Making an Exit
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The Lament for Art O’Leary
lamenting. See also crying
censorship
emotional control and
as feminine ceremony
in Iran
majalis
noheh song for
Persian poetry enshrining
Langton, Hugh Gordon
Larkin, Philip
legacy
LeMoyne, Francis Julius
Lenoir, Alexandre
Leslie, Mary
Li Changgeng, Liao Yiwu
Liao Yiwu
LifeGem
Lincoln, Abraham
lockets
Lord Byron
Louis, Joseph Henry
Lovatelli, Sandro
The Loved One (Waugh)
Lower Manhattan
Luke (evangelist)
Lutz, Tom
Lynch, Thomas
Lyttelton, George
MacArthur (general)
Madagascar
majalis (lamentations)
Malkin, Tony
Man Singh (maharaja)
Manoa Valley (Hawaii)
Marchant, Guy
Mark (evangelist)
marriage to dead people
Martin (saint)
martyrs
relics of
Mary Magdalene
Maryam (guide)
Mason, Philip
massacre
of Black Death–era Jews
in El Mozote
Mateo, Irka
Matthew (evangelist)
Maugham, Somerset
May, Todd
Mayan people
Mecca
medieval Europe
Mehriz
Meiselas, Susan
Memory Glass
MemorySafe Drawer
Merbs, Charles
Mercado Abastos
Merina people of Madagascar
Merridale, Catherine
messages from deceased
Metcalf, Peter
metropolis, grave goods
Mexico. See also Day of the Dead festival
Catholic cathedral in
Michelangelo
mirrors
Mitford, Jessica
on funeral costs
memory picture skepticism of
modernization of death
moksha
money
for afterlife
bequeathed
death rituals and
Mongol invaders
monks. See Capuchin Catacombs of Palermo
Moodie, Susanna
Morris, Jan
mortality salience
mosques in Yazd
mourning
clothes for
death rites and
dreams during
jewelry
Jewish tradition
music and
mourning, public. See also crying; lamenting
professional
Mrs. Miniver
Muharram
Muji pots
mummies
Andean daily display of
fully dressed
Taklimakan’s Caucasian
mummification
in ancient Egypt
Capuchin Catacombs
embalming and
history of
Munch, Edvard
murder
Husayn
victims
museums
British
Glass and Ceramic
Victoria and Albert
music
Day of the Dead festival
heavy metal
mourning
Muslims
afterlife viewed by
war dead burials of
MyDeathSpace.com
mywonderfullife.com
Naga Banda (dragon)
NAGPRA. See Native American Graves Protection and Repatriation Act
National Funeral and Mourning Reform Association
National Funeral Directors Association expo
National Mortuary Shipping
Native American Graves Protection and Repatriation Act (NAGPRA)
Native Americans
control over remains
epidemics suffered by
repatriation activism of
Neanderthal man
New England Puritans
New York
graveyards under buildings in
New York Society for Ethical Culture
New York Times
Newark, New Jersey
Nguyen Thi Thuan
Night of Stone: Death and Memory in Russia
Nocquet, Alfred
noheh (lamentation song)
nonrepatriation motion of 1920
Nowell, Claude Rex (“Corky”)
Nyakyusa people
Oates, Titus
Oaxaca, Mexico. See also Day of the Dead festival, Oaxaca
as colonial town
funeral in
obesity
ocean burial
O’Leary, Arthur
On Death and Dying (Kübler-Ross)
Onion
online announcements, of death
open-coffin funerals
organic matter
bone composition percentage of
environmentally friendly disposal of
family joke about
sacred
Orlando, Florida funeral expo
Osborne, John
Otakar II (Bohemian king)
palaces
in Bali
Kensington
Palermo. See Capuchin Catacombs of Palermo
Panca Maha Bhuta
Pantéon Général cemetery
paper gifts
paperweights
Papua New Guinea
Paris catacombs
Parsis of India
Pelebon (Balinese cremation ceremony)
corpses burned in
decorations and creatures in
effigies in
palace for
pendants
Perry, Hosea L.
