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The Green Burial Guidebook

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by Elizabeth Fournier


  green burials: advantages of, 2–4, 14; author’s experiences, 4–6, 15–17; burials at sea as, 87; celebrity, 34–35; choosing, 31; community involved in, 65–67; components of, 17–19; costs of, 48–51; cremation vs., 131; defined, 14; envisioning, 46–48; funeral home–assisted, 47, 67–69; future prospects, 37–40; historical/cultural precedents for, 3, 6–7, 13, 27–32, 36, 46; home funerals and, 123; instructions for, 45, 48, 53; legality of, 55; modern burial customs vs., 2–4; modern resurgence of, 32–37; personalization of, 115–16; planning ahead for, 7–8, 45; professional assistance for, 8, 15, 19; Tales from the Grave, 31; Tips, 53

  green burial sites, 14, 19, 33, 133

  green cemeteries, 14, 32–33, 74, 77

  green embalming, 102–3

  Green Haven Cemetery (Stillwater, OK), 173

  Greenhaven Preserve (Eastover, SC), 175

  Green Hills Cemetery (Asheville, NC), 172

  greenhouse gases, 25, 142

  Greening Death (Kelly), 20–21

  Greenlawn Memorial Park (Colma, CA), 164

  Green Meadow at Fountain Hill (Fountain Hill, PA), 175

  Green Meadows at Brooksville Cemetery (Brooksville, FL), 166

  Greensprings Natural Cemetery (Newfield, NY), 24, 171

  Green Tree Burial Grounds (Mead, OK), 173

  greenwashing, 69

  Greenwood Cemetery (Milwaukee, WI), 178

  grief, 1, 4–5, 43, 45

  Griffith, Andy, 34

  Gunderman, Richard, 70

  Harris, Mark, 23

  Hawaii, 167

  headstones, 49, 50

  hearses, 50

  Heart Land Prairie Cemetery (New Cambria, KS), 168

  Heartwood Preserve (Trinity, FL), 166

  Hebrew Memorial Chapel (Oak Park, MI), 169

  helpers, 120, 124–25

  hemp, 89

  Herland Forest (Wahkiacus, WA), 178

  Highland Cemetery (Prairie Village, KS), 168

  Hillside Memorial Park (Los Angeles, CA), 164

  Hinduism, 36

  Historic Congressional Cemetery (Washington, DC), 166

  Holy Savior Cemetery (Gibsonia, PA), 175

  Holy Sepulchre Cemetery (Rochester, NY), 171

  home burial packets, 61–62

  home funerals: ceremony planning, 116–20; defined, 14–15; envisioning, 46–48; examples, 120–23; green burials and, 123; historical/cultural precedents for, 3, 46; instructions for, 45, 48, 53; personalization of, 115–16; planning ahead for, 7–8, 45, 129; resurgence of, 115; Tales from the Grave, 45; Tips, 53

  Honey Creek Woodlands (Conyers, GA), 166

  hospice, 62

  Hospice Foundation of America, 160

  Houston Chronicle, 82

  Hungary, 84

  hybrid burial grounds, 75, 76

  ice packs, 109, 111–12

  Idaho, 133, 167

  identification tags, 62

  Illinois, 56, 133, 167

  Indiana, 56, 167–68

  Infinity Burial Suit/Shroud, 99

  insects, 129

  Integrated Pest Management (IPM), 75

  invitations, 119

  IOOF Eastwood Cemetery (Medford, OR), 174

  Iowa, 56

  Irish wakes, 45

  Islam, 29

  Italy, 38–39

  Jarvis, Nadine, 136–37

  Joey + Rory (country duo), 34

  Joshua Tree Memorial Park (Joshua Tree, CA), 165

  Judaism, 28–29

  Kansas, 133, 168

  Kelly, Suzanne, 20–21

  Kessler Woods at Washington Park North Cemetery (Indianapolis, IN), 167

  Kokosing Nature Preserve (Gambier, OH), 173

  Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth, 1, 43

  Larkspur Conservation Preserve (Westmoreland, TN), 176

  Laurel Hill Cemetery (Wilton, NH), 170

  lawyers, 61

  legalities: alkaline hydrolysis, 133; backyard burials, 77–78, 79–80, 123; body transportation, 112; burial (traditional), 124; burial arrangement appointees, 57–59; burials at sea, 87; cemeteries, 125; conservation burial grounds, 75–76; cremains spreading, 133; death certificates, 63; funeral directors, 55–57; home burial packets, 61–62; pre- vs. post-death care, 71; state/local regulations, 7; Tips, 57, 61

