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There is another way to make an impression on Leo: be funny. They have a fine sense of humor and love to be entertained. (Didn’t every monarch have a court jester?)
You can’t go wrong attending a cultural event, especially a preview of some kind. Accompany Leo to a cocktail party that marks the opening of a new art gallery, an advance movie screening, or a lecture by an author about his or her forthcoming book.
Pet peeve for Leo men: Heavy makeup on women.
Pet peeve for Leo women: A tightwad date.
Bear in mind that both male and female Leos think the best is none too good for them. Leo travels first class. If you’re trying to impress a Leo woman, take the rubber band off your bankroll, never wince at a restaurant check, get the best orchestra seats, and don’t overlook the flowers, champagne, and telephone calls.
If you’re trying to impress a Leo male, get the best cut of steak from the butcher and don’t spare the wine. If he brings a good bottle of wine (and he will), exclaim over the astute choice he made, then exclaim again over the wine’s bouquet and taste. And then bring out your final surprise—that flaming dessert or special after-dinner brandy.
Keep the ambiance posh.
Leo’s Amorous Combinations
LEO AND ARIES These two are the superstars of the zodiac. These well-matched partners get along marvelously in the bedroom. They’re an unbeatable combination for deriving sheer joy and excitement from sex. They also share the same likes and dislikes in other areas of life. However, they need all that rapport to overcome one big problem—the head-on collision of two super egos, each of whom wants to play the leading role. They have to learn to share center stage. Otherwise, a glorious mating.
LEO AND TAURUS Leo’s sovereign right to rule runs smack up against Taurus’s determination to have its own way. Both are fixed signs, so neither will give an inch. Leo merely becomes angrier and Taurus more obstinate. Thrifty Taurus is also appalled at Leo’s careless spending habits. Taurus is cautious and deliberate; Leo expansive and extravagant. Taurus stubbornly refuses to give Leo constant worship, and Leo is too self-centered to give Taurus the devotion it needs. Leo is much more exuberant than Taurus, both in and out of the bedroom. Too many personality conflicts here.
LEO AND GEMINI They strike it off immediately because they like so many of the same things—glamorous social life, parties, theater, lots of friends. Lively, independent Gemini brings out Leo’s joie de vivre. Their affair is a merry chase after variety and amusement. Leo finds Gemini’s imaginative sexual high jinksgreat fun, but Leo may also become jealous because of Gemini’s lighthearted approach to love. Leo is more intense than airy Gemini. Life together will be stimulating and exasperating, but the outlook is good if Gemini can stay faithful. Otherwise—poof!
LEO AND CANCER Both are romantics, though in different ways: Leo wants a relationship to be glorious and exciting, Cancer wants it to be meaningful and fulfilling. Leo doesn’t get as overwrought as Cancer, who takes things more seriously. Cancer needs security and tranquility and is a stay-at-home. Leo is boisterous and a gadabout who loves to be on constant display. Cancer’s dependency will please Leo provided a little adoration is thrown in. Leo is flamboyant in love, and Cancer is responsive, loyal, and intense; Leo likes that. Mixed signals.
LEO AND LEO When a king and queen are together, heads turn. This couple can have a royal mating—a grand passion conducted on a grand scale. Both are romantic, colorful, exuberant about life, and highly sexed. The main question is: Who’s going to be in charge? It’s difficult for one Leo to make room for another ego as large as its own, but that’s exactly what’s needed here. Each not only wants to sit on the throne, each wants to be the power behind it as well. Grand lovers and interesting rivals.
LEO AND VIRGO Leo is drawn to Virgo’s intellectualism, but Virgo doesn’t understand Leo’s dramatic nature. Leo can’t get from cool, reserved Virgo the sexual responsiveness it demands. Virgo is practical and prudent; Leo is extravagant and a spendthrift. Leo likes to live life in a really big way, but Virgo is conservative, frugal, and a nitpicker, which puts a damper on Leo’s high spirits. Virgo won’t be dominated either. Leo needs lots of flattery, but Virgo’s tendency is to puncture inflated egos. Both of them should look elsewhere.
