6 Regnerus, Forbidden Fruit, 73.
7 Phil Rich, “Recognizing Healthy & Unhealthy Sexual Development in Children,” MN Adopt, accessed October 29, 2017, https://www.mnadopt.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Recognizing-Healthy-Unhealthy-Sexual-Development-in-Children.pdf.
Chapter 4
1 Nina Burleigh, “Confronting Campus Rape,” Rolling Stone, June 19, 2014, http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/news/confronting-campus-rape-20140604.
2 Sarah Larson, “ ‘Spotlight’ and Its Revelations,” The New Yorker, December 8, 2015, http://www.newyorker.com/culture/sarah-larson/spotlight-and-its-revelations.
3 Azmat Kahn, “What’s Behind ‘Rape Culture’ on Campus?,” Al Jazeera, October 30, 2013, http://america.aljazeera.com/watch/shows/america-tonight/america-tonight-blog/2013/10/30/what-will-changetherapecultureoncampuses.html/; Burleigh, “Confronting Campus Rape.”
4 Steve Clapp, Kristin Leverton Helbert, and Angela Zizak, Faith Matters: Teenagers, Religion, & Sexuality (Fort Wayne, IN: LifeQuest, 2003), 9, quoted in Debra W. Haffner and Kate M. Ott, A Time to Speak: Faith Communities and Sexuality Education, Third Edition (Bridgeport, CT: Religious Institute, 2011).
5 The Catholic University of America, Dean of Students, “Code of Student Conduct,” press release, October 29, 2014.
Chapter 5
1 Jennette Lybeck and Cynthia J. Neal, “Do Religious Institutions Resist or Support Women’s ‘Lost Voice?,’ ” Youth & Society 27, no. 1 (September 1995): 13.
2 Lybeck and Neal, “Do Religious Institutions Resist or Support Women’s ‘Lost Voice?,’ ” 21.
3 “Two Sexes ‘Sin in Different Ways,’ ” BBC News, February 18, 2009, http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/europe/7897034.stm.
4 Valerie Saiving Goldstein, “The Human Situation: A Feminine View,” The Journal of Religion 40, no. 2 (1960): 100–112, http://www.jstor.org/stable/1200194.
Chapter 6
1 Joshua Harris, Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is): Sexual Purity in a Lust-Saturated World (Sisters, OR: Multnomah Publishers, 2003), 111–112.
2 Kristin Aune, Single Women: Challenge to the Church? (Carlisle; Waynesboro, PA: Paternoster Press, 2002), 19.
3 Aune, Single Women, 23.
4 Aune, Single Women, 24–25.
5 Rebecca Traister, “The Single American Woman,” New York magazine, February 2016, http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/02/political-power-single-women-c-v-r.html#.
6 Robert Wuthnow, After the Baby Boomers: How Twenty- and Thirty-Somethings Are Shaping the Future of American Religion (Princeton, NJ: Princeton University Press, 2007), 55.
7 Agnieszka Tennant, “Dating Jesus: When ‘Lover of My Soul’ Language Goes Too Far,” Christianity Today, December 6, 2006, http://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2006/december/17.56.html.
8 Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey, Every Young Man’s Battle: Strategies for Victory in the Real World of Sexual Temptation (Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook Press, 2002), 113.
9 Stephen Arterburn and Shannon Ethridge, Every Young Woman’s Battle: Guarding Your Mind, Heart, and Body in a Sex-Saturated World (Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook Press, 2004), 50.
10 Jessica Valenti, The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women (Berkeley, CA: Seal Press, 2009), 24–25.
Chapter 7
1 James Dobson, Life on the Edge: The Next Generation’s Guide to a Meaningful Future (Carol Stream, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1995), 89–93.
2 Tim and Beverly LaHaye, The Act of Marriage: A Christian Guide to Sexual Love (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 1976), 9–10.
3 LaHaye, The Act of Marriage, 10.
4 Interview with Dr. Marlene Winell, November 10, 2015.
5 Luke Malone, “Virginity’s Unwitting Casualties,” The Sydney Morning Herald, May 25, 2012, http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/virginitys-unwitting-casualties-20120525-1z8ti.html.
Chapter 8
1 Mark Regnerus, Forbidden Fruit: Sex & Religion in the Lives of American Teenagers (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2007), 60.
2 Regnerus, Forbidden Fruit, 67, 63.
Chapter 9
1 Julie Ingersoll, Evangelical Christian Women: War Stories in the Gender Battles (New York: New York University Press, 2003), 58.