Persia
Philip II (king)
Philippines. See Sagada, Philippines
photograph
of Fa
for tombstone
physiology of tears
Picasso, Pablo
Pickersgill, Jeanette
pig sacrifices of Sagada
Piluden-Omengan, Dinah Elma
Pio, Padre
plastinate bodies exhibit
Poe, Edgar Allan
Poncher, Elsie
Poncher, Richard
pornography of death
Posada, José Guadalupe
possessions for afterlife
Post, Emily
Potamia
potter’s fields
preinjection chemicals
predesign coffin business
The Premature Burial (Poe)
Price, Ian
Price, William
professional mourners
Psychiatry and Social Science Review
psychic tears
punishment of corpses
Purcell, Henry
Puri Saren Agung palace
Puritans of New England
putrefaction stage
pyramids, bone
Pyszczynski, Tom
Qajar dynasty villa
Qin Shi Huang
Qing Ming festival
communicating with ancestors during
Questions and Answers on Death and Dying (Kübler-Ross)
Quigley, Christine
Quiroga, Juan Facundo
Radcliffe-Brown, Alfred
Raedwald (king of East Anglia)
Raka, Desak
reflex tears
reincarnation
relatives
dancing with dead
retrieval of out of town
Release Urns
relics of deceased
healing properties of
> journey of
of saints and martyrs
tooth of Buddha
Victorians keeping of
religious history, Bali’s
remains. See also ashes
decisions surrounding discovery of
as evidence
exhibits of
Matthew, Luke, John and Mark
Native American
relationship between living person and
resomation of
sacred
repatriation
shipping of corpses for
today’s war dead
Repatriation Insurance
Representations of Death (Bradbury)
Representative of Applicant
resomation
Rice, Wesley
Richardson, Neil
Riis, Jacob
Rilke, Rainer Maria
Rint, František
ritual use of bones
River Ganges
Roach, Mary
Roi Et Province
Roman occupation of Britain
Romanticism
Romm, J. Leonard
Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead (Stoppard)
Rottenberg, Jonathan
Russia
Ruysch, Frederik
sacred remains
Sagada, Philippines
affluence of
ash scattering location in
Batnag’s vigil and funeral in
burial preparation in
cave coffins in
Christianity and local tradition
community participation and
Echo Valley
funerals in
pig sacrifices in
rules governing death in
surviving spouses
saints
All Saints’ Day
relics of
Les Saints Innocents
Salter-Nour, Cordelia
Sam (mother)
during crematorium visit
Fa’s death and
new home of
scattering Fa’s ashes with
Sam Yup Benevolent Association
sangadil
Sanitary Institute of Great Britain
sarcophagus
Sarcophagus of the Spouses
Saturday Evening Post
Savage, Nick
scattering of ashes
Fa’s
professional services for
Schuller, Tom
Scott, Robert Falcon
Scott, William Henry
The Scream (Munch)
Second World War
Sedlec Ossuary (Czech Republic)
Black Death victims buried in
chandelier of bones in
district surrounding
Servicios Especiales Profesionales
Shahnameh
Shaw, George Bernard
Sheila (friend)
Shek O
Shi’a Islam
Shinto funerals
ship tomb
shipping, corpse
Sicily
Sima Qian
Simla, India
singing
sitting shiva in Jewish tradition
Six Feet Under
skeletons
Aztec
Day of the Dead
skulls
diamond-encrusted
physical and philosophical potency of
sky burials of Tibet
slapping of chest
soldiers
El Mozote villagers killed by
headstones of
lock of hair left by
terra-cotta
Solomon, Sheldon
soul regeneration, Panca Maha Bhuta
South Korea
South Park Street Cemetery
Spain
Sparks, Melvyn
spirits
marrying dead