LEO AND LIBRA Leo’s creative side meshes well with Libra’s penchant for artistic and esthetic pursuits. Leo is more interested in the strictly physical side of love than Libra, but Leo’s style and brio can win Libra over. Libra is indecisive and Leo will naturally take charge. The checkbook may not always balance because they’re both extravagant and love a beautiful setting in which to shine. Each will also try to outdo the other in order to get attention. But in the bedroom, Leo is the master—and that’s what Leo likes.
LEO AND SCORPIO There’s immediate sexual fascination with each other. But Leo finds it hard to cope with Scorpio’s jealousy and possessiveness. Intense, smoldering Scorpio is on a too-short fuse, while Leo is much more buoyant. Leo thinks Scorpio difficult and temperamental; Scorpio considers Leo pretentious and a showoff. Scorpio doesn’t understand Leo’s need to be continually surrounded by an admiring audience. Scorpio would rather dominate than admire, and that doesn’t suit Leo’s kingly state. Sex isn’t everything.
LEO AND SAGITTARIUS Leo is enthralled by optimistic, extroverted Sagittarius, and fun-loving Sagittarius is enchanted with Leo’s sunny openness to life. Together they share a liking for freedom, adventure, and meeting new people. Both are passionate and fiery sexual types, and if anyone can keep Sagittarius faithful it’s Leo. Leo’s natural quality of leadership brings out what loyalty Sagittarius can give. Leo is very proud, but self-confident and expansive Sagittarius is perfectly happy to let Leo strut.
LEO AND CAPRICORN Leo’s romantic, expansive nature is curbed by cautious, practical Capricorn. Merry Leo likes to kick up its heels, but Capricorn disapproves of too much self-indulgence. Both are highly sexed, but with basic differences. Leo needs glamour in lovemaking and Capricorn can’t supply it. Leo will think Capricorn stingy with affection because Capricorn’s reserved, undemonstrative nature cannot give Leo the adoration it needs. Neither will take a backseat or let the other dominate. This affair will be on the rocks before it even leaves the dock.
LEO AND AQUARIUS There is initial physical attraction between these two, but Aquarius’s tendency to analyze and criticize will shake Leo’s confidence and deflate its ego. Leo views Aquarius’s aloof emotions as a personal rejection. Also, Aquarius’s unconventional, experimental approach to love may prove upsetting to Leo, who doesn’t like to wander too far afield. Both like socializing and meeting new people, but Leo always needs to perform on center stage, which makes Aquarius impatient and irritable. Aquarius is too independent to become Leo’s devoted subject. And that’s where it ends.
LEO AND PISCES Leo is flamboyant, domineering; Pisces is unworldly and mystical. They intrigue each other because they are so different, but the differences don’t mesh well. Leo’s active, outgoing nature doesn’t harmonize with Pisces’s dreamy introspection. Leo needs public acclaim, while Pisces prefers the sheltered life. Both are more inclined to take than to give. Leo can’t tolerate Pisces’s ultrasensitivity, nor Pisces’s inclination toward exotic boudoir activity. Before long, the lion will start to roam.
VIRGO
The Amorous Nature
You and Virgo Woman
She keeps her passions on a tight rein, but underneath emotions are surging. Outwardly she may appear calm, sometimes even remote and unreachable, for the quintessential Virgo has a serene, almost classic repose. Yet hers is one of the most conflicted signs.
Basically, Virgo woman distrusts and is a little afraid of emotion. To her it represents the unknown, turbulent sea on which she may be set adrift without map or compass or rudder. Because of this a man may wonder if she isn’t a bit cold. She isn’t. Virgo’s enormous capacity for loving will pour out, as from a rich treasury, once her emotions are unlocked. Virgo is a much misunderstood
sign, and Virgo women particularly are often characterized as timid, evasive, reserved. This is also untrue. What Virgo women do have is self-possession, a sense of passion that is controlled by discipline.
Virgo is an earth sign, and like all the earth signs (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn) she is an enigmatic combination of sensuality and conservatism. The Virgo woman likes men, but she is very careful about allowing herself to become too involved with them. Even if she’s wildly attracted to you, she has an aloofness. Her eyes and body may say come close, but her manner puts up a shield. To begin with, she would never stoop to be obvious. She knows she’s worth a man going to a lot of trouble for. Also, she fears being trapped into a long-term living arrangement with the wrong man. Before she marries or enters into a meaningful affair, she is careful to note where the exit doors are. For a Virgo woman, falling in love can take a long time. She moves forward step by step, revealing the layers of her deep sensitivity, learning to trust.
