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About the Author
Author, speaker, innovator, and business executive SEAN COVEY works at FranklinCovey, where he oversees their innovations, global operations, and educational initiatives. He is devoted to transforming education around the globe through bringing principle-centered leadership to as many students and educators as possible.
He is a New York Times bestselling author and has written several books, including The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make, The 7 Habits of Happy Kids, The 4 Disciplines of Execution, and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, which has been translated into twenty languages and sold more than five million copies worldwide.
Sean graduated with honors from Brigham Young University with a bachelor’s degree in English and later earned his MBA from Harvard Business School. As the starting quarterback for BYU, he led his team to two bowl games and was twice selected as the ESPN Most Valuable Player of the Game.
Born in Belfast, Ireland, Sean’s favorite activities include going to the movies, working out, hanging out with his kids, riding his dirt bike, and writing lousy poetry. Sean and his wife, Rebecca, live with their children in the Rocky Mountains.
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BIBLIOGRAPHY
7 HABITS CRASH COURSE
Reavis, George H. “The Animal School.” Public domain.
DECISION 1
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Kaplan, Ben. How to Go to College Almost for Free. New York: HarperCollins, 2001.
DECISION 2
Wiseman, Rosalind. Queen Bees & Wannabes. New York: Three Rivers Press, 2003.
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DECISION 3
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DECISION 4
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Fox, Lara and Hillary Frankel. Breaking the Code. New York: New American Library, 2005.
Harris, Joshua. I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Sisters, Oregon: Multnomah Publishers, Inc., 1997.
INDEX
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A
abstinence, 196, 209, 212, 217
abuse, 6, 84, 102, 165, 184, 185, 186, 187, 219, 311
child, 42
drug and alcohol, 117, 164, 227, 228, 232, 234, 242, 249, 252, 255
sexual, 260, 294, 296, 311
abusive relationship (getting out of), 184, 185, 186, 187
accomplishments, 276, 277, 285–86, 290, 303
“Acres of Diamonds,” 298, 299
ACT/SAT tests, 69, 70, 310
adaptation, 241
addiction, 4, 5, 6, 12, 162, 224–50, 252–63, 290, 291, 309, 311
affects all differently, 235, 236
defeating it, 21, 47, 102, 162, 203, 255, 256, 257
destroys dreams, 232, 233, 234, 249
impact on others, 231, 232
root causes of, 232, 249, 250
say no, 25, 48, 49, 115, 116, 172, 215, 249
signs of, 163, 235
addiction checkup, 227, 228
addiction free, 14, 262, 263
alcoholic parent, 42, 164, 311
Alcoholics Anonymous, 256
alcoholism, 229, 230, 236
Alpha girls, 98, 99
Altshuler, Michael, 51
ancestor chart, 300
“The Animal School,” 28
anorexia nervosa, 294, 312
anti-drugs, 251
Augustine, Saint, 53
B
baby steps, 87, 123, 168, 222, 265, 303
backbiting, 100, 101, 123
bad habits, 31, 42, 117
Ball, Lucille, 55
Barbie, 264, 274
basic freedom, 226
beauty, 12, 13, 29, 97, 113, 273, 275, 281, 292, 293, 307
Beaverson, Georgia, 274
Beethoven, Ludwig van, 55
Beta girls, 98, 99
binge eating, 294
blind spots, 108, 109
bone mass, 289
books, 13, 14, 52, 59, 62, 68, 77, 78, 88, 140, 155, 201, 219, 234, 261,
266
brain damage, 247
brain food, 307
brainstorming, 158