preventing return of
spiritualism
Spook (Roach)
spouses
buried together
surviving
Srinigar (India)
stand-up burials
Stannard, David
statistics
cremation
overseas death
Staunton, John Armitage
Steele, Donald
Sternfeld, Joel
Stiff (Roach)
stoicism, British
Stone Falling into Water (Barker)
Stones of Empire (Morris)
Stoppard, Tom
Summum
Summum Bonum Amon Ra
Sunni Islam
surveys
on afterlife belief
death attitude
suttee
Sutton Hoo ship
Sweden
tableaux vivant
tailors, funerary
Taiwan
acquiring ancestors through marriage in
preventing return of spirits
Taklimakan desert (China)
Talbot, Kathrine
Mr. Tan (driver)
taphephobia
Tarim Basin
Tasoua ceremony
ta’zieh (history plays)
Team News
tears
Darwin on
music inducing
physiology of
tear jar
Tehran
Teresa (saint of 1500s)
terra-cotta soldiers
Terror Management Theory (TMT)
Thailand
war dead burials in
theft of Saint Mark’s relic
Thérèse of Lisieux (saint)
Thessaly
This Republic of Suffering (Faust)
Thompson, Henry
Thumbies
Tibetan burials
Tin Chau Hong Worshipping Material store
Titanic
TMT. See Terror Management Theory
tombs
aboveground
double-decker
photograph for
raiders
Sarcophagus of the Spouses
ship as
transi (cadaver)
Xian unexcavated
Tombstone Hearse Company
tooth of Buddha
tourism
transi (cadaver) tombs
translatio (translation)
travel of relics
Tributes.com
Tunley, Roul
Twain, Mark
Ubud
Uganda
Undertakers Mutual Protective Association of Philadelphia
United States (U.S.)
cremation in
death attitudes in
embalming in
massacre hidden by
missing September 11 victims in
number of people dying alone in
potter’s fields in
urn enclaves
U.S. See United States
Utah
van Brederode, Reynout
Van der Geest, Sjaak
Van Sluke, Louisa
VandenBiesen, Dean
Varanasi
Venezuela
Venice
Victoria (queen)
Victoria and Albert Museum
Victorians
medieval art of dying revived by
mourning clothes of
relics of deceased kept by
war supplying ivory for false teeth of
Vietnam
Vincoli, Rome
Vingerhoets, J. J. M.
violence, to corpses
Virtual Memorials
visceral tomb
Vishwanath Gali, Varanasi
von Bismarck, Otto
von Hagens, Gunther
Waiting for Godot (Beckett)
Waldorf-Astoria
Wallace, Stewart
Waltuch, Lisa
war dead. See also Commonwealth War Graves Commission; Second World War
relatives of
repa
triation of today’s
Ware, Fabian
Warren, Carol
Washington, George
water-based cremation
Waterloo
Waugh, Evelyn
funeral planning story
weight, of ashes
West, cremation in
West Africa. See Ghana
West Dorset, England
Weymouth & Portland Borough Council
crematorium
whipping
whisker, Muslim Prophet’s
widows
widow’s chair
Willis, Nathaniel Parker
wills
Wilson, Godfrey
women
crying in Russia
dreams during mourning by
lamenting by
majalis barred from
widowed
Wood, Grant
World War I and II. See Commonwealth War Graves Commission
Xian tomb
Yanomamo people
Yazd mosques
yellow fever epidemic of 1870
Yen Loo (King of Hell)
Yu Wang (Jade Emperor)
Zoroastrians
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Murray, Sarah (Sarah Elizabeth)
Making an exit : from the magnificent to the macabre—how we dignify the dead / Sarah Murray.
p. cm.
Includes bibliographical references.
ISBN 978-0-312-53302-1
1. Funeral rites and ceremonies—Case studies. I. Title.
GT3150.M84 2011
393'.9—dc23 2011024759
First Edition: October 2011
eISBN 978-1-4299-8929-9