2 Ingersoll, Evangelical Christian Women, 53.
3 Ingersoll, Evangelical Christian Women, 57.
4 Ingersoll, Evangelical Christian Women, 54–55.
5 Layton E. Williams, “Who Owns a Pastor’s Body: The Roots of Inappropriate Comments and Congregational Entitlement,” Sojourners Online, May 3, 2016, accessed October 29, 2017, https://sojo.net/articles/who-owns-pastor-s-body.
6 Ingersoll, Evangelical Christian Women, 15.
7 Ingersoll, Evangelical Christian Women, 1.
8 “Religious Trauma Syndrome,” Journey Free, accessed January 11, 2018, http://journeyfree.org/rts/.
9 Tina Schermer Sellers, “A Biblical Scholar and Clinical Sexologist Debate Christian Sexual Purity,” June 22, 2012, accessed October 31, 2017, http://tinaschermersellers.com/2012/06/22/a-biblical-scholar-and-clinical-sexologist-debate-christian-sexual-purity/.
10 Interview with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, August 10, 2016.
11 “About the Flawless Project,” The Flawless Project, accessed October 29, 2017, http://theflawlessproject.org/about/.
Chapter 10
1 Norman Doidge, The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science (New York: Penguin, 2007), 122–123.
2 Mark Regnerus, Forbidden Fruit: Sex & Religion in the Lives of American Teenagers (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2007), 104–105.
3 Regnerus, Forbidden Fruit, 153.
4 US House of Representatives, Committee on Government Reform, Minority Staff Special Investigations Division, The Content of Federally Funded Abstinence Education Programs: Prepared for Rep. Henry A Waxman, December 2004, http://spot.colorado.edu/~tooley/HenryWaxman.pdf.
Chapter 11
1 Brené Brown, I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think” to “I Am Enough” (New York: Gotham Books, 2007), 29.
2 Curt Thompson, The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves (Downers Grove, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2015), 68.
Chapter 13
1 US Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, National Crime Victimization Survey: 2010–2014 (2015), quoted in “Perpetrators of Sexual Violence: Statistics,” RAINN, accessed October 26, 2017, https://www.rainn.org/statistics/perpetrators-sexual-violence; US Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Sexual Assault of Young Children as Reported to Law Enforcement (2000), quoted in “Perpetrators of Sexual Violence: Statistics,” RAINN, accessed October 26, 2017, https://www.rainn.org/statistics/perpetrators-sexual-violence; US Department of Justice, Office of Justice Programs, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Female Victims of Sexual Violence, 1994–2010 (2013), quoted in “Scope of the Problem: Statistics,” RAINN, accessed October 26, 2017, https://www.rainn.org/statistics/scope-problem.
2 David Ellis Dickerson, “The Ten Commandments,” This American Life, podcast audio, May 4, 2007, https://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/332/the-ten-commandments?act=5.
3 Lilit Marcus, “Josh Duggar and the Sexual Abuse Allegations Rocking 19 Kids and Counting,” The Guardian, May 22, 2015, https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2015/may/22/josh-duggar-sexual-abuse-19-kids-counting-tlc.
4 Elizabeth Smart, “Child Trafficking Symposium: Elizabeth Smart,” Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health video, 13:26, September, 10, 2014, https://www.jhsph.edu/research/centers-and-institutes/moore-center-for-the-prevention-of-child-sexual-abuse/news/symposium-on-meeting-needs-of-child-trafficking-survivors/child-trafficking-symposium-elizabeth-smart1.
5 J. K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire (New York: Scholastic, 2000), 217.
Chapter
15
1 “History of True Love Waits,” LifeWay, accessed August 4, 2017, http://www.lifeway.com/History/True-Love-Waits/c/N-1z0zq7rZ1z13wiu?intcmp=TLWMain-Hero-History-20131216; Don Beehler, “True Love Waits to Expand Anti-AIDS Initiative,” Baptist Press, April 12, 2007, http://www.bpnews.net/25373/true-love-waits-to-expand-antiaids-initiative-in-africa.
2 Lyz Lenz, “Recovering from I Kissed Dating Goodbye: A Roundtable,” The Toast, June 8, 2016, http://the-toast.net/2016/06/08/recovering-from-i-kissed-dating-goodbye-a-roundtable/.
3 “Gold/Platinum/Diamond Awards Winners,” Christian Book Expo, accessed October 29, 2017, http://christianbookexpo.com/salesawards/.
4 Greta Kreuz, “Sovereign Grace Ministries, Class-Action Civil Lawsuit Involving Child Sex Abuse,” WJLA News, July 10, 2015, http://wjla.com/news/crime/sovereign-grace-ministries-class-action-civil-lawsuit-involving-child-sex-abuse-88894.
5 Suzanne Calulu, “Josh Harris Reveals Childhood Abuse,” Patheos, May 26, 2013, accessed October 29, 2017, http://www.patheos.com/blogs/nolongerquivering/2013/05/josh-harris-reveals-childhood-abuse/.