“Breaking Point: The Truth About Steroids,” 245
breaking up, 175, 181, 182, 183, 184, 185, 186, 188
Brett, Regina, 59
building a career, 72
building muscles, 289
bulimia nervosa, 50, 227, 294, 312
bullies, 86, 93, 95, 101–2, 121
Bytheway, John, 21, 108
C
calories, 236, 289
Camus, Albert, 91
cancer victims, 118, 201, 202, 203, 204, 206, 237, 238
career, 5, 36, 41, 53, 65,70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 77, 86, 229
career selection, 73–77, 78, 79, 82, 83, 84
Carlson, Richard, 100
Carter, Carol, 53
casual sex, 203, 255
catfights, 10
center (what’s yours?), 95, 96
changing someone’s life, 183
character, 13, 65, 95, 97, 101, 154, 177, 200, 269, 276–78, 302
integrity, 279, 280, 303
service, 17, 29, 40, 65, 69, 84, 179, 251, 252, 278–81, 301, 303
vision, 123, 166, 191, 214, 250, 253, 276, 277, 280, 281, 282
character competence square, 277
cheesy romantic movies, 324
chew, 237
child abuse, 42
choices, 1, 2, 8, 118, 137, 142, 144, 163, 171, 190, 199, 205, 216, 227, 228, 232, 233, 235, 250, 290, 291, 306
Christie, Agatha, 55
A Christmas Story, 101
Churchill, Winston, 55
cigarettes, 237
circle of control, 52, 137
club drugs, 243, 244
cocaine, 12, 239, 241, 248, 249, 258, 261
Code, the, 305–7
college, 3, 8, 9, 23, 30, 35, 36, 38, 39, 41, 42, 50, 58, 59, 61, 65, 68–74, 76–79, 86, 87, 110, 117, 118, 120, 127, 132, 145, 157, 164, 166, 178, 182, 206, 207, 210, 212, 215, 218, 219, 220, 229, 251, 252, 256, 301
college admission, 69
college graduate earnings, 66
college selection, 68, 69
comfort zone, 53, 106, 270, 284, 285
commitment, 210
communication gap, 147
communication skills, 26, 27, 69
competence, 13, 269, 271, 276–75, 288, 291, 302
accomplishments, 278, 279, 285, 290, 303
competition, 1, 26, 44, 93, 95, 102, 103, 151
physical health, 287–89
talents and skills, 284
compulsion, 228, 229, 230
confidence, 12, 13, 14, 53, 62, 99, 104, 179, 211, 253, 269, 270, 284 290
conscience, 73, 74, 84, 114, 184, 199, 200, 230, 256, 260, 271, 283, 306
consequences, 4, 8, 44, 171, 200, 233
Conwell, Russell, 298
coping, 11, 95, 130, 145, 263, 298
Cosmopolitan models, 12
The Costco Connection, 76
courage, 84, 90, 95, 100, 113, 114, 115, 121, 172, 186, 198, 218, 227, 238, 276, 277, 284, 285, 297
Covey classic movies, 31, 328
crabs, 102
crack, 248
cultural differences, 53
cyberbullying, 101, 102, 310
cyber-relationship, 259
cycle breakers, 42
D
dating, 3, 4, 5, 6, 9, 11, 14, 26, 107,132, 167, 170–222, 306
dating abuse, 184, 185, 186, 187
dating age, 188
dating boundaries, 191, 192
dating breakups, 181–87
dating choice, 177
dating groups, 190
dating guidelines, 187–93
dating ideas, 194, 311
dating (intelligent/brainless), 173–76, 187–91, 193, 194, 221
dating mistakes, 180
dating plans, 192, 193, 194
dating questions, 174
dating/sex checkup, 172
dating turn-ons, 179
dating wish list, 178
dead-end careers, 78
decisions for life, 290, 291
decisions for success, 3, 4, 8, 14, 35, 36, 305
addictions, 12, 14, 224–64, 305
dating and sex, 11, 14, 26, 36, 170–221, 306
friends, 90–124, 306
parents, 10, 13, 126–68, 306
school, 1–88, 93–95, 97–101, 103–107, 111, 113–20, 123, 133, 139, 141–46, 149, 151, 155, 156, 157, 163, 164, 166, 167, 175, 176, 178, 180, 181, 183, 185, 188, 189, 190, 191, 192, 194, 196, 197, 198, 200, 204, 205, 208, 210, 213, 217, 218–20, 232–34, 236, 240, 243, 245, 250, 251, 252, 254, 259, 260, 272, 280, 282, 290, 295, 297, 301, 307
self-worth, 12, 14, 268–304, 306
depression, 1, 13, 46, 202, 209, 211, 212, 241, 244, 248, 291, 294, 295, 296, 306, 312
clinical, 296
dejected, 296
symptoms of, 296, 297
