issue is to clear by themselves. It’s like the saying, ‘If you love someone, set them free.’ With a deep trust that everything is going to turn out in the best way possible, let go of your attachment to the outcome or a need to control the situation. Take a step back, breathe and clear your energies and see what happens!

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  Exercise: retrieving energy

  Centre yourself in your body and check that you have permission from yourself to do this work. You might not have permission from your mind, so reach deep into your inner knowing and tell yourself you really don’t have any control over this anyway. Let go of the worry around it first; if you can’t control it, worrying won’t help, releasing worry is like a cloud lifting, and sometimes you get clarity just by doing this.