She is discriminating. Rather than go out with a man who doesn’t interest her, she’ll stay home and read a good book. This does not mean (as some have tried to imply) that she thinks lovemaking is a poor substitute for a good book. It’s just that she doesn’t mind waiting for Mr. Right to come along. When he does he will find behind her cool facade a real woman waiting, warm and responsive. Meanwhile, her off-putting manner has served a useful purpose. It kept Mr. Wrong from intruding where he was not wanted.
The real clue to understanding Virgo woman’s amorous nature is to remember that she believes in true love. When she truly loves, her inhibitions are never in control of her passions. She adores pleasing her man and can be extravagantly sensual, endlessly willing to experiment with techniques that heighten the ecstasy. However, this is not a woman you can take for granted. You must strive hard to win her, please her, fulfill her. If you can, you will have a partner who pays you back in lifelong dividends of love, loyalty, and happiness.
You and Virgo Man
He gives an impression of being in firm control of his emotions, but this is often a disguise. The Virgo man is sensitive, receptive, sensuous, and cautious all at the same time. He will never sweep you into the bedroom and take you by force. For one thing, he has too much respect for a woman.
Because he does not find it easy to express his own deep feelings, he is often drawn to women who are effusive and vivacious. Yet he has a horror of getting embroiled in tempestuous scenes and angry tantrums. Emotionality upsets him, but because he is both attracted to it and disturbed by it, his love life never runs as smoothly as he’d like. This man’s love nature can be described as private. At times there is even a surface quality of untouchability about him, but this is an expression of his self-containment. He has a keen sense of the dividing line between your psyche and his.
The woman a Virgo man ultimately chooses has to measure up to very high standards. What he particularly doesn’t like in a woman is any suggestion of coarseness, cheapness, or loose and careless conduct. Fastidious is a good word for what he does like.
While he doesn’t find it easy to express himself directly about his emotional needs, he has a way of making his dissatisfactions known. He can be demanding. He can find fault. The woman who finds this annoying has one important consolation: His demands and his fault-finding are proof he cares about her. Otherwise, he wouldn’t bother.
To some women he may seem lacking in romance, at least in the cinematic tradition of moonlight, roses, and masked men riding into a cobbled courtyard. A woman will never look down from her balcony to find him strumming his guitar and singing romantic ballads. But in the cold light of dawn, in the real world we all inhabit, Virgo men have a lot more to offer than masked riders or lovesick troubadours. For one, a Virgo lover will still be there with the dawn’s early light. He won’t be riding off to sing ballads to someone else.
Virgo dreams about changing his image. He would like to be a love-’em-and-leave-’em type, a Don Juan, a bon vivant. The woman who taps this secret Virgoan fantasy will reap the surprisingly rich and memorable rewards of his pent-up sensuality. It’s all there under the surface, and it’s the kind of sensuality that improves with time. As a lover, he is simple, direct, and for real.
If you are looking for quality, not glitter, Virgo is your man.
How to Attract Virgo
The rule to bear in mind is: Don’t overpower. Underplay.
Always try to be a good sport. If that drink you’re invited for turns out to be at a health food store and consists of carrot and cucumber juice, smile and gulp it. Virgos are finicky eaters and careful about their health. With them, the laws of nutrition rate just behind the Ten Commandments.
In addition to the old standby of discussing work-connected topics, another good conversational subject is pets. Virgos like the smaller variety, especially the exotic kind.
Quickly establish your cultural credentials. Virgos are drawn to people whose intelligence or learning is superior to their own.
Don’t probe too closely into their personal affairs. They guard their private life. Avoid noisy places or entertainment that is vulgar or offensive. Virgos pride themselves on their good taste.
Don’t let Virgo’s worrying upset you. People born under this sign are natural worriers. Will they be on time for the show? Will they catch the plane? Will it rain or snow? Will the mail arrive? The list of their worries is endless. It’s no use pointing out that most of the things they worry about never actually happen. They’ll go right on worrying anyway; it’s their way of coping with what might go wrong.