Dickinson, Emily, 111, 282
differences, 28, 29, 38, 66, 158
disabled student, 57
divorce, 11, 144, 145
domino effect, 219
drinking, 8, 42
drug addiction, 42, 255, 257, 258, 259, 262
drugs, 1, 3, 4, 5, 8, 12, 74, 112, 114, 115, 117, 119, 120, 130, 142, 163–66, 168, 224–27, 230–35, 238–45, 248–57, 262, 263, 281, 283, 289, 306, 312
cocaine, 12, 231, 248, 249, 258, 261
club drugs, 243, 244
inhalants, 247, 248
methamphetamine, 240, 241
prescription, 12, 225, 234, 241, 242, 243
steroids, 12, 245, 246
dust, 248
Dynamite, Napoleon, 35, 86
dysfunctional families, 42, 164
E
eating disorders, 294, 312
eating right, 287, 288, 289
education, 4, 6, 9, 13, 35, 36, 52, 53, 57, 59, 65, 66, 70, 71, 72, 79, 85, 86, 108, 119, 217, 219, 232, 290, 306
Einstein, Albert, 55, 56
El Guapo, 291, 298
Eliot, George, 101
emotional, 29, 30, 46, 56, 96, 172, 209, 215, 218, 248, 288, 291, 296
emotional STD, 211
endorphins, 289
environment, 305
EQ, 56, 312
Ettinger, Bob, 171
euphoria, 229
exercise, 289
explore broadly, 75, 76
extra credit, 88
extracurricular activities, 69
F
fables, 99
family history, 300, 311
faith, 123, 166, 214, 251
faults, 99
fickle friends, 93, 94, 95
finding your voice, 9, 36, 72–74, 85
finding your voice charts, 81–83
flexibility, 154
foreign exchange students, 54
forgiveness, 100, 164
fork-in-the-road decisions, 36, 91, 128, 305
Frankl, Viktor, 226
Franklin, Benjamin, 47
free agency (free will), 8
freedom, 8
“Friends,” 106
friend centered, 96
friends checkup, 92
friendship, 4, 10, 26, 90, 93, 94, 99, 108, 110, 124, 172, 181, 214, 221, 222
Frost, Robert, 14
four-fold amends, 280, 303
Fuller, R. Buckminster, 301
G
Gamma girls, 98, 99
gangs, 10, 118, 119, 120
gateway drugs, 234
genes, 306
GI Joe, 274
glue sniffing, 12
goals, 22, 115, 116, 117
Godden, Rumer, 30
Golding, William, 261
good deeds, 133, 134
Google test information, 70
good grades (how to get), 9, 21, 31, 36, 59, 61, 64, 69, 130, 155
be friendly to teachers, 60
believe in yourself, 59
be strong in red zone, 61
do extra credit, 60
&n
bsp; gather your resources, 61
good study habits, 62
go to class, 59–60
secrets of, 59–62, 64
gossip, 100, 101, 102, 295
GQ models, 12
Gramajo, André Marroquín, 67
grants, 71, 74
H
Hafiz of Shiraz, 57
Hands-On Basketball, 76
Hands-On Football, 76
hard stuff, 235
Harvard, 164, 201
hate, 2, 27, 43, 57, 58, 63, 74, 78, 97, 109, 136, 160, 161, 164, 218, 240, 275, 287, 295, 307
heart attacks, 241
helpfulness, 136
heroin, 233, 241, 242, 249
herpes, 202, 203
high road, 36, 37, 86, 91, 92, 121, 128, 129, 167, 171, 173, 226, 228, 263, 269, 271, 290, 302, 306
Hinckley, Gordon B., 4
HIV/AIDS, 164, 204, 207, 216, 233, 248
Holes, 310
homework, 35, 36, 38, 43, 44, 47, 57, 59, 61, 63, 64, 87, 88, 133, 155, 156–58, 208, 220, 224, 259, 296, 297
honesty, 17, 96, 122, 132, 277, 279
hooch, 235
huff, 247
human papilloma virus (HPV), 203
I
I Love Lucy, 55
inclusiveness, 110, 111
income by education, 66
inhalants, 247, 248
inherited bad habits, 42
inner security, 13, 79, 96, 97
intelligence, 55, 56
intuition, 56, 84, 217, 256
IQ, 55, 56, 59, 312
J
job security, 86
Johnson, Ayesha, 23
Jones, James Earl, 213
Jordan, Michael, 112
juice, 235
K
Kaplan, Ben, 70, 71, 72, 73
keeping friends, 105, 106, 107
Keller, Helen, 282
key decisions, 1, 4, 36, 306
kindness/unkindness, 111–14
L
late bloomer, 69
learning disability, 56, 57
ADD, 56
ADHD, 56
dyslexia, 56, 58, 59
inability to focus, 56
lethal drug ingredients, 241
letters of recommendation, 69
lift others, 112
likable, 108, 109
Lincoln, Abraham, 112
lines, 248
listening, 26, 27, 154
Logan, 27
loner, 104