6 Michelle Boorstein, “Pastor Joshua Harris, an evangelical outlier, heads to mainstream seminary,” The Washington Post, January 30, 2015, https://www.washingtonpost.com/local/long-an-outsider-popular-evangelical-pastor-heads-for-the-mainstream/2015/01/30/31827364-a881-11e4-a7c2-03d37af98440_story.html.
7 Elizabeth Esther (@elizabethesther), “I never went to prom. #BecauseFundamentalism,” Twitter, May 10, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=I%20never%20went%20to%20prom%20%23becausefundamentalism%20elizabeth%20esther&src=typd.
8 Jessica (@jessicakathryn), “@elizabethesther my school wasn’t allowed to have prom. Because @HarrisJosh lol,” Twitter, May 10, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=%40jessicakathryn%20Because%20%40HarrisJosh&src=typd.
9 Joshua Harris (@HarrisJosh), “@jessicakathryn @elizabethesther Sorry about that, Jess,” Twitter, May 10, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=%40HarrisJosh%20Sorry%20about%20that%2C%20Jess&src=typd.
10 Elizabeth Esther (@elizabethesther), “@HarrisJosh honestly, your book was used against me like a weapon. But now, I just feel compassion for the kid you were when you wrote it,” Twitter, May 10, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=honestly%2C%20your%20book%20was%20used%20against%20me%20like%20a%20weapon&src=typd.
11 Joshua Harris (@HarrisJosh), “@elizabethesther I’m sorry. And I’m planning to dig into that in the next year or two. Again, I’d love to chat,” Twitter, May 10, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=I’m%20sorry.%20And%20I’m%20planning%20to%20dig%20into%20that%20in%20the%20next%20year%20or%20two.%20Again%2C%20I’d%20love%20to%20chat&src=typd.
12 Kristine Kruszelnicki (@kruszer), “Add me to ur IKDG victims. 37, never married, now infertile. Set bar too high cause of ur book. Many regrets! @elizabethesther,” Twitter, May 17, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=Add%20me%20to%20ur%20IKDG%20victims.%2037%2C%20never%20married%2C%20now%20infertile&src=typd.
13 Joshua Harris (@HarrisJosh), “Kristine, I don’t know what to say. I’m sorry for the loss you’ve experienced and ways my book contributed,” Twitter, May 17, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=Kristine%2C%20I%20don’t%20know%20what%20to%20say.%20I’m%20sorry%20for%20the%20loss%20you’ve%20experienced%20and%20ways%20my%20book%20contributed&src=typd.
14 Lana Hope (@wideopenground), “@HarrisJosh @jessicakathryn @elizabethesther This tweet made me cry. Had to see if I read that right. Thank you,” Twitter, May 11, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=This%20tweet%20made%20me%20cry.%20Had%20to%20see%20if%20I%20read%20that%20right.%20Thank%20you&src=typd.
15 Paul Cottingham (@pcottingham), “I gotta say, fella, you don’t get off the hook for the enormous damage you caused by just saying ‘oops, sorry.’ Unbelievable,” Twitter, May 11, 2016, https://twitter.com/search?f=tweets&q=I%20gotta%20say%2C%20fella%2C%20you%20don%27t%20get%20off%20the%20hook%20for%20the%20enormous%20damage%20you%20caused%20by%20just%20saying%20%22oops%2C%20sorry.%22%20Unbelievable&src=typd.
16 Joshua Harris, “Feedback List,” accessed July 27, 2016, http://joshharris.com/feedback-list/?pagenum=11&sort=date_created&dir=DESC.
Chapter 16
1 Paula S. Williams, “A Touchstone for Sexual Health,” Highlands Church Denver, recording audio, April 17, 2016, http://highlandschurchdenver.org/audio-items/a-touchstone-for-sexual-health-paula-s-williams/.
2 Pamela M. Wilson, Our Whole Lives, Grades 7–9, 2nd Edition (Boston, MA: UUA, 2014).
3 Nancy Jo Sales, American Girls: Social Media and the Secret Lives of Teenagers (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 2016), 14.
4 Richard M. Ryan and Edward L. Deci, “Self-Determination Theory and the Facilitation of Intrinsic Motivation, Social Development, and Well-Being,” American Psychologist 55, no.1 (January 2000): 73.
5 US Department of Health and Human Services, Impacts of Four Title V, Section 510 Abstinence Education Programs, April 2007.
6 Douglas Kirby, Emerging Answers 2007: Research Findings on Programs to Reduce Teen Pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (Washington, DC: The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, 2007).
7 Matthew 13:52 NRSV.
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