  Let Your Love Grow, 136

  lien holders, 79

  life celebrations, 15

  Lincoln, Abraham, 21

  Lincoln City Catholic Cemetery (Lincoln Center, KS), 168

  Lithgow (CT), 34

  living trusts, 59, 60

  Lootah, Chayton (Hawk-That-Is-Red), 30–31

  Louisiana, 56

  Maine, 133, 168

  Marana Mortuary Cemetery (Marana, AZ), 164

  Marble Park Cemetery (Milan, MI), 169

  Margiotta, Maria, 28

  Maryland, 133, 169

  MaryMoon, Pashta, 95

  Maryrest Catholic Cemetery (Mahwah, NJ), 171

  Massachusetts, 169

  Maury Memorial Gardens (Columbia, TN), 176

  mausoleum entombments, 102

  Maxwell, Steve, 89

  McGuinness, Maureen, 28

  Meadow Natural Burial Ground, The (Lexington, VA), 177

  Meadow Natural Burial Grounds (Ferndale, WA), 86, 178

  Meadowvale Cemetery (Brampton, ON, Canada), 179

  Meadow / Westwood Hills Memorial Park, The (Placerville, CA), 165

  meal trains, 140–41

  medical examiners, 63

  medications, 109

  medicine wheels, 30

  Meetinghouse Hill Cemetery (Brattleboro, VT), 177

  Melbourne (Australia), 37–38

  Memorial Lakeview Cemetery (Bountiful, UT), 177

  memorial services, 15; planning ahead for, 44, 52

  memories, 105

  memory cards, 143

  Mental Floss magazine, 81

  mercury, 25

  methane, 23

  Michigan, 56, 169

  Milton Fields (Milton, GA), 166

  ministers, 117

  Minnesota, 133, 169–70

  Missouri, 170

  mistakes, 125–29

  Mitford, Jessica, 22, 24

  modern burial customs: costs of, 2, 37, 48–51; cremation as alternative to, 24–26, 37; environmental effects of, 2, 7, 22–24; green burials vs., 2–4, 48–51; green options for, 139–44; history of, 20, 20–22; as insufficient, 1–2; Tales from the Grave, 21, 22; Tips, 26

  modern culture, death avoided in, 1, 13–14, 22, 27

  Monadnock Quaker Meeting Friends Natural Burial Ground (Jaffrey, NH), 170

  Mordecai’s Meadow at Oakwood Cemetery (Raleigh, NC), 172

  Morris, Charles, 28

  mortgages, 79

  mortuary boards, 61

  Most Holy Redeemer Cemetery / Katari Meadow Natural Burial Preserve (Schenectady, NY), 28, 171