Both male and female Virgos appreciate gifts that are useful and practical. They are also great hobbyists and are sure to have at least one special interest.
Very few special occasions with Virgo will occur on the spur of the moment—at least not if Virgo can help it. There will be careful planning; all the moves will be figured out in advance. Virgo is marvelous at working behind the scenes to accomplish this. All you have to do is relax and enjoy it.
Virgo’s Amorous Combinations
VIRGO AND ARIES Virgo can be intrigued by Aries’s audaciousness, but Virgo’s prudent ways soon clash with Aries’s colorful personality. They have difficulty communicating, because Virgo wants to talk and Aries wants to act. Their arguments will probably be more passionate than their lovemaking. Aries will think Virgo is inhibited; Virgo will consider Aries impulsive and wild. Aries likes a flamboyant social life; Virgo is happy with quiet, intellectual friends. Aries is also the type to bring out Virgo’s worst habits of nitpicking and nagging. Exit romance.
VIRGO AND TAURUS Virgo is analytical while Taurus is sensuous, but Taurus’s strong passions can spark Virgo. If that happens, they make lovely love. Practical, down-to-earth, satisfied with the tried-and-true, these two have much in common. Both try to build for a secure future, both are homebodies, both share a fondness for money. Virgo’s rational approach and Taurus’s persistence are also a good moneymaking combination. Auguries couldn’t be more promising.
VIRGO AND GEMINI They are attracted to each other because of a mutual interest in intellectual ideas. Both have active minds, but the rapport ends there. Gemini’s amorous nature is too impulsive and unstable to suit Virgo. Gemini dismisses Virgo as a stick-in-the-mud. Virgo considers Gemini irresponsible and adolescent. Gemini needs freedom to pursue its varied interests. Virgo resents this, and will nag and try to dominate. Gemini will soon stray to other lovers.
VIRGO AND CANCER A stimulating affair, for they arouse each other’s beneath-the-surface sensuality. Cancer isn’t too forceful, which suits Virgo fine. And the little attentions won’t be neglected, which suits Virgo even better. Cancer is affectionate and sentimental and makes Virgo feel secure. This couple also likes money and domestic comfort, and Cancer’s dependency fits perfectly with Virgo’s protectiveness. On the downside, both tend to be overcritical. On the upside, each draws the other out of its shell.
VIRGO AND LEO Highly physical Leo takes it as a personal affront if Virgo d
oesn’t match its leonine ardor. Virgo’s passive and reserved nature frustrates Leo and leads to quarrels. Virgo isn’t quick to hand out praise, and Leo lives on nothing but. Leo is a spendthrift, Virgo is careful with pennies. They’re both very independent, but Leo exhibits this in a temperamental way, while Virgo is very private. Virgo simply will not be dominated by tyrannical Leo, and always has its guard up. This affair has a shorter life than a mayfly.
VIRGO AND VIRGO All is smooth sailing as long as these perfectionists curb their instincts for finding fault. Actually, they bring out the very best in each other. They are responsible, sensitive, intelligent, and take love seriously. They also share passions of the mind and will never bore each other. Both think that there are more important things in life than sex; they may end up just talking in bed. There will probably be a continual contest over who is leader, but they have too much else in common for that to matter.
VIRGO AND LIBRA Libra is too frivolous and shallow for Virgo’s taste. Libra enjoys spending money, going to parties, and being the center of attention. Virgo criticizes and makes Libra feel unloved. Libra may tap Virgo’s hidden sensuality, but their personalities are altogether too different for real compatibility. Virgo will try to curb and dominate Libra’s fickle and outer-directed nature. Virgo is reserved and practical, and Libra views this as a personal rebuff. Libra will soon drift away in search of more fun-loving companions.
VIRGO AND SCORPIO Sensual Scorpio keeps trying to entice Virgo into ever-bolder sexual adventures. But Virgo is pleased because Scorpio is also possessive and fiercely loyal, which makes Virgo feel loved and protected. They also admire each other’s minds. Virgo is logical, intellectual, analytical. Scorpio is imaginative, visionary, and perceptive. Each sometimes has trouble expressing real feelings: Scorpio is volatile but secretive; Virgo is self-restrained and reserved. There may be some conflict about who runs things, but Virgo’s willingness to compromise keeps Scorpio tractable.