  Mother Nature Network, 80, 91–92

  Mound Cemetery of Brooklyn Cemetery (North Brooklyn Center, MN), 169

  mounds, 30

  Mountain View Cemetery (Ashland, OR), 174

  Mountain View Cemetery (Vancouver, BC, Canada), 179

  Mountain View Green Cemetery (Leadore, ID), 167

  Mount Auburn Cemetery (Cambridge, MA), 169

  Mount Calvary Catholic Cemetery (Portland, OR), 174

  Mount Carmel Cemetery (Wyandotte, MI), 28, 169

  Mount Hope Cemetery (Rochester, NY), 171

  Mount Muncie Cemetery (Lansing, KS), 168

  mourning meals, 140–41

  Mt. Pleasant Cemetery Association (Sioux Falls, SD), 176

  mummification, 13

  music, 52, 105, 107, 118, 121–22

  Narrow Ridge Natural Burial Preserve (Washburn, TN), 176

  National End-of-Life Doula Alliance, 71, 160

  National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA), 74, 160

  National Home Funeral Alliance (NHFA), 56–57, 71, 112, 115, 161

  Native Americans, 29, 30–31, 65

  native
species, 26

  Natural Burial Company, 99

  natural burial grounds, 75

  Natural End Map, 161

  Natural Path Sanctuary (Verona, WI), 178

  Natural Transitions, 161

  NBC News, 15

  Nebraska, 56–57

  Nerdy Gaga (website), 45

  Nevada, 170

  New England Burials at Sea (MA), 87–88

  New Hampshire, 170

  New Hampshire Funeral Resources, Education & Advocacy (NHFREA), 163

  New Jersey, 57, 171

  New Mexico, 171

  New Mexico La Puerta Natural Burial Ground (Albuquerque, NM), 171

  New York, 57, 171–72

  next of kin, 58, 59–61, 116

  nitrogen, 25–26

  North Belton Cemetery (Belton, TX), 176

  North Carolina, 172–73

  notary public, 53

  Oak Hill Cemetery (Crawfordsville, IN), 167

  Oak Hill Cemetery (Eugene, OR), 174

  Oak Hill Cemetery (Lawrence, KS), 168

  Oakwood Cemetery (Raleigh, NC), 172

  Oakwood Cemetery (Sharon, PA), 175

  Oakwood Cemetery (Troy, NY), 172

  obesity, 109

  obituaries, 118

  Ohio, 173

  Oklahoma, 173

  On Grief and Grieving (Kübler-Ross), 43

  Ontario (Canada), 179

  Oregon, 4, 69–70, 79–80, 123, 133, 174

  Oregon Environmental Protection Department, 79

  Our Lady of the Rosary Cemetery & Prayer Gardens (Georgetown, TX), 177

  pain management, 66

  Paxtang Cemetery (Harrisburg, PA), 175

  Peninsula Township Cemetery (Traverse City, MI), 169

  Penn Forest Natural Burial Park (Verona, PA), 175

  Pennsylvania, 174–75

  People magazine, 34

  personalization, 68, 115–16

  pesticides, 23, 142

  Philippines, 31

  photographers, 66

  Pine Forest Memorial Gardens (Wake Forest, NC), 173

  Pinterest, 117

  plants, 26, 74, 87, 142, 143

  platforms, raised, 29, 30

  Pleasant Grove Memorial Park (Murphysboro, IL), 167

  Pleasant Hills Cemetery (Sebastopol, CA), 165

  plywood, 93, 127

  Poland, 84

  Porter Rea Cemetery (North Liberty, IN), 167

  Pottsville (TN), 34

  power of attorney for health care, 59

  Prairie Creek Conservation Cemetery (Gainesville, FL), 166

  Prairie Green Section of Greenwood Jewish Cemetery (Milwaukee, WI), 178

  Prairie Home Cemetery (Waukesha, WI), 179

  Prairie Oaks Memorial Eco Gardens (Inver Grove Heights, MN), 170

  prayers, 105, 107, 117–18

  Preble Memory Gardens Cemetery (West Alexandria, OH), 173

  Preserve at All Saints Cemetery, The (Waterford, MI), 169

  Preserve at Springvale Cemetery, The (Lafayette, IN), 167

  private property, legalities of burial of human remains on, 62, 77–78

  professionals, hiring: assessing need for, 65–67; death care consultants, 69–70; end-of-life doulas, 70–71; funeral homes, 67–69; home funeral guides, 71; planning ahead for, 124; Tips, 66

  Promessa, 38

  protective clothing, 103–4, 106

  Purissima Cemetery (Half Moon Bay, CA), 165

  “Quick Guide to Legal Requirements for Home Funerals in Your State” (NHFA), 112

  rain, 127–28

  Rainbow’s End Natural Burial Ground (Orrington, ME), 168

  raking, 26

  Ramsey Creek Preserve (Westminster, SC), 32–33, 176

  readings, 52, 117–18

  Recompose, 23, 39

  “recomposition,” 39

  Red Feather Lakes (CO), 36

  Redgrave, Corin, 34

  Redgrave, Lynn, 34

  reefs, artificial burial, 136

  refrigeration, 19, 102

  residential burials. See backyard burials

  resources, 159–61

  Rest Lawn Memorial Park (Junction City, OR), 174

  Rhinebeck Cemetery (Rhinebeck, NY), 172

  Rhode Island, 175

  Richmond Cemetery (Richmond, NH), 170

  Ridgeview Memorial Gardens (Grandville, MI), 169

  rigor mortis, 104–5

  rituals, 118

  Riverview Cemetery (Portland, OR), 174

  Riverview Memorial Gardens (Cocoa, FL), 166

  Roanoke Island (NC), 34

  Rose City Cemetery (Portland, OR), 174

  Roselawn Cemetery (Fort Collins, CO), 165

  Roselawn Memorial Park (Spring-field, IL), 167

  Rosendale Cemetery (Tillson, NY), 172

  Royal Oak Burial Park (Victoria, BC, Canada), 179

  Rubin, Gail, 26

  Sacred Endings (Scappoose, OR), 71

  safety coffins, 22

  safety deposit boxes, legalities involved with opening, 60

  Sagada (Philippines), 31

  Saluda Rest Preserve (Marietta, SC), 176

  sanitation, 103–4

  Schade, Tanja, 14

  sea: burial at, 87–88, 135–36; cremains scattered at, 26

  Seattle (WA), 39

  seed cards, 142–43

  Sehee, Joe, 24

  Selina, Hazel, 99

  Seven Ponds, 15, 161

  Seven Stones Botanical Garden (Littleton, CO), 165

  sextons, church, 80

  Shelves for Life, 91–92

  shovels, 83–84

  shrouds. See burial shrouds/wraps

  simplicity, 48, 49

  “six feet under” myth, 81

  Sleepy Hollow Cemetery (Sleepy Hollow, NY), 172

  Slovakia, 84

  social media, 117, 118

  South Carolina, 175–76

  South Dakota, 176

  Spade, Katrina, 23, 39

  speeches, 118

  spiritual concerns, 47, 66

  Spring Grove Cemetery (Cincinnati, OH), 173

  Steelmantown Cemetery (Woodbine, NJ), 171

  St. Peter’s Cemetery (Saratoga Springs, NY), 172

  suicides, 82

  summer weather, 128–29

  Sunset Lawn Chapel of the Chimes Cemetery (Sacramento, CA), 165

  Sunset Memorial Park (Midland City, AL), 164

  Sunset Memorial Park and Nature’s Way (Danville, IL), 167

  Sunwest Cemetery (El Mirage, AZ), 164

  sustainability, 73, 139–44

  sustainable art, 136–37

  Tales from the Grave: about, 8; backyard burials, 82; body handling, 108; burials at sea, 88; coffins, 91; grave digging, 84; green burials, 31; home funerals, 45; modern burial customs, 21, 22

  Tallapoosa County Memorial Gardens (Dadeville, AL), 164

  Tamworth Town Cemetery (Tam-worth, NH), 170

  Techni-Ice, 111

  Tennessee, 176

  Texas, 176–77

  thank-you notes, 142–43

  thermometers, 110

  Tibet, 32

  Time magazine, 24–25

  Tips, 53; about, 8; backyard burials, 80; body washing, 107; burial containers, 98; cremation, 26; food, 141; funeral homes, 51; grave digging, 84; legalities, 57, 61; photographers, 66

  Tranquility Oaks Cemetery (Spring, TX), 177

  transportation: by air, 102; costs of, 50; funeral home–provided, 67; for home funeral guests, 119; legalities, 112; planning ahead for, 125–27

  treasure sharing, 144

  tricalcium phosphate, 25

  Union Cemetery at Mays Landing (Mays Landing, NJ), 171

  United Farm Workers (UFW), 34

  United Kingdom, 33

  United Nations, 25

  United States: annual deaths in, 22–23; body preservation in, 102; cremations in, 24–25, 131; death as viewed in, 22; funeral/burial costs in, 48; green burial grounds in, 163–79; green burial movement in, 32–3
6; home funerals in, 115

  University of California at Los Angeles (UCLA), 132

  urns, 134–35, 135, 136

  USLegal.com, 58

  Utah, 177

  Vale Cemetery (Schenectady, NY), 172

  Valley Isle Memorial Park Cemetery (Wailuku, HI), 167

  Valley Memorial Park & Funeral Home (Hillsboro, OR), 174

  vaults: green burials without, 14, 18, 49; green cemeteries not requiring, 74, 75

  verbal agreements, 61

  Vermont, 177

  Vikings, 36

  Virginia, 177–78

  visitations, 66, 68, 102, 108–9, 119

  wakes, 30, 45, 140

  Ward, Nancy, 71

  Warren, William, 91

  Washington (DC), 166

  Washington, 177–78

  water resomation, 131–33

  watersheds, 121

  weather, 117, 127–29

  Webster, Lee, 71, 115, 163

  West, Ken, 32

  West Laurel Hill Cemetery (Bala Cynwyd, PA), 175

  West View Cemetery (Pittsburgh, PA), 175

  White, Brad, 88

  White Eagle Memorial Preserve Cemetery (Goldendale, WA), 178

  White Haven Memorial Park (Pittsford, NY), 172

  White Oak Cemetery (Bloomington, IN), 168

  wicker, 89

  Wiigh-Mäsak, Susanne, 38

  wildlife, 74

  Williamsburg Cemetery (Kitchener, OR), 76

  willow, 89

  wills, 59, 60

  Windridge Memorial Park and Nature Cemetery (Cary, IL), 167

  Wisconsin, 178

  Woodland Memorial Park (Sand Springs, OK), 173

  Woodlawn Cemetery (Snohomish, WA), 178

  Woodsen, Mary, 23–24

  woodworkers, 90–91

  Wyoming, 133

  Yaxley, Jonny, 84–85

  Yonder, Cassandra, 70–71

  ABOUT THE AUTHOR

  Elizabeth Fournier owns and operates Cornerstone Funeral Services in Boring, Oregon, where she is affectionately known as the Green Reaper for her green burial advocacy. She serves on the Advisory Board for the Green Burial Council, the environmental certification organization setting the standard for green burial in North America. She is also the author of The Green Reaper: Memoirs of an Eco-Mortician. She lives on a farm with her husband, daughter, and many rescue goats and sheep.

  You can connect with Elizabeth here:

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